Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 8 minutes ago
The fastest way to feel confident on stage isn't to focus on yourself more. It's to forget yourself entirely.
Dr. Shadé Zahrai explains why. The moment the spotlight hits you, your brain starts scanning: what will they think of me? That self-focus is the very thing that feeds the doubt.
So she flips the spotlight outward. The question stops being "how do I look?" and becomes "what do they need?" Once it's about the value you're there to create, self-doubt has nothing left to hold onto.
Psychologists call it self-forgetting. Shadé calls it the difference between performing at a room and connecting with one.
She teaches this and more at our free Speaking & Influence Summit. June 26 to 28, live on Zoom.
go.mindvalley.com/Q2Vc02Z6
The fastest way to feel confident on stage isn't to focus on yourself more. It's to forget yourself entirely.
Dr. Shadé Zahrai explains why. The moment the spotlight hits you, your brain starts scanning: what will they think of me? That self-focus is the very thing that feeds the doubt.
So she flips the spotlight outward. The question stops being "how do I look?" and becomes "what do they need?" Once it's about the value you're there to create, self-doubt has nothing left to hold onto.
Psychologists call it self-forgetting. Shadé calls it the difference between performing at a room and connecting with one.
She teaches this and more at our free Speaking & Influence Summit. June 26 to 28, live on Zoom.
go.mindvalley.com/Q2Vc02Z6
