Uploaded August 2019 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
This video details a close friend of mine's experience in a relationship with an emotionally abusive and manipulative partner.
We cover some red flags from early in the relationship, patterns of behavior during the long years they were together, and what got her to finally leave.
We're hoping that sharing Lily's story will give a different perspective on how one can end up in a relationship like this as well as a view from inside the depths of a toxic relationship. Maybe this will help some people see negative patterns in their dating history so they can start down a healing journey.
Names have been changed to protect the just and unjust alike. And yeah, there is some saltiness here. You'd be salty too if you heard your best friend was being treated in this way.
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Music: zoeblade.com
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~Timestamps~
7:35 Before DL
- 10:22 Relationship cycle
- 11:34 Love bombing
- 12:52 Red flag: controlling behaviors
- 13:41 Red flag: narrative control
- 15:12 Codependency
19:02 DL
27:39 The relationship with DL
- 30:03 Narrative construction and enforcement
- 40:05 Gaslighting
- 43:26 Control
- 47:35 Boundaries
- 51:48 Self-centeredness
- 54:02 Threats
- 59:57 Triangulation
- 1:04:36 Cheating
1:10:04 Lily's departure from the relationship
1:30:37 Conclusions
Resources suggested by Lily
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Early in the process
- Psychopath Free by Peace
- Start Here by Dana Morningstar
Other books
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson
- Healing from Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas
- Running on Empty by Jonice Webb
- Running on Empty No More by Jonice Webb
Lily also recommends Tracy Malone's website (http://NarcissistAbuseSupport.com)
This video details a close friend of mine's experience in a relationship with an emotionally abusive and manipulative partner.
We cover some red flags from early in the relationship, patterns of behavior during the long years they were together, and what got her to finally leave.
We're hoping that sharing Lily's story will give a different perspective on how one can end up in a relationship like this as well as a view from inside the depths of a toxic relationship. Maybe this will help some people see negative patterns in their dating history so they can start down a healing journey.
Names have been changed to protect the just and unjust alike. And yeah, there is some saltiness here. You'd be salty too if you heard your best friend was being treated in this way.
______
Links to stuff
---------
Music: zoeblade.com
Questions? Comments? Requests?: twitter.com/CassErisYT
Discord server!: discord.gg/wPqrHR4
Instagram (if you're into that type of thing): instagram.com/cass_eris
Support the channel!
patreon.com/casserisYT - if you join before I reach 20 patrons, you'll be a founding patron!
paypal.me/casseris
ko-fi.com/casseris
~Timestamps~
7:35 Before DL
- 10:22 Relationship cycle
- 11:34 Love bombing
- 12:52 Red flag: controlling behaviors
- 13:41 Red flag: narrative control
- 15:12 Codependency
19:02 DL
27:39 The relationship with DL
- 30:03 Narrative construction and enforcement
- 40:05 Gaslighting
- 43:26 Control
- 47:35 Boundaries
- 51:48 Self-centeredness
- 54:02 Threats
- 59:57 Triangulation
- 1:04:36 Cheating
1:10:04 Lily's departure from the relationship
1:30:37 Conclusions
Resources suggested by Lily
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Early in the process
- Psychopath Free by Peace
- Start Here by Dana Morningstar
Other books
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson
- Healing from Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas
- Running on Empty by Jonice Webb
- Running on Empty No More by Jonice Webb
Lily also recommends Tracy Malone's website (http://NarcissistAbuseSupport.com)
