Love Is Going Beyond Narcissism and Giving Your Lack to the Other

Rahul Sam | Love Is Going Beyond Narcissism and Giving Your Lack to the Other | Lacan & Desire @RahulSam | Uploaded July 2023 | Updated October 2024, 4 hours ago.
An excerpt from my conversation with the philosopher and psychoanalyst Dr Grace Tarpey.

This was one of my favourite parts of our dialogue as we discussed how love relates to the inherent lack that constitutes human beings. Lacan's idea of "Love is giving something you don't have to someone who doesn't want it." is one the most beautiful concepts I've heard, which is antithetical to the contemporary notion of love that entails commodifying and objectifying people.

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$Love Is Going Beyond Narcissism and Giving Your Lack to the Other | Lacan & Desire An excerpt from my conversation with the philosopher and psychoanalyst Dr Grace Tarpey. This was one of my favourite parts of our dialogue as we discussed how love relates to the inherent lack that constitutes human beings. Lacans idea of Love is giving something you dont have to someone who doesnt want it. is one the most beautiful concepts Ive heard, which is antithetical to the contemporary notion of love that entails commodifying and objectifying people. 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