Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
At 41, home looks different than it did at 20. Here are 10 things I wish I knew in my 20s about home — life lessons at 40 from a full-time traveler living in a new city every month and the advice to my younger self I wish I had at 20.
This is part of my cinematic lifestyle series, Hallelujah Year — documenting what it means to live life off script, follow divine detours, and learn to carry home within you. In this episode I'm driving to Columbia, South Carolina, settling into another temporary home, and playing tennis with a friend — but the location isn't the story. The story is 10 things I wish I knew at 20 about what actually makes somewhere feel like home.
In this video I share 10 life lessons at 40:
00:00 Intro: Why home looks different at 41 than at 20
00:45 1. Home isn't an address
01:30 2. You have to learn to be at home with yourself
02:15 3. God is home
03:00 4. Home should feel safe, not impressive
03:45 5. You can make home wherever you are (my rituals for temporary spaces)
04:30 6. Sometimes you have to leave home to understand it
05:00 7. Home can be seasonal — temporary doesn't mean insignificant
05:30 8. The life inside the house matters more than the house
06:00 9. Home is the people you allow close
06:30 10. Home is something you become
Whether you're navigating change in your 30s and 40s, building home wherever you are, or rethinking what stability means — this is for the woman learning to create peace wherever she lands and finding home within herself.
💬 What does home mean to you in this season? Tell me which of the 10 hit you most in the comments — I read every one.
—
I'm Tish Ferguson — a Broadway national tour makeup supervisor & hair designer, full-time traveler, and Christian creative documenting an unconventional, faith-rooted life. Divine Detours is for Black and brown women learning to be okay with the detour while building the best life they can from here.
✨ More from Hallelujah Year:
Subscribe for weekly cinematic diaries on tour life, faith, creativity, and starting over at any age.
🔗 Stay connected:
• Book a 1:1 Virtual Coaching Call: calendly.com/tishfergusonbeauty/beauty-life-style-coaching
• VIP Email List: tishferguson.com/links
• Instagram: instagram.com/tish_ferguson
• Shop My Amazon Store: amazon.com/shop/tish_ferguson
• Collabs/Booking: Tish@TishFerguson.com
#thingsiwishiknew #lifelessons #advicetomyyoungerself
—
Filmed in Columbia, SC — but this isn't a city vlog. It's advice to my younger self about carrying home within you through God, chosen community, routines, and the peace you create wherever you are.
At 41, home looks different than it did at 20. Here are 10 things I wish I knew in my 20s about home — life lessons at 40 from a full-time traveler living in a new city every month and the advice to my younger self I wish I had at 20.
This is part of my cinematic lifestyle series, Hallelujah Year — documenting what it means to live life off script, follow divine detours, and learn to carry home within you. In this episode I'm driving to Columbia, South Carolina, settling into another temporary home, and playing tennis with a friend — but the location isn't the story. The story is 10 things I wish I knew at 20 about what actually makes somewhere feel like home.
In this video I share 10 life lessons at 40:
00:00 Intro: Why home looks different at 41 than at 20
00:45 1. Home isn't an address
01:30 2. You have to learn to be at home with yourself
02:15 3. God is home
03:00 4. Home should feel safe, not impressive
03:45 5. You can make home wherever you are (my rituals for temporary spaces)
04:30 6. Sometimes you have to leave home to understand it
05:00 7. Home can be seasonal — temporary doesn't mean insignificant
05:30 8. The life inside the house matters more than the house
06:00 9. Home is the people you allow close
06:30 10. Home is something you become
Whether you're navigating change in your 30s and 40s, building home wherever you are, or rethinking what stability means — this is for the woman learning to create peace wherever she lands and finding home within herself.
💬 What does home mean to you in this season? Tell me which of the 10 hit you most in the comments — I read every one.
—
I'm Tish Ferguson — a Broadway national tour makeup supervisor & hair designer, full-time traveler, and Christian creative documenting an unconventional, faith-rooted life. Divine Detours is for Black and brown women learning to be okay with the detour while building the best life they can from here.
✨ More from Hallelujah Year:
Subscribe for weekly cinematic diaries on tour life, faith, creativity, and starting over at any age.
🔗 Stay connected:
• Book a 1:1 Virtual Coaching Call: calendly.com/tishfergusonbeauty/beauty-life-style-coaching
• VIP Email List: tishferguson.com/links
• Instagram: instagram.com/tish_ferguson
• Shop My Amazon Store: amazon.com/shop/tish_ferguson
• Collabs/Booking: Tish@TishFerguson.com
#thingsiwishiknew #lifelessons #advicetomyyoungerself
—
Filmed in Columbia, SC — but this isn't a city vlog. It's advice to my younger self about carrying home within you through God, chosen community, routines, and the peace you create wherever you are.
