Uploaded May 2020 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
#FamiliesUnderPressure has been created by the NHS and King's College London to help families struggling during #COVID19. The tips are based on decades of research and rooted in the experience of NHS teams.
In this video we share tips on how to use sanctions carefully.
How do you use sanctions in your household? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Credits:
These tips have been formulated by Professor Andrea Danese and colleagues at the Maudsley CAMHS Trauma, Anxiety and Depression clinic. They are drawn from Cognitive Behavioural-Therapy (CBT) principles used to help young people who experience anxiety or depression.
Narrated by Shappi Khorsandi
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Use sanctions as a last resort to encourage children to follow rules. Proper use of rewards can encourage children to follow agreed house rules.
Sometimes rewards isn’t enough and parents may decide to turn to sanctions
Sanctions means taking away something that the child likes when they break one of the agreed rules.
Sanctions should be used as a last resort to discourage persistent rule breaking when rewards haven’t worked.
Make sure everyone in the family knows what is going to happen. It’s vital that all adults in the family support the plan and don’t undermine it by changing their mind.
Perhaps have a meeting to highlight this and to get everyone’s buy-in.
Choose sanctions that are practical, reasonable and relevant – something the child will miss, and that you can deliver it without inconveniencing the whole family.
Stay in control and have a sense of authority in your voice. Don’t get emotional.
Remind your child what rule they have broken and what the agreed sanction is and that you are putting into practice what has been agreed.
Time out – removing your child from normal interaction in the family by getting them to sit on a chair or the step for a short period of time can be helpful. The amount of time you need will vary depending on the child’s age and temperament.
Be consistent – always follow through on what you say you will do.
Don’t overuse sanctions – they will lose their effectiveness and they may be perceived as heavy handed by the child.
Watch more tips on the Mumsnet YouTube channel or visit the Families Under Pressure website here ibit.ly/3vaS
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#FamiliesUnderPressure has been created by the NHS and King's College London to help families struggling during #COVID19. The tips are based on decades of research and rooted in the experience of NHS teams.
In this video we share tips on how to use sanctions carefully.
How do you use sanctions in your household? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Credits:
These tips have been formulated by Professor Andrea Danese and colleagues at the Maudsley CAMHS Trauma, Anxiety and Depression clinic. They are drawn from Cognitive Behavioural-Therapy (CBT) principles used to help young people who experience anxiety or depression.
Narrated by Shappi Khorsandi
More about this video
Use sanctions as a last resort to encourage children to follow rules. Proper use of rewards can encourage children to follow agreed house rules.
Sometimes rewards isn’t enough and parents may decide to turn to sanctions
Sanctions means taking away something that the child likes when they break one of the agreed rules.
Sanctions should be used as a last resort to discourage persistent rule breaking when rewards haven’t worked.
Make sure everyone in the family knows what is going to happen. It’s vital that all adults in the family support the plan and don’t undermine it by changing their mind.
Perhaps have a meeting to highlight this and to get everyone’s buy-in.
Choose sanctions that are practical, reasonable and relevant – something the child will miss, and that you can deliver it without inconveniencing the whole family.
Stay in control and have a sense of authority in your voice. Don’t get emotional.
Remind your child what rule they have broken and what the agreed sanction is and that you are putting into practice what has been agreed.
Time out – removing your child from normal interaction in the family by getting them to sit on a chair or the step for a short period of time can be helpful. The amount of time you need will vary depending on the child’s age and temperament.
Be consistent – always follow through on what you say you will do.
Don’t overuse sanctions – they will lose their effectiveness and they may be perceived as heavy handed by the child.
Watch more tips on the Mumsnet YouTube channel or visit the Families Under Pressure website here ibit.ly/3vaS
Like this? Subscribe to the YouTube channel for more Mumsnet content.
http://tiny.mn/1k47ooT
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