how to be assertive without saying anything Newel of Knowledge 2024-12-18 | #assertiveness #assertivecommunication #communication I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Logical consequences...0:28 Delivery1:19 Why does this matter?3:56 The origins of the "logical consequences" technique 4:33 3 ways to not change someone's behaviour 6:22 The framework & a child example 7:58 Real world examples 10:06 Healthy vs unhealthy ultimatums 12:33 Final word of warning & outro rizz
how to make the greatest comeback of your life Newel of Knowledge 2025-10-17 | #psychology #selfimprovement I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbSpotify: open.spotify.com/show/1FRO4KMCcP09uojMjo4Xi2?si=e1d9ac403b214520 Article mentioned:psyche.co/ideas/personal-transformation-can-start-with-a-whisper-not-a-bangOther articles I read while researching this video:aeon.co/ideas/to-make-laziness-work-for-you-put-some-effort-into-itaeon.co/essays/why-do-i-let-myself-sabotage-my-own-best-laid-plans0:00 Fall vs slide 0:57 The 1 min 31 seconds summary of this video3:01 (1) R: Recognise the slip.6:14 Listen to your whispers 8:48 Bigger picture: why do we self sabotage? 13:45 Bonus tools 17:33 (2) U: Use your anchors.19:06 Bonus tools 23:45 (3) T: Time your stops.26:09 Bigger picture: why we're so lazy 27:44 Bonus tools 30:23 Final: redefine progress 32:12 Final bonus tool 33:02 Summary & outro rizz
it sucks, but itll skyrocket your energy levels... Newel of Knowledge 2025-10-10 | #psychology #energy I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbStudy mentioned:journals.plos.org/ploscompbiol/article?id=10.1371/journal.pcbi.10033350:00 Close open loops...0:47 (1) Why closing loops releases energy2:01 (2) What modern science says...2:56 (3) What you need to do...4:22 (4) Remember this when you get stuck...5:34 (5) Do loops ever end? :(6:16 Gracias y outro rizz...
Non narrative thinking is literally changing my life Newel of Knowledge 2025-10-01 | #psychology #neuroscience I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbResearch done for this video:Article by Karen Simecek: - psyche.co/ideas/your-life-is-not-a-story-why-narrative-thinking-holds-you-backBooks mentioned:- Being and nothingness (Jean Paul Sartre)- Tiny Experiments (Anne-Laure Le Cunff) 0:00 Your mind is lying…0:45 The 2 minute summary of this video 2:50 What we’ll cover 3:36 (1) Why your brain creates stories in the first place 9:15 (2) The real trouble with telling yourself stories17:47 (3) The 3 most common scripts we all follow 27:40 (4) How to drop your scripts (self-anthropology) 37:18 (5) Choosing to live a narrative free life 45:03 Summary & outro rizz
how to make any conversation instantly more fun Newel of Knowledge 2025-09-22 | #communication #socialskills #conversation I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Social harmony...1:30 (1) Self deprecation 3:54 (2) How to be self deprecating without putting yourself down
how to become so mentally healthy people lowkey think ur on brain steroids Newel of Knowledge 2025-09-15 | #mentalhealth #psychology #neuroscience I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The 30 second summary 0:50 (1) Understand context dependent memory 4:19 (1.1) Think opposite 16:44 (1.2) Imagine the potential of future positive events happening 18:12 (2) Decide for something you want 22:44 (3) Practices of certainty 25:09 (4) Exercise & sleep 30:44 Summary & outro rizz
Congruence is the easiest way to become socially magnetic Newel of Knowledge 2025-09-06 | #social #socialskills #communication I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The quality of your social life…0:16 Incongruence vs congruence 0:53 The choice is yours1:32 What we’re going to cover 2:17 The bottom line of this video…2:58 (1) The bigger picture of “congruence” 6:03 (2) A deeper definition of congruence & how to be genuine11:46 (3) 3 quotes on congruence 15:04 (4) MASTER social skill: how to deal with incongruence in others21:06 (5) The 11 steps of becoming a person 30:59 Psychological health 31:35 (6) 2 ways to become more congruent37:01 Summary & outro rizz
the 7 reasons why your bad habits keep winning Newel of Knowledge 2025-08-25 | #habits #psychology I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The 7 reasons why…1:02 The 30 second summary of this video1:36 (1) You’re not serious enough about changing 4:35 (2) You’re focused on effects instead of causes 7:09 (3) The cues are going over your head14:25 (4) You’re not being specific enough 15:57 (5) Your bad habits are too attractive 21:23 (6) Your bad habits are too easy 23:59 (7) Your values aren’t leading your behaviours 30:43 Summary & outro rizz
9 life lessons i learned in Mexico Newel of Knowledge 2025-08-18 | I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 we back 0:33 (1) Drastically reduce the decisions you have to make if you want more energy 3:08 (2) Frustration is part of the learning process 5:38 (3) You rarely know what you want9:23 (4) Don’t deny the reality of life by not saying goodbye 19:00 (5) Don’t say “people are judging me” say “people are looking at me intently”21:32 (6) You probably don’t need to improve your social skills, you just need to regulate social anxiety better24:29 (7) Disagreeing and spiritual aggression 28:13 (8) Manufactured experiences = tension. Just let everything happen 30:20 (9) No matter how you act it’ll always be better than perfection 32:05 Thank you & apples
the manipulation tactic others use to keep you obedient Newel of Knowledge 2025-08-13 | #communication #socialskills #relationship I send out a free newsletter every Thursday to 7000+ people that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 2 women 1 psychiatric hospital…1:08 Stimulus vs cause 1:43 Example (James & David)2:46 Why is this important?3:33 (1) What being “responsible for” someone sounds like 4:03 (2) What being “responsible to” someone sounds like6:59 The 2 ways to be “responsible to” someone 8:49 Caveat…11:05 The 3 stages of relationships 12:29 The 3 characteristics of non-responsibility taking speech
how to make doing hard things easier than scrolling youtube Newel of Knowledge 2025-08-03 | #hardwork #discipline #dopamine I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbRelated videos:youtube.com/watch?v=LZvfRcQO9nE&t=346syoutube.com/watch?v=jHKJhImz_jA&t=515s0:00 Hard things…0:42 The bottom line…1:10 (1) A depleted brain will always default to ease 12:54 (2) Reappraise the discomfort 14:55 (3) Win the evening17:48 (4) Structure your day right20:48 (5) Identity without evidence is just fragile consistency 23:06 (6) Never miss twice 23:45 (7) When intimidated, break it down to 5%25:21 (8) Mesmerise yourself into ritual 26:55 (9) Never set a pace you can’t keep 27:29 (10) The effort is the reward (the discipline paradox)29:07 (11) Self-negotiation prevents self-termination 31:08 Summary & outro rizz
observe instead of evaluating & your social life will get 10x better. Newel of Knowledge 2025-07-31 | #communication #communicationskills #relationship I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Marshall B. Rosenberg0:26 (1) Observing vs evaluating 1:00 Examples 2:22 (2) Why are evaluations so harmful?5:21 (3) The 7 ways evaluations are formed 8:02 (4) How to stop evaluating 10:54 (5) Observing yourself instead of evaluating 11:56 BONUS exercise
how to get back on track when u feel depressed af Newel of Knowledge 2025-07-22 | #depression #depressed #psychology #neuroscience I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Vans and pied pipers…0:33 i been think’ bout u 1:00 What we’re going to cover…1:29 (1) Let’s get clear on what depression/low mood is1:57 (2) The vicious cycle of withdrawal (inactivity)5:09 (3) Why do we withdraw from life?9:26 The 2 reasons you perform any behaviour (and why you withdraw) 14:25 (4) BA (the therapeutic approach you need)15:48 (5) The 6 ways to get back on track 37:18 Caveat 1 (functional equivalence)41:29 Caveat 2 (social support)42:02 Summary & outro rizzLucy's work:psyche.co/guides/how-to-engage-with-life-when-you-feel-downlucyfoulkes.comPDF:getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/ActivityDiary.pdfCheck out this full guide we did on depression:youtube.com/watch?v=Wrz5gp5Y7ts&t=1416s
lets chill n figure out how to stop hating ourselves ☠️ Newel of Knowledge 2025-07-16 | I send out a free newsletter every Thursday to 6700+ people that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
the social skill you didnt know you needed Newel of Knowledge 2025-07-10 | #boundaries #communication #socialskills I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbVideos mentioned:youtube.com/watch?v=erQVf1aD5B0&t=17syoutube.com/watch?v=i6-5CWHeAsM&t=1885s0:00 The 7 signs & 8 reasons...2:10 What we'll cover...3:20 (1) The 3 types of boundaries 9:25 The "what's on your plate?" exercise 13:02 (2) The 2 simple steps of setting a boundary 25:36 Healthy vs unhealthy ultimatums 30:04 The table exercise 33:40 (3) The 8 common responses from others when you set a boundary 44:59 (4) The guilt trip & how to deal with it 54:44 (5) How to deal with passive aggression & manipulation 59:10 (6) When should you cut off / rekindle a connection?1:01:00 (7) Healthy self-boundaries 1:02:27 Summary & outro rizz
how to become so motivated people think youve got a rocket up your a*s Newel of Knowledge 2025-07-04 | #motivation #motivational #psychology I send out a free newsletter to 6753+ people every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
this 2 minute hack made me quit my bad habits Newel of Knowledge 2025-06-26 | #habits #psychology #selfimprovement I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Tip 12:33 Tip 25:14 Tip 37:50 Summary
the quickest and easiest way to make new friends (no matter your age) Newel of Knowledge 2025-06-20 | #social #socialskills #friendship I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The friendship formula 2:26 Trying to be mysterious 3:35 (1) What to do with yourself when you go to this place8:51 Live demonstration of foe vs friend signals 11:23 (2) What to say to people 15:49 Outro rizz
your presence has purpose, so stop performing. Newel of Knowledge 2025-06-11 | I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
how to take excellent care of yourself without being cringe Newel of Knowledge 2025-06-02 | #selfcare #psychology #selfcompassion I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The bottom line of this video 1:38 What we’re going to cover…2:14 Opening quote from Socrates 2:48 (1) What actually is self care?7:30 (2) What is self-compassion?14:12 (3) Why self-criticism doesn’t work 25:33 The self compassion gym 27:08 (1) Analyse your current beliefs of self compassion 28:09 (2) What is your self talk like? 29:38 (3) Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of a loving, caring friend 31:11 (4) Find your values 36:45 (5) Realise those who argue against self compassion still practice it 38:55 (6) Natural vs unnatural desires 41:07 (7) Cook for yourself 43:11 (8) Be in the right place (Topofilia) 46:40 (9) Befriend your inner critic 48:06 (10) Replace judgemental thoughts with factual ones 50:15 (11) You are not a computer 59:15 (12) Set “do” rather than “don’t do” goals 59:59 (13) Unfollow people who make you feel insecure 1:01:03 (14) Admit what you want 1:02:35 (15) Your presence has purpose 1:07:29 Outro rizz References: Mark Manson Values video:youtu.be/uvXdMPNhp9M?si=4ZTVEXS9RceDXE0TMy values video:youtu.be/iYPvgeYGDhg?si=Yp1fx9K4gBi3Swq_All articles read for this video:(Topofilia):psyche.co/ideas/place-authenticity-is-an-important-overlooked-part-of-lifeYou’re not a computer:psyche.co/ideas/youre-not-a-computer-youre-a-tiny-stone-in-a-beautiful-mosaicChristina Chywl:psyche.co/ideas/self-compassion-is-not-self-indulgence-heres-how-to-try-itCooking:psyche.co/guides/how-to-use-kitchen-therapy-to-nourish-your-sense-of-self
why is it so hard to just do nothing? Newel of Knowledge 2025-05-23 | #bored I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Welcome2:07 Why do nothing?3:43 (1) You're terrified of what you might find in the nothingness 7:09 (2) When everyone is sick, we no longer consider it a disease 19:45 [1] Constant busyness = no internal security/stillness23:29 [2] You can only get used to yourself in the space of nothingness 27:05 [3] Doing nothing = restoration, not depletion 32:55 [4] Presence over productivity 35:27 Outro rizz
watch this when you feel afraid... Newel of Knowledge 2025-05-13 | #fear I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 your life expands or shrinks in proportion to your courage…1:30 why principles?2:08 our intention 2:29 2 definitions of courage 3:10 (1) In sterquiliniis invenitur 7:56 (2) Things are always scarier before they happen 9:58 (3) All growth is a leap in the dark 13:16 (4) Faith in yourself isn’t holding on to yourself but letting go17:23 (5) “It feels scary because it’s unfamiliar, not because I’m incapable.”20:19 (6) The fears you don’t face become your limits. So facing them = freedom23:00 (7) Know your real edge and don’t fake it 32:29 (8) It’s either a good time or a good story 33:39 (9) Failure = the price you pay for growth 34:54 (10) Sometimes the fear doesn’t go away, so you’ll have to do it afraid
how to know exactly what you want Newel of Knowledge 2025-05-04 | I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Hello0:52 What is desire?3:03 (1) The Alan Watts principle 4:06 (2) Where you lack gratitude, you likely have a desire6:28 (3) Going after what you want is risky, hence...8:54 (4) The lessons you need are in the tasks you're avoiding 13:22 (5) You can want something you don't like and like something you don't want 22:19 (6) The contract with your unconscious 27:27 A final word of optimism...
you know exactly what to do. Newel of Knowledge 2025-04-24 | I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
destroy any limiting belief in 28 minutes Newel of Knowledge 2025-04-15 | #psychology #limitingbeliefs #mind I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 ...0:50 (1) Find them 9:38 (2) Accept that you see the world through a filter 12:30 (3) Slow down and articulate it 16:47 (4) Try a different filter 21:56 (5) Reject the double standards 24:36 (6) Accept you're not a rational robot 28:08 Summary & outro rizzRebecca Roache's work:rebeccaroache.weebly.compsyche.co/guides/how-philosophy-can-help-change-the-beliefs-that-hold-you-back
the quickest way to connect with new people Newel of Knowledge 2025-04-07 | #socialskills #social #communication I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Risky social skills advice...1:23 A better alternative...3:02 How to use your name5:19 Summary & outro rizz
watch this if your life feels like a never ending list of tasks... Newel of Knowledge 2025-03-31 | #psychology #lifestyle #goals I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 1 reason...1:28 The bottom line...2:11 Completion is an illusion 3:06 Completion vs maintenance 8:50 Ask yourself these questions...10:32 Your mind will always desire completion12:01 Outro rizz
give me 9 minutes & Ill make you more confident than a drunk pirate Newel of Knowledge 2025-03-23 | #confidence #psychology #fear drink up me 'hearties yo hoI send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 That's just not how confidence works...1:31 The 2 mantras of confidence 2:12 The secret way to fuel confidence without evidence 🤫3:44 Remember these 3 things...5:04 Stretch vs panic zones7:26 An alternative to "get comfy being uncomfy" 8:30 Questions...9:10 Outro rizz
negative thoughts are heavy, here’s how to let go of them... Newel of Knowledge 2025-03-15 | I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Sticky thoughts...0:40 Why are self-defeating thoughts so sticky?4:55 Why fighting them doesn't work 7:05 (1) Recognise when a thought is unworkable 8:45 (2) Connect to the present moment10:07 How to distance yourself from your thoughts12:26 (3) Make choices that align with your values 14:32 (4) Tune into the emotion behind the thought 16:41 Summary & outro rizzTherapist who inspired this video:contextualconsulting.co.uk/presenter/dr-joe-oliver
how to easily overcome social anxiety in 14 minutes Newel of Knowledge 2025-03-08 | #social #socialskills #anxiety I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Overwhelming...0:43 Why social anxiety is overwhelming... 1:46 (1) The physiological sigh 3:08 (2) Set intentions 5:18 Why does setting intentions work?7:37 (1) What's the story?9:55 (2) Give them material 12:28 (3) Tell people you feel anxious 13:38 Summary & outro rizz
a message to someone with suicidal thoughts... Newel of Knowledge 2025-03-04 | Confidential helplines and sources of support:Samaritans 116 123 samaritans.orgPapyrusPrevention of Young Suicide0800 068 41 41www.papyrus-uk.orgMaytreeA sanctuary for the suicidal02072637070maytree.org.ukCalmCampaign Against Living Miserably0800 58 58 58www.thecalmzone.netI send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
how to finally stop being your own worst enemy. Newel of Knowledge 2025-02-27 | #psychology #mentalhealth I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 You & I both know...0:26 Surely natural selection got it wrong?1:20 "It's you vs you."2:50 Self-negotiation5:35 The bigger picture...6:46 (1) Going to the balcony12:44 (2) Find your 'BATNA'21:02 (3) Reframe your picture21:48 (4) Respect them 'even if'22:27 (5) Give and receive 23:37 Reversal 26:38 Final word of warning & outro rizz
how to speak powerfully Newel of Knowledge 2025-02-21 | #communication #psychology #social I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Know-it-all-profe 0:19 Charisma 1:04 (1) Verbs vs nouns (motivating others)3:47 (2) I can't vs I don't (rules) 8:50 (3) Shoulds vs coulds (making decisions)12:09 (4) You (capturing attention)14:40 Summary & outro rizz
give me 33 minutes and Ill teach you how to quit ANY bad habit or addiction Newel of Knowledge 2025-02-12 | #psychology #habits #badhabits I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Bad habits are useful...1:20 The bigger picture3:41 (1) Your brain didn't evolve to do your bad habits...5:40 (2) The enemy of quitting bad habits...10:09 (3) Curiosity vs judgement 13:19 (4) Understanding how human needs work27:52 (5) The most practical question you can ask...30:01 (6) The non-escaping life 32:40 Outro rizz
how to actually figure out what to do with your life Newel of Knowledge 2025-02-05 | #decision #decisionmaking #life Raw vid. I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
2 reasons self-discipline makes you miserable. Newel of Knowledge 2025-01-29 | #discipline #psychology #selfdevelopment I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The 2 reasons. 0:29 (1) Unmet needs. 8:25 (2) Hatred vs love.Title ideas:why being more 'disciplined' won't solve your problems.
youre not an overthinker, youve just never been taught this... Newel of Knowledge 2025-01-21 | #psychology #thinking #overthinking I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 We can all agree...0:25 The myth of overthinking 1:58 2 therapeutic approaches to deal with overthinking3:22 (1) Get to know your trigger thoughts and let them be6:45 (2) Recognise what you can and can't control 10:02 (3) Postpone and reduce your worries 13:09 (4) Avoid avoidance and train your attention 15:09 Exercise 121:39 Exercise 222:39 Summary & outro rizztitle ideas:how to escape the overthinking cycle. your overthinking ends now.you overthink things because no one has taught you this...
the evolutionary psychology of emotions (lecture) Newel of Knowledge 2025-01-18 | #psychology #emotions #evolutionarypsychology I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The situation0:58 Some quick examples 3:39 The promise & problems with modern psychiatry 5:55 What we’ll cover 6:54 (1) What are emotions?11:12 (2) For your genes, not you 19:40 (3) Emotions & goals 33:07 (4) How negative emotions can be useful 44:40 (5) Depression & low mood 1:01:26 (6) 6 ways to deal with your emotions 1:11:03 Summary & outro rizz…
why venting is worse than you think Newel of Knowledge 2025-01-10 | #psychology #communication #venting I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbStudies mentioned:pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18665693 pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20876385 0:00 We’ve all been there…0:54 (1) Why you vent 2:00 (2) Why venting makes you feel worse7:05 (3) How to actually help someone who’s venting 18:23 (4) Bonus tips + what to do when you vent 20:15 Outro rizz
6 life problems you’ll never solve. Newel of Knowledge 2025-01-03 | #selfdevelopment #psychology I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Deep down…0:16 (1) Uncertainty 3:17 (2) Productivity 6:58 (3) Insecurity 8:53 (4) Exposure 10:02 (5) Pleasure 11:38 (6) Problems 12:52 Final word + outro rizz
create a brand new YOU in 87 minutes Newel of Knowledge 2024-12-27 | #psychology #change #neuroscience Get the full video notes for free here 📝:newelofknowledge.com/letters/video-notes-create-a-brand-new-you-in-87-minutesI send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbListen to this on spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/4rQDcdqPy6cDEikSrXkHjE?si=338b9755163a4c6d0:00 I was fed up too…0:40 The loop of sameness 2:24 The 2 attitudes 4:00 The garden analogy of behaviour change14:09 (1) The enemy & the hero (diagnosing the problem) 25:21 (2) How your thought-feeling loops manifest 49:50 (3) Coherence (the ideal state) 55:25 (4) Enact change 1:26:57 Final quote & outro rizz
understand this about the brain and your life will instantly improve Newel of Knowledge 2024-12-09 | #psychology #neuroscience #mentalhealth Shoutouts to Lisa (top G).I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Your brain predicts (almost) everything you do1:06 (1) Why your brain makes predictions5:38 (2) What do you see in these 3 images?8:20 (3) How your brain makes predictions9:36 (4) The double arrow problem (Buddhism) 11:55 (5) Survival vs accuracy 13:19 (6) What happens when a prediction is wrong?15:22 (7) How to update your brain’s predictions 21:29 BONUS point.
this social skill will guarantee people like you. Newel of Knowledge 2024-12-02 | #social #socialskills #conflict I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Invite them to talk without asking a thing...0:56 The 2 contexts 2:05 The enemy to good communication is denying the negative 3:17 4 ways to craft your label8:55 A warning for crafting good labels...12:43 (1) Applying labels to conflict resolution 16:28 (2) How to label to make someone's day
how to turn your mind off so you can actually fall asleep Newel of Knowledge 2024-11-28 | #sleep #sleeping #psychology I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gbNick's article:psyche.co/guides/how-to-sleep-when-youre-a-perfectionist-and-high-achieverTitle ideas:how to turn your mind off so you can actually fall asleepoverthinking keeping you awake? Do this...overthinking keeping you awake before bed? Do this...
how to never feel shy again Newel of Knowledge 2024-11-24 | #shyness #socialskills #social I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Biology or philosophy?0:57 Shyness vs social anxiety vs introversion 1:27 Preface...2:20 How to overcome shyness5:02 4 tips for starting conversations...9:44 Destroy the pedestals 11:55 You're a buyer, not a seller12:59 How exposed can you be?14:14 Final tip & outro rizz
Give Me 70 Minutes and Ill Boost Your Communication Skills by 130% (Full NVC Guide) Newel of Knowledge 2024-11-17 | #communication #socialskills #social I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 Tears, anger, confusion & lack of connection...0:24 Overview of NVC 2:36 The 3 horsemen of the bad communication apocalypse 4:49 (1) Observe without evaluating 11:29 Exercise 1: observation or evaluation? 15:00 The pipe analogy 15:59 (2) Identify & express feelings 20:04 Exercise 2: feeling or not?23:10 How to express your feelings better 25:51 (3) Taking responsibility in your speech 27:07 How you become a people pleaser 29:30 The 3 stages of relationships 31:23 Exercise 3: responsibility taken or not?34:23 The easiest way to adopt responsibility for your emotions35:20 How to never take anything personally again38:10 How to deal with negative messages 38:34 (4) Anger is a way of tricking yourself 41:22 (5) The 5 steps of solving conflict 44:05 (6) Connect feelings to needs47:54 (7) Make specific requests 54:19 Exercise 4: specific & positive request or not?57:33 (8) How to receive others empathically 01:07:32 (9) NVC with yourself 01:09:37 Outro rizz
lets turn the screens off for a bit aye? Newel of Knowledge 2024-11-11 | May this help whoever needs it most. I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb
why trying to control yourself doesnt work Newel of Knowledge 2024-11-06 | #psychology #selfcontrol #selfimprovement I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 23 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 What if I told you...0:57 (1) Why self control doesn't work 5:50 (2) How to conquer any temptation (the temptation generation cycle) 16:35 (3) The more strategies you use the better (brute force vs strategy) 18:06 (4) Self-negotiation 25:22 (5) A word of warning for your mental health... 33:10 Outro & community update
Admit it... cheap dopamine is ruining your life Newel of Knowledge 2024-11-01 | #psychology #dopamine #selfimprovement I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb0:00 The molecule that controls your life 1:53 (1) What is dopamine?4:09 Further analogies of dopamine 8:14 (2) The dopamine scale 11:57 (3) Why you fall into a rut 14:35 (4) Dopamine hangovers 20:57 (5) Hard choices, easy life 23:34 (6) 8 protocols to leverage dopamine release for maximal flourishing 38:06 Summary & outro rizzTitle ideas:the molecule that controls your life everything you need to understand about dopamine how to leverage your dopamine release for maximal flourishing
youve been lied to about self esteem Newel of Knowledge 2024-10-25 | #psychology #selfesteem #confidence I never want us to revisit this topic again. So here's everything you need to know about it. I send out a free newsletter every Thursday that'll improve your mental health & social skills. Join here (it takes 20 seconds): ⬇️🔥newelofknowledge.com Twitter: twitter.com/NewelOfKnow Instagram: instagram.com/newelofknow/?hl=en-gb-------------Research:Origins of the self esteem movement:theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/jun/03/quasi-religious-great-self-esteem-con Toxic positivity:psyche.co/ideas/what-makes-toxic-positivity-different-from-a-healthy-attitude Videos watched:youtube.com/watch?v=gC5hAAvhClE youtube.com/watch?v=Aa8nJk00REs Article on pride vs narcissism: psyche.co/guides/how-to-feel-more-pride-in-your-hard-earned-achievements -------------0:00 "Just love yourself!"0:52 (1) The fragile origins of the self esteem movement 2:41 (2) The issues with self esteem 10:09 (3) The problem with toxic positivity 15:35 (4) How self esteem actually works 24:31 (5) How to increase your self esteem 44:53 (6) Pride vs narcissism 55:03 Summary & outro rizzTitle ideasself esteem is not what you think it is
