Uploaded May 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a letter from Jerome—a man who’s feeling disillusioned and depressed about relationships and marriage. After a breakup and years of being told that “marriage is the dream,” he’s beginning to question everything.
Does long-term monogamy even work anymore? Are women really wired for it? Is the “wife and kids” dream still alive for men today?
I unpack all of this and more—including what I’ve learned from helping thousands of men, my interview with Women’s Infidelity author Michelle Langley, and my own personal experiences.
00:00 – Jerome’s Email: “Your Interview Depressed Me”
01:00 – Michelle Langley & The Truth About Female Infidelity
02:00 – The Dream of Marriage vs. Harsh Reality
03:10 – Red Pill Moment: “What I Believed Was a Lie”
04:25 – Women’s Libido Is Stronger… Before Commitment
05:55 – Why Sex Drops Off After Marriage
07:00 – Kids Arrive, Sex Dies—Then Divorce Happens
08:10 – “Now She’s Flourishing… Without Me”
09:00 – Women Want Connection—But Not Always Sex
10:15 – Why Marriage Is Work (Even If It Shouldn’t Be)
11:10 – Open Marriages? You’re Playing With Fire
12:00 – Monogamy Is a Risk… But So Is Bachelorhood
12:50 – Most Guys Don’t Have the Tools to Make It Work
13:30 – Trauma, Attachment, and Why She Left You
14:20 – You Probably Have Childhood Issues Too
15:00 – Heal Yourself First—Then Love Becomes Easier
15:45 – Marriage Bootcamp: Why Most Would Quit Day One
16:30 – Society Pushes Marriage… But We’re Not Ready
17:15 – Why Modern Marriage Is So Damn Hard
17:50 – Female Libido Drops in Monogamy… It’s Just One Puzzle Piece
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In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a letter from Jerome—a man who’s feeling disillusioned and depressed about relationships and marriage. After a breakup and years of being told that “marriage is the dream,” he’s beginning to question everything.
Does long-term monogamy even work anymore? Are women really wired for it? Is the “wife and kids” dream still alive for men today?
I unpack all of this and more—including what I’ve learned from helping thousands of men, my interview with Women’s Infidelity author Michelle Langley, and my own personal experiences.
00:00 – Jerome’s Email: “Your Interview Depressed Me”
01:00 – Michelle Langley & The Truth About Female Infidelity
02:00 – The Dream of Marriage vs. Harsh Reality
03:10 – Red Pill Moment: “What I Believed Was a Lie”
04:25 – Women’s Libido Is Stronger… Before Commitment
05:55 – Why Sex Drops Off After Marriage
07:00 – Kids Arrive, Sex Dies—Then Divorce Happens
08:10 – “Now She’s Flourishing… Without Me”
09:00 – Women Want Connection—But Not Always Sex
10:15 – Why Marriage Is Work (Even If It Shouldn’t Be)
11:10 – Open Marriages? You’re Playing With Fire
12:00 – Monogamy Is a Risk… But So Is Bachelorhood
12:50 – Most Guys Don’t Have the Tools to Make It Work
13:30 – Trauma, Attachment, and Why She Left You
14:20 – You Probably Have Childhood Issues Too
15:00 – Heal Yourself First—Then Love Becomes Easier
15:45 – Marriage Bootcamp: Why Most Would Quit Day One
16:30 – Society Pushes Marriage… But We’re Not Ready
17:15 – Why Modern Marriage Is So Damn Hard
17:50 – Female Libido Drops in Monogamy… It’s Just One Puzzle Piece
📩 Submit your own story or question at DearDSO.com
🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content like this.
Dad Starting Over is part of the Help For Men network! Learn more at helpformen.com
🌐The HFM Brotherhood (private group for men only): helpformen.com/join
FOLLOW ME ON
💥 Facebook facebook.com/dadstartingover
💥 TikTok: tiktok.com/@dad.starting.over
💥 Instagram: instagram.com/dadstartingover
💥 X: twitter.com/dadstartingover
Our Books:
🌐The Dead Bedroom Fix: deadbedroomfix.com
🌐Divorce Panic: divorcepanic.com
🌐Real Talk: helpformen.com/real-talk
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