My life after Love on the Spectrum | Kaelynn Partlow Able to Care with Andy Baker 2026-09-25 | My life after Love on the Spectrum | Kaelynn Partlow
What is dementia Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-20 | 🧠 Dementia isn’t one illness—it’s an umbrella term describing many symptoms.Meghan explains why no two people with dementia are ever the same.🎧 Full episode out tomorrow – subscribe so you don’t miss it.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #DementiaCare #AlzheimersAwareness
Behaviourism doesnt work Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-18 | 💡 Punishment suppresses behaviour—but it doesn’t teach a new skill.If we don’t help people meet their needs differently, the behaviour returns.🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #TraumaInformed
Alternative method to punishment Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-17 | 💡 If we only punish, we don’t teach what to do instead.Behaviour we track, acknowledge, and reinforce is what we get.🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out today – watch now.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #TraumaInformed
6 Behaviour Strategies BETTER Than punishment (Backed by Research) Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-17 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareOne of the most common beliefs in behaviour management: consequences are the best way for people to learn. While society often demands punishment or “accountability,” consequences are actually one of the least effective tools—and why they can damage mental health, increase shame, and fail to teach new skills.This episode is essential listening for carers, parents, teachers, foster carers, support workers, and anyone who wants to move from punishment to progress. Real behaviour change comes from connection, regulation, and skill-building—not fear.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share with someone who still thinks “consequences are the only way”▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Repairing Conflict: What Happens AFTER Behaviour Matters Most”#behavioursupport #traumainformedcare #parentingtips #caregiversupport
6 Smarter Ways to Teach Behaviour (Without Punishment) Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-16 | Are consequences the only way to manage behaviour? In this thought-provoking solo episode, behaviour specialist and trainer Andy Baker challenges one of the most commonly accepted ideas in parenting, education, and care: that consequences are the best way to teach behaviour.From the science of brain regulation to trauma-informed practice and real-world stories, Andy shares six powerful, research-backed strategies that are not only more effective—but also kinder. Whether you're a parent, teacher, support worker or carer, this episode will shift your mindset and give you tools to build connection instead of control.💙 Sponsored by:Are you caring for someone, paid or unpaid? You could be missing out on thousands of pounds in discounts.Carers Card UK offers: • ID card with emergency info access • Exclusive discounts on gyms, days out, electrical goods, and more Access to a wellbeing hub, Carers Circle tool, and mobile app All for less than the price of a box of chocolates per year. 🎟️ Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources Mentioned: • Polyvagal Theory – Explained by NICABM (nicabm.com/topic/polyvagal-theory-explained/#:~:text=The%20nervous%20system%20has%20three,to%20using%20older%20evolutionary%20responses.) • Andy Baker’s Book: Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge (hub.able-training.co.uk/product/targeting-the-positive-with-behaviours-that-challenge) 💡 Three Key Messages: 1. Punishment isn't teaching—it’s suppression. True behaviour change comes from teaching, not controlling. Consequences alone rarely build long-term learning or emotional resilience. 2. Connection is the most powerful behaviour tool we have. Co-regulation, empathy, storytelling and reflection help build the skills needed to manage behaviour from the inside out. 3. Investing time upfront saves time later. It may feel quicker to impose a consequence, but when we use modelling and skill-building instead, we reduce repeat incidents. ⏱️ Episode Chapters: • 00:00 – Consequences aren’t the only tool • 00:25 – Sponsor: Carers Card UK • 01:46 – Why we default to punishment: evolution, culture, behaviourism • 03:46 – How punishment creates a cycle of low self-esteem • 04:50 – The brain under stress: why consequences fail when dysregulated • 05:37 – Shame, deflection, and emotional safety • 06:00 – The 6 teaching tools that work better than consequences: • 1. Modelling 1. Practice & rehearsal 1. Co-regulation 1. Reflection & repair 1. Storytelling & metaphor 1. Natural/logical consequences • 13:52 – What about accountability? • 15:23 – Is this all too “soft”? Or is it strategic? • 16:22 – Weekly challenge: replace one consequence with a teaching tool 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode?This episode flips the script on how we teach behaviour—whether you’re a parent, teacher, carer, or support worker. You’ll walk away with practical, compassionate alternatives to traditional discipline, rooted in psychology, neuroscience and real-life application.If you’ve ever asked:➡️ “What else can I do when consequences don’t work?...
it’s about the children Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-16 | 🤝 Consistency. Honesty. Transparency.It’s not a fight—it’s about the children.Lee Crouch shares how trust was built between his family and foster carers.🎧 The Able to Care Podcast episode is out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #FosterCare #ParentalAdvocacy
Don’t give up. There’s always hope. Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-15 | 💬 Don’t give up. There’s always hope.Lee Crouch’s message to parents everywhere: you’re not alone.🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out now – watch today. #CarePodcast #ParentalAdvocacy #CareSystem
The system sometimes does more harm than good Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-14 | 💔 He set fire to a house screaming, ‘I want to go home.Lee Crouch shares how sometimes the system meant to protect ends up causing pain.🎧 The new Able to Care Podcast episode is out today – watch now.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #Safeguarding #CareSystem
A Father’s Fight for Reunification: From losing his kids to winning them back Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-14 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker speaks with parental advocate and author Lee Crouch about one of the most painful and misunderstood journeys a parent can face—having their children taken into care.Lee shares the raw truth of sitting in court, losing his children, and battling stigma, grief, and hopelessness. But his story doesn’t end there.Through courage, accountability, emotional growth, and relentless love, Lee transformed his life and fought for reunification. This episode is essential listening for parents, foster carers, social workers, child protection teams, and anyone who believes in healing over judgment. It’s emotional, eye-opening, and full of hope.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share with carers, teachers, or parents who need hope and understanding▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Recognising Escalation: How to De-escalate Behaviour Before Crisis”#parentaladvocacy #fostercare #traumainformedcare #caregiversupport
When the System Takes Your Child: A Father’s Fight to Reunite Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-13 | In this powerful episode, Andy Baker is joined by Lee Crouch, a father, advocate, and author of Lee’s Journey, who opens up about his experience of losing his children to the care system—and the long, painful road to reunification. Lee discusses the trauma of forced separation, the flaws within social care systems, and how hope, consistency, and accountability helped rebuild his family.With raw honesty and incredible humility, Lee speaks directly to parents, foster carers, and professionals—offering a unique insight into what real change and co-parenting can look like, even after unimaginable loss.💙 Sponsored by: Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources Mentioned: • Dementia UK: Admiral Nurses (dementiauk.org/information-and-support/how-we-can-support-you/what-is-an-admiral-nurse) • Andy Baker’s Book: Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge (hub.able-training.co.uk/product/targeting-the-positive-with-behaviours-that-challenge) 💡 Three Key Messages: 1. You Can’t Co-Parent Without Trust—Even in the Care System Lee highlights how positive relationships between parents and foster carers are possible and powerful—with transparency, humility, and shared purpose. 2. Accountability and Hope Can Coexist Lee doesn’t shy away from the mistakes that led to his children’s removal. But he shows that ownership, emotional growth, and persistence can lead to reunification. 3. The System Must Change Its Lens Parents are not case files. Children are not tick boxes. Lee calls for earlier support, post-removal care for parents, and system accountability when placements fail. ⏱️ Episode Chapters: • 00:00 – Intro & Carers Card UK sponsor • 01:47 – Meet Lee: Author, father, and advocate • 04:00 – The day everything changed: courtroom heartbreak • 08:00 – Fighting the system & fighting for change • 14:00 – Emotional transformation and vulnerability in men • 20:00 – Sky, Leighton, Summer & Caden: the children’s individual journeys • 28:00 – Co-parenting with foster carers vs. instability in placements • 35:00 – Caden’s trauma: when the system fails a child • 44:00 – Post-removal support (or lack of it) • 52:00 – The fight for parental advocacy • 58:00 – Reunification: where the children are now • 01:04:00 – Final message to parents: Don’t give up hope 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode?This is more than a podcast—it’s a call to action. Whether you’re a parent, social worker, foster carer, policymaker, or professional, Lee’s story offers a rare and deeply moving look at what real change, compassion, and collaboration can achieve.You’ll leave this episode feeling challenged, heartbroken, and hopeful all at once.📲 Stay Connected📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk)
How Lee reacted to his kids being taken Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-13 | 💔 We were falling apart. Angry. Broken. But then we realised—we were fighting the wrong battle.Lee Crouch shares how one painful moment became the turning point for his family.🎧 Full episode out tomorrow – subscribe so you don’t miss it.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #ParentalAdvocacy #FamilyResilience
Too fat to be anorexic Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-08 | Too fat to be anorexic. 💔This stigma is dangerous — and it still exists today.We talked about this with Gemma Oaten nearly a year ago on the Able to Care Podcast, but it’s still just as relevant now.🎧 Watch the full episode from 12th November 2024 on our channel.#EatingDisorderAwareness #AbleToCarePodcast #MentalHealthMatters
Dementia Mistaken for Depression Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-07 | Just depression.” That’s what Peter was told before his dementia diagnosis. 💔This story is still as relevant today as when we shared it nearly a year ago.🎧 Watch the full Able to Care Podcast episode now.youtube.com/watch?v=wwwdujpZhFU#DementiaAwareness #AbleToCarePodcast #MentalHealthAwareness
How nutrition can turn someones life around Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-05 | “She went from frail and depressed… to thriving with a smile.All because her meals were fortified with protein, cream, and nutrient-rich foods.”🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #NutritionInCare #HealthyAging
recency effect Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-04 | 🧠 It’s not the incident itself—it’s how it ends.The recency effect means the recovery phase reshapes the whole memory.🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #TraumaInformed
Repair strategies Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-03 | It’s not the outburst that defines the relationship.The real connection happens after, when the storm has passed.🎧 The new Able to Care Podcast episode is out today – watch now!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #RelationshipsMatter
Repairing Conflict: The Step We Often Miss in Care & Education Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-03 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker highlights a crucial but often overlooked part of behaviour support: repairing conflict after the storm has passed.Stopping a crisis is only the first step. What really shapes trust and future behaviour is what happens after the incident.This episode is essential listening for carers, parents, teachers, foster carers, and support staff who want to move from firefighting crises to building lasting trust and connection.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share with carers, teachers, or parents looking for better ways to handle conflict▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Recognising Escalation: How to De-escalate Behaviour Before Crisis”#behavioursupport #traumainformedcare #caregiversupport
The Power of Repair: Rebuilding Trust After Behaviour Challenges Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-02 | Most of us think behaviour management is about stopping the outburst—but the truth is, what happens afterwards matters even more. In this solo episode, Andy Baker unpacks the power of repair after conflict and why it’s the most overlooked stage in care, education, and family life. Learn how repair builds trust, strengthens relationships, and prevents repeated incidents—whether you’re a parent, teacher, or carer.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKThe Able to Care podcast is proudly sponsored by Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • Dan Siegel’s Name it to Tame it principle • Bowlby’s Attachment Theory • Andy Baker’s relational response flow (Connect → Resolve/Correct → Record/Reflect) 🧠 Three Key Messages 1. Repair is not optional – Behaviour isn’t truly resolved until trust is rebuilt afterwards. 2. Brains learn in recovery, not in crisis – Reflection works only once calm has returned. 3. Repair strengthens relationships – Consistent repair fosters safety, resilience, and long-term positive outcomes. ⏱️ Chapter Timestamps • 00:00 – Why repair is the missing piece in behaviour management • 02:00 – Understanding recovery vs. crisis learning • 04:15 – The neuroscience of memory and the recency effect • 06:00 – Repair, attachment theory, and building resilience • 08:30 – Practical frameworks: feelings before facts & reflection models • 11:00 – Real-world example: A parent choosing repair over confrontation • 13:00 – The PERFORM framework for debrief and moving on • 15:30 – Objections answered: “We don’t have time for repair” • 17:30 – Final reflection: Trust is built in recovery, not calm 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode?If you’ve ever wondered why the same behaviours keep happening, this episode will shift your perspective. You’ll walk away with practical tools for: • Rebuilding trust after conflict • Supporting children, adults, or older people more effectively • Saving time and energy by preventing repeat incidents This is essential listening for anyone in care, education, or parenting who wants stronger relationships and better outcomes. 🔗 Connect with Us📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk)
Why is nutrition important in later life Able to Care Podcast 2025-10-01 | Nutrition keeps us strong, independent, and out of hospital.Poor diet leads to frailty, falls, and slower recovery.🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #NutritionInCare #HealthyAging
What should all carers know about elderly and food_ Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-30 | It’s a myth that older people need less nutrition.Every mouthful matters—less carbs, more protein, more flavour.🎧 The new Able to Care Podcast episode is out today – watch now!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #NutritionInCare #HealthyAging
Nutrition in Later Life: Simple Changes with Big Impact Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-30 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this practical and compassionate episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker speaks with Mary Merheim, author of Navigating Nutrition in Later Life, about how small, thoughtful changes to food and mealtimes can dramatically improve nutrition for older adults.Mary draws on her own experience caring for her father and now supporting care homes and families, offering strategies that respect dignity, safety, and emotional well-being.This episode is a must-listen for care-home staff, family carers, and healthcare professionals who want practical, realistic tools to make mealtimes healthier and more positive for older people.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your experiences in the comments🔗 Share with colleagues and families supporting older adults in care▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Dignity in Care: Small Changes That Make a Big Difference”#nutrition #elderlynutrition #caregiversupport
Food, Frailty & Dignity: Supporting Nutrition in Older Age Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-29 | In this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker is joined by Mary Merheim, elderly nutrition consultant and author of Navigating Nutrition in Later Life. Mary shares practical insights into why appetite often declines with age, the hidden risks of malnutrition in older people, and the simple, everyday strategies carers can use to help loved ones eat well.From small snack hacks to re-thinking mealtime as a social connection, this conversation is full of advice for parents, carers, and professionals who want to ensure dignity, independence, and better health through food.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKCarers Card UK provides support, recognition and rewards for carers across the country. From discounts on gym memberships, clothing and days out, to access to wellbeing tools and a supportive community, it’s all available for less than the price of a box of chocolates a year.👉 Get your Carers Card today: Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • Mary’s Website: marymerheim.co.uk (http://admin5.podbean.com) • Grand Bars (nutritious cake snacks): grandbarsnacks.com (grandbarsnacks.com) • Mary’s Book: Navigating Nutrition in Later Life – available on Amazon (amazon.co.uk/Navigating-Nutrition-Later-Life-stronger/dp/B0D6G9KNJP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IR4C3VO4VP9W&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.NP4_W3lBYO_wpKC_Yt-TEg.pw2ha7qgK_bwFJYtPHK_K1EAvteXxwoCP2goO_yxhJc&dib_tag=se&keywords=Navigating+Nutrition+in+Later+Life+%E2%80%93+mary&qid=1758725501&sprefix=navigating+nutrition+in+later+life+mary%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1) • Follow Mary on TikTok for short tips: @MaryMerheim (tiktok.com/@marymerheimnutrition?_t=ZN-8zzm25TnJZe&_r=1) 🧠 Three Key Messages 1. Every mouthful matters – older adults still need nutrient-dense food, not just calories. 2. Social eating boosts appetite – shared meals encourage connection and prevent loneliness. 3. Small changes go far – whole milk, eggs, oats, and fortified snacks can transform daily nutrition. ⏱️ Chapter Timestamps00:00 – Introduction & Sponsor: Carers Card UK01:41 – Why nutrition in later life matters06:00 – Why appetite often declines with age12:00 – Signs of poor nutrition in older adults20:00 – Food, mood, and the link to mental health30:00 – Small changes that make a big difference40:00 – Practical snack and meal ideas50:00 – Real stories of nutrition improving lives55:00 – Gadgets, adjustments, and independence01:00:00 – Supporting people with dysphagia01:02:00 – Where to find Mary Merheim & Grand Bars🎯 Why Listen to This Episode?If you’ve ever worried about a loved one losing weight, refusing meals, or becoming frailer with age, this episode is essential listening. Mary provides evidence-based advice and compassionate guidance for carers and families navigating the tricky reality of appetite loss, malnutrition, and dignity in later life.You’ll walk away with practical tips you can use straight away – from making small swaps in the kitchen to transforming mealtimes into moments of joy and connection.🔗 Connect with Us📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk)
Why do older people lose their appetite? Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-29 | Why do older people lose their appetite?Loneliness, bereavement, and even medication side effects all play a part.”🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out tomorrow – subscribe so you don’t miss it!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #ElderCare #NutritionInCare
LGBTQ Inclusion Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-28 | 🌈 “When you come on duty, you must leave cultural differences behind—and respect.”Neil Cutler shares why LGBTQ+ inclusion in care still faces challenges today.🎧 Full episode out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #DementiaCare #LGBTInclusion
Lying monkeys Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-27 | Lying isn’t just human—monkeys do it too.False predator calls give them first pick of the food.Lying has a function—it’s adaptive.🎧 Full Able to Care Podcast episode out now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #ChildDevelopment #BehaviourMatters
Lying children Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-26 | 100% of five-year-olds lie in experiments.It’s not about being bad—it’s about brain development and learning how to use knowledge.🎧 The new Able to Care Podcast episode is out today – watch now!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #ChildDevelopment #BehaviourMatters
Why Kids Lie (and Why That’s Okay) Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-26 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, Andy Baker explores the surprising truth about lying. Far from being a sign of bad character, lying can be a developmental milestone, a coping strategy, and even a survival tool.Instead of asking “Why are they lying?”, Andy encourages us to ask “What need is this behaviour meeting?” — a shift that helps build trust, self-worth, and safety.This episode is essential listening for carers, foster carers, teachers, parents, and care staff, offering a compassionate new way of understanding dishonesty in both children and adults.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share with carers, parents, or teachers who struggle with dishonesty▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Recognising Escalation: How to De-escalate Behaviour Before Crisis”#childdevelopment #behavioursupport #childpsychology #caregiversupport
Lies, Trust and Survival: Rethinking Dishonesty Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-25 | Lying is one of the behaviours that gets under our skin the most. Whether it’s a child saying “I didn’t do it”, a teen spinning a story, or an adult covering up a mistake, our instinct is often to jump straight to moral judgment. But what if lying isn’t about dishonesty at all? What if it’s about survival, safety, control, and self-esteem?In this solo episode of the Able to Care Podcast, Andy Baker explores the psychology of lying—why it’s a universal behaviour across ages and cultures, what research reveals about punishment versus empathy, and how parents, teachers, and carers can respond in ways that build trust and honesty instead of shame.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKCaring, whether paid or unpaid, deserves recognition. Carers Card UK is the nation’s leading carers card, giving you: • An ID card with emergency info access • A growing discount network (gyms, days out, clothing, glasses & more) • A Wellbeing Hub, Carers Circle tool, and app-based community All for less than the cost of a box of chocolates per year. 👉 Order yours today Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk)
Shift from partner to carer Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-24 | “I wasn’t sure if he loved me… but I knew I loved him. So I made sure his journey was comfortable.”Neil Cutler shares what caring for John really meant.🎧 Full episode available now – watch today.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #CarerVoices #DementiaCare
dignity and inclusion matter Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-23 | They banged his dinner down and left him with a knife and fork… but he didn’t know what to do with it anymore.Neil Cutler’s story shows why dignity and inclusion matter in every moment of care.🎧 Full episode out today – watch now.#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #DementiaCare #LGBTInclusion
Dementia is different when youre gay. Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-23 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this powerful episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker is joined by Neil Cutler, advocate and trustee of Dementia Forward, to talk about dementia, love, loss, and the importance of LGBT+ inclusion in care.Neil shares the story of his husband John, whose dementia journey was shaped by a lifetime of hiding his sexuality. Together, Andy and Neil explore how dementia care often fails to recognise LGBT+ people and what must change to ensure that identity and dignity are respected at every stage of life.This conversation is essential listening for carers, health professionals, and families who want to provide safe, affirming, and inclusive care for people living with dementia.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share this with someone working in care or dementia support▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Living with Young Onset Dementia – Peter Middleton’s Story”#dementiacare #LGBTInclusion #caregiversupport
Love, Loss and Dignity: Rethinking Dementia Support Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-22 | When dementia takes away memories, what happens to identity—especially if the world never truly recognised it in the first place? In this powerful episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker speaks with Neil Cutler, advocate, presenter, and trustee at Dementia Forward. Drawing on his personal journey of caring for his late husband who lived with dementia, Neil shares candid insights into how dementia uniquely impacts older LGBT people. From navigating prejudice in care settings to the fight for inclusive dementia training, this is an unmissable conversation about love, loss, dignity, and the urgent need for change in health and social care.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKAre you caring for someone, paid or unpaid? You could be missing out on thousands of pounds in discounts.Carers Card UK offers: • ID card with emergency info access • Exclusive discounts on gyms, days out, electrical goods, and more • Access to a wellbeing hub, Carers Circle tool, and mobile app All for less than the price of a box of chocolates per year. 🎟️ Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • Dementia Forward (dementiaforward.org.uk) – Neil’s organisation supporting people living with dementia across communities. • Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge (hub.able-training.co.uk/product/targeting-the-positive-with-behaviours-that-challenge) 🧠 Three Key Messages 1. Identity matters in dementia care – recognising and respecting who someone is can be as important as supporting what they can do. 2. Language shapes inclusion – words like “placement” or “contact” can feel clinical; replacing them with “home” and “family time” fosters dignity. 3. Training is essential – mandatory LGBT dementia awareness training can transform care home culture and ensure no one is forgotten. ⏱️ Chapter Timestamps • 00:00 – Introduction: Dementia, memory, and identity • 02:00 – Neil’s story: Love, care, and losing his husband to dementia • 10:00 – How dementia impacts LGBT identity in care homes • 16:00 – Person-centred care vs. identity never recognised • 21:00 – Why inclusive training matters • 25:00 – Activities, community, and belonging in care homes • 34:00 – Family, friends, and chosen support networks • 38:00 – Turning grief into purpose: Neil’s advocacy and training work • 46:00 – Hopes for the future of inclusive dementia care 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode?This episode goes beyond dementia—it’s about dignity, belonging, and creating care systems that truly see people for who they are. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, carer, or health professional, Neil’s story will inspire you to think differently about inclusion, compassion, and how we respond to the most vulnerable in our communities.🔗 Connect with Us📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk)
hostile times Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-22 | When dementia set in, it pulled him back to the scariest times.Neil Cutler shares John’s story—of hiding, rejection, and the fear that never truly left.🎧 Full episode out tomorrow – subscribe so you don’t miss it!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #DementiaCare #LGBTInclusion
Halo and Horn effect Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-20 | The Halo and Horn effect:Attractive = smart and honest.Disfigured = less capable, less trustworthy.It’s flawed—and it fuels stigma.”🎧 Watch the full Able to Care Podcast episode now!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #HaloAndHornEffect #CarerVoices
Good kid bad kid Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-19 | Good kids. Bad kids. Good staff. Bad staffIt sounds simple—but it’s a trap that fuels stigma and blame.”🎧 The new Able to Care Podcast episode is out today – watch now!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #CarerVoices
Why Labeling Kids ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’ Destroys Trust Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-19 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker explores one of his biggest bugbears: the labels “good” and “bad.”It might feel simple to divide people into good and bad, but this mindset creates stigma, shame, and misunderstanding—especially in care, education, and family life.Instead of seeing someone as “bad,” Andy urges carers, teachers, and parents to ask: What need is this behaviour meeting? This simple shift can rebuild trust, open up understanding, and change lives.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share with a teacher, carer, or parent who uses the words “good” or “bad”▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Knowing Right from Wrong: Why Behaviour Isn’t Always a Choice”#behavioursupport #traumainformedcare #AbleToCarePodcast #caregiversupport
Good & Evil: Ditch the Labels, see the person, not the category. Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-18 | In this solo episode, Andy Baker unpacks why calling someone a “good kid” or a “bad kid” (or colleague, or parent) is a trap. You’ll learn how confirmation bias, the fundamental attribution error, and the halo/horn effect quietly shape our judgments—then get practical, trauma-informed ways to move from moral labels to needs-based, descriptive language. Perfect for parents, teachers, and carers who want better relationships, calmer behaviour, and fairer decisions.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKAre you caring for someone, paid or unpaid? You could be missing out on thousands of pounds in discounts.Carers Card UK offers: • ID card with emergency info access • Exclusive discounts on gyms, days out, electrical goods, and more • Access to a wellbeing hub, Carers Circle tool, and mobile app All for less than the price of a box of chocolates per year. 🎟️ Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • Confirmation Bias (explainer) — how we only see what we expect: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias • Fundamental Attribution Error — why we blame their character but excuse our context: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamental_attribution_error • Halo/Horn Effect — first impressions that distort everything after: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect • Targeting the Positive by Andy Baker (the TARGET model & de-escalation tools) Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge (hub.able-training.co.uk/product/targeting-the-positive-with-behaviours-that-challenge) 🧠 Three Key Messages 1. Labels limit: “Good/bad” thinking triggers confirmation bias, making us collect evidence to prove ourselves right and miss the full picture. 2. Describe, don’t judge: Swap moral labels (“He’s aggressive”) for neutral, specific behaviour (“He shouted when asked to stop playing”). Curiosity beats certainty. 3. Need behind behaviour: Most behaviours serve a function (survival, regulation, communication, control). When we meet the need, behaviour improves. ⏱️ Chapter Timestamps00:00 — The “good vs bad” trap: why it feels neat but harms decisions00:19 — 💙 Sponsor: Carers Card UK01:40 — Why black-and-white thinking shows up in care, education & home02:21 — Spectrum thinking: people aren’t heroes or villains03:14 — How labels drive prejudice, stigma & shame cultures04:01 — Ignorance vs malice: why learning is non-negotiable in care04:24 — Psychology 101: confirmation bias05:10 — Fundamental attribution error in everyday life (and traffic!)06:01 — Halo/horn effect: when looks & first impressions mislead us07:14 — Moral lens vs needs lens: “What happened to you?”08:21 — Practical reframes: replace labels with descriptive language09:15 — Be a detective, not a judge: 3 context questions to ask09:35 — The “benefit behind behaviour” (survival, regulation, communication, control)10:20 — Create a balance sheet: record positives as diligently as incidents11:14 — Notice & reinforce what you want to see more of13:07 — Boundaries + understanding: compassion isn’t “excusing”14:20 — Culture shift: stop cementing identities, start spotting strengths15:01 — Your one-week challenge: swap judgment for curiosity🎯 Why Listen to This Episode? • Actionable: Concrete language swaps & prompts you can use today. • Evidence-informed: Social-psychology concepts made practical for parents, teachers, and carers. • Relationship-first: A humane, trauma-informed path to better behaviour and trust. 🔗 Connect with Us📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk) If you found this helpful, please rate, review & share with a colleague or fellow parent/carer who’d benefit. Your support helps the show reach the people who need it most.
Care flashbacks Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-17 | I’ve been the child. I’ve been the carer. I’ve been the social worker.Ryan Kennedy shares how lived experience shapes empathy—while still making tough decisions for young people today.🎧 Full episode available now – watch today!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #CarerVoices #SocialWork
From Foster to Child to Foster Carer - Ryan KennedysStory Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-16 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker sits down with Ryan Kennedy, who grew up in the care system and is now a foster carer and social worker. Ryan’s journey from child in care to carer himself is a powerful story of resilience, advocacy, and transformation.This episode is a must-listen for foster carers, social workers, teachers, and anyone supporting children in care. Ryan’s story highlights both the urgent need for systemic change and the incredible difference that compassion, persistence, and lived experience can make.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share with carers, social workers, or anyone who works with children in care▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Fostering Teenagers: Helen Archer on Creativity, Care & Resilience”#FosterCare #LivedExperience #CareSystem #AbleToCarePodcast #RyanKennedy
Reality of those first moments in care Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-16 | The door shuts… and you’re alone in a place you don’t know.Ryan Kennedy reveals the reality of those first moments in care – unseen, but deeply felt.🎧 Full episode out today – watch now!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #CarerVoices #FosterCare
Supporting Children in Care: Practical Tools for Parents & Teachers Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-15 | In this powerful episode of the Able to Care Podcast, Andy Baker sits down with Ryan Kennedy, whose journey from being in care to becoming both a foster carer and social worker shines a light on resilience, reform, and real change. Ryan opens up about the reality of entering foster care, why language matters, and how lived experience can shape better practice for children today. With honesty and insight, Ryan challenges the system while offering hope for what truly works in supporting young people.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKThis episode is sponsored by Carers Card UK — the UK’s #1 carers card offering recognition, discounts, and a supportive community for paid and unpaid carers.👉 Explore the benefits: Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • access exclusive courses, events & resources for carers • Kennedy Framework (thekennedyframework.co.uk) – Ryan’s developing model for trauma-informed fostering (link to Ryan’s socials/website if available) • The legacy of Victoria Climbié and reforms in children’s services • Key concepts: trauma-informed care, ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences), family time vs. contact 🧠 Three Key Messages 1. Language matters. Words like “placement” or “contact” may feel clinical to professionals but can deeply affect how children experience care. 2. Lived experience is a superpower. Ryan’s perspective as someone who has been a child in care, a foster parent, and a social worker gives unique insights into what the system misses. 3. Consistency builds trust. Beyond policies, what young people need most is a constant, safe adult who remains present—even after they “age out” of care. ⏱️ Chapter Timestamps • 00:00 – Intro & sponsor: Carers Card UK • 01:42 – Ryan Kennedy’s story: from child in care to carer & social worker • 02:36 – What social workers miss in those first “safe place” moments • 05:40 – Wearing different hats: child, foster parent, social worker • 09:14 – Reading files as someone who once was a file • 12:20 – How AI could reshape social work language & empathy • 13:33 – What training doesn’t tell you: system flaws & barriers • 16:00 – Saying no as a foster parent & setting boundaries • 19:00 – The difference between being cared for and being understood • 25:00 – “Placement” vs. “home” and why language shapes belonging • 30:00 – Biggest challenges: advocating within broken systems • 42:00 – Education struggles & supporting excluded children • 48:00 – Facing the “care cliff” and supporting beyond 18 • 54:00 – The Kennedy Framework: safe spaces, noticing the unspoken & developing trust • 59:00 – Closing thoughts & staying connected 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode? • Hear the reality of care from someone who’s lived it on all sides • Learn practical insights for carers, teachers & professionals working with children • Understand how language and consistency can change a child’s sense of safety • Be inspired by Ryan’s Kennedy Framework for trauma-informed care 🔗 Connect with Us📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk) 👉 If Ryan’s story resonated, please follow, rate & share so more carers, teachers and families can learn from this vital conversation.
The system is broken Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-15 | “The system is flawed.”Ryan Kennedy reveals why training alone isn’t enough – when funding and policy say “no,” young people miss out on the support they deserve.🎧 Full conversation out tomorrow – subscribe so you don’t miss it!#AbleToCare #CarePodcast #CarerVoices #CareSector
Telling the teachers off Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-14 | Eva stood up in front of her teachers and called her talk “Telling Them Off.” 🎤She explained why shouting wasn’t helping — and what to do instead. The result? Teachers listened. Some even changed.🎧 Catch the full episode now – streaming everywhere!#AbleToCarePodcast #Education #BehaviourSupport #Neurodiversity #StudentVoice
Spot the Signs: Prevent Behaviour Escalation Early Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-13 | For some people, escalation feels like zero to 100 instantly. ⚡But it isn’t really sudden — there are early signs. The key is learning where to look before the rollercoaster drops. 🎢🎧 Full episode out now – subscribe and listen today!#AbleToCarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #Neurodiversity #DeEscalation #ParentsOfYouTube
Why you should de-escalate early Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-12 | Invisible escalation is only invisible… until you know where to look.The secret isn’t to ignore it, but to step in early — with curiosity, not judgment. That’s how you stop the rollercoaster before it peaks. 🎢🎧 The full episode is out today – subscribe and listen now!#AbleToCarePodcast #BehaviourSupport #DeEscalation #ConflictResolution #ParentsOfYouTube
Spot the Signs: Prevent Behaviour Escalation Early Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-11 | In this solo episode, Andy Baker breaks down the early indicators of distress—the subtle “bottom of the rollercoaster” cues most of us miss before behaviour escalates. Whether you’re a parent, teacher or carer, you’ll learn how to recognise micro-signals, why early intervention is everything, and exactly what to say and do in those first crucial moments to prevent crisis, protect relationships, and build trust.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKProudly sponsored by Carers Card UKAre you caring for someone, paid or unpaid? You could be missing out on thousands of pounds in discounts. Carers Card UK offers: • ID card with emergency info access • Exclusive discounts on gyms, days out, electrical goods, and more • Access to a wellbeing hub, Carers Circle tool, and mobile app All for less than the price of a box of chocolates per year. 🎟️ Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned • Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge (hub.able-training.co.uk/product/targeting-the-positive-with-behaviours-that-challenge) • Think Bike campaign video (youtube.com/results?search_query=think+bike+campaign&utm_source=chatgpt.com) – awareness analogy Andy references • Key concepts: Polyvagal Theory, Window of Tolerance, Crisis Development Model, Co-regulation 🧠 Three Key Messages 1. Early beats urgent. Escalation rarely comes “out of the blue.” Spot baseline deviations early (posture, tone, fidgeting) to intervene before the “click-click-click” climb. 2. Respond, don’t react. Use calm tone, gentle noticing (“I see you tapping—are you okay?”) and small adjustments to redirect stress. 3. Connection is the brake. Empathy, predictability and co-regulation calm faster than control or confrontation. ⏱️ Chapter Timestamps • 00:00 – Hook: invisible escalation & the rollercoaster metaphor • 00:28 – Sponsor: Carers Card UK • 01:49 – Why “out of the blue” behaviour is a myth • 02:10 – Escalation model: intervene before the climb • 03:02 – Cinema story: how timing changes the outcome • 04:32 – Why late intervention is harder (polyvagal & tolerance window) • 06:28 – Knowing a person’s baseline to spot deviations • 07:05 – Universal & individual micro-cues (fidgeting, eye contact, silence, self-soothing) • 09:34 – Don’t “park” early signs—proactive saves time & safety • 11:04 – Scripts: what to say without provoking • 12:28 – Co-regulation & calming tools (breaks, activities, sensory adjustments) • 13:52 – Awareness vs. “code white” autopilot • 14:43 – Regulation as a skill, not defiance • 15:30 – Challenge: spot your “bottom of the rollercoaster” cues • 16:40 – Classroom example + Think Bike analogy • 18:01 – Wrap up 🎯 Why Listen to This Episode? • Learn how to spot escalation before crisis • Get scripts & strategies you can use right away at home, school, or care settings • Protect relationships and trust while preventing harm 🔗 Connect with Us📲 Instagram: @AbleTraining (instagram.com/abletraining) 📲 LinkedIn: Able Training (linkedin.com/company/able-training) 📲 TikTok: @AbleToCarePodcast (tiktok.com/@abletocarepodcast) 🌐 Website: AbleHub.uk (ablehub.uk) 👉 If this episode resonated, please follow, rate & share so more carers, teachers and parents can benefit.
Don’t be mean to people who act different Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-10 | Eva’s message for kids: 💬 “Don’t be mean to people who act different.”Because how you treat others doesn’t just affect them — it shapes you too.🎧 Full episode out now – subscribe to listen!#AbleToCarePodcast #Kindness #Inclusion #Neurodiversity #ParentsOfYouTube
How isolating early school can feel for neurodiverse children Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-09 | Under the coats. Alone with a toy. 🧸Eva remembers hiding at nursery, while Cliff reflects on the realisation: nothing was wrong with her — she was simply wired differently.🎧 The full episode is out today – subscribe and listen now!#AbleToCarePodcast #AutismAwareness #ADHDAwareness #Neurodiversity #ParentsOfYouTube
Parenting, Autism & ADHD: Lessons from Cliff and Eva Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-09 | 📌 GET YOUR CARERS CARD HEREcarerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocareIn this powerful episode of the Able to Care Podcast, host Andy Baker is joined by Cliff Kilmister and his 13-year-old daughter Eva to share their lived experiences of navigating autism, ADHD, and neurodiversity in today’s education and care systems.Cliff speaks about the long, frustrating journey to get Eva recognised and supported, while Eva shares in her own words what it feels like to be misunderstood in mainstream school, how moving to a specialist school changed everything, and why children need adults to listen more than anything else.This conversation is essential listening for parents, teachers, carers, and foster carers who want to better understand and support neurodivergent young people. Eva’s voice reminds us that the most important experts are often the children themselves.📌 BOOK YOUR COURSE WITH ABLE TRAINING TODAY!🌐 able-training.co.uk📌 JOIN THE ABLE HUB COMMUNITY🌐 ablehub.uk📖 ORDER ANDY’S BOOK - TARGETING THE POSITIVEhttps://amzn.eu/d/ibut1Ps▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video💬 Share your reflections in the comments🔗 Share this with a parent, teacher, or carer who needs to hear Eva’s story▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📱 Listen on:» Amazon Music | » Apple Podcasts | » Spotify🎬 Suggested Episodes:“Attention Seeking or Connection Seeking?”#neurodiversity #autism #adhdawareness #neurodiverseparenting #caregiversupport
Praise, Placements & Belonging: Support Neurodivergent Kids Able to Care Podcast 2025-09-08 | What if we stopped talking about neurodivergent children and started talking with them? In this powerful, practical conversation, dad–daughter duo Cliff Kilmister (host of the Parenting, Autism & ADHD podcast) and Eva (13) share real-world insights on autism/ADHD, school placements, EHCPs, praise that actually helps, and why listening to young people changes everything. Whether you’re a parent, teacher or carer, this episode gives you language, mindset shifts and everyday strategies to help neurodivergent children thrive.💙 Sponsored by Carers Card UKProudly supported by Carers Card UK — the UK’s #1 carers card. Get recognition, an ID card with emergency info, a wellbeing hub, Carers Circle tool, community access and discounts on everything from days out to glasses — for less than a box of chocolates per year.👉 🎟️ Order your card today (carerscarduk.co.uk/promocode/abletocare) 🔗 Resources Mentioned • Parenting, Autism & ADHD Podcast (Cliff Kilmister) — search in your podcast app. • Eva’s YouTube channel “INSPIRE” — short videos on topics like masking, stimming, and bullying. (youtube.com/@InspireWithUsYT) • IPSEA (independent SEND law advice for families): ipsea.org.uk (http://www.ipsea.org.uk) • Gov.uk: EHCP guidance for parents and carers: gov.uk/children-with-special-educational-needs/education-health-and-care-plans • Cliff's Book - What to Do When Your Child Shuts Down: Real-World Parenting Strategies for Neurodivergent Kids Who Shut Down, Refuse School, or Just Stop Talking" (https://amzn.eu/d/3m5KFps) • National Autistic Society (resources for home and school): autism.org.uk (http://www.autism.org.uk) • Andy’s book — Targeting the Positive with Behaviours That Challenge (hub.able-training.co.uk/product/targeting-the-positive-with-behaviours-that-challenge) 🧠Three Key Messages 1. Voice over labels: Neurodivergent young people don’t just need adults to speak for them — they need adults to listen to them. Voice, choice and collaboration reduce anxiety and build trust. 2. Praise the process, not the person or the grade: Switch from “You’re so clever/10-out-of-10!” to “I noticed how you stuck with that and found a strategy that worked.” Process-based feedback supports resilience and reduces performance pressure. 3. Regulation makes learning possible: Stimming, doodling/sketchbooks, movement and fidgets are tools, not defiance. When classrooms allow regulation, attention rises and behaviour improves. ⏱️Chapter Timestamps • 00:00 — Opening: Why talk with neurodivergent children, not just about them • 00:20 — Sponsor: Carers Card UK — recognition, community & discounts • 01:41 — Meet Cliff & Eva: lived experience behind the mic • 02:28 — Moving from mainstream to an SEN setting: confidence, belonging & hope • 07:08 — Diagnosis journey: how long it took and what helped • 09:07 — Eva on podcasting: sharing honestly to help other kids feel less alone • 12:22 — “Look at me when I’m talking!”: why eye contact isn’t the measure of listening • 14:02 — Sketchbooks, routines & self-regulation: doodling to focus • 17:08 — EHCPs: what we wish we’d known sooner (and why persistence matters) • 23:20 — Rethinking praise: process vs. person/outcome — examples for home & school • 29:07 — Eva’s videos: masking, bullying, and making sense of school • 32:20 — Hopes for the new school year: safety, acceptance and the right support • 35:24 — Free/independent SEND advice & why to keep asking for help • 39:07 — Guilt, labels & advocacy: you can adapt support before diagnosis • 42:26 — What teachers/carers should know: one thing that changes the day • 47:14 — Messages to parents and kids: you’re not alone; your needs are valid • 49:02 — Has this journey brought the family cl...
