Macken Murphy
Three data-based reasons men lose on dating apps. NOTE: This isn’t to say women “win,” they just lose differently. #dating #science #psychology #beauty
updated 9 months ago
Marta Kowal (PhD) is a post-doctoral researcher at the IDN Being Human Lab, Institute of Psychology, University of Wrocław, Poland. Marta's academic background is in evolutionary psychology, and her research primarily focuses on mate attraction, physical attractiveness-enhancing behaviors, and romantic love, particularly from a cross-cultural perspective. During her PhD program, under the guidance of her supervisor, Professor Piotr Sorokowski, Marta secured a grant from the Polish National Science Centre to explore beauty-enhancing behaviors across different cultures. Marta takes one of the leadership positions in an extensive international consortium of over 400 scientists from more than 100 countries passionately committed to facilitating large-scale cross-cultural research projects.
Marta's website: martakowal.com
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Timestamps
0:00 Intro
5:08 231 minutes daily on beauty?
10:38 The Benefits of Beauty
12:23 Beauty: Not (Just) a Social Construct
19:35 Collecting Big Data
23:34 Gender & Beautification
48:51 Age & Beautification
54:28 Social Media & Beautification
1:08:25 The Beautiful Beautify More
1:12:57 Wealth, Education, Politics & Beauty
1:24:32 Intrasexual Competition All The Way Down
1:28:44 The Pathogen Prevalence Hypothesis
1:36:57 Cultural and Individual Differences in Strategies
1:47:14 Conclusion
1:50:10 Outro
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If you want to listen to my audio course on human evolution, you can find it here: mackenmurphy.gumroad.com/l/humanevolution?layout=profile
If you want to donate to support Species, you can do so, here: donorbox.org/keep-species-free
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Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
12:38 Theme
13:42 The Costs of Monogamy
20:01 The Many Strategic Functions of Infidelity
27:16 The Primary Reason Men Cheat
29:21 Intro to The Dual Mating Strategy
32:02 Ovulatory Shifts in Mate Preferences
34:26 Intro to the Mate Switching Hypothesis
36:13 Initial Impressions
42:15 Testing Mate-Switching vs. Dual-Mating
46:35 Addressing Critiques
48:16 The Usual Caveats
50:26 The Manosphere Reaction
51:31 Rollo’s Conspiracy (lol)
55:01 Nature’s Curse, Nature’s Gift
58:15 Outro
Selected references (most key information is in, or referenced in, these texts):
Murphy, M., Phillips, C. A., & Blake, K. R. (2024). Why women cheat: testing evolutionary hypotheses for female infidelity in a multinational sample. Evolution and Human Behavior, 45(5), 106595.
Buss, D. M., Goetz, C., Duntley, J. D., Asao, K., & Conroy-Beam, D. (2017). The mate switching hypothesis. Personality and Individual Differences, 104, 143-149.
Gangestad, S. W., & Thornhill, R. (1998). Menstrual cycle variation in women's preferences for the scent of symmetrical men. Proceedings of the Royal Society of London. Series B: Biological Sciences, 265(1399), 927-933.
Gangestad, S. W., Thornhill, R., & Garver-Apgar, C. E. (2005). Adaptations to ovulation: Implications for sexual and social behavior. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 14(6), 312-316.
Also:
Finkelstein, J. J. (1968). The Laws of Ur-Nammu. Journal of cuneiform studies, 22(3-4), 66-82.
Hicks, T. V., & Leitenberg, H. (2001). Sexual fantasies about one's partner versus someone else: Gender differences in incidence and frequency. Journal of Sex Research, 38(1), 43-50.
Laubu, C., Louâpre, P., & Dechaume-Moncharmont, F. X. (2019). Pair-bonding influences affective state in a monogamous fish species. Proceedings of the Royal Society B, 286(1904), 20190760.
Scelza, B. A. (2011). Female choice and extra-pair paternity in a traditional human population. Biology Letters, 7(6), 889-891.
Scelza, B. A. (2013). Choosy but not chaste: Multiple mating in human females. Evolutionary Anthropology: Issues, News, and Reviews, 22(5), 259-269.
Scelza, B. A. (2014). Jealousy in a small-scale, natural fertility population: The roles of paternity, investment and love in jealous response. Evolution and Human Behavior, 35(2), 103-108.
Stewart-Williams, S. “Nurture Alone Can’t Explain Male Aggression.” Nautilus. April 26, 2019. http://nautil.us/blog/nurture-alone-cant-explain-male-aggression
Yildiz, F. (1981). A tablet of codex Ur-Nammu from Sippar. Orientalia, 50(1), 87-97.
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0:00 Introduction & Qualitative Method
0:53 Top 3 Reasons Women Cheat
2:42 Top 3 Reasons Men Cheat
3:27 The Limits of Self-Report
5:03 (Evolutionary section begins)
5:11 Why Infidelity Evolved
7:29 Why Men Cheat
8:59 Evolved Psychology Isn't Always Conscious
9:43 Why Women Cheat (Dual-Mating vs. Mate-Switching)
12:53 Quantitative Methods & Hypotheses
14:14 Results & Discussion
18:34 Signing off!
#Cheating #Psychology #Science #Dating #Cheater #breakup
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0:00 Beating the allegations
0:52 The Ick: Any relevant science?
2:12 Why did homosexuality evolve?
3:40 Ashley Madison documentary
4:56 Once a cheater, always a cheater?
6:23 “The Myth of Man the Hunter”
9:57 Why are so many beautiful women dating ugly men?
11:15 Who should pay the bill?
13:06 Anything good?
13:27 Saying goodbye :(
I'll probably post the full AMA later today.
0:00 Saying hello :)
0:14 "Why don't I find good guys attractive?"
3:28 "Is Macken a silly little guy irl?"
3:44 "Is aggression innate?"
4:24 "Thoughts on women dating younger men?"
6:04 "Why are feminine men attractive?"
7:50 "Do men care more about faces or my bodyweight?"
8:23 "Why do humans mate in private?"
9:52 Saying goodbye :(
Timestamps:
0:00 Are humans naturally monogamous?
17:27 Introducing today's subject and guest
20:25 Gibbon overview (interview starts)
31:57 Why do humans have twins?
34:02 A day in the life of a gibbon
38:57 Studying gibbons
40:37 Forgotten apes
44:06 Monogamy
1:09:27 Violence
1:11:34 Singing
1:17:49 Intelligence
1:23:28 Conservation