Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Laura Doyle has spent the past 27 years coaching, observing, and helping thousands of men and women find greater intimacy together. Her 6 Intimacy Skills are surprisingly simple yet remarkably effective. In today's conversation, we dive deeper into her work and learn how men and women can kindle great affection, devotion, and love for each other.
Laura's books: amzn.to/4zARLzj
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:46 - Laura’s recent NYT piece:
00:01:47 - Laura’s own marriage struggles
00:04:09 - Asking Happy Women What They were doing
00:07:03 - The origin of the NYT Best-Selling Book
00:10:51 - The division between men and women
00:12:02 - Is Lila too controlling?
00:13:36 - Should women trust men?
00:19:08 - Why is vulnerability so hard?
00:20:43 - Example of Laura struggling to be vulnerable
00:26:46 - Ways he hears “loser”?
00:31:45 - How to implement Vulnerability
00:32:36 - Marriage should be GREAT
00:33:23 - How to implement Vulnerability
00:40:22 - Cheat Phrase: I Can’t
00:42:22 - Only happy people have happy relationships
00:43:02 - Respect and Adoration for men AND women
00:50:20 - "You don’t know my situation though"
00:53:07 - Surrendering finances to men:
00:55:00 - What does surrendering finances look like?
00:56:50 - Objections to Laura’s work:
01:00:48 - Women bearing the “mental load”
01:05:01 - Self-pity spiral
01:06:17 - Advice for single women and men
01:08:06 - Women should make this shift in dating
01:11:01 - Surrendered Dating in real life: let men talk
01:13:49 - Women attract, not hunt
01:17:53 - Are women closed off?
01:18:55 - How to have a great first date:
01:21:52 - Kill ALL Marriage Counsellors?
01:28:21 - Coaching vs Therapy
01:31:02 - Why are so many men red pilled today?
01:34:46 - Applying these intimacy skills outside of romance
01:41:09 - What does the ideal family situation look like?
01:45:38 - Should we pray for people’s specific flaws?
01:49:26 - An exercise for receiving graciously:
Laura Doyle has spent the past 27 years coaching, observing, and helping thousands of men and women find greater intimacy together. Her 6 Intimacy Skills are surprisingly simple yet remarkably effective. In today's conversation, we dive deeper into her work and learn how men and women can kindle great affection, devotion, and love for each other.
Laura's books: amzn.to/4zARLzj
NEW: Check out our Merch store! shop.lilaroseshow.com
Join our new Patreon community! patreon.com/lilaroseshow - We'll have BTS footage, ad-free episodes, and early access to our upcoming guests.
A big thanks to our partner, EWTN, the world’s leading religious network! Discover news, entertainment and more at ewtn.com
Check out our Sponsors:
-Cozy Earth: Better Sleep, Brighter Days - Get the highest quality sleep essentials for 20% OFF at cozyearth.com/lila!
-EveryLife Women: everylife.com/lila Buy diapers and women’s health products from an amazing company and use code LILA10 to get 10% off!
-Seven Weeks Coffee: sevenweekscoffee.com Buy your pro-life coffee and Save up to 25% with promo code 'LILA' & get a free gift: sevenweekscoffee.com
-We Heart Nutrition: weheartnutrition.com Get high quality vitamin supplements for 20% off using the code LILA.
00:00:00 - Intro
00:00:46 - Laura’s recent NYT piece:
00:01:47 - Laura’s own marriage struggles
00:04:09 - Asking Happy Women What They were doing
00:07:03 - The origin of the NYT Best-Selling Book
00:10:51 - The division between men and women
00:12:02 - Is Lila too controlling?
00:13:36 - Should women trust men?
00:19:08 - Why is vulnerability so hard?
00:20:43 - Example of Laura struggling to be vulnerable
00:26:46 - Ways he hears “loser”?
00:31:45 - How to implement Vulnerability
00:32:36 - Marriage should be GREAT
00:33:23 - How to implement Vulnerability
00:40:22 - Cheat Phrase: I Can’t
00:42:22 - Only happy people have happy relationships
00:43:02 - Respect and Adoration for men AND women
00:50:20 - "You don’t know my situation though"
00:53:07 - Surrendering finances to men:
00:55:00 - What does surrendering finances look like?
00:56:50 - Objections to Laura’s work:
01:00:48 - Women bearing the “mental load”
01:05:01 - Self-pity spiral
01:06:17 - Advice for single women and men
01:08:06 - Women should make this shift in dating
01:11:01 - Surrendered Dating in real life: let men talk
01:13:49 - Women attract, not hunt
01:17:53 - Are women closed off?
01:18:55 - How to have a great first date:
01:21:52 - Kill ALL Marriage Counsellors?
01:28:21 - Coaching vs Therapy
01:31:02 - Why are so many men red pilled today?
01:34:46 - Applying these intimacy skills outside of romance
01:41:09 - What does the ideal family situation look like?
01:45:38 - Should we pray for people’s specific flaws?
01:49:26 - An exercise for receiving graciously:
