Uploaded August 2025 | Updated September 2026, 4 days ago
What if learning to disappoint others could set you free? On this week’s episode of Everyday Better, Leah Smart talks with bestselling author and speaker Amber Rae about her journey to living authentically. Through her story, Amber teaches us why disappointing others isn’t selfish but a courageous act of self-alignment.
Amber unpacks the biggest lesson of her life: "We have to learn to replace the narrative that disappointing others is selfish and wrong, and realize that disappointing others is a skill. We don't have to be savages, we don't have to be unkind, but we have to tolerate the discomfort of other people being upset with us over the discomfort of being out of alignment in our own lives."
In this candid conversation, Amber reveals the moment she realized her life was built on others' expectations, and how she reconstructed it into one built on her own truth.
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00:00 - Introduction
03:21 - A life that looked perfect
05:54 - Inspiration behind Amber’s memoir on authenticity
10:01 - Sliding doors moments
12:49 - Prioritizing your needs without guilt
16:14 - The good girl vs. The brave girl
19:36 - The art of disappointing others
22:15 - Tolerating discomfort to stay authentic
28:06 - Facing your own reflection
30:31 - Handling criticism while staying grounded
33:36 - Closing reflections
What if learning to disappoint others could set you free? On this week’s episode of Everyday Better, Leah Smart talks with bestselling author and speaker Amber Rae about her journey to living authentically. Through her story, Amber teaches us why disappointing others isn’t selfish but a courageous act of self-alignment.
Amber unpacks the biggest lesson of her life: "We have to learn to replace the narrative that disappointing others is selfish and wrong, and realize that disappointing others is a skill. We don't have to be savages, we don't have to be unkind, but we have to tolerate the discomfort of other people being upset with us over the discomfort of being out of alignment in our own lives."
In this candid conversation, Amber reveals the moment she realized her life was built on others' expectations, and how she reconstructed it into one built on her own truth.
#linkedinnews #everydaybetter #authenticity #changeyourlife #disappointing #expectation
00:00 - Introduction
03:21 - A life that looked perfect
05:54 - Inspiration behind Amber’s memoir on authenticity
10:01 - Sliding doors moments
12:49 - Prioritizing your needs without guilt
16:14 - The good girl vs. The brave girl
19:36 - The art of disappointing others
22:15 - Tolerating discomfort to stay authentic
28:06 - Facing your own reflection
30:31 - Handling criticism while staying grounded
33:36 - Closing reflections
