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What if your estranged son or daughter came back tomorrow? Would you be ready?
When you’re estranged from an adult child, it’s easy to spend months or even years focused on one thing: reconciliation. You wait for the phone call. You hope for the text. You pray for the relationship to be restored.
But there’s another question I believe every estranged mom needs to ask:
Who do I want to become before they come back?
During my own estrangement from my daughter, there came a point when I looked in the mirror and barely recognized the woman looking back at me. I had gained 70 pounds. I was leaning on alcohol to cope. I was depressed, disconnected, and had tied so much of my peace to whether or not my daughter wanted a relationship with me.
Something had to change — even if my relationship with her didn't.
In this episode, I’m sharing the shift that helped me stop trying to control reconciliation and start focusing on my own healing, my relationship with God, and the woman I was becoming in the waiting.
We’ll talk about:
• Why waiting for your estranged child can slowly become your identity
• The difference between giving up on reconciliation and choosing to live again
• Why you cannot control when or whether your adult child reaches out
• How to prepare emotionally for possible reconciliation
• Healing from guilt, regret, rejection, and the pain of family estrangement
• What it means to ask God to work in you — not only in your adult child
• The question I ask the moms I coach: Who do you want to become before they come back?
You do not have to wait for the relationship to change before you begin changing your life.
If you’re a mom struggling with an estranged daughter, estranged son, adult child who won’t speak to you, no contact, limited contact, rejection, or a difficult relationship with your adult child, I hope this episode reminds you that there is meaningful work you can do in this season.
❤️ READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP?
If you feel stuck and aren't sure what to do next, apply for a Heart-to-Heart Consultation with me. We’ll talk honestly about where you are, what’s weighing on you, and what your next best step could look like: sally-harris.com/H2Happ
🙏 And if this video encouraged you, subscribe and share it with another mom who needs this message today.
Seeing my reflection after weight gain sparked a necessary self discovery. This is how I learned to reconnect with my identity.
Many of us reach a point where we look in the mirror and do not recognize the person staring back. This reflection is not about a relationship status or external validation, but about the internal struggle we face with body image changes. If you have ever felt disconnected from who you are due to physical shifts, this honest conversation is for you.
I share my personal experience with self acceptance and the process of finding peace with my new body. By focusing on my personal identity rather than the number on a scale, I found a path toward genuine healing. This video explores the mental shift required to stop fighting your reflection and start embracing your reality.
Subscribe for weekly personal growth reflections, and comment below on how you practice kindness toward your body during difficult seasons.
00:00 I Didn’t Recognize Myself Anymore
01:30 Are You Ready for the Day They Come Back?
02:35 Who Are You Becoming While You Wait?
03:45 The Shift That Changed Everything for Me
04:50 I Started Praying for My Own Healing
05:50 Who Do You Want to Become Before They Come Back?
07:05 Healing Before Reconciliation
08:05 A Mom Who Kept Showing Up Through the Silence
09:30 One Question I Want You to Take With You
10:25 Your Next Best Step
READY TO TAKE YOUR FIRST STEP? Apply for a consultation.👇
HEART-TO HEART CONSULT- sally-harris.com/H2Happ
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY “FROM STRUGGLE TO STRENGTH COURSE 👇 sally-harris.com/self-study
Check out my NEWEST blog posts 👇
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If you’re feeling ready for support and want to learn more about working together, I invite you to start with a short application. From there, you’ll receive next steps to book your Heart-to-Heart Consultation. Start here: sally-harris.com/H2Happ
What if your estranged son or daughter came back tomorrow? Would you be ready?
When you’re estranged from an adult child, it’s easy to spend months or even years focused on one thing: reconciliation. You wait for the phone call. You hope for the text. You pray for the relationship to be restored.
But there’s another question I believe every estranged mom needs to ask:
Who do I want to become before they come back?
During my own estrangement from my daughter, there came a point when I looked in the mirror and barely recognized the woman looking back at me. I had gained 70 pounds. I was leaning on alcohol to cope. I was depressed, disconnected, and had tied so much of my peace to whether or not my daughter wanted a relationship with me.
Something had to change — even if my relationship with her didn't.
In this episode, I’m sharing the shift that helped me stop trying to control reconciliation and start focusing on my own healing, my relationship with God, and the woman I was becoming in the waiting.
We’ll talk about:
• Why waiting for your estranged child can slowly become your identity
• The difference between giving up on reconciliation and choosing to live again
• Why you cannot control when or whether your adult child reaches out
• How to prepare emotionally for possible reconciliation
• Healing from guilt, regret, rejection, and the pain of family estrangement
• What it means to ask God to work in you — not only in your adult child
• The question I ask the moms I coach: Who do you want to become before they come back?
You do not have to wait for the relationship to change before you begin changing your life.
If you’re a mom struggling with an estranged daughter, estranged son, adult child who won’t speak to you, no contact, limited contact, rejection, or a difficult relationship with your adult child, I hope this episode reminds you that there is meaningful work you can do in this season.
❤️ READY FOR YOUR NEXT STEP?
If you feel stuck and aren't sure what to do next, apply for a Heart-to-Heart Consultation with me. We’ll talk honestly about where you are, what’s weighing on you, and what your next best step could look like: sally-harris.com/H2Happ
🙏 And if this video encouraged you, subscribe and share it with another mom who needs this message today.
Seeing my reflection after weight gain sparked a necessary self discovery. This is how I learned to reconnect with my identity.
Many of us reach a point where we look in the mirror and do not recognize the person staring back. This reflection is not about a relationship status or external validation, but about the internal struggle we face with body image changes. If you have ever felt disconnected from who you are due to physical shifts, this honest conversation is for you.
I share my personal experience with self acceptance and the process of finding peace with my new body. By focusing on my personal identity rather than the number on a scale, I found a path toward genuine healing. This video explores the mental shift required to stop fighting your reflection and start embracing your reality.
Subscribe for weekly personal growth reflections, and comment below on how you practice kindness toward your body during difficult seasons.
00:00 I Didn’t Recognize Myself Anymore
01:30 Are You Ready for the Day They Come Back?
02:35 Who Are You Becoming While You Wait?
03:45 The Shift That Changed Everything for Me
04:50 I Started Praying for My Own Healing
05:50 Who Do You Want to Become Before They Come Back?
07:05 Healing Before Reconciliation
08:05 A Mom Who Kept Showing Up Through the Silence
09:30 One Question I Want You to Take With You
10:25 Your Next Best Step
READY TO TAKE YOUR FIRST STEP? Apply for a consultation.👇
HEART-TO HEART CONSULT- sally-harris.com/H2Happ
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY “FROM STRUGGLE TO STRENGTH COURSE 👇 sally-harris.com/self-study
Check out my NEWEST blog posts 👇
sally-harris.com/blog
Thank you for watching this video—Please Share it and get the word out!
What part of this video resonated with you the most? Comment below!
#SallyHarrisMomsofEstrangedAdultKidExpert #estrangement
