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What do you do when someone you thought you could trust does something so out of character that you’re caught completely off guard?
At first you don’t think too much of it, but then you start to notice there’s actually a pattern – of control, manipulation, and coldness.
It’s those little manipulations where they deny something happened or downplay it that really start to chip away at your sense of reality, your confidence, and your sense of self – and before you know it, you don’t even recognize yourself anymore.
The sad truth is, manipulators are masters at making you doubt your own reality, and by the time you realize what’s happening, you’re already trapped in their web.
And that’s why on today’s episode of Women of Impact, we are diving deep into how these dangerous people – like psychopaths and predators you expect would be SO obvious to spot – are actually the ones hiding in plain sight and waiting for their opportunity.
Here to pull back the curtain on exactly how dangerous people operate right under our noses is cold case investigator Paul Holes. This guy spent years hunting down some of the most elusive predators out there, including the infamous Golden State Killer. And what he’s sharing today is going to make you rethink everything you thought you knew about spotting danger.
We go deep into:
- Signs to look for when dating or meeting someone new that could be giveaways that something is actually “off” about them
- Why some of the most dangerous people are often the ones who seem the most “normal”
- How people like the Golden State Killer can hide in plain sight for DECADES, all while committing horrific crimes
- And how YOU can spot those subtle signs of manipulation and control that most people don’t see until it’s unfortunately too frikin’ late
The reality is guys, that psychopaths are often hiding behind the “normal” people you see every day – the barista making your coffee, your co-worker that everyone loves, or even your boyfriend that you’ve been with for MONTHS.
But by the end of this episode, you’ll know the giveaway signs that a predator is trying to trick you and blend into everyday life, and how YOU can protect yourself and the people you love from these predators, abusers, manipulators who just want to get power and control over you.
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🤯 [0:00] The shocking truth about the Golden State Killer
🚨 [7:27] Early warning signs of a predator
🔥 [22:00] Nature, nurture, and psychology define a predator
🚩 [26:33] Signs of potential violence in relationships
🔍 [46:39 ] Truth vs. deception
🔪 [1:00:38 ] Serial killers & crime psychology
PAUL HOLES’ JAW-DROPPING QUOTES:
"[The Golden State Killer] is trained as a law enforcement professional and was even assigned to this anti burglary task force to investigate the burglaries that he was committing in the town next door.”
"But when you have a teenage boy that's willing to kill or torture an animal, that's one step away from doing that to a human."
"If the man starts to strangle you, puts his hands around your neck, he's going to kill you. That is basically him needing to express his anger at a point by taking it out to a homicidal act. That's huge."
"That woman is just out there living her life, and he just happened, you know, this is why he's a predator. He's waiting for the prey to come."
"Just because you're academically smart doesn't mean you are good at committing these crimes."
"Very last thing I did as a law enforcement officer was to drive up to D'Angelo's house so I could see where he lived because it was like a prime suspect. And I parked on the curb across from the house, and his yard was immaculate. His car was super clean, you know, and I was like, wow, fastidious, you know, which was interesting, because after he's arrested and I got inside his house, it was a pigsty."
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Have you ever met someone that just oozed charm, made you laugh, was soooo damn charismatic, they just seemed like they were totally nice, normal, harmless person??…and then come to find out they were actually secretly a manipulative and abusive wolf hiding in sheep's clothing?
And no one, ESPECIALLY YOU, can believe that the *seemingly* nice guy, is actually the guy who was prolifically cheating on his wife, stealing money from his employer, or even worse… and you had NO IDEA?!?!
The thing is guys, dangerous people are lurking everywhere, and if you want to protect yourself from befriending, dating, or even becoming a victim of conmen, toxic narcissists, abusers, or worse, you HAVE TO know how to protect yourself.
And that’s why on this episode of Women of Impact, we’re talking to defense attorney Karen Conti!! And she is revealing exactly what a dangerous person can, AND WILL, do to get what they want, and how you can protect yourself from their sneaky tactics used to deceive and manipulate you, like charm, humor, and even acts of kindness.
We dive DEEP into:
- The playbook master manipulators like P Diddy, Jeffery Epstein, and John Wayne Gacy use to trick you, lie to you, and hurt you
- Strategies you can use to keep YOUR power and NEVER let a conman, abuser, or even serial killer take your power from you
- How to spot the manipulation and lies every scammer, swindler, narcissist, toxic ex, and even serial killer will use to catch you off gaurd, take advantage of you, and frikin’ hurt you with
- And sooo much more!!!
So my homies, listen up coz I guarantee your assumptions about the behavior and personality of a dangerous person are going to change after listening to this!!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🏆 [00:00] How a serial killer evades capture
🤝 [19:46] How they gain trust & evade suspicion
📕 [29:27] The playbook of master manipulators like P. Diddy
🔄 [47:32] The predictable patterns of narcissists
🍼 [1:02:46] Are serial killers born or made?
KAREN CONTI’S HOT QUOTES:
"Everybody in a room around a sociopath or a narcissist is a pawn, is a tool for that person to get exactly what they want, whether it's sexual gratification, money, whatever it is."
"I find it very interesting, as a lawyer, that there were no co defendants charged right now, which leads me to believe that the other people who were facilitating some of this, with the cameras and the drugs and all of this, and the procuring of young women and men, that they are now flipping on him, that the government approached them and said, we want him."
"If those are murders…their loved ones have a right to know that they did not die of natural causes, and they have a right to have a prosecution that's accurately reflecting who actually did this crime."
"Once you've given someone power over you, it's hard to relinquish that."
"[Narcissists are] bizarre in the same ways over and over again."
"I've always been against the death penalty. Even when I was a little kid, I talk about in my book, my parents were both in favor of it, and I used to fight with them about, no, it's wrong to kill. If you kill, it's wrong to kill."
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What up guys, it's Lisa Bilyeu here, and I'm going to tell you something that's an absolute frickin’ fact that no one wants to believe AND is the reason we find ourselves getting tricked, used, manipulated, cheated on, and gaslit…
EVERYONE LIES!
From small innocent white lies to really freaking hurtful, huge lies that are like a bombshell that ends up destroying your life, your relationship, and your confidence.
Now the sooner we can just accept the fact that everyone lies, the sooner you can start to figure out how to spot the lies, uncover the truth, and take your power back so you won’t be manipulated ever again.
And so here to help us uncover the web of lies and reveal the truth is former CIA spy and agent, Andrew Bustamante!!
Andrew has literally been professionally trained in how to gain people's trust very quickly and how to use that trust to get information, and today he's going to be teaching us:
- the three parts that go into building trust
- what a con man, serial killer, or cult leader will do to gain your trust quickly
- how to take control back and ask the right questions to test and reveal the true intentions behind someone’s actions
- how famous people like P Diddy, Bill Cosby, and R Kelly were able to lie and manipulate and abuse people to the EXTREME
This episode is a masterclass on how to become a human lie detector and crack the con!!!
By the end of this episode, your tool belt will be full of the tools that top agents in the CIA use to crack the cons, expose the lies, and manipulate the manipulator so you can protect your own damn self-confidence, reveal the truth behind anyone's actions, and then take your power back in any situation!!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🧠 [00:00] What skilled manipulators do to gain your trust quickly
🗣️ [19:26] The echochamber that makes cults so dangerous
🔍 [32:36] How to spot a lie & find the truth
🔄 [1:03:56] Famous cases of lies, manipulation, and abuse
😖 [1:20:57] Why people believe their own lies
ANDREW’S TRUTH BOMBS:
"A cult is a perfect example of know, like, trust happening in real time…Each individual in the group is now hearing the message multiple times over, not just from the source, but from the other people in the group…So then all the people who know what it is get kicked out, and all the people who believe it's not a cult stay in. And then you have this echo chamber of bad ideas."
"CIA teaches every field officer out there, there will always be lies, and everybody will forever lie. Just accept it, understand that truth, and then that's going to make it that much more powerful and that much more effective when you have tools to find the truth."
“How many times do you have to see a super wealthy celebrity completely melt down, completely fall apart, before you realize they're just people and we are all equally fucked up?"
“The way that you keep such a diverse group of people safe is by giving them the same simple and effective self defense system. And that system is based in something we call biomechanical advantages."
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So many of us women find ourselves in situations where we really question if we will be able to get past the challenge…
Whether that's getting unexpectedly fired, a messy break up, or something happens with your parents and now you have to help take care of them every single day…
Whatever you're struggling with, the only way to get through it is by building resilience – and it doesn’t happen by accident.
And so on this episode of Women of Impact, we’re learning the 6 rules of resiliency from a Holocaust survivor, trauma therapist & resiliency expert with first-hand experience surviving Auschwitz, it’s Dr. Edith Edgar (or Edie as she likes to be called)!
Despite the downright EVIL acts that could have broken her, Edie’s resilience made her refuse to be a victim, and today she’s sharing with us you can build that same resiliency, actually come to terms with your past, and feel good about yourself again – no matter what you go through.
Edie is an amazing and inspiring role model on how to never fall into believing you’re a victim and to always show up for yourself and believe in your worth and never, EVER give up!!
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CHAPTER MARKERS:
❤️🩹 [00:00] Surviving Auschwitz & finding forgiveness
🧠 [4:17] The role of mindset in resiliency and survival
💪 [10:32] How finding purpose gives you strength
💎 [16:24] Understanding your uniqueness & your worth
🫶 [25:58] Healing through compassion & living in the present
AMAZING QUOTES FROM EDIE:
“The more choices you have, the less you're ever gonna feel like a victim.”
“I was victimized, it's not who I am, it was what was done to me.”
“You can be happy or you can be miserable, it’s your choice.”
“I don't think the forgiveness came without rage. I didn't get over it. I'm not getting over it, but I don't live there."
"I hope you will learn to forgive yourself, that you're human and not running away from it."
"If you leave this room, nobody can really replace you. You're special. You're one of a kind diamond."
"My definition of love is the ability to let go. Let go of the need for other people's approval that you be your genuine self, just the way you were born."
“You can become Mother Teresa and you can become a Hitler. It's your choice."
"I didn't have revenge on my mind. I had on my mind: How can I be useful and do what I can do to let people know that they are survivors?"
"There is no forgiveness without rage. You gotta go through it, but don't get stuck in it."
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If you've ever been controlled by someone mentally or emotionally, then you know how crushing it is to your confidence, your self-esteem, and your belief in yourself.
You question HOW this person convinced you to do or say or believe things that you KNOW deep down to your core are not true? WHAT did they do to get you to fall for the lies and change so much, without you even frikin’ realizing it? And HOW can you make sure it doesn’t happen to you again??
Well homie, the reality is that this type of manipulation happens more often than you might think, 1 on 1 in toxic relationships and sometimes even whole groups of people at a time in a cult.
So in this episode of Women of Impact, I wanted to get to the bottom of how good, well-intentioned, educated, “normal” people like you and me can fall into the trap of a controlling person like a cult leader or narcissistic romantic partner, and literally leave behind their life, family, job, money, friends, belief system, sanity, and everything about themselves for this person.
And whether it’s coz of a cult, a toxic partner, or a guy at work that keeps trying to convince you to join this “amazing self-help group”, if you think it “won’t happen to you” – well homie you’re actually that much more likely to become their next target and victim!!!!
And that’s why today’s guest is none other than the ultimate cult expert and deprogrammer, Rick Alan Ross. This guy is an aboslute LEGEND when it comes to cults!!
We go deep into:
- the type of people who start cults.
- how cults like NXIVM and Scientology bring people in.
- what specifically makes a person more vulnerable to saying yes and “drinking the Kool-aid”.
- strategies used by notorious cult leaders to gain control and brainwash people (and you’ll be surprised by what they have in common with your toxic ex!!!).
- HOW you can actually avoid getting into a cult or toxic relationship in the first place.
- & so much more!!!
And that’s just in PART 1 of this 2 part episode!
This episode is truly FILLED with the knowledge you NEED if you want to have any hope of spotting the cult leaders, con men, and toxic boyfriends BEFORE they can rope you, or anyone you love, into their manipulative world and cut you off from the life YOU want to live!!!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🚩 [0:00] Warning signs of a cult or abusive relationship
🧠 [8:55] The process of cult indoctrination
😖 [35:39] Notorious cults, their crimes & the victims
❌ [1:02:46] How toxic abusers gain control
🔥 HOT RICK ALAN ROSS QUOTES:
"You have to ask yourself, can I disagree with this person? Can I disagree with the leader of this group? Is there a place for constructive criticism? Am I becoming socially isolated by being in this group? Am I cutting off people that are my family, my friends, particularly if they've raised questions about this leader of the group I'm involved with or this partner that I'm now going out with and making an integral part of my life?"
"[Cult leader Keith] Raniere, by working on these people year after year, seminar after seminar, over a period of time, he would, as you say, wear them. He would wear them down and they would change and they would bend and change their thinking, their perception of reality based on what he indoctrinated them to believe."
“These were very sophisticated, very well educated people, and yet they succumb to these persuasion techniques."
"The group makes you feel so broken continuously, but you feel you can't leave because you're broken and you need to be fixed, and it's always your fault. You're made to feel shame and guilt."
"In groups that are totalistic and authoritarian, people are led to believe that the group has one solution and that this solution is perfect and that it is right for all people at all times."
"This is that ‘us versus them’ mentality that we see in cults, where there's a sharp line drawn between us, the people that have the truth and the way and everyone else."
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If you’re always the one: jumping in to fix things, taking care of everything, and helping everyone with their problems – then my homie, listen up, coz this episode of Women of Impact is for YOU!!
Today we're diving into the world of high-functioning co-dependency with none other than my girl, Terry Cole.
Terry Cole is a licensed therapist and bestselling author who empowers women to break the cycle of living without boundaries so they can have better boundaries, more effective communication, healthier relationships, and less B.S. in their lives!!!
And she is breaking down:
- how to actually start building strong personal boundaries
- how to spot self-destructive behaviors
- recognizing the patterns of high functioning codependency
- why getting your validation fix from others is super frikin damaging
- understanding the blueprint for prioritizing yourself
- the ways you might actually be attracting a narcissistic partner
This episode gives you a blueprint for how you thrive – not just survive – within a relationship, including the one that you have with yourself!! And it will help you to take your power back and create a life that is genuinely fulfilling, where you're not actually sacrificing your sake for everybody else.
This is the thing that could actually be holding you back from going after that job, that relationship, or anything else in your life – and you don’t even realize it!!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
😓 [00:00] Why we tolerate bad behavior
😖 [9:24] High functioning codependency’s effects on physical & mental health
⚖️ [15:08] Balancing codependence with acceptance of help
🗣️ [41:24] Communicating early and lovingly
❌ [58:28] Codependency limits success
❤️🩹 [1:07:01] Combating shame and recovering
📝 [1:24:58] Scripts to help set boundaries during emotional moments
🔥 TERRI COLE’S HOT QUOTES:
"We see the other person's difficult behavior as something for us to fix, as something for us to twist ourselves up in a pretzel and light ourselves on fire to give them what they need."
"And I feel like this can be the same in these types of abusive relationships where we remember back to how beautiful it was when they took us to Paris for four days or, you know, how great the sex was."
"Like, how am I codependent and hyper independent? You are, though. You're codependent because you are looking to fulfill and control the other person and do for them and make sure they have. But your hyper independence means that you're blocking it from coming your way."
"Early and often we want to be asserting our preferences, our desires, our limits and our deal breakers, which are our boundaries."
“A lot of us, as HFCs, have taught people that we have the answers for them and that they should come to us for the answers. So that's something that you want to shift, because the cost of doing that is the depth of intimacy in your relationship."
"The more you know about yourself, the healthier you can be, the healthier choices you can make."
"Nobody takes advantage of you without your permission."
"Much more joy, more harmonious relationships, more equitable relationships, right? Where if you feel like you have to control every aspect of your relationship, it's exhausting. Who's taking care of you? Who's treating you like a delicate flower when you need to be treated that way, even if it's only once in a while, right? There's got to be mutuality."
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Have you ever been hit so hard by rejection that it felt like your entire world was falling apart?
Whether it’s getting passed over for that dream job, being ghosted after a date you thought went great, or dealing with a partner who betrayed you – rejection can be absolutely soul-crushing.
But what if I told you that rejection could actually be your secret weapon?
In this episode of Women of Impact, preacher, business executive, and author Nona Jones is sharing how she mastered the art of turning rejection into the best thing that ever happened to her.
Nona faced constant rejection from her mother, endured sexual abuse, and even struggled with suicidal thoughts as a child. And yet she overcame it all to build herself the amazing life that she has now, and she’s sharing it all in this interview!!
We also cover:
- How to flip the script on rejection and see it as a gift
- Nona’s 4-step O.P.E.N. method to help you unlock the potential hidden in every rejection
- The sneaky ways rejection can lower your expectations and how to break free from that trap
- Why reclaiming your power after rejection can change your life in every possible way
If you've ever felt the pain of rejection to the point where you start to believe that you're not good enough, whether that's from a relationship or a job or your family, then my homie, you need to frikin’ listen to this episode because we need to stop giving our power away to other people that reject us and we actually need to start finding the purpose hidden behind it so that we can start to own our power again.
CHAPTER MARKERS:
❌ [00:00] Why rejection hurts
🏃♀️ [13:47] Stop chasing & accept their absence
🎁 [27:08] Rejection is a gift
💪 [43:30] Replace wish with will for positive change
😖 [51:35] How extreme rejection can lead to acceptance
🚶♀️ [1:09:59] The next steps after a rejection
🔄 [1:29:25] Redirection & repositioning for purpose
🔥 NONA JONES’ HOT QUOTES:
"What is it that we believe about ourselves that made us think that someone not choosing us somehow made us not worthy?"
"You have to be very careful not to internalize another person's rejection as your fault."
"I thought that his rejection was the worst thing that could have ever happened to me, but it ended up being the thing that protected me from what could have been a horrific experience."
"So I would chase and chase and chase until I realized, you know what? I think the role that she was supposed to play in my life has ended."
"But then I recognized, too, oh, well, we really can't be in a relationship because I can't give you what you need from me. And that is, you need me to diminish myself so that you will feel better about yourself."
"I've gotten to a place where I realize that if a person will take your offender's side without even asking about your experience, they don't love you anyway."
"Something in me clicked, because I think it was just so many years of pain and hurt and abuse, and I had this anger inside of me that I didn't even know was there."
"Her rejection became redirection. It became a closed door that forced me to take a detour I had not planned on taking, which is why I say rejection is a gift, because it will position you for purpose and you don't even realize it."
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Coz those symptoms (and sooooo many more) can actually all be linked to 3 foods that you’re eating every single day that you should actually totally avoid. And when you do, it’s going to completely change the way you look at your health and the power YOU have, my homie, to improve it!!
Here to drop this truly life-changing knowledge is medical doctor, NYT best-selling author, and co-founder of a health technology company, Dr. Casey Means. And she is a woman on a frikin’ MISSION to educate people about the root cause of why so many of us are sick – and that’s because we fail to take care of our metabolic health.
A whopping 93% of Americans are struggling with their metabolic health right now (and honestly homie, you’re probably one of them)! That’s insane!!!!
This interview will help you connect the dots about what you put into your body and how it makes you feel, especially after we dig deep into:
- The 3 foods that you should AVOID
- What to eat instead to give your body GOOD energy
- Tactical tools you can use to start putting better nutrition into your body TODAY!!
When you finish listening to this episode, you’ll know exactly what you have to do to start feeling better – literally from the inside out!!
You’ll have more energy, lose weight, increase your libido and fertility, clear your skin, and seriously homie, feel soooo much better!!! There are seriously SO many symptoms that are actually related to your metabolic health and that YOU have the power to improve, simply by paying attention to WHAT you put into your body.
And it’s NEVER TOO LATE to improve your nutrition, improve your health, and as a result improve your LIFE!!!! You can drastically better your life & increase your longevity, but ONLY if you take ownership of it, and this episode is here to help you.
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🤷♀️ [0:00] Confusion about nutrition & diet
🩺 [18:32] The MASSIVE importance of metabolic health
🍕 [30:49] Fresh food vs. calories
💪 [54:11] Optimizing your metabolic health
🧘♀️ [1:22:48] Mindful eating
✅ [1:47:58] Understanding the root causes of symptoms
DR. CASEY’S MIND-BLOWING QUOTES:
"The vast majority of Americans in surveys are very confused about nutrition... Humans have experts, humans have pubmed, humans have the NIH, and yet humans are the only animal species with a chronic disease and obesity epidemic that should make you scratch your head."
"If we really want to give ourselves the best chance to get full and give our body the nutrients it needs to have optimal cell biology, the best possible situation would be unprocessed fresh and local [food] from the farmer's market."
"Overwhelming the body with omega six blocks our ability to convert plant based omega threes to the biologically active ones, EPN, DHAE."
"A big reason why I avoid these oils is because they are destroying our farmland in the United States with essentially industrial agriculture, pesticide covered farmland."
"There is science telling us that getting our metabolic health under great control and optimized is one of the best things we can do to help balance our sex hormones and set us up for fertility."
"One of the reasons I eat omega three s in large quantities and really focus on that in my diet is because I want to have the substrates in my body to be able to manufacture chemical mediators that tell my immune cells to chill out after they've done their work."
"We lose the conversation with our body, the conversation which is our cells, using the only language they know how, which is symptoms, to get our attention."
"I think my mom, she was sort of a very, like, archetypal American patient where she was totally loyal and faithful to the healthcare system, but ultimately, she was totally let down by it."
"We are a dynamic body that is constantly changing and we are constantly rebuilding the next version of ourselves."
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In this EYE-OPENING episode of Women of Impact, you’ll learn how to spot bad guys, avoid becoming a victim, and ask the right questions to detect potential threats!
Trust me guys, this is stuff we all SHOULD know as women, but we’re often learning it TOO LATE.
And unfortunately, the reality is that we live in a world where there ARE rapists, murders, and psychopaths, and us women need to be able to protect ourselves from becoming another one of their victims!!
Which is why I HAD to bring on the amazing woman who has spent decades studying how to think like a killer.
It’s Dr. Ann Burgess and she is an absolute EXPERT in the criminal mind and how to avoid becoming the victim of a dangerous person.
She has worked extensively with offenders AND victims, and she understands EXACTLY how these dangerous criminals will target you, what they will do to keep you quiet, and what YOU need to do to take back control and beat them at their own game.
We also cover:
- Recognizing and avoiding dangerous situations
- Characteristics of potential targets
- Awareness of being targeted
- Understanding offenders’ history and behaviors
- Famous cases including BTK, Ted Bundy, Bill Cosby, Charles Manson, the Menendez Brothers, the Taco Bell Killer, and Andrea Yates
- Techniques for managing manipulation
By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to spot the signs of a bad guy, what you can do so you won’t become their next victim, and the specific questions you should be asking someone so you can get them to trust you and you can find out if they are likely to be dangerous.
Like it or not guys, there are dangerous people out there, and YOU might be their next target and not even know it!! So we all have to get a little suspicious and more alert in order to protect ourselves, and this episode will help you do just that!
Don’t let another dangerous person slip into your life, or the lives of anyone you love, and SHARE this so we can all look out and protect one another!!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
🙅♀️ [00:00] Trust your gut
❌ [8:35] Understanding deviant behavior
🚩 [19:38] Early warning signs in children
👀 [25:05] Is someone watching you?
🤝 [31:55] Building rapport & earning trust
😖 [44:32] The rise of incels & hostility towards women
👺 [01:02:27] Hidden darkness behind charming facades
DR. ANN’S AMAZING INSIGHTS:
"I always like to see how much will they tell you about growing up as a kid and who's in their family? Because a lot of times you can tell something about sibling warder is good. Are they oldest, are they youngest? Are they in the middle?"
"The narcissism is something to watch out for. Now, when you have the deviant behavior... it is important to really appreciate how awful someone can be to another human being and what they can do."
"Do you have a ritual way of behaving?...In other words, every day you get up, you do this, you do that, you get in your car, you drive to work, whatever. See if you can alternate that or be aware, if nothing else, be aware if somebody is watching you, because they will be there."
"Nobody's going to talk to you if they don't feel that…they can trust you in some way."
"So maybe we are asking the wrong questions."
"And these, what we call incels, you're probably familiar with those. And I think there's a continuum of them. But he was absolutely, that's what he was."
"People liked him. You would never know that he had this other side of him…"
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Have you ever seen someone in an unhealthy relationship, like maybe your cousin, a co-worker, your bestie, or let’s be honest, maybe even yourself, and think:
“How did they let it get this far?”
Whether it's happening to you personally, to someone that you know and care about deeply, or like me you’ll actually had both situations, the reality is that these toxic people are SO absolutely frikin’ amazing at what they do that the warning signs and red flags actually sometimes go unnoticed for far too long….
Until now.
Because what if I told you that you could spot the wolf in sheep's clothing before they actually sink their teeth into you and fool everyone, including you, with their lies?
There are super subtle ways that the toxic, predatory wolf is preying on you AND playing you. So you NEED to know these 7 common manipulation tactics if you want to have ANY hope of avoiding being their next victim.
And with the help of the world’s leading narcissist expert Dr. Ramani, you’ll be able to spot the early warning signs of a toxic person and STOP the con before it starts. Seriously guys, this is a frikin’ masterclass on how to handle manipulative and toxic people with tactics all laid out for you.
So you’ll never end up feeling like the fool who “let it get this far” again!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
💔 [00:00] They will make you feel like everything is your fault
😞 [36:35] They will make you feel small
🥖 [1:01:24] They will breadcrumb you
❌ [1:12:31] They will betray you
😖 [1:38:18] They will control you
❤️🩹 [1:52:46] They will use your vulnerabilities against you
🔄 [2:11:54] They will Hoover you
DR. RAMANI’S TRUTH BOMBS:
"Shame is sort of the mothership in narcissistic relationships, because both the narcissistic person is feeling shame and the person in the relationship is feeling shame for very different reasons. For them, the shame is that they will be found out to not be perfect, to not be the most powerful. It's as though someone's going to come and take off their superman cape, and there's just going to be a regular person that's the source of their shame. Because they feel so much shame and it's unprocessed, they project it onto everybody else."
"Every time we fall in love, every time we enter into a relationship, we are entering into a risky enterprise price. So the balancing act is I'm just never going to trust, but I'm going to have a relationship, but I'm never going to trust."
"They're getting that additional benefit in a way that we start getting into the whole emotional cheating. Like they're daydreaming, they're not thinking about their partner, they're not thinking about the stuff they're going to do to their family. They're sort of getting caught up in this ridiculous fantasy."
"One of the most painful legacies of a narcissistic parent is that they will use those vulnerabilities against a child. One thing I've classically heard with narcissistic parents and their children is they go after appearance. They go after weight, they go after how someone looks because it is a superficial personality style, right? And they often want their child to be a reflection of how they want to be in the world."
"How many times is somebody going to walk around in the world and feel completely unmirrored in what is to be a loving relationship? And especially if they aren't able to build up those other spaces in their lives. Some people figure out the workarounds and they recognize, like, okay, this is not what I would have loved for myself or wanted for myself, but I will try to make the most out of what I can."
"The person who wants to step away from the relationship feels shamed, foolish, like they're making a mistake, because that person who's leaving the relationship is already struggling with that. So if the enablers are stepping in and they're saying, like, oh, you sure you know what you're doing? Then there's already so much doubt in the mind of the person leaving."
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