Uploaded April 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Our attachment style is shaping every relationship in our lives — and most of us don't even know we have one. In this episode, Thais Gibson broke down the four attachment styles and the childhood conditioning behind them. We explored how our deepest unmet needs shape who we attract, discovered a three-step method to rewire core wounds at the subconscious level in just 21 days, and learned the five pillars that lead to secure attachment — in our relationships and in ourselves.
Thais Gibson, PhD, is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, host of The Thais Gibson Podcast, and creator of Integrated Attachment Theory™. She is a recognized leader in the personal development space, reaching a global audience of 1.26M+ across platforms and over 83M YouTube views.
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TIMESTAMPS
2:53 Thais' Story
4:31 Groundbreaking Realizations
6:31 How Your Subconscious Mind Works
11:56 The 4 Attachment Styles Explained
35:31 How To Heal Your Attachment Style
45:04 How Many Wounds To Work On At Once
46:16 Healing Attachment Styles In Relationships
56:57 How To Communicate Your Needs
1:03:37 Final Message
FOLLOW THAIS
• Website | university.personaldevelopmentschool.com
• Instagram | instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool
💜 Complete show notes for this episode at lavendaire.com/lifestyle-303
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Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece. The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by YouTuber and entrepreneur Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to create your dream life.
New episodes released every other Sunday.
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Our attachment style is shaping every relationship in our lives — and most of us don't even know we have one. In this episode, Thais Gibson broke down the four attachment styles and the childhood conditioning behind them. We explored how our deepest unmet needs shape who we attract, discovered a three-step method to rewire core wounds at the subconscious level in just 21 days, and learned the five pillars that lead to secure attachment — in our relationships and in ourselves.
Thais Gibson, PhD, is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, host of The Thais Gibson Podcast, and creator of Integrated Attachment Theory™. She is a recognized leader in the personal development space, reaching a global audience of 1.26M+ across platforms and over 83M YouTube views.
SPONSOR
• Resonance | Start your 14-day free trial + get 50% off your first month at https://resonance.lavendaire.com?utm_source=podcast with code: SPARK50
TIMESTAMPS
2:53 Thais' Story
4:31 Groundbreaking Realizations
6:31 How Your Subconscious Mind Works
11:56 The 4 Attachment Styles Explained
35:31 How To Heal Your Attachment Style
45:04 How Many Wounds To Work On At Once
46:16 Healing Attachment Styles In Relationships
56:57 How To Communicate Your Needs
1:03:37 Final Message
FOLLOW THAIS
• Website | university.personaldevelopmentschool.com
• Instagram | instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool
💜 Complete show notes for this episode at lavendaire.com/lifestyle-303
// watch more
✧ Mastering Charisma & People Skills with Vanessa Van Edwards | youtu.be/CKXpxUC3oyE?feature=shared
✧ Mimi Ikonn on Success and Living Authentically | youtu.be/Ak_RiKSHrjA?feature=shared
✧ Jules Acree on Intentional Productivity & Aligning with Your Inner Self | youtu.be/ZBed4jiu-JY?feature=shared
Subscribe to The Lavendaire Lifestyle
• Apple Podcasts | lavendaire.com/itunes
• Spotify | lavendaire.com/spotify
☁︎ About The Lavendaire Lifestyle
Life is an art. Make it your masterpiece. The Lavendaire Lifestyle is a podcast on personal growth and lifestyle design. Hosted by YouTuber and entrepreneur Aileen Xu, this podcast shares insight & inspiration on how to create your dream life.
New episodes released every other Sunday.
Connect with other listeners in the Lavendaire Community: lavendaire.com/discord
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shop | shop.lavendaire.com
youtube | youtube.com/lavendaire
instagram | instagram.com/lavendaire
facebook | facebook.com/lavendaire
twitter | twitter.com/lavendaire
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Podcast-related inquiries | sara@lavendaire.com
