The School of LifeThere is no more important book to understand our times than Albert Camus's The Plague, a novel about a virus that spreads uncontrollably from animals to humans and ends up destroying half the population of a representative modern town. Camus speaks to us now not because he was a magical seer, but because he correctly sized up human nature. As he wrote: ‘Everyone has inside it himself this plague, because no one in the world, no one, can ever be immune.’
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Albert Camus - The PlagueThe School of Life2020-04-01 | There is no more important book to understand our times than Albert Camus's The Plague, a novel about a virus that spreads uncontrollably from animals to humans and ends up destroying half the population of a representative modern town. Camus speaks to us now not because he was a magical seer, but because he correctly sized up human nature. As he wrote: ‘Everyone has inside it himself this plague, because no one in the world, no one, can ever be immune.’
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Vale Productions valeproductions.co.ukReparenting our Inner child #animation #theschooloflife #parentingThe School of Life2024-10-19 | All of us have over the years made efforts to become adults, it can be at once grating and dispiriting to be told that there might, nevertheless, be an ‘inner child’ still lodged somewhere within us, holding us back.
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“One of the more consistently confronting and at times embarrassing concepts that psychology forces us to consider is that of an ‘inner child.’ All of us have along the years made such efforts to become adults, it can be at once grating and dispiriting to be told that there might, nevertheless, be an ‘inner child’ still lodged somewhere within us. But in truth, we contain within ourselves a version of all the people we have ever been. There is, in recessive form, somewhere in the folds of our natures, a confused teenager, a sad child, a jealous or hungry infant. No version of us entirely disappears, it is merely added to and buttressed, just like an oak tree that still contains, in its rings, the marks of all its former circumferences…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukOvercoming Sexual Shame #animation #theschooloflife #shameThe School of Life2024-10-12 | Though we live in supposedly enlightened times, many of us are still burdened with intense feelings of shame around our own sexuality and desires. Overcoming this requires us to face up to the scale of the problem - and find ways of discussing our innermost feelings more nakedly.
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“We have collectively grown highly attuned to the problems associated with a lack of shame around sex: with a decadent culture in which it seems that everything goes, where the atmosphere is often overly explicit and where some people get badly hurt by the unwanted and aggressive attentions of others.It could seem – therefore – a little odd, even indulgent, to bring up the problem of sexual shame, that is, to discuss the intense mental suffering generated by embarrassment about our desires and bodies, by a feeling of not being physically acceptable and by a self-disgust and terror at the idea of our sexual thoughts being found out and judged. These can seem like issues that no one could sincerely have worried about since the waning of the age of top hats or at least the revolutions of the 1960s. The dangers around sex appear to lie squarely at the other, shame-less end of the spectrum…”
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“(1)We tend to imagine that in order to live a good life, we need to have to have an appetite for the truth.
(2)But what if, in reality, in order to keep going and get anything done, we actually need to blind ourselves to a range of realities and have to swallow a number of illusions without which we couldn’t possibly have the willpower to continue.
(3)Here are some of the blind spots necessary to our flourishing.
(4)First and foremost, we need to pretend that we’re not going to die and therefore have to convince ourselves that all the things we fervently trust are so important and so urgent, really do matter and won’t look like incomprehensible, futile mulch within a hundred years or less.
(5)We have to care manically about what ‘others’ think - though they hardly give us a thought, let alone a fair one.
(6)We have to imagine that we could (one day) be loved and understood - though few things are, in fact, ever more in doubt.
(7)We have to stay on our side - though we know, in our hearts, how beastly and strange we really are.
(8)We have to melt at the cuteness of small children - though we know how most of them will turn out and that the world we’re teaching them about doesn’t really exist.
(9)We have to look forward to the next few years with excitement - though almost every new day is a scratchy six or below.
(10)We have to believe that we’re collectively making progress - though every invention unleashes a necessary set of appalling unintended consequences.
(11)We have to care about humanity - though most of its members are insufferable from close up.
(12)We have to look forward to the future - though if we had a chance to learn what fate had in store, we almost certainly would not want to know.
(13)We have to keep being excited about buying things - though we know how seldom any of them make a difference.
(14)We have to keep going travelling - though being somewhere else is always better in memory or anticipation.
(15)We have to keep seeing our so-called friends - though we would be crushed by hearing a fraction of what really goes through their minds.
(16)We have to believe in a comfortable, wise old age - though it will mostly be agony, aches and catheters.
(17)We have to not properly notice how beautiful, interesting and opportunity-filled life is - in case we were to go mad from excitement and regret.
(18)In short, let’s not fool ourselves that we really want to know the full truth. We require only so much of it as is compatible with making it out of bed. We have to confront an uncomfortable fact about self-awareness: those who most know how to enjoy life may also be those who - at points - are masters at fruitfully lying to themselves.”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukWho Initiates Sex and Why it Matters #animation #theschooloflife #relationshipThe School of Life2024-09-21 | The issue of who shows an interest in having a physical relationship in a couple might be mistaken for rather trivial; after all, what counts is that it happens, not that one or the other party initiates. But in truth, the question of who first displays their enthusiasm is vital to the well-being of a couple.
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“It can seem a highly trivial subject to get so upset about – being rightly no more significant than who should open the door first, or open a new jam jar first. And yet, judging from the heartache it tends to generate, it appears to matter very much indeed. It’s at the root of many affairs, it is the catalyst for vicious arguments and bitterness, the long-term future of small children can be decided by it – and couples routinely end up in therapy or (more often) the divorce courts because of it.
At the heart of the drama are all the complexities involved when, late at night, in the darkness, one person’s hand moves over to tentatively touch the other’s body in a way that signals a desire to initiate either lovemaking or a cuddle – and nothing much happens in return...”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukEmpty Chair Therapy: Heal Your Past, Improve Your FutureThe School of Life2024-09-11 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/Sj34R
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“One of the simplest and most useful exercises that psychotherapy has gifted to us is known as the Empty Chair Technique. A client who has been wrestling with their feelings towards someone is gently requested to stop discussing them in the third person and is instead invited to face a chair and start talking to this bit of furniture as if there were on it – to all intents – the specific troubling person in their life, perhaps a long dead absent father, a neglectful mother or a traitorous so-called friend…”
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“For some of us, our lives are guided – and hemmed in – by one overwhelming imperative: we must never let people down. Not just a few friends and family members, but pretty much anyone who wants anything of us. Perhaps someone wants to see us again for supper. We kept them entertained and now they want more. The problem is that we really don’t much like them – but we go anyway, because how could we not, next time and probably the twenty times after that. We give money to people we don’t trust, we stay up too late at parties we hate, we wind up on holiday with characters we have little in common with. We would feel a sense of obligation to someone…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukOn Feeling Painfully Different #short #individual #differentThe School of Life2024-08-31 | Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality but let's also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike us as bewildering rather than emboldening, how do we alleviate these isolating thoughts?
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“Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality – of being someone who stands out from the crowd and delights in their particularity. But let’s also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike us as bewildering rather than emboldening, when for example: — Everyone wants to gossip but we prefer generosity and forgiveness. — Everyone is at ease but we’re melancholy and self-conscious. — Everyone is cheerful but we can’t let go of anxiety and apprehension.”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukManaging your Mood: Tips for Staying Present | The School of LifeThe School of Life2024-08-28 | Why is it so hard to regulate your emotions? Learn how to stay in tune with your mood and embrace emotional fluctuations.
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Our moods are affected by the smallest of changes – from fluctuations in our blood sugar content and serotonin levels, to whether or not our partner gave us a kiss before we left for work. In turn, our emotions condition almost every aspect of our behaviour: how we respond to events, react to challenges, and feel about ourselves. Understanding just how powerfully our emotional state impacts our thoughts and actions can help us manage those effects more readily – and build a more stable and forgiving relationship with ourselves.
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#TheSchoolOfLife #MoodChanges #EmotionalAwarenessAre you afraid of intimacy? #animation #shorts #intimacyThe School of Life2024-08-24 | Sometimes we may end up in a couple where we spend a lot of time complaining - to concerned friends and family - that the other person is evidently and committedly ‘afraid of intimacy.’ They don’t often talk of their emotions; they may find it hard to be physically cosy; they don’t cry so often.
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“Sometimes we may end up in a couple where we spend a lot of time complaining – to concerned friends and family – that the other person is evidently and committedly ‘afraid of intimacy.’ They don’t often talk of their emotions; they may find it hard to be physically cosy; they don’t cry so often. Whereas we on the other hand – as all our acquaintances know – are the emotionally fluent ones. We long to be close to someone, we long to discuss our feelings openly and without restraint, we are healthy and ready for love. It’s simply such a pity – and so profoundly unfortunate – that we have ended up with such an unyielding and resistant partner…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukA Guide For the Recovering AvoidantThe School of Life2024-08-21 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/kpfDa
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“‘Avoidant’ is the term usefully coined by attachment theorists to define those of us who, through no fault of our own but with full responsibility for our condition, have grave difficulties around intimate relationships…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukA Writing Exercise to Help You Meet YourselfThe School of Life2024-08-14 | In order to accurately reflect what we truly think we may have to not to agonise about every word, not to go back and correct anything - and instead, just to write down everything that comes into our minds the very moment it does so. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/t2KUC
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“Usually, when we set out to write, sounding coherent and polished are our central priorities. We may think hard before setting anything down, we keep an eye on spelling, we may go back and correct words that feel not entirely right, we may delete a paragraph or two - all in the hope of eventually reaching a point where what we have articulated seems accurately to reflect what we truly think…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukThe Hidden Cost of Skipping Key Stages of DevelopmentThe School of Life2024-08-07 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/m5AOk
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“One of the stranger aspects of the way we’re built is that we need to go through a number of stages of development in childhood and adolescence in order to reach maturity – and if for whatever reason we miss out on any one of them, then a part of us will in the background be craving to return to finish the stage, even if it is one normally associated with being a toddler and we happen to be well into middle age…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukThe Number One Rule for Healthy RelationshipsThe School of Life2024-07-31 | In relationships, honesty is key. Learn how to say what you truly feel by following this one simple rule.
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The secret to maintaining a mature and respectful relationship is honest and open communication. Yet many of us hold back, suspecting that a frank confession of our feelings would risk upsetting or alienating our partner. The solution lies not in giving vent to anger, but in voicing the more vulnerable and sympathetic fears that lie beneath our complaints. Watch our film to learn the art of vulnerable communication – and discover what a healthy relationship truly looks like.
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“As we know only too well, becoming an adult has very little to do with turning 18 or 22, driving a car or being entitled to drink, getting a mortgage or having a child. An adulthood worthy of the name is an internal process which may post-date the acquisition of a formal adult identity by many years. We might be 92 and still, very slowly, leaving adolescence behind. If we lived to be 450, many of us would still be struggling to acquire the fundamental constituents of a grown-up…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukThings You Have to Forget in Order to LiveThe School of Life2024-07-17 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/o2Ko1
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“(1)We tend to imagine that in order to live a good life, we need to have to have an appetite for the truth.
(2)But what if, in reality, in order to keep going and get anything done, we actually need to blind ourselves to a range of realities and have to swallow a number of illusions without which we couldn’t possibly have the willpower to continue.
(3)Here are some of the blind spots necessary to our flourishing.
(4)First and foremost, we need to pretend that we’re not going to die and therefore have to convince ourselves that all the things we fervently trust are so important and so urgent, really do matter and won’t look like incomprehensible, futile mulch within a hundred years or less.
(5)We have to care manically about what ‘others’ think - though they hardly give us a thought, let alone a fair one.
(6)We have to imagine that we could (one day) be loved and understood - though few things are, in fact, ever more in doubt.
(7)We have to stay on our side - though we know, in our hearts, how beastly and strange we really are.
(8)We have to melt at the cuteness of small children - though we know how most of them will turn out and that the world we’re teaching them about doesn’t really exist.
(9)We have to look forward to the next few years with excitement - though almost every new day is a scratchy six or below.
(10)We have to believe that we’re collectively making progress - though every invention unleashes a necessary set of appalling unintended consequences.
(11)We have to care about humanity - though most of its members are insufferable from close up.
(12)We have to look forward to the future - though if we had a chance to learn what fate had in store, we almost certainly would not want to know.
(13)We have to keep being excited about buying things - though we know how seldom any of them make a difference.
(14)We have to keep going travelling - though being somewhere else is always better in memory or anticipation.
(15)We have to keep seeing our so-called friends - though we would be crushed by hearing a fraction of what really goes through their minds.
(16)We have to believe in a comfortable, wise old age - though it will mostly be agony, aches and catheters.
(17)We have to not properly notice how beautiful, interesting and opportunity-filled life is - in case we were to go mad from excitement and regret.
(18)In short, let’s not fool ourselves that we really want to know the full truth. We require only so much of it as is compatible with making it out of bed. We have to confront an uncomfortable fact about self-awareness: those who most know how to enjoy life may also be those who - at points - are masters at fruitfully lying to themselves.”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukHow to Spot the Loveliest People in the WorldThe School of Life2024-07-10 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/TwXBA
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“The loveliest people are not the applauded and the haughty ones, the elated and the optimistic ones.
They are the ones who long ago shed their pride, who can tell you frankly how lonely and sad they are, who can face their self-hatred and accept their regrets…”
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“There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us:
What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?
We might - to sharpen the picture - need to lean on a few subsidiary enquiries:
To please my father, I needed to… To please my mother, I needed to…
Not to upset my mother, I needed to… Not to upset my father, I needed to…
Whatever might be claimed, no family ever gives its offspring unconditional love; there is always, more or less subtly, something that one has to do and to be - and other things that must at all costs be skirted…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukA Question to Ask Ourselves When We Are Low and ParanoidThe School of Life2024-06-26 | There’s a difficult mood we’re in danger of falling into that’s made up of four elements in particular: low spirits, guilt, paranoia and irritability. It’s in such a mood that we might step back and ask ourselves a distinctive question:
"Might I - at heart - be very angry with someone right now?"
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“There’s a difficult mood we’re in danger of falling into that’s made up of four elements in particular: low spirits, guilt, paranoia and irritability. In such a mood, we may feel guilty and ashamed without being able to put a finger on anything concrete we’ve done. At the same time, we’re in a paranoid state of mind, as if people out there didn’t like us especially, or we were in imminent danger of being found out for doing something forbidden. And then we might feel non-specifically irritable – and get uncommonly grumpy when we can’t find a household item or the printer jams…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukThe Secret Power of Missing Someone #shorts #relationships #lossThe School of Life2024-06-22 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/HReUy
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“Missing someone that we’re close to – because they’ve had to go to another country, or are up in the north on a course, or went on a hiking trip with their friends – is such an unpleasant emotion, it feels peculiar to suggest that it is also, at a profound level, an extraordinary achievement and an important marker of emotional maturity. It is in no way simple for a prototypical adult to be able to miss anyone and we are often, almost without knowing it, engaged in complex manoeuvres to ensure that we resolutely won’t…”
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“We work as we do because – of course – we need to; because nothing is cheap, because the bills are incessant; because of all the good and wise and sensible reasons that we’ve been highly aware of since mid adolescence at least. But that is too neat and we know it deep down; we know that there is also – alongside this – something more complicated that we use the idea of necessity to avoid…”
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“We hear so much about the difficulties caused by those who cannot be intimate, who seem incapable of disclosing anything of what they genuinely feel, it can take time to register the opposite but no less grave problem: those who cannot keep enough of themselves to themselves, those whose hunger for closeness overwhelms their concern for their own safety, those who will, in a poignant bid to hold others’ attention, lay out – within minutes of a new encounter – secrets that they would have been wiser to take to the grave. This isn’t to deny the fun that oversharers can bring to social life. These won’t be the types talking about the economic contraction or where they last went on holiday. Contact with other humans should be about getting to the marrow of things, they believe, which is why we will quickly get to hear about their ex’s sexual difficulty, the vicious row they had about their mother’s will, exactly how much they earn, the troubles they have with their digestion, their favourite bedroom position and the nature of an early childhood trauma…
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“There are the standard, conventional-sounding answers: we check our phones to see if any messages might have come in, if someone posted an interesting film, if something dreadful has happened overseas. But this is in danger of sounding far too normal and too kind to us. The truth is a lot darker and rather more humbling. We don’t pick up our phones to find out what’s going on, we pick them up to ensure – with considerable ruthlessness – that we are in no danger of finding out anything more about ourselves. If we forensically study the moments when we are drawn to pick up our devices, these are almost always when some kind of anxiety is pressing in on us – an anxiety on whose analysis and interpretation the correct navigation of our lives may depend. We are using our devices as an alternative to thinking about our futures, we employ our machines to block insight, to halt the business of processing, to alienate our minds from their most promising and complex substrata…”
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“This is a psychological game that offers us an entertaining and unique way to learn about what’s really going on in our minds. We’re offered the beginnings of a story – and are then invited to imagine the rest. What might happen to the little boy and girl lost in the forest, or the old wizard who has just come across an ancient book in a monastery or the shipwrecked sailor on a dark volcanic island? The way we complete the story ends up showing us a remarkable, immense amount about our values, fears, concerns and hopes. Play the game in company for entertainment and confession; play it on your own to mine the contents of your deep self…”
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“We hear so much about the difficulties caused by those who cannot be intimate, who seem incapable of disclosing anything of what they genuinely feel, it can take time to register the opposite but no less grave problem: those who cannot keep enough of themselves to themselves, those whose hunger for closeness overwhelms their concern for their own safety, those who will, in a poignant bid to hold others’ attention, lay out – within minutes of a new encounter – secrets that they would have been wiser to take to the grave. This isn’t to deny the fun that oversharers can bring to social life. These won’t be the types talking about the economic contraction or where they last went on holiday. Contact with other humans should be about getting to the marrow of things, they believe, which is why we will quickly get to hear about their ex’s sexual difficulty, the vicious row they had about their mother’s will, exactly how much they earn, the troubles they have with their digestion, their favourite bedroom position and the nature of an early childhood trauma…
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“1. We humans are extraordinarily and painfully vulnerable creatures. Especially in our early years, we are at huge danger of being psychologically damaged by those around us. Damage is in one way or another always caused by a shortfall of tenderness and care. As we might put it, it’s caused by a shortfall of love. Examples of shortfalls of love are very varied: perhaps at an early point someone went missing or someone died, someone was cruel or someone misunderstood. And as a result of this deficit, universally, some kind of wound was sustained.
2. We are psychologically very ingenious creatures. In the face of any wound, we develop an array of very clever defence mechanisms. The purpose of defence mechanisms is to protect us against further damage, to help us to get through to the next stage of existence; to keep us going; in extremes, to save our lives…”
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“Relationships get damaged; every day brings with it small challenges - disappointments, frustrations, and irritations - that can come between even the most committed lovers and subtly wear away at the sincerity of their connection.
To prevent the risks, lovers should regularly make room to ask themselves - in a calm spirit of gentle openness and curiosity - two ostensibly simple yet hugely central and effective questions:
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“Missing someone that we’re close to – because they’ve had to go to another country, or are up in the north on a course, or went on a hiking trip with their friends – is such an unpleasant emotion, it feels peculiar to suggest that it is also, at a profound level, an extraordinary achievement and an important marker of emotional maturity. It is in no way simple for a prototypical adult to be able to miss anyone and we are often, almost without knowing it, engaged in complex manoeuvres to ensure that we resolutely won’t…”
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A great many of us have - in one way or another - been traumatised somewhere in our past. Not only have we suffered greatly, we are likely not to have been able properly to process and digest what we have gone through. A key feature of a good life is a capacity to look our trauma in the eye; and ensure that the future can be a whole lot more hopeful than the past.
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“Psychological trauma can be defined as a negative event so overwhelming that we cannot properly understand, process or move on from it – but, and this is the devilish aspect to it, nor can we properly remember it or reflect upon its nature and its effects on us. It is lodged within us but remains hidden from us, making its presence known only via symptoms and pains, altering our sense of reality without alerting us to its devilish subterranean operations.”
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“Sometimes we may end up in a couple where we spend a lot of time complaining – to concerned friends and family – that the other person is evidently and committedly ‘afraid of intimacy.’ They don’t often talk of their emotions; they may find it hard to be physically cosy; they don’t cry so often. Whereas we on the other hand – as all our acquaintances know – are the emotionally fluent ones. We long to be close to someone, we long to discuss our feelings openly and without restraint, we are healthy and ready for love. It’s simply such a pity – and so profoundly unfortunate – that we have ended up with such an unyielding and resistant partner…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukThe One Question You Need to Understand Who You AreThe School of Life2024-05-01 | There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us: “What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?” We might - to sharpen the picture - need to lean on a few subsidiary enquiries…
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“There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us:
What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?
We might - to sharpen the picture - need to lean on a few subsidiary enquiries:
To please my father, I needed to… To please my mother, I needed to…
Not to upset my mother, I needed to… Not to upset my father, I needed to…
Whatever might be claimed, no family ever gives its offspring unconditional love; there is always, more or less subtly, something that one has to do and to be - and other things that must at all costs be skirted…”
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"Relationships in which our love is not adequately requited are — for most of us — a grave inconvenience, from which we will seek to extricate ourselves as fast as possible. Why would we possibly want to be in a couple in which our love is not adequately honoured? Why would we bother to waste time around someone who doesn’t return our affection? Who can be bothered with cold, confusing or distant people??When Love Isnt EasyThe School of Life2024-04-24 | Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/exaeV
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“What happens to a child who is not loved properly? The answer one might expect is that they start to hate the person who doesn’t give them the love they need. Far from it. The reality is that the child becomes filled with shame. What is shame? A sense that one is profoundly unworthy, dirty, soiled, sinful, ugly, embarrassing – and also, in danger; a fit subject of attack and ridicule by strangers. The child is unable to redirect the blame outward: it does not ask: ‘What is wrong with my parents for not loving me adequately?’ It simply wonders in a forlorn way: ‘What have I done wrong in order to have ended up on the receiving end of my parent’s disapproval?’ A primitive fear of abandonment kicks in. The child prefers to attack itself for being bad than to confront a yet more awful possibility: that it is entirely dependent for its well-being on inadequate and unkind parental figures.Is Everyone Else Normal? Feeling Painfully DifferentThe School of Life2024-04-17 | Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality but let's also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike us as bewildering rather than emboldening, how do we alleviate these isolating thoughts?
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“Much is said about the virtues and pleasures of individuality – of being someone who stands out from the crowd and delights in their particularity. But let’s also admit to how frankly lonely and frightening it can be to find ourselves (yet again) in a peculiar minority, where the differences between us and others strike us as bewildering rather than emboldening, when for example: — Everyone wants to gossip but we prefer generosity and forgiveness. — Everyone is at ease but we’re melancholy and self-conscious. — Everyone is cheerful but we can’t let go of anxiety and apprehension.”
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“The goal can be stated simply enough: the overwhelming priority, when on a date with someone we like, is to persuade them to like us back. But the simplicity of the mission masks the complexity required to achieve it. Typically, the advice focuses on externals: what to wear, when to unfurl a napkin, what to order… But such counsel, however well-meaning, is at odds with what we ourselves know about attraction: that it is profoundly focused on psychology.”How Repressed Emotions Make Us SickThe School of Life2024-04-10 | The most curious and hazardous feature of the way we’re built lies in the difficulty we have registering what we actually feel.
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“The most curious and hazardous feature of the way we’re built lies in the difficulty we have registering what we actually feel. Our vast and strange minds get filled with thoughts that go unsifted and with feelings we don’t have the courage to look at. We might be angry or sad while lacking any active awareness that we are so. Or guilty or envious without any grasp of what is at play behind a thin psychological curtain. And we remain unconscious - always - because we are resistant to ideas that threaten our sense of calm, our self-image and our gratifying illusions about ourselves. We surely can’t be angry because we’re kind people who couldn’t feel negatively about a beloved elderly relative. Or we can’t be sad at not being invited to the party because we don’t care about trivial, social matters. And it isn’t possible that we are envious because we aren’t people to covet others’ advantages…”
#UnpackYourEmotions #HealFromWithinWhy We Think We Are Losers (But Actually Arent)The School of Life2024-04-03 | Many of us are haunted by a harsh inner critic: one who is particularly fond of telling us that we are a loser. Here’s why such a critic exists – and how we can silence them.
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“Some of us are continually haunted by a sense that we are losers. Acquaintances may speak well of us. Colleagues may praise us, but there is an inner critic inside who has a very different verdict: you are a piece of nonsense, you are laughable, you are repulsive. This critic is extremely assiduous and determined, they are a world champion of sorts. They’ll get into an argument with our best friend to insist that no, despite what they think, we really are awful; they’ll disregard the evidence of a promotion or surprise birthday party and keep returning to the same theme: you are repulsive…”
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“However deep our theoretical commitment to serenity, in the course of an average day, we are likely to encounter a number of extremely well-crafted invitations to lose our tempers badly.
Our partner will press a well-flagged nuclear button related, let’s imagine, to their views on our mother or our career choice. At work, a colleague may deliberately not answer a very simple question to which we urgently need an answer. A shop attendant may give us a bored, insolent shrug. Someone in the supermarket may falsely accuse us of standing in the wrong line…”
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“The idea of trying to avoid love sounds paradoxical in the extreme: why would anyone take steps to deny themselves an experience which seems so plainly positive and life enhancing? Plenty of people are denied love by external forces; why would anyone take active measures to sabotage love if it lay before them?”
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“There are many things that might disrupt the mood of a promising early date: a sudden discovery of a maddening political opinion, a grating laugh, poor dental hygiene, an unfortunate choice of top. But there is a far more perplexing and, superficially at least, paradoxical kind of distaste that might abruptly arise. One might want to take leave of a companion - and even rush outdoors to vomit - not because they are crude, dim or nasty but because they have revealed themselves to be undeniably and conspicuously nice…”
Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.ukWhy We Behave As We DoThe School of Life2024-03-06 | A key principle governing the natural world is that animals adapt to thrive in particular habitats; what we call an animal’s character is essentially a set of traits that gives it maximal opportunity to flourish in specific circumstances. We humans are - in the end, beneath a layer of civilisation - not so different.
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“A key principle governing the natural world is that animals adapt to thrive in particular habitats; what we call an animal’s character is essentially a set of traits that gives it maximal opportunity to flourish in specific circumstances. The owl is - for example - furtive and nocturnal to help it succeed in crowded habitats with heavy pressures on food supplies. Stick insects are docile and skilled at disappearing into a background of twigs and branches to help them avoid the attention of rodents and spiders. And African wild dogs are collaborative and respectful of hierarchies to lend them the very best chances of cornering impalas and springboks..”