Unitarian Christian Alliance | 57. Emotional Abuse - Cara Shope @UnitarianChristianAlliance | Uploaded July 2022 | Updated October 2024, 4 hours ago.
Recognizing and dealing with a subtle form of abuse vs. the sincere desire to honor marriage.


RESOURCES


• Scriptural Study Groups of Central Ohio (https://ssg.church/)

• Nouthetic counseling (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nouthetic_counseling)

• BibleProject Podcast (bibleproject.com/podcasts/the-bible-project-podcast/)

• Restitutio (restitutio.org/get-podcast/)

• One God Report (https://anchor.fm/onegodreport-podcast)

• 2022 UCA Conference Registration (unitarianchristianalliance.org/conference/)


LINKS FOR ADDITIONAL READING


• 5 Myths the Church Often Believes About Domestic Violence (research.lifeway.com/2018/10/25/5-myths-the-church-often-believes-about-domestic-violence/)

• Message to a Baptist Church: You Preached Death to the Hearts of One Hundred Women Today (flyingfreenow.com/message-baptist-church-preached-death-women/)

• 1-in-4 Highly Religious U.S. Marriages Have Abuse (lifesavingdivorce.com/1in4/)

• Four Things the Church Doesn’t know About Abusive Marriages (esther-company.com/four-things-the-church-doesnt-know-about-abusive-marriages/)

• NCADV National Abuse Statistics (ncadv.org/learn/statistics)

• Confronting Domestic Violence with Love and Authority (crosswalk.com/family/marriage/divorce-and-remarriage/confronting-domestic-violence-with-love-and-authority.html)


EPISODE INDEX


• (05:44) The interview, introductions

• (09:08) The problem

• (12:31) Religions amplification

• (13:39) A Part-time job

• (16:01) Isolating

• (17:08) Men abused, too

• (17:44) Counseling

• (19:51) Who am I trying to please?

• (20:50) The move out

• (21:34) Unitarian beliefs

• (22:07) Theology text landmines

• (22:52) Fired before starting

• (23:48) Understanding emotional abuse

• (25:34) Gaslighting

• (26:46) Projection

• (28:53) Word salad

• (30:14) Hoovering

• (31:16) One in three

• (32:25) Blame shifting

• (32:50) Playing the victim

• (33:27) Control + isolation

• (35:00) What do we do?

• (36:09) Gray and yellow rock

• (39:22) Convincing them?

• (41:00) Staying married

• (41:53) Counseling

• (43:12) God's heart

• (45:51) Teaching caveat

• (47:27) Current helping efforts

• (49:47) Cara and the next UCA conference

• (51:27) UCA announcement

• (52:22) New event in Indiana

• (53:10) Tim from Virginia

• (55:05) Boat and crew example


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