Uploaded July 2022 | Updated September 2026, 2 hours ago

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Abby went from being terrible at relationships to being great at them. She’s a psychologist who believes a leopard can change their spots and as a recovering heroin addict, she knows what she’s talking about.


We cover:


- We’re as happy as our relationship.


- To be good at relationships takes skills you're not born with but you can learn those skills. 


- We’re mostly competing for attention and time - turning relationship into work:


“You have to pull your weight.”


“You have to take this off my plate.”


“You have to do your fair share.”


- Being correct or effective: Which would you choose to have a more peaceful relationship?


- Competing over Sex, Chores and Money, and what questions to ask your partner to help resolve it & how to reframe you perspective.


- Abby’s method of: don’t S.A.C. your relationship, instead ask questions.


Mentioned in this episode: The work of Timothy Wilson 


Find Abby abbymedcalf.com/   


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