Uploaded August 2024 | Updated September 2026, 3 days ago
Originally published on January 10, 2024
People are becoming increasingly lonely and are unable to relate to one another. Yet we have access to more people than ever before. What's going on?
Is it technology? Is social media replacing our sense of community with the empty calories of the sweet, sweet For You feed?
Or maybe it’s the deterioration of the nuclear family—fewer kids are being born and being raised by fewer parents?
Or is it the lack of religion in public life? Or the geographic exodus from small towns and communities towards big anonymous cities? Or the economic inequality and complete loss of work/life balance?
These are questions that I—and renowned journalist and author David Brooks—unpack together as we nose dive into the social and emotional disconnect of millions of people.
Need lessons on how to talk to the barista making your coffee? Looking to build a better relationship with Gary from across the fence? This episode won’t make you a master of communication overnight, but it’s a fascinating conversation packed with useful insight from beginning to end.
Listen to it.
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0:00 Introduction
2:46 Why we’re in a social crisis
5:55 The harsh judgment of social media
8:06 The growth of distrust
10:57 The decline of the traditional family
15:14 On communitarian cultures
16:24 Making America more “relationalist”
18:19 The Scandinavian and Israeli success
20:33 Is this success replicable in a diverse society?
23:32 The vice of today’s generation
29:19 David’s take on politics
32:11 Mark on the evolution of self-help
33:57 The recession of religion
38:33 Friction is the point
39:46 The “second mountain”
46:42 What we’re really motivated by
49:55 Can we go straight to the “second mountain”?
David Brooks is a journalist and bestselling author of seven books, including his newest, “How to Know a Person.” David has had a popular column at the New York Times for over 20 years and teaches courses on philosophy at Yale.
David Brooks on Twitter https://x.com/nytdavidbrooks
David Brooks’ column: nytimes.com/column/david-brooks
David's new book “How to Know a Person:” amazon.com/How-Know-Person-Seeing-Others/dp/059323006X
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Originally published on January 10, 2024
People are becoming increasingly lonely and are unable to relate to one another. Yet we have access to more people than ever before. What's going on?
Is it technology? Is social media replacing our sense of community with the empty calories of the sweet, sweet For You feed?
Or maybe it’s the deterioration of the nuclear family—fewer kids are being born and being raised by fewer parents?
Or is it the lack of religion in public life? Or the geographic exodus from small towns and communities towards big anonymous cities? Or the economic inequality and complete loss of work/life balance?
These are questions that I—and renowned journalist and author David Brooks—unpack together as we nose dive into the social and emotional disconnect of millions of people.
Need lessons on how to talk to the barista making your coffee? Looking to build a better relationship with Gary from across the fence? This episode won’t make you a master of communication overnight, but it’s a fascinating conversation packed with useful insight from beginning to end.
Listen to it.
Sign up for Your Next Breakthrough, a weekly newsletter that will make you a less awful person: markmanson.net/breakthrough
0:00 Introduction
2:46 Why we’re in a social crisis
5:55 The harsh judgment of social media
8:06 The growth of distrust
10:57 The decline of the traditional family
15:14 On communitarian cultures
16:24 Making America more “relationalist”
18:19 The Scandinavian and Israeli success
20:33 Is this success replicable in a diverse society?
23:32 The vice of today’s generation
29:19 David’s take on politics
32:11 Mark on the evolution of self-help
33:57 The recession of religion
38:33 Friction is the point
39:46 The “second mountain”
46:42 What we’re really motivated by
49:55 Can we go straight to the “second mountain”?
David Brooks is a journalist and bestselling author of seven books, including his newest, “How to Know a Person.” David has had a popular column at the New York Times for over 20 years and teaches courses on philosophy at Yale.
David Brooks on Twitter https://x.com/nytdavidbrooks
David Brooks’ column: nytimes.com/column/david-brooks
David's new book “How to Know a Person:” amazon.com/How-Know-Person-Seeing-Others/dp/059323006X
instagram.com/markmanson
twitter.com/IAmMarkManson
facebook.com/Markmansonnet
linkedin.com/in/markmanson
tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson
