Lisa Bilyeu | Love & Divorce Experts: This Predicts With 94% Accuracy If Your Relationship Will LAST! | Gottmans @LisaBilyeu | Uploaded March 2024 | Updated October 2024, 46 minutes ago.
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Become Un-Frikin’ Stoppable and Build Your Confidence RIGHT NOW: bit.ly/3SWzKqL
If you want to have a stronger, healthier relationship with your partner, you’ll want to TAKE NOTES on this episode of Women of Impact. From fighting, to cheating, to sex and SOOOO much more, you’re getting a science-backed MASTERCLASS on strengthening relationships.
Today we are joined by the world’s leading relationship scientists, Dr. John Gottman & Dr. Julie Gottman. Together they have more than 50 years researching couples and relationship health, and they have SOOOO much information to share if you want to build a strong, long-lasting relationship!
In this episode, we’re diving into:
- The signs that all but guarantee your relationship won’t last, AND what you can do before it’s too late
- Why you MUST go deep into the conflict to truly understand why you’re fighting
- The 7 principles that guide you to a long-lasting relationship
- How to fight right and keep it from getting out of control with their “Repair checklist”
- Ways you and your partner can come together and find solutions or compromise
- The 5 steps to ACTUALLY heal an emotional injury in your relationship
- The RIGHT way to take a break during a fight (and it’s NOT a Ross/Rachel break!)
- Their ONE tip to improve your marriage in 10 minutes (and get this – they don’t have the same answer!!)
- And soooo much more!
The Gottmans are dedicated to helping couples repair and strengthen their relationship, and their research has truly been revolutionary and unmatched! From fighting, to cheating, to sex and SOOOO much more, listen close to the best advice out there on how to make your relationship really last!
Chapter Markers:
💔 [00:00] The 4 Horsemen of a Break Up
👎 [19:12] Reasons for Divorce
😍 [40:52] Trust and Stages of Love
🍩 [53:56] Donuts, Dreams & Core Needs
❤️ [1:26:30] 7 Principles of Love
💋 [1:47:04] How Important IS Sex & Intimacy?
👉 [2:03:25] Bonus Episode: Robin McGraw
****Bonus Episode: Secrets to a 50 year marriage with Robin McGraw****
Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with Robin McGraw, …debunk myths around what it takes to be a loving and supportive partner (without losing yourself!), especially when your significant other is larger than life and has a strong personality.
AMAZING QUOTES FROM DR. JOHN GOTTMAN & DR. JULIE GOTTMAN:
"Triggers are crucial, right? All of us have baggage from old relationships or from childhood. So if any feeling got triggered for you, that is an old feeling that started long before this relationship, you share that with your partner, what the feeling was and where it may have gotten started before this current relationship."
"Love mapping means how well do you know your partner's inner world? How well do you know your partner's priorities, their needs, their values, their most embarrassing moment in childhood, how they feel about their parents, how they feel about the child you have, et cetera…"
"Before you [take a break during conflict], after you've said, I need to take a break or whatever, say when you'll come back to continue the conversation. That's really good. And also when you go into separate space, don't think about the fight, don't think about what you were talking about, because you'll stay flooded if you do that. Instead, do something self soothing, like doing some yoga or meditation or going for a run or reading a book or listening to music, something that takes your mind off it so your body has a chance to metabolize those stress hormones out of your system. And then you come back at the designated time and you've had a brain transplant. You're much calmer."
Follow The Gottmans:
Website: gottman.com
For Couples: gottmanconnect.com
Order Your Copy of “Fight Right”: amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658
Follow Robin McGraw:
Website: ivegotasecretwithrobinmcgraw.com
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCPYeLvLCbf05dLQEwQanb2w
Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: radicalconfidence.com
Instagram: instagram.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: facebook.com/lisabilyeu
X: twitter.com/lisabilyeu
If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: dexa.ai/lisabilyeu
Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement
Disclosure: This episode is sponsored by Joi Wellness. This post may contain affiliate links or links to the sponsor’s website. If you purchase an item using this affiliate link, Women of Impact may receive commission. Run over to bit.ly/woijoi to get your levels checked. If you use my code Impact they are giving you a 10% discount to get started.
Become Un-Frikin’ Stoppable and Build Your Confidence RIGHT NOW: bit.ly/3SWzKqL
If you want to have a stronger, healthier relationship with your partner, you’ll want to TAKE NOTES on this episode of Women of Impact. From fighting, to cheating, to sex and SOOOO much more, you’re getting a science-backed MASTERCLASS on strengthening relationships.
Today we are joined by the world’s leading relationship scientists, Dr. John Gottman & Dr. Julie Gottman. Together they have more than 50 years researching couples and relationship health, and they have SOOOO much information to share if you want to build a strong, long-lasting relationship!
In this episode, we’re diving into:
- The signs that all but guarantee your relationship won’t last, AND what you can do before it’s too late
- Why you MUST go deep into the conflict to truly understand why you’re fighting
- The 7 principles that guide you to a long-lasting relationship
- How to fight right and keep it from getting out of control with their “Repair checklist”
- Ways you and your partner can come together and find solutions or compromise
- The 5 steps to ACTUALLY heal an emotional injury in your relationship
- The RIGHT way to take a break during a fight (and it’s NOT a Ross/Rachel break!)
- Their ONE tip to improve your marriage in 10 minutes (and get this – they don’t have the same answer!!)
- And soooo much more!
The Gottmans are dedicated to helping couples repair and strengthen their relationship, and their research has truly been revolutionary and unmatched! From fighting, to cheating, to sex and SOOOO much more, listen close to the best advice out there on how to make your relationship really last!
Chapter Markers:
💔 [00:00] The 4 Horsemen of a Break Up
👎 [19:12] Reasons for Divorce
😍 [40:52] Trust and Stages of Love
🍩 [53:56] Donuts, Dreams & Core Needs
❤️ [1:26:30] 7 Principles of Love
💋 [1:47:04] How Important IS Sex & Intimacy?
👉 [2:03:25] Bonus Episode: Robin McGraw
****Bonus Episode: Secrets to a 50 year marriage with Robin McGraw****
Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with Robin McGraw, …debunk myths around what it takes to be a loving and supportive partner (without losing yourself!), especially when your significant other is larger than life and has a strong personality.
AMAZING QUOTES FROM DR. JOHN GOTTMAN & DR. JULIE GOTTMAN:
"Triggers are crucial, right? All of us have baggage from old relationships or from childhood. So if any feeling got triggered for you, that is an old feeling that started long before this relationship, you share that with your partner, what the feeling was and where it may have gotten started before this current relationship."
"Love mapping means how well do you know your partner's inner world? How well do you know your partner's priorities, their needs, their values, their most embarrassing moment in childhood, how they feel about their parents, how they feel about the child you have, et cetera…"
"Before you [take a break during conflict], after you've said, I need to take a break or whatever, say when you'll come back to continue the conversation. That's really good. And also when you go into separate space, don't think about the fight, don't think about what you were talking about, because you'll stay flooded if you do that. Instead, do something self soothing, like doing some yoga or meditation or going for a run or reading a book or listening to music, something that takes your mind off it so your body has a chance to metabolize those stress hormones out of your system. And then you come back at the designated time and you've had a brain transplant. You're much calmer."
Follow The Gottmans:
Website: gottman.com
For Couples: gottmanconnect.com
Order Your Copy of “Fight Right”: amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658
Follow Robin McGraw:
Website: ivegotasecretwithrobinmcgraw.com
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCPYeLvLCbf05dLQEwQanb2w
Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: radicalconfidence.com
Instagram: instagram.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: facebook.com/lisabilyeu
X: twitter.com/lisabilyeu
If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: dexa.ai/lisabilyeu
Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement
