Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
Why does "I'm proud of you" feel slightly off, even when it's meant kindly? Chris Do has an answer most people haven't considered. The phrase implicitly places the speaker in the evaluator's seat. They're the judge, you're the performer being assessed. It assumes a hierarchy you may not have agreed to. This isn't about rejecting people who love you or refusing all feedback. It's about hearing the structure underneath common phrases and recognizing how language quietly assigns roles in your relationships.
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Why does "I'm proud of you" feel slightly off, even when it's meant kindly? Chris Do has an answer most people haven't considered. The phrase implicitly places the speaker in the evaluator's seat. They're the judge, you're the performer being assessed. It assumes a hierarchy you may not have agreed to. This isn't about rejecting people who love you or refusing all feedback. It's about hearing the structure underneath common phrases and recognizing how language quietly assigns roles in your relationships.
Comment BIGDEAL and I’ll DM you the full epsisode!
