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How To REWIRE Nervous System To Feel SAFE In Your Body Again After Emotional Trauma

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2026-09-28 | How To REWIRE Nervous System To Feel SAFE In Your Body Again After Emotional Trauma

If My Trauma Was a Person - The Protective Self vs. The Authentic Self

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Flight Response: If Your Nervous System Loves Binging On TV HERES WHY

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-09-29 | NERVOUS SYSTEM REHAB:
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The Fight Trauma Response & Reactive Abuse Explained

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-09-10 | How Toxic People Train You to Get Stuck In a Fight Trauma Response| Reactive Abuse Explained

Okay. So today, I'm talking about reactive abuse, why and how narcissists train you, yes, systematically train you using classical conditioning or punishments and rewards to lock that behavior into your nervous system. We're going to talk about 3 destructive reasons that are behind this pattern that they set up in you.
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And reactive abuse can be so confusing, because it literally makes you feel like you are the problem. It makes you question yourself. It makes you ask the question, "Am I the narcissist?" Because the truth is, is that you know that the behaviors that come with reactive abuse are not you. They're not the real you, but you notice yourself doing it. So it could be extremely confusing.
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So my goal, by the end of this video, is to help you to not only know and understand thoroughly why this happens, but also what you can do to start breaking out of this pattern. So that being said, let's dive in.
What IS Reactive abuse?
So reactive abuse begins when you are provoked over and over again until, in other words, it does not stop, it does not let up until you react. So maybe you throw something. Maybe you scream. Maybe you just break down in tears and fall on the floor.
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And then suddenly, the narcissist that was provoking you, and by the way, the narcissist is always on the drama triangle. Everything they do, they're operating from the drama triangle. I did a whole video on this, so I'll leave that link there for you for you to understand this better. What they're actually doing with reactive abuse is getting on the drama triangle, they're in the role of persecutor and they're poking and poking until you snap. Now, they switch roles.
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You look like the persecutor, they fall into the victim. Like, "How could you act like that? How could you do something like that?" And they point the finger at what you're doing, which is easy to feel guilty for because you know that's not really you anyway. And so you're looking at your behavior like, "What in the world?" But what you may not be realizing is that that reaction is actually a survival response. Your body trying to exercise a healthy fight response, but it doesn't know how to do that yet, because maybe you grew up in an environment where you were never allowed to stand up for yourself.
[02:49-03:12]
You were never allowed to have boundaries. And so the provoking is getting to the point where your body wants to defend itself, but because it doesn't know how to do so in a healthy way, it overreacts, and the narcissist is counting on that. Think of it this way. Imagine somebody is poking your arm, right? This kind of throws me back, yes, I'm showing my age here, but it throws me back to The Simpsons.

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The narcissist is stuck in the fight trauma response, "I need to control you in order to feel safe," and the codependent is stuck in the fawn response, "I need to placate you in order to calm you down so that I can stay safe and connected." Both people are operating from a trauma response. Now here's the thing, real healing begins when we start working with our own trauma responses, to heal our trauma responses instead of regulating with somebody else.
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Now, I didn't realize I did that when I was codependent. I did not realize I did that, but it was eye-opening and life-changing for me to stop trying to get the narcissist to change to find safety, and to actually start creating safety from within. Now, it's a lot easier said than done because working with your fawn trauma response means learning how to step into your own agency.
So when we have a trauma response that has not been completed, that is unhealed, the nervous system gets stuck in that trauma response. And guess what, guys? Narcissists are stuck in a fight trauma response. Rather than doing their work to heal, they use you as a way to regulate themselves. If they can provoke you to fight, to be in that stuck survival energy that they sense in themselves, then in their brain, it, like, fools their, their brain to thinking, "Oh.
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Wait a second. I thought that was me, but no, I see them being reactive and fighting and combative. Oh. I'm the victim now. I'm the good one." The reality is, is that being in fight mode 24/7 is absolutely exhausting. And they feel that exhaustion, so they provoke you into fight mode so that they basically hand you their stuck survival energy so that they can have a sense of calm inside.

It's like they're saying, "Hey. Can you carry this for me?" And then the result is, you get trained to carry their anger, their explosiveness, their aggression, and you end up embodying what's not even yours. The second reason they not only provoke you to be reactive, but they need you to be reactive is because it supports their story. It supports the false reality that they're living in in their mind.

Somatic Exercise Release Stuck Freeze Survival Energy #somatichealing

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-09-09 | 6 Minute Somatic Exercise Release Stuck Survival Energy In Body #somatichealing

21 Day Challenge - Do these 7 exercises each morning and before bed for 21 days - lets do this together!!!! Let me know in the comments what you learn about your nervous system.

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Stuck in Chronic Freeze| How Somatic Experiencing Helps You Shift Out

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-09-03 | Stuck in Chronic Freeze| How Somatic Experiencing Helps You Shift Out

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Trauma & Substance Abuse: What if Your Addiction Is Your Body Seeking Regulation?

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We delve into addictions and trauma, exploring why they exist. Our aim is to stop blaming and understand our body's attempts to find safety. We discuss how to work with your body instead of against it. Join us to begin healing.
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Okay. So, we have a very, very sensitive topic that we're talking about today. We're talking about addictions and trauma. And I say that it's sensitive because usually when we hear addictions, there's a lot of negative outlook on people with addictions. There's a lot of blame.
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Almost like a person is made to feel like, oh, they're choosing that. It's their fault. They don't have enough willpower, which is absolutely awful because one of the reasons most people battle addictions is because of sh- unhealed and unprocessed shame in their body. And so, dumping more shame on top of shame, super awful.
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So, we're going to do it differently. Instead of focusing on what's wrong with me, why can't I stop, how can I get rid of this addiction, we're actually going to flip the script and we're going to ask things like, what is the positive intent of this addiction? What is it trying to keep me safe from?
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What is it hoping to regulate out of? And how can I work together with my body instead of trying to strong-arm it and force it to do something that it doesn't feel safe to do? So, that being said, let's dive in. For those that don't know me, my name is Michelle.
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I'm a somatic experiencing practitioner and the founder of The School of Transformation, which I consider to be like nervous system rehab. As a trauma survivor myself, I know exactly what it's like to have to rewire your whole nervous system so that instead of staying stuck in protection, you can step into authenticity and connection, and I teach everything that I learned along the way in The School of Transformation. So, if you're looking to do the inner work to heal in a community, I invite you to check out The School of Transformation.
[01:40-02:05]
There's currently a 30% off sale, giving you 7 to 9 meetings each month for only $77. Here's the link for you to check it out. So, let's first start by clearing the air with the fact that any addiction that you're battling is not indication of weakness, indication that you are broken beyond repair. It doesn't mean that you have no willpower.
[02:05-02:35]
It doesn't mean that it's your fault. What it does mean is that your nervous system adapted. It adapted because of trauma. I want to share with you something that I went over at our last live meeting in The School of Transformation where we talked about addictions. And I normally host this safety and addictions workshop for free. In The School of Transformation, I open it up to the public, but my daughter's getting married in 6 weeks so my schedule has been absolutely insane, so I couldn't host that as a free workshop.
[02:35-02:58]
So, I want to share some things that we went over in that last meeting. Okay. So, this diagram is used for something else, but just kind of bear with me. Um, what I really want to show you guys is how we wind up getting stuck in addiction. So, our nervous system is able to flow between parasympathetic and sympathetic. In childhood, we have rupture and repair.
[02:58-03:32]
Any time you think of a child, you know they cry, right? View this side as rupture, right? So, there's rupture, the baby's crying, there's a, a problem, and then the parent comes and soothes the, the child. So, there's repair. There's more rupture, the child is sad, they get that- they don't get their way, they're crying, they're soothed, right? So, the nervous system then learns when there's emotions like sadness, pain, loneliness, there's also this repair of love, acceptance, and kindness.
[03:32-03:51]
And so, we have the ability to be in this, right? The strong emotions. Okay? Because there is repair. There's balance. Well, if you have trauma, a lot of the times, we had rupture, right? And there was no repair. There was more rupture.
[03:51-04:19]
We weren't allowed to feel our feelings. We were shamed for being ourselves. There was stress with nobody helping us through it and we're spinning and spinning on this side of the rupture of strong emotions, of stress. And then we grow up and without this repair that we never learned in childhood, the body in its wisdom goes to addictions. It's like, oh, there's this rupture, I feel so horrible.

Somatic Exercises: Building Capacity for Safety: Break Free of: Fight Flight Freeze Fawn

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-27 | Somatic Exercises: Building Capacity for Safety: Cptsd Healing

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Freeze Trauma Response: How to FEEL Safe in Your Body #cptsd #healing

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-21 | Freeze Trauma Response: Building Capacity to FEEL #cptsd #healing

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I want to share with you what it's like to work with the freeze trauma response within your capacity and what happens when you are NOT in your capacity - so we're going to understand capacity, what it looks like and I'm going to give you an exercise so you can start building your capacity for safety if you're working with freeze. And I'll explain why we start with building the capacity for safety so I have a lot to share with you so lets dive in.

For those of you that don't know me my name is Michele Lee Nieves I'm a trauma coach and somatic experiencing practitioner and the founder of the School of Transformation which I consider to be like nervous system rehab. As a trauma survivor myself I know exactly what it's like to have to rewire your whole nervous system so that instead of staying stuck in protection you can step into authenticity and connection and I teach everything I learned along the way in the School of Transformation so if you're looking to do the inner work to heal in a community I invite you to check out our live weekly zoom meetings - currently $77/mth

Cptsd: When the Freeze Trauma Response Feels Like the Enemy Keeping Us Stuck

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-15 | Cptsd: When the Freeze Trauma Response Feels Like the Enemy Keeping Us Stuck

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How Unhealed Trauma Shows Up as Over Couplings #cptsdrecovery #somaticexperiencing

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-14 | How Past Trauma Shows Up & Causes Emotional Flashbacks #cptsdrecovery

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Understanding Emotional Flashbacks As Somatic Time Travel #cptsd healing

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-12 | Emotional Flashbacks: Somatic Time Travel :Cptsd Healing

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Trauma Healing Tips to Rewire Your Nervous System at the Root

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Most people try to heal trauma by managing symptoms, but true healing happens at the root level—within the nervous system. In this video, Michelle shares 5 powerful somatic tips to help you break free from unhealed trauma that keeps you stuck in survival mode.

You'll learn:

Why changing your emotional relationship with trauma is key to releasing it.

How spending time with what’s stuck in your body provides the support your trauma never had.

The importance of pendulation for rewiring emotional memories through memory reconsolidation.

How to create a clear blueprint of what “healed” feels like for your nervous system.

The role of over-couplings and how to identify them as you visualize your healing.

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Why Nervous System Tools Arent Enough to Heal Trauma

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Nervous system regulation tools like orienting, grounding, and breathwork are essential for trauma healing—but they’re not the whole picture. In this video, Michelle explains two benefits you’ll notice when using DALL·E nervous system regulation tools, but also highlights three critical pitfalls that can keep you stuck if deeper trauma work is ignored.

You'll learn:

How regulation tools provide short-term relief and expand your window of tolerance.

Why emotional flashbacks persist if the root cause isn’t processed.

The danger of spiritual bypassing—using tools to avoid discomfort rather than heal it.

How symptom recycling happens when trauma energy remains stuck in the body.

True healing involves more than calming the nervous system. It requires addressing the story behind the survival energy. This is the work we do in the School of Transformation, where we help people heal from the inside out.

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The Simple Somatic Tool That Calms Hypervigilance

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If you've ever felt stuck in hypervigilance, constantly scanning your environment but never truly feeling safe, this video is for you. Michelle explains a powerful yet simple somatic experiencing tool called orienting with your eyes. This practice helps your body reconnect with the present moment and signals safety to your nervous system.

In this video, Michelle shares how trauma can keep our brains stuck reliving the past, preventing our bodies from noticing the present. You'll learn how orienting isn't just about seeing with your eyes—it's about allowing your whole body to feel grounded in the now.

This exercise is a foundational practice in the School of Transformation, where we help people heal from trauma and rebuild their sense of safety through somatic tools like this.

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Chronic Freeze Trauma Response: When It Refuses to LET YOU Thaw #cptsd

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-05 | Chronic Freeze Trauma Response: When It Refuses to LET YOU Thaw #cptsd

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Window of Tolerance vs Capacity Heres the Difference

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-08-04 | JOIN ME LIVE WEEKLY ON ZOOM: micheleleenieves.com/offers/VyRwuCuF WHAT YOU WILL FIND IN THE SCHOOL OF TRANSFORMATION: In my YouTube videos I talk about abuse healing - in the School of Transformation we DO the healing together!!!! *Live Weekly Zoom Meetings - Somatic and Cognitive Education * Somatic Experiencing - work directly with your nervous system * Group Coaching - get customized help for where YOU are personally stuck * Boundary Role Play Meetings: Practice applying the healthy relationship skills that toxic family systems kept you from - in a safe space. With time you will be able to enforce these boundaries with EVERYONE! * Trauma Release Breathwork and EFT (emotional freedom technique) Workshops - Somatic meetings to help you process and digest what you are learning

A viewer asked, “Does Window of Tolerance mean the same as Capacity?” It's a great question because they’re deeply connected, but not the same.

In this video, Michelle breaks it down with a simple analogy:
Think of your nervous system as a road. Your Window of Tolerance is the safe lane you feel regulated in. Your Capacity is how well you can stay on that road — even when life throws rain, snow, or reckless drivers your way.

She also shares her personal experience of how her capacity would shrink during overwhelm, leading to freeze responses, and how expanding capacity is a key part of trauma recovery.

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When People Make You Feel Unworthy & Chasing Their Approval| Healing From Toxic Family

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People who are used to controlling you will see your boundaries as disrespect.

That doesn’t mean your boundaries are wrong. It means you're healing.

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Are You Stuck in Survival Mode? Understanding Your Window of Tolerance

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-07-30 | In this video, we explore the concept of your Window of Tolerance — the emotional space where your body feels safe and regulated. But what happens when trauma shifts your default emotion into a state of constant hypervigilance or numbness?

Michelle shares her personal experience of feeling unsafe even in peaceful moments and explains how trauma survivors often live in an emotional state they didn't consciously choose.

Understanding your window of tolerance is the first step to healing, self-awareness, and living as your authentic self.

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This Message Is for Every Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-07-29 | You weren’t born just to survive someone else’s abuse.

Your life has purpose, beauty, and meaning far beyond what you’ve endured.

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5 Subconscious Beliefs That Keep Trauma Alive CPTSD Explained

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-07-08 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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If you've been doing all the "right" things to heal but still feel stuck in cycles of self-blame, suffering, and overwhelm... you're not alone, and you're not broken.

In this video, Michelle (a somatic experiencing practitioner and founder of the School of Transformation) unpacks five core CPTSD beliefs that live in the subconscious and keep trauma stored in the body sometimes for decades.

These subconscious beliefs operate like malware in your nervous system, regardless of the specific trauma you've experienced narcissistic abuse, neglect, medical trauma, or anything else.

Michelle shares personal insight, client stories, and how she helps survivors shift these deep-seated patterns in live weekly sessions.

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The Narcissists Endgame Why Youll Never Win by Playing Nice

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There comes a moment of clarity—the lightbulb moment—when you realize you've been trying to solve a puzzle that was never meant to be solved. In this video, Michelle breaks down the toxic cycle of codependent-narcissist relationships and explains why your desire for peace will never match the narcissist’s drive for chaos. If you’ve spent years trying to “fix” the relationship by being good enough, kind enough, or understanding enough—this message is for you.

Overcoming Common Beliefs in Complex PTSD Journey

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2 Minute Vagus Nerve Reset

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Ketamine & Trauma Healing My Honest Experience

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Is ketamine a miracle cure for trauma? No—but it can be a powerful tool. In this video, I share my personal experience using ketamine in a clinical setting to support CPTSD recovery. You'll learn how ketamine supports neuroplasticity, what it can (and can’t) do, and why real healing still requires inner work. I also explain how I used it as a short-term aid—not a daily fix—and the difference it made in getting out of trauma loops. If you're curious about how ketamine fits into somatic healing and belief work, this is for you.

Why Love Feels Unsafe After Trauma (It’s Not Just in Your Head)

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Have you ever been in a safe, loving relationship but still felt anxious, distant, or afraid? You’re not broken—you’re experiencing a survival response called overcoupling.

In this video, I explain:

What overcoupling is and how it affects relationships

Why your nervous system links love to danger or betrayal

How trauma doesn’t follow logic—it follows survival

Why healing isn’t about mindset, but about addressing nervous system imprints

Even if your mind knows you're safe now, your body may still be stuck in the past. And until we resolve the trauma at the nervous system level, love will keep feeling unsafe.

✨ If this resonates and you want personalized support, DM me the words Somatic Experiencing and I’ll send you a link to work with me.

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What Healing Really Feels Like (Its Not What You Think)

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-07-01 | Ready to go deeper? Join the School of Transformation—where we do the real healing work together every week: micheleleenieves.com/offers/VyRwuCuF/checkout 🔔 Don’t forget to like, comment, subscribe, and share if this resonated with you

If you’ve ever wondered why your trauma healing journey feels like a rollercoaster, you're not alone—and you're not doing it wrong.

In this video, I’m clearing up the myth that healing is a straight line. Whether you’re working one-on-one or in a group setting, true body-based healing is messy, nonlinear, and full of ups and downs.

You’ll learn:

Why progress can feel like you’re going backward

How emotional flashbacks and numbness are part of healing

What real body-level healing actually looks like

Why you must start loving and accepting yourself before you're fully healed

Inside the School of Transformation, I meet live every week with people from around the world to help them understand this truth: You’re not broken. You’re healing. And you don’t have to wait to love yourself.

#traumahealing #somatichealing #cptsdrecovery #bodybasedhealing #schooloftransformation

3 Surprising Ways Childhood Trauma Resurfaces in Adulthood

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-07-01 | Think you left your childhood trauma behind? Not so fast. Trauma doesn’t follow a timeline—it waits for the right moment to resurface. In this video, Michelle shares 3 surprising ways dormant childhood trauma can get reactivated in adulthood, including one that's often misunderstood.

You’ll learn:

Why going back to your childhood home can suddenly trigger intense emotional responses

How toxic relationships in adulthood echo unresolved trauma from the past

Why feeling “small” or “unsafe” again isn’t regression—it’s a biological response

And how to recognize when your trauma is asking to be healed, not ignored

If you’ve felt blindsided by old wounds coming back to life, this video will help you understand why it’s happening—and what you can do about it.

✨ You’re not broken. You’re healing.

#traumarecovery #somatichealing #childhoodtrauma #cptsd #nervoussystemhealing

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Freeze Response: When Your Nervous System Flings You Out of Fawning & Into Freeze

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-07-01 | Have you spent years trying to make everyone else happy—at the expense of yourself? Have you silenced your truth, avoided conflict at all costs, and molded yourself into what others needed—only to wake up one day feeling numb, tired, and like you're not even living your own life?

In this video, Michelle explains the painful and confusing shift from the fawn trauma response into a freeze state. She explores what’s really happening in your nervous system, why this happens to so many survivors of trauma, and what you can do to begin thawing, reconnecting, and healing.

If you’ve ever said, “I feel like I’m disappearing,” this video is for you.

5 Trauma Healing Tips That Actually Work (Backed by Neuroscience

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-30 | Are you tired of trying to heal from trauma and still feeling stuck? In this video, I’m sharing 5 powerful tips that go beyond surface-level coping and help you finally break free from unhealed trauma—by working with your nervous system, not against it.

You’ll learn:

Why compassion toward your trauma is more effective than anger

What emotional abandonment during healing really looks like

How pendulation helps rewire the brain at the root

Why your nervous system needs a clear blueprint of what “healed” looks and feels like

And more...

If you're struggling to apply any of these and want personalized support, DM me the words Somatic Experiencing and I’ll send you a link to work 1-on-1 with me.

✨ You can heal. You don’t have to do it alone.

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Thawing After Trauma: The Exhaustion No One Talks About

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-27 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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Are you coming out of a chronic freeze state and wondering why you feel so tired, overwhelmed, or confused? You're not alone.

In this video, Michelle shares what she wished someone had told her about the trauma healing process—specifically, what happens when your body begins to unthaw after years of being stuck in survival mode.

You'll learn:

What the chronic freeze response is (biologically and emotionally)

What to expect as you start to unfreeze

Why it feels exhausting even though you're “healing”

How to support your body and nervous system through this intense stage

💠 Michelle is a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and founder of the School of Transformation—where she supports survivors of childhood trauma in live, guided healing sessions.

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Inner Child Meditation to Heal Fear of Abandonment

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-26 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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Fear of abandonment often starts in childhood, when emotional support and consistency were missing. In this guided meditation, we gently connect with your inner child the part of you that still carries the pain of being left, unseen, or emotionally neglected.

This healing journey will help you begin releasing fear, anxiety, and the belief that you're unworthy of love or presence. You’ll learn how to show up for yourself in ways no one could back then.

💛 You were never too needy. You just needed someone to stay.

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Why Talk Therapy Isn’t Enough to Heal Trauma

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-26 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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Talk therapy has its place—but when it comes to healing trauma, the body must be involved. Trauma isn’t just a story. It’s a full-body experience. In this short, Michelle explains the five channels of trauma digestion using the CIBAM model: sensation, image, behavior, affect, and meaning.

If you’ve been stuck in your healing journey, this might be the missing piece.

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Why You Keep Falling for Narcissistic Women (Its Not Your Fault

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-25 | If you've ever wondered why you're drawn to women who are emotionally unavailable, toxic, or narcissistic this message is for you.

This isn't because you're weak or broken. It’s because your nervous system is trying to finish a story that began long ago with a mother who couldn’t give you the love you needed. That dynamic may feel familiar... but it’s not safe.

In this video, Michelle explains how the nervous system is wired to repeat old patterns until healing takes place—and how you can finally begin to break free.

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Why Hypervigilance Won’t Let Go Until You Do This

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-24 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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Why is it so hard to heal from hypervigilance—even when you know it’s exhausting you?

Michelle explains how childhood trauma wires your nervous system to stay on high alert. Abuse, neglect, emotional chaos, and a lack of support leave the body convinced that danger is always around the corner. Hypervigilance becomes a loyal protector—but it also keeps you trapped.

In this video, you'll learn:

Why your nervous system got stuck

Why hypervigilance won’t stop just because you're frustrated with it

Why co-regulation must come before self-regulation

How to begin reconnecting with the frozen parts of yourself

If you’ve been stuck in survival mode, you don’t need to fight yourself anymore. You need support, safety, and connection.

🧠 Ready to begin your healing journey?
💬 Drop a comment and let us know how this landed for you.

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Stop Fighting Yourself: 2 Questions That Heal Trauma

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-23 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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Do you ever feel like you're constantly battling yourself while trying to heal from trauma?

In this video, Michelle breaks down the internal struggle between your authentic self and your protective self—the version of you that formed to survive painful experiences. If you're stuck in old coping patterns and want to reclaim your true self, these two powerful questions will help you begin that transformation.

✨ Start feeling more peace, clarity, and control.
💬 Leave a comment if one of these questions hits home.

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Why You Shut Down: The Freeze Response Explained Through an Antelopes Eyes

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-20 | If my videos resonate and you feel ready to dive deeper into nervous system healing and learning how to EMBODY everything I teach on my channel - come join me LIVE weekly on zoom:
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Ever wonder why you freeze when things get overwhelming? Using the powerful analogy of an antelope fleeing a lion, this video explains how the freeze trauma response works in both animals and humans.

We dive into the fight, flight, and freeze responses of the nervous system—showing how tonic immobility (freeze) is not a sign of weakness but a brilliant survival strategy. For many of us with childhood trauma, the body chose to shut down when fighting or fleeing wasn’t an option.

This eye-opening explanation can help you make peace with your past and begin to understand why your body may still default to freeze. Healing starts with awareness.

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Why Changing Trauma Beliefs Is SO Hard| School of Transformation #cptsd #traumahealing

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Somatic Exercise: Reintroducing Safety Into the Body After Trauma #somatichealing

Stop Pushing! Why Your Body Freezes & How To Actually Heal

Michele Lee Nieves - Trauma Recovery Coach 2025-06-19 | The video discusses the risks of misunderstanding freeze responses and the negative consequences of trying to force oneself out of this state, emphasizing the importance of safety and somatic education for healing.
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Am I Depressed or Stuck in Freeze Trauma Response? | Why You Feel Numb, Disconnected, and Stuck

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If you’ve ever felt disconnected, numb, or stuck—even though you want to feel better—you might not be dealing with depression at all. It could be something deeper: the freeze trauma response.
In this video, Michelle, a certified somatic experiencing practitioner and founder of the School of Transformation, explains the critical difference between clinical depression and a nervous system shutdown caused by trauma.
💡 You’ll learn:
• What the freeze trauma response is
• How it can look exactly like depression
• Why your body is not broken—it’s trying to protect you
• How to begin gently thawing out and reconnecting to life
• A 5-minute somatic exercise to start healing
⚠️ This information could change the way you see yourself—and your healing—forever.
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Traumas Freeze Response My Body Holds The Key To Unthawing

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Freeze Response Not Weakness, Its Your Body Protecting You!

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This video explains the freeze response as a survival mechanism rooted in childhood trauma, differentiating it from weakness or mental health disorders and highlighting its function as a protective nervous system state.
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How Implicit Memory Keeps Unhealed Trauma ALIVE & Painful #traumahealing #cptsd

Unfreeze Your Life Simple Exercise to Release Stress & Feel Safe

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Feeling frozen, stuck, or disconnected? This 60-second somatic exercise guides you through a gentle unfreezing technique to help regulate your nervous system and reconnect with your body. Perfect for trauma survivors needing a soft place to start healing. 🌿

I Learned About Trauma-So Why Am I Still Stuck?

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You’ve done the research. You’ve read the books.

You know it’s trauma.

So why are you still reacting the same way?

In this video, Michelle breaks down one of the most frustrating parts of the healing journey: the disconnect between what we know and how we still react.

You’ll learn:

Why trauma knowledge doesn’t always change behavior
How the nervous system overrides logic
Why your body can still feel unsafe even when your mind understands
A powerful exercise to help sync mind and body

💡If you’ve ever felt like you should be doing better but can’t — this video will bring relief, clarity, and a starting point for real integration.

🌿 Ready to go deeper?

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How & Why So Many People Invalidate YOUR Shame Wound

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If Your Unhealed Trauma Makes You Feel Broken or Weird HERES WHY!| #cptsd #traumahealing

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How My Own Shame Made Me Susceptible to Manipulation

Covert Emotional Abuse Subtle Signs & Intentional Harm

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Somatic Red Flags How Your Body Knows Manipulation

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