How to Stop Playing Games in Love @theschooloflifetv

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‘I don’t play games,’ is a favourite mantra declared by hopeful people at the beginning love stories the world over. However, it can be less obvious what games playing really involves - and therefore how definitively to avoid its dynamics

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“Most of us have a general understanding that ‘games playing’ in relationships is a bad thing – and that all good people are opposed to them. ‘I don’t play games,’ is a favourite mantra declaimed by hopeful people at the beginning love stories the world over.However, it can be less obvious what games playing really involves – and therefore how definitively to avoid its dynamics. We too often associate this “so-called sport” with its most obvious manifestations in the dating phase: for example, when a person hides their desire beneath a veneer of indifference, or goes cold as soon as love is reciprocated.”

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