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My response to Girl Defined "8 REASONS WE AREN'T FEMINISTS"
QUICK NOTE ON #5:
I'm genuinely sorry if anyone felt what I said was victim blaming. Each person, each abuser, is held accountable for their own actions. An abusive person is the only person to be blamed for abuse, NEVER the abuse victim.
However, as someone out of an abusive relationship, in the process of forgiving him, I acknowledged what drew me to him, the ways I'd already been dishonoring myself to the point I welcomed him into my life. This isn't to say I was at fault for being abused but as we grow, forgive, love, and move forward the only way to assure we won't fall into terrible relationships again and again and again is to come to terms with what drew us to a consensual relationship with an abusive personality. Meaning for me, childhood trauma, abuse that was perhaps formative in my life made my relationship with my abuser feel normalized. He gaslit me, convinced me I didn't deserve better but I'd already accepted I wasn't worthy of better before I even met him."
That said, would love to hear your response & I hope I've clarified what I meant. It's not and never will be our fault. however, we are each responsible as people, as growing spiritual beings, to break those toxic holds, heal the best we can, and welcome something brand new into our lives.
xo
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My response to Girl Defined "8 REASONS WE AREN'T FEMINISTS"
QUICK NOTE ON #5:
I'm genuinely sorry if anyone felt what I said was victim blaming. Each person, each abuser, is held accountable for their own actions. An abusive person is the only person to be blamed for abuse, NEVER the abuse victim.
However, as someone out of an abusive relationship, in the process of forgiving him, I acknowledged what drew me to him, the ways I'd already been dishonoring myself to the point I welcomed him into my life. This isn't to say I was at fault for being abused but as we grow, forgive, love, and move forward the only way to assure we won't fall into terrible relationships again and again and again is to come to terms with what drew us to a consensual relationship with an abusive personality. Meaning for me, childhood trauma, abuse that was perhaps formative in my life made my relationship with my abuser feel normalized. He gaslit me, convinced me I didn't deserve better but I'd already accepted I wasn't worthy of better before I even met him."
That said, would love to hear your response & I hope I've clarified what I meant. It's not and never will be our fault. however, we are each responsible as people, as growing spiritual beings, to break those toxic holds, heal the best we can, and welcome something brand new into our lives.
xo
NEW EPISODES EVERY OTHER MONDAY @ 9!
SUPPORT: patreon.com/GodisGrey
OR bit.ly/2UjRSfe
CONNECT
Instagram - @Godisgrey
PODCAST:
God is Grey on apple, spotify & MORE!
CONTACT
Godisgreyxo@gmail.com
