Uploaded March 2026 | Updated September 2026, 14 hours ago
The (over 1 hour long) extended split-screen version of this consult is available for Tier 2 channel members and at the shop, along with the other PD Project material: shop.mndflds.com/products
Become a member here: youtube.com/borderlinernotes/join
**This is a consultation/conversation. The two participants are not in therapy together and there is no patient-doctor relationship.**
Psych interview / first meeting between Jacob (dx'd w/ NPD) -- aka Nameless Narcissist -- and expert clinician Dr. Igor Weinberg. Together they dig into Jacob's narcissism, from early family background to the current persistent fear of humiliation and rejection. Themes include self-disgust, pride in callousness, dependency vs. self-reliance, exploitative patterns, paternal rejection, remaking himself into someone more desirable, controlling emotions, image management, persistent loneliness.
0:00 Intro / Pathology as Identity / Pros & Cons of NPD
3:55 Pride in Being Callous / Disgust w/ Dependency / Self-Reliance
7:52 Exploiting People / Loss of Control / Conquest for Affirmation
10:35 Working to Be Unlike His Parents & Less Disgusting
14:21 Being Critical of Himself / "Greasy, Fat, Disgusting"
16:54 Craving Paternal Approval & Being Rejected
20:52 Family Background / Violence & Humiliation
23:00 Keeping Emotions in Check / Controlling the Minefield
26:52 How He Protects Himself from Humiliation & Vulnerability
29:48 Struggling to Relate to Others / Keeping up the "Facade"
33:14 Constant Loneliness / Safety in Being Alone
35:57 Wanting to Be Understood / Risk of Rejection When People "Really Know" Him
41:51 Black and White Thinking About Self and Others
If you or someone you know is considering self-harm or suicide, it’s okay to ask for help. 24 hour support is provided by hopeline-nc.org (877.235.4525), suicidepreventionlifeline.org (800.273.8255), kidshelpphone.ca (800.668.6868).
SAMHSA’s National Helpline:
If you or someone you know is dealing with substance misuse or mental illness, call 1-800-662-4357 for free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.
Disclaimer: "Please be advised this video may contain sensitive information. All content found within this publication (VIDEO) is provided for informational purposes only. All cases may differ, and the information provided is a general guide. The content is not intended to be used as a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have specific questions about a medical condition, you should consult your doctor or other qualified medical professional for assistance or questions you have regarding a medical condition. Studio Comma The, LLC and BorderlinerNotes does not recommend any specific course of medical remedy, physicians, products, opinion, or other information. Studio Comma The, LLC and BorderlinerNotes expressly disclaims responsibility and shall have no liability whatsoever for any damages, loss, injury, or suffering as a result of reliance on the information in this publication."
The (over 1 hour long) extended split-screen version of this consult is available for Tier 2 channel members and at the shop, along with the other PD Project material: shop.mndflds.com/products
Become a member here: youtube.com/borderlinernotes/join
**This is a consultation/conversation. The two participants are not in therapy together and there is no patient-doctor relationship.**
Psych interview / first meeting between Jacob (dx'd w/ NPD) -- aka Nameless Narcissist -- and expert clinician Dr. Igor Weinberg. Together they dig into Jacob's narcissism, from early family background to the current persistent fear of humiliation and rejection. Themes include self-disgust, pride in callousness, dependency vs. self-reliance, exploitative patterns, paternal rejection, remaking himself into someone more desirable, controlling emotions, image management, persistent loneliness.
0:00 Intro / Pathology as Identity / Pros & Cons of NPD
3:55 Pride in Being Callous / Disgust w/ Dependency / Self-Reliance
7:52 Exploiting People / Loss of Control / Conquest for Affirmation
10:35 Working to Be Unlike His Parents & Less Disgusting
14:21 Being Critical of Himself / "Greasy, Fat, Disgusting"
16:54 Craving Paternal Approval & Being Rejected
20:52 Family Background / Violence & Humiliation
23:00 Keeping Emotions in Check / Controlling the Minefield
26:52 How He Protects Himself from Humiliation & Vulnerability
29:48 Struggling to Relate to Others / Keeping up the "Facade"
33:14 Constant Loneliness / Safety in Being Alone
35:57 Wanting to Be Understood / Risk of Rejection When People "Really Know" Him
41:51 Black and White Thinking About Self and Others
If you or someone you know is considering self-harm or suicide, it’s okay to ask for help. 24 hour support is provided by hopeline-nc.org (877.235.4525), suicidepreventionlifeline.org (800.273.8255), kidshelpphone.ca (800.668.6868).
SAMHSA’s National Helpline:
If you or someone you know is dealing with substance misuse or mental illness, call 1-800-662-4357 for free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.
Disclaimer: "Please be advised this video may contain sensitive information. All content found within this publication (VIDEO) is provided for informational purposes only. All cases may differ, and the information provided is a general guide. The content is not intended to be used as a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have specific questions about a medical condition, you should consult your doctor or other qualified medical professional for assistance or questions you have regarding a medical condition. Studio Comma The, LLC and BorderlinerNotes does not recommend any specific course of medical remedy, physicians, products, opinion, or other information. Studio Comma The, LLC and BorderlinerNotes expressly disclaims responsibility and shall have no liability whatsoever for any damages, loss, injury, or suffering as a result of reliance on the information in this publication."
