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I want to talk about something serious—and honestly, something most men don’t want to hear: you shouldn’t have kids until you fix your life first. Having children doesn’t magically turn you into a better man. It exposes who you already are. Everything changes. First, if you’re not financially stable. Kids don’t motivate you—they suffocate you. Everything changes: where you live, what you drive, how you eat, how you breathe. If you want to be a great father, husband, and man, be financially prepared to carry that responsibility without resentment. If you’re in a toxic or unstable relationship, having kids doesn’t fix it—it magnifies it. It makes leaving harder, messier, and more damaging, especially for the child brought into the chaos. Creating a human being to patch a broken relationship is unfair and irresponsible.
A lot of men don’t choose kids—they get pressured into them. Parents want grandkids. Friends are having babies. Partners have timelines. Fear of disappointing others is a terrible reason to bring a child into the world. My wife and I felt that pressure too. We chose honesty over expectations, and we’re comfortable and confident in that decision. Kids shouldn’t be your purpose either. If you don’t know who you are or what you’re here to do, having children won’t fix that hole—it will deepen it. That’s where resentment and midlife crises come from: men who lived lives based on expectations instead of truth. You also have to be emotionally disciplined. Kids don’t get the version of you that you wish you were—they get who you actually are at the end of the day. Unresolved anger, instability, escapism, and trauma don’t disappear when you become a father. They transfer, and I know that firsthand. And finally, you have to be ready to give up your freedom. That’s not selfish—it’s honest. I chose not to have kids because I wasn’t ready to sacrifice my autonomy, dreams, and time. That doesn’t make me a bad person; it makes me an honest one.
Here’s the brutal truth nobody talks about: most men love their kids—but many wouldn’t do it the same way again. Not because they regret their children, but because they regret the man they were when they had them. Kids need strong, present, grounded male role models. If you want kids, good -- earn them, get your money right, get your mind right, heal your stuff, be excited, be prepared, and be all-in. Don’t let anyone pressure you. But when you’re ready—step up, lead, love hard, teach well, and show up like the man your child deserves.
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Hair Product & Grooming Advice: peteandpedro.com/pages/advice
Best Skin Care In The UNIVERSE! tiege.com/alpham
All promotion and advertising inquiries: Terry@MENfluential.com
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Salon Posta: salonposta.com
I want to talk about something serious—and honestly, something most men don’t want to hear: you shouldn’t have kids until you fix your life first. Having children doesn’t magically turn you into a better man. It exposes who you already are. Everything changes. First, if you’re not financially stable. Kids don’t motivate you—they suffocate you. Everything changes: where you live, what you drive, how you eat, how you breathe. If you want to be a great father, husband, and man, be financially prepared to carry that responsibility without resentment. If you’re in a toxic or unstable relationship, having kids doesn’t fix it—it magnifies it. It makes leaving harder, messier, and more damaging, especially for the child brought into the chaos. Creating a human being to patch a broken relationship is unfair and irresponsible.
A lot of men don’t choose kids—they get pressured into them. Parents want grandkids. Friends are having babies. Partners have timelines. Fear of disappointing others is a terrible reason to bring a child into the world. My wife and I felt that pressure too. We chose honesty over expectations, and we’re comfortable and confident in that decision. Kids shouldn’t be your purpose either. If you don’t know who you are or what you’re here to do, having children won’t fix that hole—it will deepen it. That’s where resentment and midlife crises come from: men who lived lives based on expectations instead of truth. You also have to be emotionally disciplined. Kids don’t get the version of you that you wish you were—they get who you actually are at the end of the day. Unresolved anger, instability, escapism, and trauma don’t disappear when you become a father. They transfer, and I know that firsthand. And finally, you have to be ready to give up your freedom. That’s not selfish—it’s honest. I chose not to have kids because I wasn’t ready to sacrifice my autonomy, dreams, and time. That doesn’t make me a bad person; it makes me an honest one.
Here’s the brutal truth nobody talks about: most men love their kids—but many wouldn’t do it the same way again. Not because they regret their children, but because they regret the man they were when they had them. Kids need strong, present, grounded male role models. If you want kids, good -- earn them, get your money right, get your mind right, heal your stuff, be excited, be prepared, and be all-in. Don’t let anyone pressure you. But when you’re ready—step up, lead, love hard, teach well, and show up like the man your child deserves.
