Jiddu Krishnamurti on marriage, relationships, family and love Gábor Hényel 2014-11-29 | "What generally goes under the name of love has nothing to do with love at all. Love is not attraction. If you say 'I love you more than everybody else' that in translation means that 'I'm attracted to you more than to others', 'you draw me more than others', 'you fit the programming in my head better than other people do'; which is not very flattering to you. People sometimes say, 'What does he find in her?', 'What does he see in her?' and then say, 'Love is blind!' Ha ha! Attraction is blind but not love. There is nothing so clear-sighted as love. You know where that 'love' comes from? It comes from you and not from me. It doesn't spring from me. You draw me. What happens the day I cease to be attractive? Well, you hold onto me out of guilt, out of loyalty, out of an ideal, but love in your sense of the word has died, if love for you means attraction. It's gone. That's where attraction always ends up. You're attracted, and if you give into that attraction then gratification follows, and after that wearisomeness, or if it persists then anxiety. 'I hope I can keep this! I hope somebody else doesn't get it!' Possessiveness, jealousy, fear of loss. That isn't love. Another thing that love is not: it is not dependency. Now, it's very good to depend on people, as we all depend on one another or we wouldn't have society. Wonderful! But to depend on another for your happiness is what the evil is - that someone would have the power to decide whether you would be happy or not. If you ever give this power to somebody you'll be fearful. You will manipulate. You cannot leave that person free because your happiness depends on this person. You're a burden. Sometimes you get two empty, two incomplete people depending, leaning on one another like two dominos, and when one moves the other falls. Is that love? Love is not the assuaging of our loneliness. People feel empty inside and they rush to fill the emptiness with someone. They run into other people's arms to assuage the loneliness. That isn't love. Most people who talk about love are talking about a thing of the market. It's a bargain. 'You'll be good to me and I'll be good to you.' 'You'll be nice to me and I'll be nice to you.' It's funny that the moment you're not nice to me those nice feelings I had toward you turned sour. Is that love? Just as you can strike a deal with money you're only striking a deal with your emotions, and that's supposed to be love. Here is another surprise: love is not desire. 'I desire you with all my heart!' Ha ha! You know in as much as I love you I don't desire you. 'I enjoy you thoroughly, but I'm too full to need you.' Centuries ago Buddha had these marvellous words to say: 'The world is full of sorrow. The root of sorrow is desire. The uprooting of sorrow is desirelessness.' Let's translate that better, because by desire he meant a desire on who's fulfillment my happiness depends; and our societies and our cultures are the whole time encouraging us to add to these desires, so we're more and more programmed to unhappiness and to non-love: the world is full of sorrow and the root of sorrow is craving. The uprooting of sorrow is cravinglessness. 'I desire all kinds of things but I don't desperately need anything. If that desire is not fulfilled I'll be quite happy.' Sometimes people say: 'If you had no desire or ambition would you ever achieve anything?' See, that's one of the things we were brainwashed into. They told us that 'if you don't have an ambition you won't do anything.' They forgot that there is so much energy and delight in working, whereas the ambition brings tension. Listen to these marvellous words of the great Chinese sage, Chuang Tzu: 'When an archer shoots for nothing he has all his skills. When he shoots for a brass buckle he is already nervous. When he shoots for a prize of gold he goes blind. He is out of his mind. He sees two targets. His skill has not changed but the prize divides him. He cares. He thinks more of winning than of shooting and the need to win drains him of power.' Isn't that marvellous? It was your ambition that drained you of power. You were driving with your brakes on. You were tense. So the world is full of sorrow and the root of sorrow is craving. Marriages that are built on craving are so fragile. They're so ready to fall apart. 'I have expectations of you and you'd better live up to them or else!' 'You have expectations of me and I'd better live up to them or else!' See, you need me and I need you. I need to find my happiness in you and you need to find your happiness in me; and that's where the struggle begins. That's where the possessiveness begins. But you know, wherever there is desire, in this sense of the word, there is a threat, and where there is a threat there is fear, and where there is fear there is no love, because we always hate what we fear; and perfect love casts out fear." -Anthony de Mello"Where there is love there is no attachment." -Anthony de Mello
Jiddu Krishnamurti - Why dont you change? Gábor Hényel 2014-11-22 | "You don't care if your children are murdered. You don't have real love and affection for them. If you had you'd prevent all wars."---"We are all One, basically. Not as an idea but as a fact. Because when you go to India you see the misery, the confusion, the anxiety, the despair of people, running to their petit little gods whom they have created. If you come to Europe, it's exactly the same thing. You'll sense a thirst to realise, not verbally, but in your heart, in your blood, your whole thinking, that human beings right through the world go through the same agonies that one goes through. The loneliness, the despair, the depressions. The extraordinary uncertainty, insecurity. Whether they live ten thousand miles away or two thousand miles, or here, they're all psychologically bound together. If one realises that profoundly in your guts, in your blood, in your heart, in your mind, then you're responsible" -J. Krishnamurti
Jiddu Krishnamurti - Selflessness (Youre in your own way) Gábor Hényel 2014-11-22 | "A good is never so good as when you have no awareness that you're doing good. You are never so good as when you have no consciousness that you're good." :) -Anthony de Mello---"Don't trust people! Get disillusioned with your best friends! They're very clever, just as you are when you're dealing with everybody, though you probably don't know it. Ah, you're so wily and subtle and clever. YOU'RE PUTTING ON A GREAT ACT AND YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW IT. You think you're being so loving. Ha ha! Whom are you loving? Even when you go in for self-sacrifice. It gives you a good feeling, doesn't it? "Me? I'm sacrificing myself!" "I'm living up to my ideal!" Boy, you're getting something out of it, aren't you? You're always getting something out of everything you do - until you wake up." -Anthony de Mello------"What has to happen is that we have to come back to a sane view of our own life, the way we really are: an organism functioning in terms of the whole environment, with the whole environment, instead of this funny little separate personality. But how are we going to do that? People say, 'You can't change human nature overnight. You're asking us to give up the ego, and that's the most difficult of all things to do.' Actually it isn't, because your ego doesn't exist; but of course IF YOU TRY TO GIVE UP YOUR EGO WITH YOUR EGO THEN IT WILL TAKE YOU TO THE END OF TIME. Because this is the point: you CANNOT MAKE yourself sane, you CANNOT MAKE yourself loving, you CANNOT MAKE yourself unselfish; not by anything that we call 'doing it', 'acting', 'willing' or even just 'accepting things'. You can't do it. Why? Because you don't really exist as that kind of a separate ego or personality. It's just an idea, based on a phony feeling. So, when it comes down to it, it's shocking news for us - for the human race -, for our pride. You're only making a mess by trying to put things straight. You're trying to straighten out a wiggly world, and no wonder you're in trouble. So, if you can't do anything and you can't transform yourself, then what can you do? What happens if you actually realize you've come to a dead end? Commit suicide? Or is there something else? What happens when you just wait because there is nothing you can do? You watch. And all you see is what goes on that is happening of itself: you're breathing, the wind is blowing, the trees are waving, your blood is circulating, your nerves are tingling. It's all going on of itself. Just as your brain is functioning properly without you forcing it. But, you know, that's the real you. The you that goes on of itself." -Alan Watts
Jiddu Krishnamurti - This is not an entertainment Gábor Hényel 2014-11-21 | "This is not an entertainment. It's not an intellectual feast or an intellectual stimulation, or some kind of romantic, sentimental nonsense." ... "I think we ought to go TOGETHER into these matters; not that you listen and the speaker talks but TOGETHER." ... "Listen very carefully not only to what is being said, but also to our own reactions to what is being said. To our reaction of approval or disapproval, to our sense of restrictions, to our resistances, to our fears and to all the complexity of our reactions TO ANY FORM OF STIMULATION." ... "We are very circumscribed and limited. Our brains have been programmed and conditioned, and we are so limited that most of us are unaware of this. We are conditioned linguistically. We are conditioned, shaped, moulded by the environment, by tradition, by religion, BY THE SOLITUDE OF OUR OWN ILLUSIONS, OUR OWN IMAGINATONS, THE SOLITUDE OF OUR OWN ASPIRATIONS." ... "WE ARE SO CONCERNED WITH OURSELVES, WITH OUR SUCCESS, WITH OUR MISERIES and all the turmoil of one's own limited life - the sorrow, the pain, the anxiety, the various forms of reactions which arise from our prejudices, our bias, our tendencies. All this conditions our brain, and so we never have the AWARENESS OF THE WHOLE LIFE, the whole of existence which is vast, immeasurable and tremendously potent." ... "Unless we break through all this conditioning we'll go on as we've been going on for thousands of years. Violence will go on, corruption, EACH ONE SEEKING HIS OWN FULFILLMENT AND PURSUING HIS OWN AMBITIONS, ISOLATED; and where there is isolation THERE MUST BE CONFLICT."
Joe Rogan - Were all full of shit (Stand-up) Gábor Hényel 2014-09-25 | Joe Rogan - Devolution of stupid people: youtube.com/watch?v=6YhKZTdqnco
Joe Rogan - Devolution of stupid people (Stand-up) Gábor Hényel 2014-09-25 | Joe Rogan - We're all full of shit: youtube.com/watch?v=I9kFR3u8EKs
George Carlin - Colonizing space Gábor Hényel 2014-09-19 | George Carlin - Why aliens wouldn't wanna say hello: youtube.com/watch?v=FfmnnjLUj1k
George Carlin - War is prick-waving (The bigger dick foreign policy theory) Gábor Hényel 2014-05-14 | ...
George Carlin - Why aliens wouldnt wanna say hello Gábor Hényel 2014-05-05 | Related: George Carlin on colonizing space: youtube.com/watch?v=3hcWWTF8WUw
George Carlin - NIMBY (Not in my back yard) (Dealing with homelessness) Gábor Hényel 2014-05-03 | ...
Abraham Hicks - Where is my stuff? Gábor Hényel 2014-04-12 | "...unless you are one of the co-operative components."
Richard Rose - What is behind life? Gábor Hényel 2014-03-30 | "The mistake that's made is that we think that we are going to determine what life is going to do for us."---More from Richard: youtube.com/playlist?list=PLzEEjsU44dvj5K_Waz38coKGGgwxWJXVt(A playlist for my videos from him.)
Richard Rose - It doesnt make sense to meditate on pleasure if you want to know who you are Gábor Hényel 2014-03-30 | More from Richard: youtube.com/playlist?list=PLzEEjsU44dvj5K_Waz38coKGGgwxWJXVt(A playlist for my videos from him.)
Richard Rose - Letting go Gábor Hényel 2014-03-30 | More from Richard: youtube.com/playlist?list=PLzEEjsU44dvj5K_Waz38coKGGgwxWJXVt(A playlist for my videos from him.)
U. G. Krishnamurti - You are a computer Gábor Hényel 2014-03-29 | "You never look at anything without knowing what you are looking at."
