Letters to an Asexual #74 ("You're desperate to fill a void!") @swankivy

Uploaded January 2020 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago

This is #74 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or--more often--misconceptions about asexuality.

Here, I discuss a man who thought my plethora of interests indicated a desperate attempt to fill a void in a life he imagined to be bereft of gender identity. He also assigns me other syndromes and issues, including Asperger's.

Letters to an Asexual #74 (Youre desperate to fill a void!)

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