Ex-Fundie Diaries | Kissing Dreams & How I Learned about Sex | Growing Up in Purity Culture @ExFundieDiaries | Uploaded April 2022 | Updated October 2024, 1 hour ago.
This video is about my experiences growing up in purity culture- the shame I felt at being interested in kissing, sex, and romantic relationships, and the way my repressed feelings and curiosities surfaced in my dreams. I share how I first learned about PIV sex on accident as well as my parents' rules about courtship and their love for "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." I also briefly discuss why I am passionate about comprehensive sex education beginning in childhood (and why this is a fundie parent's nightmare.)
Editor's note: At 17:44, I said that I was taught the mechanics of PIV sex. I'd like to clarify that I was given a very minimal description. As a virgin on my wedding day, I still had unanswered questions.
CW: religious trauma, including discussions of the rapture
[Sex Education Resources]
"Beyond the Birds & the Bees - What Comprehensive Sex Education Looks Like" by Education Week: youtube.com/watch?v=aOphfTmwkOE&list=WL&index=18
"Why Early Sex Ed Is Awesome!" by Nadine Thornhill: youtube.com/watch?v=ZulPg8fYu7k
"How To Talk To Preschoolers About Anatomy & Body Safety | Planned Parenthood Video" by Planned Parenthood: youtube.com/watch?v=EinNeciMgpQ
"Where do BABIES come from?!? - Bodies: QUEER KID STUFF #34" by Queer Kid Stuff: youtube.com/watch?v=G3oHkGHz74M
"Updated 'It’s Perfectly Normal' Sex Ed Book: More LGBTQ Inclusive, But Gaps Remain" by Mombian: mombian.com/2021/05/18/updated-its-perfectly-normal-sex-ed-book-more-lgbtq-inclusive-but-gaps-remain
"New LGBTQ-Inclusive Sex Ed Book Will Inform and Support All Tweens" by Mombian: mombian.com/2020/08/18/new-lgbtq-inclusive-sex-ed-book-will-inform-and-support-all-tweens
"Sex Ed For LGBTQ Youth - Five Ways To Make Sex Ed More Queer Inclusive!" by Nadine Thornhill: youtube.com/watch?v=sd-z_SOhPqc
"Trauma Informed Approaches When Teaching Sex Education" by
AFY - Virtual Professional Development: youtube.com/watch?v=Mw-cdL4siEQ
"The Scary Reality Of Sex Education In Alabama | State Of Grace | Refinery29" by Refinery 29: youtube.com/watch?v=j3ej5JBa95E
[Timestamps]
00:00 - Growing up in purity culture
01:59 - Comprehensive sex education
03:19 - How I learned about PIV sex
10:45 - My "rebellious year" & my "testimony"
14:11 - Asking questions & feeling shamed
16:43 - Dream #1: Sex dream with a girl
18:11 - Dream #2: Rapture kissing dream
21:51 - Courtship & I Kissed Dating Goodbye
26:57 - Dream #3: Getting married at 13
31:51 - A quick "paws" for dog content
[Background Music]
Title: Still
hooksounds.com
Image Description: Elly, who is white with brown eyes, is sitting in front of a blank wall as she talks to the camera. Her shoulder-length brown hair is down, and she is wearing a dark blue sweater. To her left is the corner of a desk that holds green plants and a small bisexual flag. Throughout the video, there are screen shots and clips that correspond with the content mentioned.
#ReligiousTrauma #Exvangelical #IKissedDatingGoodbye #ChristianCourtship #ChristianPatriarchy #BiVisibility #PurityCulture
This video is about my experiences growing up in purity culture- the shame I felt at being interested in kissing, sex, and romantic relationships, and the way my repressed feelings and curiosities surfaced in my dreams. I share how I first learned about PIV sex on accident as well as my parents' rules about courtship and their love for "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." I also briefly discuss why I am passionate about comprehensive sex education beginning in childhood (and why this is a fundie parent's nightmare.)
Editor's note: At 17:44, I said that I was taught the mechanics of PIV sex. I'd like to clarify that I was given a very minimal description. As a virgin on my wedding day, I still had unanswered questions.
CW: religious trauma, including discussions of the rapture
[Sex Education Resources]
"Beyond the Birds & the Bees - What Comprehensive Sex Education Looks Like" by Education Week: youtube.com/watch?v=aOphfTmwkOE&list=WL&index=18
"Why Early Sex Ed Is Awesome!" by Nadine Thornhill: youtube.com/watch?v=ZulPg8fYu7k
"How To Talk To Preschoolers About Anatomy & Body Safety | Planned Parenthood Video" by Planned Parenthood: youtube.com/watch?v=EinNeciMgpQ
"Where do BABIES come from?!? - Bodies: QUEER KID STUFF #34" by Queer Kid Stuff: youtube.com/watch?v=G3oHkGHz74M
"Updated 'It’s Perfectly Normal' Sex Ed Book: More LGBTQ Inclusive, But Gaps Remain" by Mombian: mombian.com/2021/05/18/updated-its-perfectly-normal-sex-ed-book-more-lgbtq-inclusive-but-gaps-remain
"New LGBTQ-Inclusive Sex Ed Book Will Inform and Support All Tweens" by Mombian: mombian.com/2020/08/18/new-lgbtq-inclusive-sex-ed-book-will-inform-and-support-all-tweens
"Sex Ed For LGBTQ Youth - Five Ways To Make Sex Ed More Queer Inclusive!" by Nadine Thornhill: youtube.com/watch?v=sd-z_SOhPqc
"Trauma Informed Approaches When Teaching Sex Education" by
AFY - Virtual Professional Development: youtube.com/watch?v=Mw-cdL4siEQ
"The Scary Reality Of Sex Education In Alabama | State Of Grace | Refinery29" by Refinery 29: youtube.com/watch?v=j3ej5JBa95E
[Timestamps]
00:00 - Growing up in purity culture
01:59 - Comprehensive sex education
03:19 - How I learned about PIV sex
10:45 - My "rebellious year" & my "testimony"
14:11 - Asking questions & feeling shamed
16:43 - Dream #1: Sex dream with a girl
18:11 - Dream #2: Rapture kissing dream
21:51 - Courtship & I Kissed Dating Goodbye
26:57 - Dream #3: Getting married at 13
31:51 - A quick "paws" for dog content
[Background Music]
Title: Still
hooksounds.com
Image Description: Elly, who is white with brown eyes, is sitting in front of a blank wall as she talks to the camera. Her shoulder-length brown hair is down, and she is wearing a dark blue sweater. To her left is the corner of a desk that holds green plants and a small bisexual flag. Throughout the video, there are screen shots and clips that correspond with the content mentioned.
#ReligiousTrauma #Exvangelical #IKissedDatingGoodbye #ChristianCourtship #ChristianPatriarchy #BiVisibility #PurityCulture
