Uploaded May 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
#1: FEAR
Duh, it feels scary. No wonder we run from it 🫣
Try this: Name the feeling. Say to yourself, “I’m afraid of X, and that’s okay.”
#2: ANGER
Many of us avoid anger because we were taught it’s unsafe or unacceptable.
Try this: Practice speaking a small truth when you feel the feeling arise. Say: “I’m upset about X. Can we talk about it?”
#3: GRIEF
This emotion can feel so complicated and heavy 💔
Try this: Allow yourself to feel it fully. Journaling, crying, or sharing your feelings with a trusted person lets sadness move through you.
#4: DISAPPOINTMENT
Disappointment often comes when expectations aren’t met, by others or ourselves.
Try this: Name the expectation and reality. “I feel disappointed that X happened. Here’s what I need to move forward.”
#5: GUILT
Guilt pops up when you believe you’ve done wrong, or when you feel responsible for someone else’s feelings.
Try this: Ask yourself “Is this guilt justified, or am I taking responsibility for something that isn’t mine?”
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Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
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#1: FEAR
Duh, it feels scary. No wonder we run from it 🫣
Try this: Name the feeling. Say to yourself, “I’m afraid of X, and that’s okay.”
#2: ANGER
Many of us avoid anger because we were taught it’s unsafe or unacceptable.
Try this: Practice speaking a small truth when you feel the feeling arise. Say: “I’m upset about X. Can we talk about it?”
#3: GRIEF
This emotion can feel so complicated and heavy 💔
Try this: Allow yourself to feel it fully. Journaling, crying, or sharing your feelings with a trusted person lets sadness move through you.
#4: DISAPPOINTMENT
Disappointment often comes when expectations aren’t met, by others or ourselves.
Try this: Name the expectation and reality. “I feel disappointed that X happened. Here’s what I need to move forward.”
#5: GUILT
Guilt pops up when you believe you’ve done wrong, or when you feel responsible for someone else’s feelings.
Try this: Ask yourself “Is this guilt justified, or am I taking responsibility for something that isn’t mine?”
If this resonated with you, hit the subscribe button for more tools on relationships and communication 💕
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
