Lisa Bilyeu | #1 Therapist: How To Control Your Emotions & Stand Up For Yourself When Triggered | Anita Phillips @LisaBilyeu | Uploaded March 2024 | Updated October 2024, 1 hour ago.
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It’s Lisa Bilyeu here with a truly BEAUTIFUL episode of Women of Impact for you that will actually change the way you perceive & judge your emotions and how you “deal” with them.
Today I’m joined by the unbelievable Dr. Anita Phillips, a trauma therapist and mental health expert that is SO DAMN GOOD at empowering women like you to actually find safety in your body and your emotions again.
Dr. Anita gets SOOO real and honest with her incredible insights into WHY we deny our emotions so much and how this has a knock on effect to our confidence.
The reality is, your emotions are not your enemy – they are actually bodily experiences that INFORM your thinking (not the other way around)!!
We also dive into:
- How to turn your pain into power (especially after a heartbreak, or when you feel lost or been betrayed!)
- How your emotions are like hunger pains & what happens when you ignore them
- Why we negotiate pain & how that, PLUS the fear of the future, holds us back
- The POWER that comes from sitting with your “WHAT IFs” instead of ignoring them
- Why you MUST experience the pain or it will never leave you (and will actually multiply!)
- How confidence is faithfulness to yourself
- Why we need love, hope and faith or we will experience a lot of sadness, anger and fear
- Why you should NEVER judge yourself when you have emotional needs & what to do instead
- How you must feel your feelings if you want to let them go
- How to stop the seeds of bad thoughts from growing and spreading in your mind
- The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity
- Why satisfaction is not a destination
- How to respond to your shame so you can actually start to love yourself BETTER
Dr. Anita has SOOO many amazing experiences and insights to share, so you can stop living in your fears and start to be more powerful and confident in your life.
And be sure to get a copy of her book, “The Garden Within” here: anitaphillips.com/book
Chapter Markers:
📦 [0:00] How to Move Out of Toxic Relationships
🤝 [26:13] Fidelity to Yourself
🤬 [34:08] Anger & Self-Care
👯♀️ [40:57] Emotional Intimacy & Friendships
👀 [1:03:57] Recognize Toxic Influences in Real Life
🛟 [1:25:16] Rescue Your Inner Child
❤️ [1:40:46] From Self-Criticism to Radical Self-Acceptance
👉 [1:44:19] Bonus: How To Keep Cool When Being Disrespected
****Bonus Episode: Calm Down & Keep Cool with a PEP TALK****
If you’re being mistreated and need to calm down your emotions, keep cool when being disrespected, and shut down rude people, keep watching for this BONUS PEP TALK from ME, Lisa Bilyeu! You’ll learn how to stop letting guilt keep you from standing up for yourself and stop worrying about letting other people down or offending people so you can be there for YOURSELF!!
DR. ANITA’S BRILLIANT QUOTES:
“Your emotion will not last forever, but it will wait forever. ”
“Pain denied is pain multiplied.”
“We will treat the child in front of us how we treat the child inside of us.”
“You cannot hate yourself better, you can only love yourself better.”
“Shame is not fuel for change.”
“Satisfaction is a lifestyle not a destination.”
"If you're saying, these are my core values, these are my boundaries that I'd like to live with my life, and they're challenging you instead of supporting you to do what you need to do in a healthy way, you may need to walk away from that."
Follow Dr. Anita:
Website: anitaphillips.com
Instagram: instagram.com/dranitaphillips
YouTube: youtube.com/@DrAnitaPhillips
Order “The Garden Within”: anitaphillips.com/book
Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: radicalconfidence.com
Instagram: instagram.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: facebook.com/lisabilyeu
X: twitter.com/lisabilyeu
If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: dexa.ai/lisabilyeu
Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement
Thank you to today’s sponsors:
Joi Wellness: 10% off with code IMPACT Link: bit.ly/woijoi
Viome: $110 off your first test Link: bit.ly/ViomeWOI
It’s Lisa Bilyeu here with a truly BEAUTIFUL episode of Women of Impact for you that will actually change the way you perceive & judge your emotions and how you “deal” with them.
Today I’m joined by the unbelievable Dr. Anita Phillips, a trauma therapist and mental health expert that is SO DAMN GOOD at empowering women like you to actually find safety in your body and your emotions again.
Dr. Anita gets SOOO real and honest with her incredible insights into WHY we deny our emotions so much and how this has a knock on effect to our confidence.
The reality is, your emotions are not your enemy – they are actually bodily experiences that INFORM your thinking (not the other way around)!!
We also dive into:
- How to turn your pain into power (especially after a heartbreak, or when you feel lost or been betrayed!)
- How your emotions are like hunger pains & what happens when you ignore them
- Why we negotiate pain & how that, PLUS the fear of the future, holds us back
- The POWER that comes from sitting with your “WHAT IFs” instead of ignoring them
- Why you MUST experience the pain or it will never leave you (and will actually multiply!)
- How confidence is faithfulness to yourself
- Why we need love, hope and faith or we will experience a lot of sadness, anger and fear
- Why you should NEVER judge yourself when you have emotional needs & what to do instead
- How you must feel your feelings if you want to let them go
- How to stop the seeds of bad thoughts from growing and spreading in your mind
- The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity
- Why satisfaction is not a destination
- How to respond to your shame so you can actually start to love yourself BETTER
Dr. Anita has SOOO many amazing experiences and insights to share, so you can stop living in your fears and start to be more powerful and confident in your life.
And be sure to get a copy of her book, “The Garden Within” here: anitaphillips.com/book
Chapter Markers:
📦 [0:00] How to Move Out of Toxic Relationships
🤝 [26:13] Fidelity to Yourself
🤬 [34:08] Anger & Self-Care
👯♀️ [40:57] Emotional Intimacy & Friendships
👀 [1:03:57] Recognize Toxic Influences in Real Life
🛟 [1:25:16] Rescue Your Inner Child
❤️ [1:40:46] From Self-Criticism to Radical Self-Acceptance
👉 [1:44:19] Bonus: How To Keep Cool When Being Disrespected
****Bonus Episode: Calm Down & Keep Cool with a PEP TALK****
If you’re being mistreated and need to calm down your emotions, keep cool when being disrespected, and shut down rude people, keep watching for this BONUS PEP TALK from ME, Lisa Bilyeu! You’ll learn how to stop letting guilt keep you from standing up for yourself and stop worrying about letting other people down or offending people so you can be there for YOURSELF!!
DR. ANITA’S BRILLIANT QUOTES:
“Your emotion will not last forever, but it will wait forever. ”
“Pain denied is pain multiplied.”
“We will treat the child in front of us how we treat the child inside of us.”
“You cannot hate yourself better, you can only love yourself better.”
“Shame is not fuel for change.”
“Satisfaction is a lifestyle not a destination.”
"If you're saying, these are my core values, these are my boundaries that I'd like to live with my life, and they're challenging you instead of supporting you to do what you need to do in a healthy way, you may need to walk away from that."
Follow Dr. Anita:
Website: anitaphillips.com
Instagram: instagram.com/dranitaphillips
YouTube: youtube.com/@DrAnitaPhillips
Order “The Garden Within”: anitaphillips.com/book
Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: radicalconfidence.com
Instagram: instagram.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: facebook.com/lisabilyeu
X: twitter.com/lisabilyeu
If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: dexa.ai/lisabilyeu
Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement
