Uploaded February 2022 | Updated September 2026, 2 days ago
Many people are finding themselves dissatisfied with traditional relationship structures—but more and more, our society is opening up to the wonderful possibilities that relationship anarchy and ethical non-monogamy offer to those looking for love. Join writers and experts S. Bear Bergman (Special Topics in Being a Human), Natalie Zina Walschots (Hench), and Kai Cheng Thom (I Hope We Choose Love) in conversation about all things love & anarchy. Moderated by Jenny Yuen (Polyamorous: Living and Loving More).
This video is part of The Word On The Street Toronto’s ongoing City Imagines programming, a wide-ranging series of free online discussions that consider urban spaces and the people who live and create in them.
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Featured Books and Resources
Special Topics in Being a Human: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned the Hard Way about Caring For People, Including Myself by S. Bear Bergman: anotherstory.ca/item/6nvBPLOyqFicKiEqcwvegw
Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots: anotherstory.ca/item/MEgaIBq6_d-k-kUSdOxVRg
I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl’s Notes from the End of the World by Kai Cheng Thom: anotherstory.ca/item/6nvBPLOyqFi4fFCL6eBPTw
Polyamorous: Living and Loving More by Jenny Yuen: anotherstory.ca/item/a-c8S3j7QPOSvSd3oheVww
We encourage you to visit https://native-land.ca to learn more about the land you live on, wherever you’re tuning in from.
Connect with WOTS!
Website: toronto.thewordonthestreet.ca
Twitter: twitter.com/torontoWOTS
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Timestamps
00:00 Intro & Meet the Panelists
5:40 Describing and Defining Ethical Non-Monogamy
14:15 Why People Are Becoming More Curious about Non-Monogamy
24:24 Experiences Disrupting Traditional Relationship Structures
35:18 Joys and Lessons Learned from Being in Polyamorous Relationships
46:24 Dealing with Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships
49:12 Telling Family About Polyamory
1:00:27 Advice for People Looking to Explore Polyamory
1:05:57 Unique Stages and Milestones in Non-Monogamous Relationships
1:12:11 Why Relationships Go Downhill
1:15:51 Roles Queer Platonic Partnerships Play in Disrupting Normative Social Ideas about Relationships
1:19:09 How Anarchist Principles Inform Relationship Anarchy
1:23:23 Final Thoughts & Thank You
Many people are finding themselves dissatisfied with traditional relationship structures—but more and more, our society is opening up to the wonderful possibilities that relationship anarchy and ethical non-monogamy offer to those looking for love. Join writers and experts S. Bear Bergman (Special Topics in Being a Human), Natalie Zina Walschots (Hench), and Kai Cheng Thom (I Hope We Choose Love) in conversation about all things love & anarchy. Moderated by Jenny Yuen (Polyamorous: Living and Loving More).
This video is part of The Word On The Street Toronto’s ongoing City Imagines programming, a wide-ranging series of free online discussions that consider urban spaces and the people who live and create in them.
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Featured Books and Resources
Special Topics in Being a Human: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned the Hard Way about Caring For People, Including Myself by S. Bear Bergman: anotherstory.ca/item/6nvBPLOyqFicKiEqcwvegw
Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots: anotherstory.ca/item/MEgaIBq6_d-k-kUSdOxVRg
I Hope We Choose Love: A Trans Girl’s Notes from the End of the World by Kai Cheng Thom: anotherstory.ca/item/6nvBPLOyqFi4fFCL6eBPTw
Polyamorous: Living and Loving More by Jenny Yuen: anotherstory.ca/item/a-c8S3j7QPOSvSd3oheVww
We encourage you to visit https://native-land.ca to learn more about the land you live on, wherever you’re tuning in from.
Connect with WOTS!
Website: toronto.thewordonthestreet.ca
Twitter: twitter.com/torontoWOTS
Instagram: instagram.com/torontowots
TikTok: tiktok.com/@torontowots
Facebook: facebook.com/torontoWOTS
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Timestamps
00:00 Intro & Meet the Panelists
5:40 Describing and Defining Ethical Non-Monogamy
14:15 Why People Are Becoming More Curious about Non-Monogamy
24:24 Experiences Disrupting Traditional Relationship Structures
35:18 Joys and Lessons Learned from Being in Polyamorous Relationships
46:24 Dealing with Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships
49:12 Telling Family About Polyamory
1:00:27 Advice for People Looking to Explore Polyamory
1:05:57 Unique Stages and Milestones in Non-Monogamous Relationships
1:12:11 Why Relationships Go Downhill
1:15:51 Roles Queer Platonic Partnerships Play in Disrupting Normative Social Ideas about Relationships
1:19:09 How Anarchist Principles Inform Relationship Anarchy
1:23:23 Final Thoughts & Thank You
