Shinzen VideosDuring a morning session at an April 2011 retreat, Shinzen Young thoroughly explains the SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE - as he outlines his "Focus In' (i.e. "See In/Hear In/Feel In) technique - as well as strategies for how to gain skill that helps you in your daily life. Stephanie Nash just happened to have a camera (which she quickly pulled out when she realized he was 'in the zone') and thus this is handheld with no microphone or lights - but Shinzen's brilliance comes through quite clearly.
Our SUBJECTIVE Experience EXPLAINED (See-Hear-Feel technique) by Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2011-05-19 | During a morning session at an April 2011 retreat, Shinzen Young thoroughly explains the SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE - as he outlines his "Focus In' (i.e. "See In/Hear In/Feel In) technique - as well as strategies for how to gain skill that helps you in your daily life. Stephanie Nash just happened to have a camera (which she quickly pulled out when she realized he was 'in the zone') and thus this is handheld with no microphone or lights - but Shinzen's brilliance comes through quite clearly.
For info of Stephanie's Teachings & Non-Profit: www.MindfulnessArts.org/blogShinzen Stops on a Dime - a fun momentShinzen Videos2023-04-25 | A technical issue created a pause during a dharma talk that Shinzen playfully filled in with Stopping on a Dime.
ACTRESS: stephanienash.comThe Pushback on Mindfulness ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2023-04-24 | ...The Pushback on Mindfulness ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2023-04-23 | This is a short clip from "How to Changing the Course of Human History & Happiness" where Shinzen toured us through his "Happiness Grid." youtu.be/pmR6SepZlwY
ACTRESS: stephanienash.comChanging the Course of Human History & Happiness ~ SHINZEN YOUNGShinzen Videos2023-04-09 | Shinzen "unpacks" his "Happiness Chart" or "Periodic Table of Human Happiness Elements." An insightful how-to journey through very concrete strategies for transforming our happiness in 4 dimensions.
INFO for STEPH: REWIRE YOUR BEING - APP: onelink.to/3ucvtw YOUTUBE: youtube.com/c/StephanieNashMeditation INSIGHT TIMER: insighttimer.com/stephanienash INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/stephanie__nashHow our Sense of Being Separate DisappearsShinzen Videos2022-12-04 | ...Teaching Turn Back (or UMs Self-Inquiry) Practice ~ SHINZEN YOUNGShinzen Videos2022-07-03 | During a virtual retreat in June 2022, Stephanie noted a new way of guiding Shinzen's "See-Hear-Feel Back" or "Turn Back" practice - and asked Shinzen about possible languaging to guide to a more abiding experience.
Shinzen's answer is helpful for all teachers to consider when guiding any technique.
This is a phase of the path to enlightenment as we move towards letting go of "Self." Emptiness.
shinzen.org strategic-mindfulness.comWhen the Passive Night Grabs You ~ Shinzen Young with Stephanie NashShinzen Videos2022-01-28 | ON a retreat in Jan 2022, Stephanie asks Shinzen about moving through the world from the perspective of awareness. Shinzen says his answer is "One Finger Zen' - and he describes the "paradigm shift" that can happen with practice.
Https://www.strategic-mindfulness.comHow to do AUTO-WALK ~ Stephanie NashShinzen Videos2020-08-20 | Steph shares a way in which she taught Shinzen's "Auto-Walk" technique at a retreat where she was co-teaching with Shinzen. Shinzen was delighted at how quickly and easily people seemed to pick it up, and he requested that Steph make a video of how she presented it and post it here on his YouTube channel.
For more INFO on SHINZEN & his teachings: shinzen.orgSHINZENs PANDEMIC STRATEGIESShinzen Videos2020-06-24 | In this June 2020 dharma talk, Shinzen speaks of how, in his lifetime, he has seen the impossible happen - especially in terms of our relationship to meditation.
Then he lists and speaks of ways to "accelerate" this practice. In addition to the "accelerators" of "Trigger Practice", Duration training, "Motion Challenge", and "Auto-Speak", Shinzen also delves into a SHIFT of ATTITUDE regarding situations or "Situation Practice."
He then speaks of how we integrate the practice, and our experiences (including "nothingness") , into our daily lives.
Shinzen ends with some TS Eliot ("The Four Quartets") - weeping as he shares that beautiful poetic description of this path.
FOR MORE INFO about SHINZEN and his teachings: shinzen.org
And STEPH has some FREE MEDITATIONS for the PANDEMIC at: strategic-mindfulness.comHow we Evolve & Integrate (including the Dark Night) ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2019-08-03 | In this dharma talk, Shinzen delves into our we can evolve as human beings and integrate our deeper experiences & skills gained through the meditative practice.
He also goes into a lot of detail defining the "Dark Night of the Soul" and offering strategies for working with it for optimal integration.
For more information about Shinzen and his teachings: shinzen.org
If you have questions about the contents of this video or your practice, please check out the world of Unified Mindfulness, which offers training programs, support, and access to qualified teachers.
For SUPPORT GROUP: unifiedmindfulness.com/snash_supportBeing In Ceremony ~ Stephanie NashShinzen Videos2019-06-27 | Shinzen asked Steph to do a dharma talk at a recent retreat of his where she was co-teaching. This is that talk, recorded on 06/21/19 at a residential retreat in Southern California.
STEPH: strategic-mindfulness.com SHINZEN: shinzen.orgSHAMANISM ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2019-06-27 | Shinzen Young describes his thoughts about and experience with Shamanism and the spiritual path.
Recorded by Stephanie Nash on 1/3/19 during a residential retreat in Southern California.
SHINZEN: shinzen.org STEPH: strategic-mindfulness.comTouching the Heart ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2019-06-26 | This dharma talk about "why are we doing this?" was given by Shinzen on the first night of a residential retreat in Southern California - and recorded by Stephanie Nash.
SHINZEN YOUNG: shinzen.org STEPHANIE NASH: strategic-mindfulness.comSHINZEN’s 75th SURPRISE BIRTHDAY PARTYShinzen Videos2019-06-26 | After this past retreat in Southern California, SHINZEN thought he was coming to a facilitator training meeting, but was surprised to discover students and friends from the last 40 years all gathered to celebrate his 75th birthday.GODs ARROW ~ Shinzen tells his Experience of EnlightenmentShinzen Videos2019-01-14 | During this residential retreat, Shinzen describes his personal experience of "transverberation" or "God's Arrow" going through him and the world. It's an authentic, no-nonsense description of something that is almost impossible to describe.
RECORDED & EDITED by STEPHANIE NASH strategic-mindfulness.com http://mindfulnessarts.org/blogUpgrade to an Awake Operating System ~ Loch Kelly with Stephanie NashShinzen Videos2018-07-25 | Stephanie Nash chatted with Loch Kelly after he did a workshop in LA and they discuss what he teaches, "Open-Hearted Awareness" and how he teaches it. This is the beginning of that interview.
(The entire interview is viewable on this YouTube Channel.)
INFO for STEPH: strategic-mindfulness.com http://mindfulnessarts.org/blogDirect Awakening Exercise ~ LOCH KELLY with Stephanie NashShinzen Videos2018-07-24 | Stephanie Nash chatted with Loch Kelly after he did a workshop in LA and they discuss what he teaches, "Open-Hearted Awareness" and how he teaches it.
This is the 4th segment of that interview. In this segment, Loch shares an EXERCISE that he uses to help people experience this Direct Awakening perspective.
(The entire interview is viewable on this YouTube Channel.)
INFO for STEPH: strategic-mindfulness.com http://mindfulnessarts.org/blogWhat is Love at the Deepest Level? ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2017-07-18 | In this talk, Shinzen begins by answering the question, "What can we do to make this world a better place?" and then delves into what Love is at the deepest level. He speaks of how what the " Jewel in the Lotus" is this kind of love, and how that leads to seeing Emptiness in the world.
Recorded & edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blog http://www.strategic-mindfulness.comMEDITATION BAR (a comic dharma skit) ~ STEPHANIE NASHShinzen Videos2017-07-17 | Steph wrote this in 2013 and has "re-enacted" it here. Steph has written comic skits or poems that sum up what Shinzen taught or talked about at that retreat for 18 years. Usually and she will read it (with performance energy) for the talking circle on the last day.
(Usually at talking circles, people share their retreat experiences or thank the teacher, but in So. Cal - there are often performances - singing, playing instruments, reading something written.)
Steph's goal with these is to make everyone - especially Shinzen - laugh as she takes them through a review of the preceding 10 days. Stay tuned for more of these that will be posted here - from Shinzen's retreats - and from the retreats of other teachers.
OPENING/CLOSING: Bass Walker - Film Noir by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/...) Source: http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-... Artist: http://incompetech.com
INSIDE the "VIPASSANA VORTEX" NIGHT CLUB: Artist: Huma-Huma Track: Sunday Stroll Category Education License Standard YouTube LicenseVermont News - comic skit by Stephanie NashShinzen Videos2017-07-17 | This was written to entertain Shinzen and the retreatants after the June 2017 mindfulness retreat in So. Cal. Two of the dharma talks from that retreat (with some of the stories riffed on here) were just posted to this channel, so we are including it here - as well as on Steph's YouTube channel. Hope it supplies some PLEASANT "FEEL IN."
MUSIC: Finding Science by JR TUNDRA - with gratitudeWELCOME to this SHINZEN VIDEOS youtube channel!Shinzen Videos2017-07-11 | FOR MORE INFO on SHINZEN's TEACHINGs, BLOG, RECORDINGS
INSIGHT TIMER: insighttimer.com/stephanienash INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/stephanie__nash CLUBHOUSE: clubhouse.com/@stephnashteach LINKED IN: www.linkedin.com/in/stephanienashspeakercoach FACEBOOK - STRATEGIC MINDFULNESS GROUP: facebook.com/groups/217646413209110Shinzens Dharma-Free Funny Story of his Car Accident while on LSDShinzen Videos2017-07-09 | Okay, this is an outake, but Steph couldn't stop laughing when she watched it, so she felt others would also appreciate. Shinzen tells how he lost an ear in a car accident that wasn't a bad trip. It's a funny re-telling of a story - along with his experience with alien abductions... (Yep.) Shinzen assures us all that there is no dharma in these stories - so they are for entertainment purposes only.
For INFO about actual TEACHINGS of SHINZEN: http://www.shinzen.org (includes links to BLOG, RETREATS, PRESENTATIONS, HOME PRACTICE PROGRAM = live monthly phone workshops, and LIFE PRACTICE PROGRAM = hear Shinzen guide someone in 45 min to help with their lives)
Recorded, edited and thrust upon you by: Stephanie Nash NON-PROFIT: http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blog BUSINESS: http://www.strategicmindfulness.netAfter Enlightenment? Love Deeply & Act Effectively ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2017-07-09 | Shinzen weaves stories of the Ox herding pictures and various impressive Bodhisatvas – including a Holocaust survivor & activist, and a Marathon Monk that he has known and been influenced by, to get to the true point of this practice.
For MORE INFO on SHINZEN & his TEACHINGS (including BLOG, Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives): http://www.shinzen.org
** This is a RE-POSTING of a video that was added on 7/7/17 - and which had over 400 views in less than 20 hours - but a slight edit had to be made so we did that and posted this as a new video.How Meditation Can Bring an Enlightened Perspective to the 6 OClock News ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2017-07-09 | Shinzen describes how Meditation Can Lead to an Enlightened Perspective of the disturbing news we are subject to every day.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogHow Would You Describe Enlightenment? ~ Shinzen Young answersShinzen Videos2017-07-08 | When asked to describe "no self", "emptiness", enlightenment, Shinzen gives his unique answer - along with different descriptions of the "no self" and "FLOW self" experience.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
This is perfect for teachers, therapists, and healthcare practitioners who would like to include mindfulness in their work and don't know how. It has been put together beautifully and is the first such training offered - and, as it is "Phase I" of a more comprehensive program - it ALSO serves as a great INTRO to this system. Check it out: unifiedmindfulness.idevaffiliate.com/124.html
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)MINDFULNESS with SICKNESS ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2017-01-25 | Many people were getting sick at a recent Shinzen Young residential retreat, so Shinzen spoke of his own experience and how to make sickness a special retreat. http://www.shinzen.org
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded during a residential retreat in Southern California in January 2017 by Stephanie Nash.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded at a residential retreat in Southern California in January 2017 by Stephanie Nash.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogSHINZENs BILLION DOLLAR HYPOTHESISShinzen Videos2017-01-11 | FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR the CORE FREE INTRO to UNIFIED MINDFULNESS: unifiedmindfulness.idevaffiliate.com/124-2.htmlSCIENCE of ENLIGHTENMENT (book excerpt) ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2016-08-28 | FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR the CORE FREE INTRO to UNIFIED MINDFULNESS: unifiedmindfulness.idevaffiliate.com/124-2.htmlWHAT IS THE SELF? ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2016-08-28 | FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR the CORE FREE INTRO to UNIFIED MINDFULNESS: unifiedmindfulness.idevaffiliate.com/124-2.htmlWHAT IS ENLIGHTENMENT? ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2016-08-28 | FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
FOR the CORE FREE INTRO to UNIFIED MINDFULNESS: unifiedmindfulness.idevaffiliate.com/124-2.htmlJourney to True Spirituality ~ SHINZEN YOUNGShinzen Videos2016-05-26 | In this spontaneous dharma talk, Shinzen begins with discussing the components of mindfulness and the importance of understanding yourself as a sensory system. Then he weaves his way through No Self, science, Buddhist metaphors & meditation- to the "Eternal Fountain of Youth" - ending with a pivotal statement about his experience in regards to judging others.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, HOME PRACTICE PROGRAM = live monthly phone teachings, LIFE PRACTICE PROGRAM = live 45 min each week of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogGUIDED MEDITATION of EXPANSION & CONTRACTION ~ by SHINZEN YOUNGShinzen Videos2016-05-25 | This exploration of expansive & contractive forces in our sensory experience is deep-yet-subtle. Great for experienced meditators who would like to go deeper.
Stephanie Nash recorded this during a May 2016 residential retreat in Southern California and wanted to share it immediately. Thus, (sorry) no video filters or titles cards - this is the raw video - but you'll have your eyes closed anyway. It's a good one. Guided by a master. Enjoy.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogHow Much of Buddhism Can Survive the Scrutiny of Science? ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2016-02-06 | In this dharma talk from a January 2016 retreat (in So Cal), Shinzen examines the Buddhist themes of ANICCA (Impermanence), DUKKHA (Suffering), and ANATTA (No-Self) in the context of a scientific perspective. And one of his last statements was, "You don't die - you do an end run." Listen to see how that manifests.
PS - due to a broken video camera, this was recorded on an old iPhone - so not great sound, but grateful to have captured it.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogSHINZENs DAIS ... for a few momentsShinzen Videos2016-02-06 | There was no one in the zendo before the evening meditation and dharma talk, and Stephanie Nash pulled out her camera. She couldn't help it (but she did mindfully observe the sensations that motivated her.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogHow Intense Emotions Can Be No Problem - SHINZEN YOUNGShinzen Videos2016-01-26 | Shinzen speaks of how the Taoists used "complete experience" with sex, but that it can be appied to shame, fear, and other intense negative emotions - and he then describes the stages it goes through as one has a complete experience - and how long it took him to do this.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, Home Practice Program = live monthly phone teachings & Life Practice Program = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogTaking Temperature of Subconscious Processing ~ SHINZEN YOUNGShinzen Videos2016-01-25 | Yes, that's the title - and he starts with a favorite metaphor involving flourescent lights and weaves it into a most beautiful description of arising and passing on a micro-flowing level.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, HOME PRACTICE PROGRAM = live monthly phone teachings & LIFE PRACTICE PROGRAM = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogSHINZEN APPROVES of RICHIE DAVIDSONs VISIONShinzen Videos2016-01-25 | Shinzen tells of Richie Davidson showing him around his lab - and how their goals were the same. Also stories of who paid for his 3 years of (Phd) grad school in Buddhist studies - and other stories from the 1960's.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, HOME PRACTICE PROGRAM = live monthly phone teachings & LIFE PRACTICE PROGRAM = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogPick Your Medicine (for Enlightenment) ~ Shinzen YoungShinzen Videos2015-02-12 | Shinzen Young summarizes the 4 Fundamental Ways to Enlightenment - and then says "Do What Works" for you - and continues to explain the point of it all.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, HOME PRACTICE PROGRAM = live monthly phone teachings & LIFE PRACTICE PROGRAM = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)
Recorded and edited by Stephanie Nash: http://www.strategicmindfulness.net , http://www.mindfulnessarts.org/blogShinzen Describes His Sleepiness Turning Into BlissShinzen Videos2015-02-12 | During a dharma talk, Shinzen Young describes his experience the day before when he brought his basic mindfulness practice to intense sleepiness and he describes it breaking up into waves of bliss.
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT SHINZEN & HIS TEACHINGS: http://www.shinzen.org (Retreats, Speaking Engagements, Writings, HOME PRACTICE PROGRAM = live monthly phone teachings & LIFE PRACTICE PROGRAM = live 45 min of Shinzen guiding someone for help in their lives)