Kathrin | “It Wasn’t That Bad” is R@pe Culture @Kathrin_yt | Uploaded 9 months ago | Updated 3 hours ago
For years I told myself my CSA wasn't bad enough to qualify for mention...
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Other videos mentioned:
Why I, As A Survivor, Am A Prison Abolitionist: youtu.be/lRH_wzazzmE?si=GgyCdm-ulWlH5aKJ
I am NOT a "Survivor": youtu.be/kycdxCy7o28?si=g5SxKCQYiz8U4Dwp
My experience reporting sexual ab*se: youtu.be/slNz85uo84E?si=RmYx9u2BHEWSMtHg
Next discord call will be on on dismantling internalised patriarchy/whiteness and then the the book club Charles Eisenstein book ''The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible'': patreon.com/kathrin_YT
PATRON-ONLY VIDEOS
🎬Q&A
🎬My Favourite Books on Creativity
🎬All The Jobs I Ever Had
🎬Man-Made Disaster: How Patriarchy Is Ruining The Planet
🎬Self-Reflection on Collective Liberation
🎬Anti-Capitalist Self-Improvement
Link to videos: patreon.com/kathrin_YT
PATRON-ONLY PODCASTS:
🎙️Embodied Dating
🎙️The Truth About Living As A Digital Nomad
🎙️Trauma and the Left
🎙️Death, Grief and Loss
🎙️ My Bisexual Journey
🎙️S*xual Liberation: My Experiences
🎙️Why Love Hurts
🎙️The Meaning and Purpose of Life
🎙️My Therapist Had a Crush on Me (and Other Problems with Therapy)
🎙️All the Jobs I’ve Ever Had
🎙️My Story of Realising I’m Autistic
Link to podcasts: patreon.com/kathrin_YT
MY LIVESTREAM CHANNEL:
🎬A Little to the Left: youtube.com/channel/UCL3Qpe6vbDN9czUaeRdQtGQ
SOCIALS:
🐦 Twitter: twitter.com/kathrin_YT
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WATCH NEXT:
🍿Make Bad Art - You Are An Artist: youtu.be/YzgC1untjWQ
🍿Time Is Not Linear: youtu.be/e_ayxOnqDLs
🍿The Case for Radical Hope: youtu.be/j4UfEMLykyI
🍿Pred@tors vs Prison Abolition: A Survivor's Perspective: youtu.be/lRH_wzazzmE
References:
The complicated, inadequate language of s*xual violence, Constance Grady:
vox.com/culture/2017/11/30/16644394/language-sexual-violence
Nora Cooper, Silence: youtu.be/yuE-D9wx-jU?si=I8pqBDHliokTPVv-
There Is No Hierarchy of Suffering, Jeannette Cooperman: https://commonreader.wustl.edu/there-is-no-hierarchy-of-suffering/
A hierarchy of suffering, Gary Younge: theguardian.com/world/2004/sep/20/september11.usa
Unacknowledged r@pe: the sexual assault survivors who hide their trauma – even from themselves, Rachel Tompson: theguardian.com/society/2021/aug/26/unacknowledged-the-sexual-assault-survivors-who-hide-their-trauma-even-from-themselves
Rough: How Violence Has Found Its Way Into the Bedroom and What We Can Do About It, Rachel Thompson
Not that Bad: Dispatches from R@pe Culture, Roxane Gay
Meta-Analysis of the Prevalence of Unacknowledged Rape, Laura C Wilson, Katherine E Miller, journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1524838015576391
RESEARCH: PUBLIC DON’T UNDERSTAND SEXUAL VIOLENCE, endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/campaign/research-public-dont-understand-sexual-violence
WHO AM I?
Hi 👋 I’m Kathrin (she/her), I’m 27, an Anthropologist and Political Scientist. With my videos, I hope to inspire us to do both the internal and external work. Not only challenge 0ppressive broader external structures, but to also root out our that piece of the 0ppresser which is planted deep within each of us. Welding our outward political social rev0luti0ns, with this deep inner reflection and evolution of our consciousness.
About this video:
With the Jeffrey Epstein case one of the most controversial scandals in recent years, and now the new list that show Prince Andrew, Steven Hawking, Bill Clinton and Donald Trump are also implicated - I’ve seen a resurgence of debates around whether the abuse was bad enough/serious enough, qualifies for mention. People ranking the experiences and minimising and trivialising them. I see this constantly, things that clearly amounted to s*xual violence are minimised by terms like ‘’just bad s*x’’ misunderstanding, ‘grey area’’. People say This doesn’t really count, but …” or: “I wasn’t r@ped, but …” then proceed to tell me things that absolutely were rape. No matter where I go, or how horrendous the experience, people never seemed to think it was that bad.
‘abuse ranking’ is r@pe apologia. It normalises and trivialises the harm and invalidates victims. It makes us believe some acts are tolerable, and, further, that if a survivor of the "not as bad" sort of violence, they’re making a mountain out of a molehill. ‘’not that bad’’ is a chore pillar of r@pe culture.
⌚️Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
02:37 Why Not That Bad?
16:10 What Led to Change
26:48 That Bad
For years I told myself my CSA wasn't bad enough to qualify for mention...
💥 Become a Patron: patreon.com/kathrin_YT
✨Tip Jar Paypal: paypal.me/Kathrinytchannel?locale.x=en_GB
💕Tip Jar Kofi: ko-fi.com/kathrin
🔔Turning on notifications helps you never miss a video.
Other videos mentioned:
Why I, As A Survivor, Am A Prison Abolitionist: youtu.be/lRH_wzazzmE?si=GgyCdm-ulWlH5aKJ
I am NOT a "Survivor": youtu.be/kycdxCy7o28?si=g5SxKCQYiz8U4Dwp
My experience reporting sexual ab*se: youtu.be/slNz85uo84E?si=RmYx9u2BHEWSMtHg
Next discord call will be on on dismantling internalised patriarchy/whiteness and then the the book club Charles Eisenstein book ''The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible'': patreon.com/kathrin_YT
PATRON-ONLY VIDEOS
🎬Q&A
🎬My Favourite Books on Creativity
🎬All The Jobs I Ever Had
🎬Man-Made Disaster: How Patriarchy Is Ruining The Planet
🎬Self-Reflection on Collective Liberation
🎬Anti-Capitalist Self-Improvement
Link to videos: patreon.com/kathrin_YT
PATRON-ONLY PODCASTS:
🎙️Embodied Dating
🎙️The Truth About Living As A Digital Nomad
🎙️Trauma and the Left
🎙️Death, Grief and Loss
🎙️ My Bisexual Journey
🎙️S*xual Liberation: My Experiences
🎙️Why Love Hurts
🎙️The Meaning and Purpose of Life
🎙️My Therapist Had a Crush on Me (and Other Problems with Therapy)
🎙️All the Jobs I’ve Ever Had
🎙️My Story of Realising I’m Autistic
Link to podcasts: patreon.com/kathrin_YT
MY LIVESTREAM CHANNEL:
🎬A Little to the Left: youtube.com/channel/UCL3Qpe6vbDN9czUaeRdQtGQ
SOCIALS:
🐦 Twitter: twitter.com/kathrin_YT
📱Tiktok: tiktok.com/@kathrin_youtuber
📸 Instagram: instagram.com/kathrin_yt
WATCH NEXT:
🍿Make Bad Art - You Are An Artist: youtu.be/YzgC1untjWQ
🍿Time Is Not Linear: youtu.be/e_ayxOnqDLs
🍿The Case for Radical Hope: youtu.be/j4UfEMLykyI
🍿Pred@tors vs Prison Abolition: A Survivor's Perspective: youtu.be/lRH_wzazzmE
References:
The complicated, inadequate language of s*xual violence, Constance Grady:
vox.com/culture/2017/11/30/16644394/language-sexual-violence
Nora Cooper, Silence: youtu.be/yuE-D9wx-jU?si=I8pqBDHliokTPVv-
There Is No Hierarchy of Suffering, Jeannette Cooperman: https://commonreader.wustl.edu/there-is-no-hierarchy-of-suffering/
A hierarchy of suffering, Gary Younge: theguardian.com/world/2004/sep/20/september11.usa
Unacknowledged r@pe: the sexual assault survivors who hide their trauma – even from themselves, Rachel Tompson: theguardian.com/society/2021/aug/26/unacknowledged-the-sexual-assault-survivors-who-hide-their-trauma-even-from-themselves
Rough: How Violence Has Found Its Way Into the Bedroom and What We Can Do About It, Rachel Thompson
Not that Bad: Dispatches from R@pe Culture, Roxane Gay
Meta-Analysis of the Prevalence of Unacknowledged Rape, Laura C Wilson, Katherine E Miller, journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1524838015576391
RESEARCH: PUBLIC DON’T UNDERSTAND SEXUAL VIOLENCE, endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/campaign/research-public-dont-understand-sexual-violence
WHO AM I?
Hi 👋 I’m Kathrin (she/her), I’m 27, an Anthropologist and Political Scientist. With my videos, I hope to inspire us to do both the internal and external work. Not only challenge 0ppressive broader external structures, but to also root out our that piece of the 0ppresser which is planted deep within each of us. Welding our outward political social rev0luti0ns, with this deep inner reflection and evolution of our consciousness.
About this video:
With the Jeffrey Epstein case one of the most controversial scandals in recent years, and now the new list that show Prince Andrew, Steven Hawking, Bill Clinton and Donald Trump are also implicated - I’ve seen a resurgence of debates around whether the abuse was bad enough/serious enough, qualifies for mention. People ranking the experiences and minimising and trivialising them. I see this constantly, things that clearly amounted to s*xual violence are minimised by terms like ‘’just bad s*x’’ misunderstanding, ‘grey area’’. People say This doesn’t really count, but …” or: “I wasn’t r@ped, but …” then proceed to tell me things that absolutely were rape. No matter where I go, or how horrendous the experience, people never seemed to think it was that bad.
‘abuse ranking’ is r@pe apologia. It normalises and trivialises the harm and invalidates victims. It makes us believe some acts are tolerable, and, further, that if a survivor of the "not as bad" sort of violence, they’re making a mountain out of a molehill. ‘’not that bad’’ is a chore pillar of r@pe culture.
⌚️Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
02:37 Why Not That Bad?
16:10 What Led to Change
26:48 That Bad
