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Robert and Mary Goulding noticed a pattern of 12 typical prohibitions that people hear from their parents:

Don't be/don't exist

Don't be who you are

Don't be a child

Don't grow up

Don't make it

Don't do anything

Don't feel

Don't think

Don't belong

Don't be close (intimate)

Don't be important

Don't be well/sane

LITERATURE

Goulding, R. & Goulding, M. (1976) Injunctions, Decisions and Redecisions Transactional Analysis Journal 6:1 January 41-48

Goulding, Robert L. & Mary M. (1979) Changing Lives through Redecision Therapy. New York: Grove Press Inc.

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