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0:00 Tears, anger, confusion & lack of connection...
0:24 Overview of NVC
2:36 The 3 horsemen of the bad communication apocalypse
4:49 (1) Observe without evaluating
11:29 Exercise 1: observation or evaluation?
15:00 The pipe analogy
15:59 (2) Identify & express feelings
20:04 Exercise 2: feeling or not?
23:10 How to express your feelings better
25:51 (3) Taking responsibility in your speech
27:07 How you become a people pleaser
29:30 The 3 stages of relationships
31:23 Exercise 3: responsibility taken or not?
34:23 The easiest way to adopt responsibility for your emotions
35:20 How to never take anything personally again
38:10 How to deal with negative messages
38:34 (4) Anger is a way of tricking yourself
41:22 (5) The 5 steps of solving conflict
44:05 (6) Connect feelings to needs
47:54 (7) Make specific requests
54:19 Exercise 4: specific & positive request or not?
57:33 (8) How to receive others empathically
01:07:32 (9) NVC with yourself
01:09:37 Outro rizz