Uploaded November 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
How can letting go of someone be an expression of love? A mother who, despite her unconditional love for her son, often has to deal with his reactive behaviour, asks Rupert for advice.
Rupert says: ‘In your situation, there’s a case for stepping back a bit and giving your son space. In the context of the non-dual understanding it’s important, at one level, that your son is separate from you. You’re not withholding love – it’s an expression of love that gives him maximum freedom to be himself.
‘You stay present, open and loving, but you’re not going towards him or smothering him in affection. It’s a very tough sadhana for a mother, because you know you’re one, so why would you let go? But at the same time, at a more relative level, we have to let our children go.’
*This video is from one of Rupert’s in-person retreats at Mercy Center, 9–16 March 2025. For more information on upcoming retreats (many of which can be attended online via livestream) go to:
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Timestamps:
0:00 Sense of Community
1:27 The Ego and Love
3:06 Expressing Love
4:38 Giving Space
6:04 Don’t Be Provoked
7:37 A Mother’s Sadhana
9:22 Letting Go
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How can letting go of someone be an expression of love? A mother who, despite her unconditional love for her son, often has to deal with his reactive behaviour, asks Rupert for advice.
Rupert says: ‘In your situation, there’s a case for stepping back a bit and giving your son space. In the context of the non-dual understanding it’s important, at one level, that your son is separate from you. You’re not withholding love – it’s an expression of love that gives him maximum freedom to be himself.
‘You stay present, open and loving, but you’re not going towards him or smothering him in affection. It’s a very tough sadhana for a mother, because you know you’re one, so why would you let go? But at the same time, at a more relative level, we have to let our children go.’
*This video is from one of Rupert’s in-person retreats at Mercy Center, 9–16 March 2025. For more information on upcoming retreats (many of which can be attended online via livestream) go to:
▸ rupertspira.com/events
Timestamps:
0:00 Sense of Community
1:27 The Ego and Love
3:06 Expressing Love
4:38 Giving Space
6:04 Don’t Be Provoked
7:37 A Mother’s Sadhana
9:22 Letting Go
––
ACCESS FULL VIDEO ARCHIVE
You can watch or listen to 1000s of hours of teachings, guided meditations and answers in Rupert's full video archive here:
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RETREATS (Weekend, 5-day, 7-day)
Rupert holds regular retreats, roughly once per month, either in-person and online. Many in-person retreats can also be attended from the comfort of your home via livestream.
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▸ rupertspira.com/events/retreat-at-home
IN-PERSON RETREATS SCHEDULE (UK, EU and US) (Also Available to Join Online via Live Stream)
▸ rupertspira.com/events
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WEEKLY WEBINARS (2 hours)
Rupert's webinars take place on Wednesday evenings, from 4pm UK time. In the first twenty to thirty minutes, Rupert leads a spontaneous meditation. The remaining time is open for attendees to discuss their questions with Rupert.
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