Tips for Survivors #55: Needing Love Handing the Shame Back 2026-09-27 | Tips for Survivors #55: Needing Love
Q&A Session: October 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-10-16 | Please reach out to contactus@handingtheshameback.org, we want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: How do I help my kids identify who a ‘safe adult’ is? For this and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. Once you know something, you can’t unknow it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: Overthinking Handing the Shame Back 2025-10-14 | Do you ever find yourself overthinking and wondering why you do it?This can stem from anxiety, fear, and even feelings of not being seen, heard or understood. This was because during the time the abuse occurred, you had no way of overcoming what was happening to you. Instead of having healthy adaptive techniques you developed unhealthy maladaptive techniques. This led to becoming emotionally disregulated instead of being emotionally regulated, and so it goes on….
Survivor Interview: Lisa Mannina Handing the Shame Back 2025-10-07 | Lisa ManninaSurvivor. Pilot. Metastatic Breast Cancer WarriorLisa was abused by her mother's 3rd husband's son who was in his mid to late 20’s. She was 10 years old, this abuse carried on for 4 years and occurred at her family home, right under her mother’s and step father's eyes. She was frozen and confused and was told she wouldn't be believed if she ever told anyone. She did tell her best friend and she was believed.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Blog: Possibilities Handing the Shame Back 2025-09-23 | PossibilitiesFor most of us possibilities are not something we ever seriously consider. We tend to live with thoughts of things not working out for us as opposed to the opposite: things working out well. Did you know that if you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right? There is so much potential that lies within all of us that is largely untapped. I believe this is because we are not aware of how to access it, let alone use it fully. It is widely considered that most of our minds are underutilised by most of us.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Q&A Session: September 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-09-18 | We want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: how to support Survivors as a partner or spouse? What if I say the wrong thing? For this and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. Once you know something, you can’t unknow it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Kieron Handing the Shame Back 2025-09-16 | Meet KieronSurvivor. Educator. CEO and Founder of Speak It OutKieron was 6 years old when the abuse began and was to continue until he was 17 years of age. This was perpetrated by someone close to him who he trusted and never thought would harm him. This was someone 4 years older than him.To find out more about Speak It Out, go to: speakitout.orgHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: The Mind Dissociates Handing the Shame Back 2025-09-09 | The Mind DissociatesThere is confusion around why this happens, but put simply the mind leaves when the body can’t. For survivors of child sexual abuse that is a blessing. But what if years later, as an adult, you are still quite dissociative? What if you are struggling to stay present? Can anything be done to help this?Yes it can, and Gloria shows how.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Isabella Grosso Handing the Shame Back 2025-09-02 | Meet Isabella GrossoSurvivor. Dancer. AuthorShe was abused from the age of 5 years by family friends and neighbours. She told her Dad, but nothing stopped after that. She could see the fear and sadness in his eyes so never spoke out again until she was in her 20’s. She felt her parents didn't want to know, and that her mother was also abused as a child.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Blog: Letting Go Handing the Shame Back 2025-08-26 | Do you ever find yourself struggling to let go of a situation?Do you ever find yourself uncomfortable with not having control or insight into what happens next? If the answer is yes, you stand in good company. Many survivors experience just that, and it is more common than you think.It makes sense, as being abused as children you didn’t have any control, let alone understand how to manage it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Q&A Session: August 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-08-21 | We want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: how to approach schools who are posting children's pictures on Facebook? For this and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. Once you know something, you can’t unknow it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Lee Cooper Handing the Shame Back 2025-08-19 | Meet Lee CooperSurvivor. Advocate. PhotographerHe was abused between 11-13 by a family member. He told no-one until he turned 31 years of age, and that was to his girlfriend. He believes that perpetrators know that disclosure is like a nuclear bomb going off which is why they so confidently operate under the cover of silence.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: Using Instinct To Let Go Handing the Shame Back 2025-08-12 | Having a quiet time where you can connect in with your inner wisdom, will give you the answers you need. Your higher self is always at play, but you can only truly let go when you trust your instinct. The easiest and most effective way is through the following gateway: Go within.It may feel odd, and contrary to what you are told… as in look outside yourself for the answers, through other people, books, etc.But the real wisdom of being able to Let go, lies within you.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
NZ Police Share the Global Hand Sign Message in Te Reo Māori Handing the Shame Back 2025-08-07 | We are fortunate to have a member of NZ Police share the Global Hand Sign message in Te Reo. Please share far and wide so all who need to can see the hand sign and hear it. The more people that see this, the more children we can save.For more information, visit:✅ Global Hand Sign: handingtheshameback.org/global-hand-sign✅ Global Hand Sign Response: handingtheshameback.org/global-hand-sign-response--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------English translation:Hello,If you need help but cannot or do not feel safe to ask for it, there is a sign you can use to show someone you need help.(Sign)This means I’m not safe, I need help.This shows people nearby that you need help but are not safe or feel safe to ask for it.Anyone can use this sign, teach your family and friends about it and what this sign now means.Stay safe, and well.#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Debbra Blosnich Handing the Shame Back 2025-08-05 | Meet Debbra BlosnichSurvivor. Author. Transformational Life CoachBetween the ages of 6 - 18 she was abused by her father, with him telling her you can’t get pregnant, I’ve been fixed. She was 12 at the time. At the age of 9 her mother asked her if her father ‘did’ things to her, with Debbra not answering the question fully as she didn't know how to respond. She was later to discover her father went on to abuse her sisters and niece.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Blog: Reflection Handing the Shame Back 2025-07-24 | Most of us would rather not revisit the past. It was traumatic, frightening, and understandably triggering. But what if I told you that how you approach your past could make all the difference? What if, by gently reflecting, you could make sense of it and gather some valuable insights about the child you were, and the adult you’ve become as a result? There is real value in understanding more of who we are. In doing so, we begin to regain mastery over our lives—even the painful parts that once devastated us.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Marvin Hitchman Handing the Shame Back 2025-07-22 | Meet Marvin HitchmanSurvivor. Author. A fighter who wants to make more people aware of child sexual abuse.He was also born in prison. When he was adopted out, he never bonded with his adoptive father, and found himself feeling isolated. He took refuge outside the home, and it was there he was preyed upon. His abuser sexually abused from the age of 11 to 14 years of age, with no respite. He is now an author and legend, helping others to deal with their trauma.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Q&A Session: July 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-07-20 | This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: Why use the hand sign when it's for everyone else to use? Do survivors of child sexual abuse more likely to go on and abuse children? For these answers and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. We all know once you know something, you can’t unknow it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: Guilt Handing the Shame Back 2025-07-15 | The role guilt plays in sexual abuse as a child is varied. Please note, that without exception; if you are a survivor of this trauma, you were undoubtedly groomed, manipulated and often bullied into being complicit. However it manifested, you would have felt guilt. As an adult looking back, although you understand this, sometimes the guilt feels too much. Have a listen to this to begin finding your way back to empowerment and self belief.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Ciara Redmond Handing the Shame Back 2025-07-08 | Meet Ciara RedmondSurvivor of serial predator and serial rapist. Raises awareness.Ciara was raised in a family where once her younger brother had cancer the focus needed to be on him. This resulted in her being left alone and vulnerable at times. She was then targeted by a predator and physically and sexually abused from the age of 14. Her story is riveting, and she has been able to turn the trauma into a gift for humanity.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Survivor Interview: Glenn Miles Handing the Shame Back 2025-06-24 | Meet GlennSurvivor. Researcher. NurseAlthough he suffered humiliation and sexualised school bullying at the hands of his peers, Glenn was seriously sexually abused at a Christian camp at age 13 by a 30-year-old male he was sharing a room with. He was told, this is normal and what men do. He felt it was somehow his fault, and then spent the next 3 decades hiding the fact he was gay from everyone but his wife.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Ambassadors Global Hand Sign Message Handing the Shame Back 2025-06-17 | Our Global Ambassador, Scott Beard, has an important message to share: It is time for NZ adults to notice the hand sign children under 16 are using to show they are being sexually abused and are not safe. Please start to notice this, and be the adult that knows what to do. It is in the best interests of our children’s future and indeed our country’s for us to share and teach this Global Hand Sign. If you see something: do something.Learn the Global Hand Sign:handingtheshameback.org/global-hand-sign#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
2025 Global Awareness Day Handing the Shame Back 2025-06-15 | Today is Global Awareness Day.We walk this path together.For the children of yesterday, whose pain was silenced.For the children of today, who need our protection.For the children of tomorrow, who deserve a safer world.From silence to action. From shame to strength.#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #HTSBGlobalAwarenessDay
Survivor Interview: Karen Shell Handing the Shame Back 2025-06-10 | Meet KarenSurvivor. Nonprofit Founder. Champion for Kids. EntrepreneurKaren was raised in a family where her father was not just sexually abusive, but mentally, physically and psychologically as well. Out of the 4 children, it was she that was the target, and as a result, her childhood was miserable. What she did, and how she managed to turn it around is inspiring.To reach Karen, email: info@karenshell.comHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
How the Global Hand Sign helps protect children from sexual abuse Handing the Shame Back 2025-06-03 | NZ Herald interviews Gloria and her partner Detective Inspector Scott Beard on the Global Hand Sign for Under 16’s to use, showing they are not safe and being sexually abused. Have a watch and listen of this, as this couple sets out to #LetsSaveSomeKids across the globe.Read the full article here: nzherald.co.nz/nz/top-police-detective-scott-beard-backing-hand-signal-to-prevent-child-sex-abuse/YCVBDIO2WBAFFOTIH727EQLRXIFor more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids
Survivor Interview: Jeremy R Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-27 | Meet JeremySurvivor. Content Creator. WriterHe was born with Spina Bifida and his parents were told he would never walk let alone live. He is now in his 40’s.He was 5 years old when his female abuser first started grooming, manipulating and then abusing him. This was to go on for over 4 years, until he became hospitalised and eventually home schooled.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Media Spotlight: Interview with MoreFM Rodney Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-27 | Being interviewed by Nick on MoreFM Rodney was empowering. Being able to discuss the book; Keeping Kids Safe which is now in every school in NZ, honouring. It is time for the world to join the campaign to educate and resource our children on how to Keep Safe. So grateful to have been on air for this one. Thanks to Nick and Anna, the cycle has begun.For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Blog: Rest and Recovery Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-20 | Rest and Recovery are essential for survivors. Though not often discussed it is crucial for survivors to rest deeply when dealing with this. Thinking about or working through your trauma, reignites it and this leads to the exact same trauma responses you experienced as a child. What was unavailable to you then was resting and recovering from it, especially if the abuser was a family member. Don’t underestimate the healing resting provides, it can make the world of difference.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Global Hand Sign for Under 16s Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-18 | The Global Hand Sign is a silent cry for help — a 3-step gesture that children around the world are using to signal they are being sexually abused and are not safe.1️⃣ Open palm2️⃣ Place thumb across palm3️⃣ Close fingers into a fistIf you — or another adult — see this sign, act immediately to protect the child. This could include alerting another adult, phoning authorities, noting a vehicle’s number plate, or discreetly taking photos or recording those around the child.Learn it. Share it. Teach it.The more children and adults who understand this sign, the better we can protect and safeguard our young people. Be the adult who notices — and knows what to do.No child should live in fear. Protecting the children of yesterday, today, and tomorrow starts with us.If you see something, do something.For more on us, visit: handingtheshameback.org
Q&A Session: 16 May 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-15 | Q&A SessionJoin us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers a range of questions posed by you, the Survivors. One for this month includes: how do you explain the hand sign to younger children. The questions are pertinent, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Survivor Interview: Cadence P Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-13 | Meet CadenceSurvivor. Poet. AdvocateShe was abused by her godmother and her godmother’s father. She was heavily manipulated and groomed to the point where, they made her lie and say it was her brother who was abusing her. This eventuated in him being removed from the home and sent to juvenile then foster care. She was 3 when the abuse began.You can reach out to Cadence here: instagram.com/cadence_p.2025HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: Rest and Recovery Handing the Shame Back 2025-05-06 | Having survived this trauma, understand that your body went into the 4 trauma responses, fight, flight, freeze of fawn. Reason: You had a lot of adrenaline cursing through you as you were in survival mode. This affected your central nervous system including mentally, emotionally and physiologically. Now as an adult that is safe, you will became drained when dealing with it, there will feel a natural level of flatness or needing rest. Please give into that.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Survivor Interview: Reg Johnston Handing the Shame Back 2025-04-29 | Meet RegSurvivor. Trauma Informed AOD Clinician. Survivor AdvocateReg was abused by his sister 13 years older than him, who groomed him at the age of 12 mainly through the use of pornography. His home life consisted of confused boundaries, with secrets and lies always a feature. He wants people to know that drugs and alcohol don’t define you, in most cases they are just symptoms of the abuse that occurred.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
HTSB Global Awareness Day - 16 June Handing the Shame Back 2025-04-28 | Handing the Shame Back is proud to return for the third year in a row with our GLOBAL AWARENESS DAY (16 June).This day is dedicated to raising awareness of child sexual abuse, honouring adult survivors — including those who didn’t make it, and most importantly, shifting the silence.WHEREVER YOU ARE in the world, we invite you to join us for a 30-minute walk at 10am local time. If 16 June falls on a weekday, feel free to do your walk on the closest weekend. Landmarks around the world will be lit in our logo colours — red, white, and black — to honour this cause.If you are in Auckland, New Zealand, we invite you to join our Handing the Shame Back team for the Global Awareness Day Walk! We will be meeting at Cornwall Park (by the Café and the main carpark) at 10am on Sunday 15 June. Bring your family, friends, and even your fur babies — everyone is welcome!facebook.com/events/2216544662138327Take photos and tag us @HandingTheShameBack, or email them to us so we can share them on our channels and inspire others around the world!Include a caption with your location. For example:"Alex from Rotorua walking for Handing the Shame Back."We also invite you to:❤️ SWAP YOUR PROFILE PICTURE with our logo to raise awareness and boost visibility.❤️ SHARE THE GLOBAL HAND SIGN with at least one other person — it’s a simple yet powerful way to spread the message.Let’s break the silent epidemic and make a global impact, together.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------• 👕Order official HTSB t-shirts/hoodies: http://handingtheshameback.org/store• 💗Download the HTSB logo: http://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=586398213621309&set=a.105405181720617• ✋Learn the Global Hand Sign: youtube.com/shorts/gOBefr0BwP4• 📘Plan your own walk: static1.squarespace.com/static/62e45d5b0f5e8d4e4f3c8e8c/t/681d701769a59721aaa71427/1746759710756/How+to+Plan+My+Global+Awareness+Walk.pdf• 📂Full event details: http://handingtheshameback.org/events
Blog: Being Triggered Handing the Shame Back 2025-04-22 | The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. What this means is that we cannot prepare for that which we cannot know. These triggers can appear through anything that involves one or any of the five senses; sight, smell, sound, taste, or touch: triggering a memory or experience of the abuse we suffered. There is nothing we can do to stop that, but there is a way to manage it.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Q&A Session: 16 April 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-04-15 | Q&A SessionJoin us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, the Survivors. Ranging from how to manage a family who still believe the predator, to is it even possible to go on to have a loving and healthy relationship as an adult. The range of questions is moving, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Survivor Interview: Diane Payne Handing the Shame Back 2025-04-08 | Meet DianeSurvivorDiane was sexually abused by her brother-in-law from age 12 to 16. He was 24 when it started. She told no one for 40 years. Fast forward 4 years, & last year he finally got convicted in NZ. He got home detention for 8 months, due to a plea deal & the laws in the 1980's, when the abuse occurred. Don’t miss her story here.You can reach out to Diane here:Instagram: instagram.com/ffs.traumaHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: Guilt and Shame Handing the Shame Back 2025-04-01 | Feelings of shame and guilt are common to Survivors. This is especially true if we had siblings we felt we couldn't protect, or that we had to lie to protect the abuser which hurt our siblings even more. There is a process over time of healing, which requires great self compassion and tenderness. Don’t rush it and please give yourself some grace. The blame and shame never belonged to you.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids
Survivor Interview: Sue Philip Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-25 | Meet Sue PhilipSurvivorSue was abused from preschool age by her father. She blocked the memories out for many years until she was in her 40’s.. Her parents were part of the mormon church, and it was not until she left the church as an adult, that she was able to remember the details of what her father had done to her and her siblings.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Blog: Mind Games Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-18 | Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: that we play mind games with ourselves, more than with any other person, and we do it in a multitude of ways: like testing ourselves, overthinking, questioning ourselves and through sabotaging ourselves! The point being we are constantly undermining who we are by doing this. We need to stop doing this!► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Parliamentary Select Committee Hearings - Gloria Masters Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-13 | On behalf of Handing the Shame Back, I had the privilege of presenting to the Parliamentary Select Committee on Child Sex Trafficking within NZ, (we are wanting increased penalties added to the slavery offences amendment bill). Although the experience was daunting, the submission was well received.For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.orgVideo source: New Zealand Parliament #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Survivor Interview: Hanz Freller Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-11 | Meet Hanz FrellerSurvivor Advocate. Dad. AuthorHe was abused in care by a St John of God Brother. The abuse was to span several years and was calculated and manipulative in the grooming of him throughout those vulnerable teenage years.You can reach out to Hanz here:Facebook: facebook.com/hanz.frellerInstagram: instagram.com/hanzfrellerHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Tips for Survivors: Feeling Safe Sexually Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-06 | Sometimes as survivors we can feel guilty, frozen or just plain wrong about having sex. As adults this has impact beyond what we can imagine. Have a look at this video as it just may help free you up from anything holding you back from enjoying intimacy with a loved one.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Q&A Session: 7 March 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-06 | First Q&A SessionJoin us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing your child experience the worst trauma possible, Gloria provides calm and measured responses that help soothe and restore equilibrium to these difficult experiences.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Book Distribution Update: Unboxing Day Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-04 | Today marks the start of something powerful — 2,700 books are being unboxed, packaged, and prepared for delivery to schools across New Zealand.Every book sent is a step toward a safer future. If you’d like to help us get them into schools, please consider donating: donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss (Reference: ‘Book Distribution’).At Handing the Shame Back, we don’t see this as just opening boxes. We see it as opening a path to better protecting children, breaking barriers, and giving teachers the tools they need to recognise and respond to child sexual abuse.Let’s make a difference together!#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Book Distribution Update: Book Delivery Day Handing the Shame Back 2025-03-04 | Today is the day!We are beyond excited to have received the books, "Keeping Kids Safe", which will be distributed to schools across New Zealand.We are still accepting donations to cover book distribution costs. If you’re able to help, please use this direct link: donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference "Book Distribution".Our goal is simple but vital: to equip teachers with the knowledge to recognise the signs of child sexual abuse, respond appropriately, and ultimately protect vulnerable children.Thank you. Your support could help save some children.#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Survivor Interview: Susan Gold Handing the Shame Back 2025-02-24 | Meet Susan GoldSurvivor, Author and Transformationalist.She was the middle child born in a family where generational abuse was undealt with and therefore continued. She was abused by her brother between 7 to 10 years of age with some flashbacks of both her father and grandfather being abusers as well. She believes that finding kindness for yourself from within is a key part of the healing journey.HELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
Book Distribution Donation Update - 21 February 2025 Handing the Shame Back 2025-02-20 | We have now raised $2,500. If you are able to help, please use this direct link: donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference 'Book Distribution' to ensure the funds are allocated to processing and postage. Every $10 means one school receives a copy of the book!Thank you. You may just save some kids!For more information on us and the work we do, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Blog: Sex and Adult Survivors Handing the Shame Back 2025-02-17 | It is entirely natural for you as a survivor of child sexual abuse to struggle with sex as an adult. some survivors have a constant battle with this, preferring to be celibate in the end. For others guilt, fear and dissociation can occur. Wherever you are at is entirely normal, and can be worked with if it is of concern. Don’t miss this podcast.► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Tips for Survivors: Managing Guilt Handing the Shame Back 2025-02-10 | As children, we were always dependent on the adults around us to meet our needs. This is common and expected, as we were unable to feed or clothe ourselves. However, guilt does feature because we had to accommodate the adults around us, even when we felt scared and uncomfortable.For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids
Survivor Interview: Steven Shelton Handing the Shame Back 2025-02-04 | Meet Steven SheltonSurvivor and AuthorWas abused by many males beginning when he was just 4 years old. His mother walked in on the abuse, saw it, and walked back out again. This was the beginning of Steven’s nightmare, culminating in him developing Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID. He firmly believes that passage of time, a loving spouse, and talking about it, have helped him recover from this.For further information on Steven, go to: stevensheltonauthor.com/author-pageHELPNZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334USA RAINN rainn.org Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuseUK NAPAK napac.org.uk Supporting recovery from childhood abuseAUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.OTHERTo get some more resources from us, please go to: handingtheshameback.org, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:Facebook: facebook.com/HandingtheShameBackInstagram: instagram.com/handingtheshamebackLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-backX: https://x.com/HandinShameBackTikTok: tiktok.com/@handingshamebackBuzzsprout: handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign
