Julien J Marion | Heritage of Healing: Breaking Generational Struggles to Empower Entrepreneur Dads @JulienJMarion | Uploaded May 2024 | Updated October 2024, 29 minutes ago.
Growing up in Africa, Black people would tell me I’m white, and white people would tell me I’m Black.
I always wanted to belong but never quite felt included or part of any "side."
I felt inferior most of my life because of it and so I developed a superiority complex. This was helpful for sports but horrible for raising kids and being a husband.
I used to get angry right away when I was made to feel less than. Especially by other boys.
I would always be well-received by girls.
It would be an immediate trigger, and I would react with an equal level of aggression.
Growing up, it meant fights; in sports, it meant competition; as a dad, it meant yelling; as a husband, it meant shutting down.
From a young age, I decided to shut down my feelings and open only a few spots because I wanted to limit the hurt I would receive.
Then everything changed when I started to feel again.
Now, I can see another man and not feel like he's my competition, my opponent, my enemy, or someone I have to find a way to destroy.
It changed to understanding that he is my brother with his own set of challenges, fears, and worries. And that I can give him a safe space to be, release, and be seen.
Because that’s the beginning of healing.
That’s why now I work with married entrepreneur dads to regain their certainty, power, and reconnect to their heart so they can be GREAT dads, and as a result, great husbands, and produce more in business.
This short speech was given at a men's conference, with the intent to get them to start feeling again.
Growing up in Africa, Black people would tell me I’m white, and white people would tell me I’m Black.
I always wanted to belong but never quite felt included or part of any "side."
I felt inferior most of my life because of it and so I developed a superiority complex. This was helpful for sports but horrible for raising kids and being a husband.
I used to get angry right away when I was made to feel less than. Especially by other boys.
I would always be well-received by girls.
It would be an immediate trigger, and I would react with an equal level of aggression.
Growing up, it meant fights; in sports, it meant competition; as a dad, it meant yelling; as a husband, it meant shutting down.
From a young age, I decided to shut down my feelings and open only a few spots because I wanted to limit the hurt I would receive.
Then everything changed when I started to feel again.
Now, I can see another man and not feel like he's my competition, my opponent, my enemy, or someone I have to find a way to destroy.
It changed to understanding that he is my brother with his own set of challenges, fears, and worries. And that I can give him a safe space to be, release, and be seen.
Because that’s the beginning of healing.
That’s why now I work with married entrepreneur dads to regain their certainty, power, and reconnect to their heart so they can be GREAT dads, and as a result, great husbands, and produce more in business.
This short speech was given at a men's conference, with the intent to get them to start feeling again.
