Uploaded February 2026 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
Dan Savage does not aspire to a harem—but he is emigrating-curious.
On How To! with Mike Pesca, the legendary sex columnist and host of Savage Lovecast consults Dutch immigration lawyer Charley Nieuwesteeg about relocating his husband… and his husband’s boyfriend… to the Netherlands.
Is there a German word for “my husband’s boyfriend”?
What color is “emigrating-curious” on the pride flag?
And how many banana stands must one open to prove residency?
Nieuwesteeg has seen it all: dog-walking businesses, donut shops, and yes—entrepreneurs bravely opening the banana stand to secure those sweet, sweet residency permits.
Polyamory may have bandwidth limits. Dutch bureaucracy? Surprisingly chill.
#DanSavage #Polyamory #ImmigrationLaw #Netherlands #HowToPodcast
This interview is from a Full episode of The HowTo Podcast, Hosted by Mike Pesca.
🎧Listen Here👉mikepesca.com/how-to-with-mike-pesca
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or spotify -open.spotify.com/show/2sTpPBvpoGHZlDwgSKI7EZ
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CREDITS:
Creator & Host:
Mike Pesca
Producer:
Corey Wara
Video Editor:
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Dan Savage does not aspire to a harem—but he is emigrating-curious.
On How To! with Mike Pesca, the legendary sex columnist and host of Savage Lovecast consults Dutch immigration lawyer Charley Nieuwesteeg about relocating his husband… and his husband’s boyfriend… to the Netherlands.
Is there a German word for “my husband’s boyfriend”?
What color is “emigrating-curious” on the pride flag?
And how many banana stands must one open to prove residency?
Nieuwesteeg has seen it all: dog-walking businesses, donut shops, and yes—entrepreneurs bravely opening the banana stand to secure those sweet, sweet residency permits.
Polyamory may have bandwidth limits. Dutch bureaucracy? Surprisingly chill.
#DanSavage #Polyamory #ImmigrationLaw #Netherlands #HowToPodcast
This interview is from a Full episode of The HowTo Podcast, Hosted by Mike Pesca.
🎧Listen Here👉mikepesca.com/how-to-with-mike-pesca
or apple podcasts - podcasts.apple.com/sl/podcast/how-to-with-mike-pesca/id1469631127
or spotify -open.spotify.com/show/2sTpPBvpoGHZlDwgSKI7EZ
_______________________
Join the "Gist List" membership and get access to the Gist List Newsletter with Mike's daily insights and things you missed in the news:
mikepesca.substack.com
Follow us:
instagram.com/pescagist
youtube.com/@pescagist
https://x.com/PescaGist
https://x.com/pescami
Visit Mike's website:
mikepesca.com
_______________________
CREDITS:
Creator & Host:
Mike Pesca
Producer:
Corey Wara
Video Editor:
Geoff Craig
