Ex-Fundie Diaries | Dear Future Husband: An Original Song about Gender Roles & Purity Culture @ExFundieDiaries | Uploaded February 2023 | Updated October 2024, 8 hours ago.
In this video, I share an original song I wrote from the perspective of my younger self while growing up in purity culture and the gender roles of christian fundamentalism. I explain the term "helpmeet" and how I practiced for that role as a young single person. I also read a portion from "Captivating" by John and Stasi Eldredge.

Closed captions coming soon!

CW: purity culture, christian patriarchy, religious trauma

[Content Mentioned]
"Casual Misogyny" by Janice Lagata on the BAD WORDS podcast: open.spotify.com/episode/3eAHKWHLIAdcLPZLlcqo1O

[Timestamps]
00:00 - Intro: gender roles & purity culture
02:20 - Dear Future Husband original song
05:25 - Writing letters to my future husband
08:35 - Practicing to become a "helpmeet"
12:17 - "Captivating" by John and Stasi Eldredge
19:20 - Unlearning damaging messages

[Background Music]
Title: Hold Your Hand
https://www.hooksounds.com​​​

Image description: Elly is white with brown eyes and brown hair. In the discussion part of the video, they are wearing a pink t-shirt while sitting on the couch next to their dog, Nova- a black beagle/lab mix. During the song portion, they are wearing a maroon sweater while playing guitar and singing into a tabletop microphone.

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