“He Spent 40 Years Being The Version of Himself His Mother Approved Of” @DavidTian

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From the Beyond Success podcast episode 86: davidtianphd.com/beyond-success/parts-that-cannot-love-86

“He Spent 40 Years Being The Version of Himself His Mother Approved Of”

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“You’ve Been Lied To About What It Means To Be Emotionally Strong”

“The Truth About Connection: Why Success Feels Empty Without It”

“Why You Still Feel Stuck Even After Doing ‘The Work’”

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$No, Everybody Doesn’t Have Their Own Truth - 72 Beyond Success: Psych & Phil with David Tian, Ph.D. Relativism has a seductive force behind it. It offers you short-term relief for your problems - internally, relationally, and professionally. And the worst part is that it works. For a while anyway. But relativist thinking also comes with a brutal, long-term cost: It separates you from reality! This separation is subtle. Most don’t realize it until the consequences can’t be ignored - and that takes a while. And perhaps the hardest thing to wrap your head around is that it becomes more alluring the smarter you are. In fact, this loss of calibration with reality uses your own intelligence against you! And it all starts from a simple assumption: Everyone has their own truth. The good news is that it’s possible to free yourself from this slow and inevitable fracture from reality. But it won’t be easy. In today’s episode, you’ll discover how relativism separates you from reality, why it’s more tempting the more intelligent you are, and the one question you must answer to realign yourself with reality again. Show Highlights Include: How to better discern reality from the narrative stories your mind feeds you (This one mistake ends marriages, chokeholds growth, and turns stress up - learn how to avoid making it at) (1:45) The innocent, yet deadly mistake of thinking that truth is relative (and why it slowly wrings the life out of you) (3:47) A cognitive safeguard that disappears from your cognitive toolkit the very second you believe that truth is relative (7:05) The strange reason the most intelligent people are the most susceptible to the “Perverted Truth” mind virus that slowly distorts reality (7:24) Why your growing confidence might actually be a hidden threat (8:50) How short-term pressure-relief strategies work at first, but then fester underneath the surface waiting to explode (15:00) How clarity fades without obvious warning signs (and how to spot when you’re in this process sooner to avoid complete collapse) (19:03) One question (that’s not sexy or dramatic) to help pull yourself out of the loss of calibration that happens when judgement degrades (21:46) For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another?Maybe you’ve crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you’ve built the life you thought you wanted, yet there’s still something important missing. I’ve put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what’s really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you’ll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now. It’s fast. It’s practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment. Take the first step here → https://dtphd.com/quiz For the full Transcription, go here: https://davidtianphd.com/beyond-success/no-everyone-doesnt-have-their-own-truth-72/ ***** Listen to the episode on your favorite podcast platform: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-success/id1570318182 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4LAVM2zYO4xfGxVRATSQxN Audible/Amazon: https://www.audible.com/podcast/Beyond-Success/B08K57V4JS?qid=1624532264 Podbean: https://www.podbean.com/podcast-detail/bkcgh-1f9774/Beyond-Success-Podcast SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/user-980450970TuneIn:http://tun.in/pkn9 YT Timestamps: 00:00 - The Cost of Losing Calibration 01:33 - When “Everyone Has Their Own Truth” Fails 03:08 - Why Values Depend on Truth 06:01 - The Dangers of Treating Truth as Relative 11:12 - Compounding Errors in Organizations 15:27 - Short-Term Relief vs. Long-Term Costs of Relativism 19:57 - Calibration, Confidence, and the Importance of Objective Reality 22:31 - Reconnecting with Truth: The Key Question for Sound Judgment$