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How can you spot abusive behavior and what makes a community abusive? At the 2022 Better Conference (BetterCon), Thomas Westbrook gave this talk calling out abusive behavior in the atheist community, but the points in this talk are fairly universal to all communities. We need to recognize online abuse and learn how can you mitigate or avoid abusive behavior, whether it's harassments on social media or in-person bullying. There can be abusive bullies in any community, but in order to build a healthy community, it's important to spot problematic behavior and to avoid being toxic or abusive ourselves. Here are some of the red flags/warning signs of abuse.
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00:00 Introduction
00:28 My experience with abuse
01:28 Gray rocking
03:26 Signs of abuse: constant criticism
05:04 Signs of abuse: belittling and shaming
06:13 Signs of abuse: blame-lumping
09:49 Signs of abuse: isolation and shunning
10:48 Signs of abuse: controlling who others associate with
11:52 Signs of abuse: gaslighting
12:39 Signs of abuse: giving people no space
13:23 Signs of abuse: purity testing
16:30 Signs of abuse: constantly looking for a fight
17:15 How to do better
17:37 Understanding how peoples' minds work
24:30 Don't be like Ignaz
27:17 Hanlon's razor and erring on the side of compassion
28:24 Q&A Question 1: Is there a place for firebrands?
30:16 Q&A Question 2: The time/place for anger
31:09 Q&A Question 3: How to change abuse into something good
36:21 Q&A Question 4: How people grow/change gradually over time
38:13 Announcement: NaNoCon in Tennessee
38:35 Outro & Special Thanks
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How can you spot abusive behavior and what makes a community abusive? At the 2022 Better Conference (BetterCon), Thomas Westbrook gave this talk calling out abusive behavior in the atheist community, but the points in this talk are fairly universal to all communities. We need to recognize online abuse and learn how can you mitigate or avoid abusive behavior, whether it's harassments on social media or in-person bullying. There can be abusive bullies in any community, but in order to build a healthy community, it's important to spot problematic behavior and to avoid being toxic or abusive ourselves. Here are some of the red flags/warning signs of abuse.
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00:00 Introduction
00:28 My experience with abuse
01:28 Gray rocking
03:26 Signs of abuse: constant criticism
05:04 Signs of abuse: belittling and shaming
06:13 Signs of abuse: blame-lumping
09:49 Signs of abuse: isolation and shunning
10:48 Signs of abuse: controlling who others associate with
11:52 Signs of abuse: gaslighting
12:39 Signs of abuse: giving people no space
13:23 Signs of abuse: purity testing
16:30 Signs of abuse: constantly looking for a fight
17:15 How to do better
17:37 Understanding how peoples' minds work
24:30 Don't be like Ignaz
27:17 Hanlon's razor and erring on the side of compassion
28:24 Q&A Question 1: Is there a place for firebrands?
30:16 Q&A Question 2: The time/place for anger
31:09 Q&A Question 3: How to change abuse into something good
36:21 Q&A Question 4: How people grow/change gradually over time
38:13 Announcement: NaNoCon in Tennessee
38:35 Outro & Special Thanks
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