Wanting to Be Seen Doesnt End After Marriage or Kids ft. Lauren Morrison LOVERS by Shan 2026-09-17 | Wanting to Be Seen Doesnt End After Marriage or Kids ft. Lauren Morrison
Letting Go of the Fantasy of Love | Ft. Miranda Rae Mayo Lovers by Shan 2025-07-23 | What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?Our guest on this week’s episode is Miranda Rae Mayo, actress and creator, best known for her role on Chicago Fire. We explore the journey of finding love by letting go of perfection, releasing the fantasy, and how non-monogamy reshaped her understanding of safety, connection, and choice in partnership.The full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧#LoversByShan #NonMonogamy #DatingAdvice #ModernLove #RelationshipAdvice #LoversPodcast
Is a Good Man Good Enough? ft. Miranda Rae Mayo Lovers by Shan 2025-07-23 | What if the love story you were chasing… was never really yours?In this episode, actress Miranda Rae Mayo joins Shan to explore the journey of finding love by letting go of the fantasy. Known for her role on Chicago Fire, Miranda opens up about her current relationship and how she had to release the pressure to be “perfect” to experience a real connection.Together, they explore how love doesn’t always look the way we expected, and why exploring non-monogamy through an open relationship challenged (and expanded) her thoughts around love, security, and partnership.🔗 Follow Miranda🔗 Follow Miranda: instagram.com/mrmayoFollow her exclusive project instagram.com/hereshecomestv Want more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter
How Trauma Shows Up Even in Healthy Love | Ft. @DatingCoachAnwar Lovers by Shan 2025-07-21 | Just because the relationship is safe doesn’t mean your body feels that way. When you’ve been conditioned to expect harm, safety can feel unfamiliar.Anwar White shares that after years of abandonment wounds, he spent the first year of his relationship constantly asking, “Are you okay? Are you leaving? What can I do?” Because his nervous system was still waiting for the exit.But love isn’t just about being chosen on your best days. It’s about being met in the mess and still feeling safe there.#LoversByShan #DatingWhileHealing #EmotionalSafety #LoversPodcast #FearOfAbandonment #NervousSystemHealing #RelationshipAnxiety #SelfSabotage #DatingAdvice #DatingTips
What’s Blocking You From Real Love | Ft. @DatingCoachAnwar Lovers by Shan 2025-07-20 | There’s a reason we split ourselves into pieces.To be palatable. To survive. To protect ourselves.But love can’t find you through the mask.It needs the whole you.Not a performance. Not a version. You.#LoversByShan #EmotionalIntimacy #ModernLove #SelfWorth #DatingWhileHealing #LoversPodcast #DatingAdvice #DatingTips #OnlineDating
Still Feel Insecure in a Good Relationship? You’re Not Alone | Ft. @DatingCoachAnwar Lovers by Shan 2025-07-19 | ...
Real Love Rarely Looks Like the Fairy Tale | Ft. @DatingCoachAnwar Lovers by Shan 2025-07-18 | There’s a safety in the fairy tale, and we have to let that go.Because most of the time, real love doesn’t look like what we pictured.But it feels the way you always believed love should.It’s not about your “to have” list.It’s about your “to feel” list.And making sure the person in front of you knows how to show up for it.#LoversByShan #EmotionalClarity #ModernLove #LoversPodcast #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #SelfWorth #OnlineDating
How Anwar White Helped His Single Mom Find Love | Ft. @DatingCoachAnwar Lovers by Shan 2025-07-17 | Who is Anwar White's star client? On this episode of Lovers by Shan, Anwar takes us on a journey through his family’s darkest days and brightest moments, together.Curious if anyone else with a single mum got to witness her find the love she deserves?#LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #LoversPodcast #DatingWhileHealing #datingadvice #SelfWorth #OnlineDating
You Deserve to Feel Safe in Love | Ft. Anwar White Lovers by Shan 2025-07-16 | Can you really date men if you're scared of them—or if deep down, you don't even like them? This week’s guest is Anwar White, a dating and relationship coach for Black and Brown women, better known as the Dating Fairy Godbrother. Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.
Are They Your Type or Your Trauma Response ft. @DatingCoachAnwar Lovers by Shan 2025-07-16 | What does it mean to date and be in relationships in a trauma-informed way? Are you dating from a place of fear instead of self-worth? In this powerful episode, certified dating and relationship coach Anwar White opens up about his personal journey and why emotional safety is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We explore the crucial question: Can you really date men if you're scared of them or if deep down, you don't even like them?Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating dating anxiety, or looking to build confidence and emotional security in love, this episode will give you the tools to understand and honor your safety needs.In this powerful and deeply personal episode, dating coach Anwar White joins Shan to talk about what it means to date with emotional and relational safety at the center. Anwar shares his personal story of leaving an unsafe environment as a child alongside his mother, and how that shaped his deep understanding of safety, trust, and partnership. Now, as a coach helping Black and Brown women find aligned, lasting love, Anwar breaks down the realities of trauma-informed dating, co-regulation, and building standards rooted in self-worth.This conversation also explores the ways our early relationships model love for us, and how watching his mother now thrive in a healthy partnership has become part of Anwar’s full-circle healing and success story.🔗 Follow Anwarinstagram.com/datingcoachanwarListen to his podcast: open.spotify.com/show/1PTRAwfi9ZPDF6h4BOWXvjCheckout his services getyourguycoaching.comWant more Lover?Checkout Shan’s AI trained to give only her advice to you http://loversbyshan.comSign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter💞 Join the Lovers Community: loversbyshan.com/communityCheckout free quizzes and worksheets designed to help you deepen your relationships http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterAdvertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
What It Means to Accept Your Fate in Love | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-16 | “I just started to accept my fate.”Not that love won’t happen. But that it doesn’t have to happen with him. What would it look like to accept your fate without giving up on what you deserve?#LoversByShan #ModernDating #Situationships #FemaleDesire #LoversPodcast #datingadvice #EmotionalClarity #SelfWorth #Fate
When Casual Sex Starts to Feel Empty | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-15 | You can want affection without asking for forever.Sometimes you’re not looking for commitment—but that doesn’t mean you only want sex.You might want closeness. To be held.To feel cared for, even if it’s casual.Casual sex might seem like freedom, but if it starts to feel disconnected, that’s worth listening to.You’re allowed to want more… even if you’re not looking for a commitment.#LoversByShan #Situationships #ModernDating #FemaleDesire #FriendsWithBenefits #LoversPodcast #EmotionalClarity #datingadvice
F*ck Buddy, Cuddle Buddy… Husband? | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-14 | Why are we expected to get all our needs met by one person before we even know what we want?Sometimes a cuddle buddy is what feels right.Sometimes it’s sex.Sometimes it’s just walking a really fine man’s dog.You get to explore what feels good to you.And you don’t owe anyone an explanation.#LoversByShan #ModernLove #Situationships #DatingWhileHealing #FemaleDesire #EmotionalClarity #LoversPodcast #HookingUp
You Say You Just Want Sex… But Is That All You Want? | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-13 | You say you just want sex… but is that really all you want?Sometimes we call it sexual freedom, but what we’re really craving is connection. Other times, we want the pleasure with no expectation.That’s the thing about liberation, it’s not one-size-fits-all. It’s knowing what feels good to you, and not judging anyone else's path.So the real question is: do you know what you want?#LoversByShan #ModernDating #HookupCulture #FemaleDesire #EmotionalClarity #LoversPodcast #Situationships #SelfAwareness
How Do You Find Sexual Liberation Without Being Objectified? | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-12 | “I don’t think anyone cares about your soul for a little bit.” 😬Let’s be honest. We’re all swiping on looks, maybe a decent bio. But where’s the line between being desired and being objectified?So many of us have learned to mistake attention for value. But if what you’re calling "liberation" leaves you feeling unseen, is it actually setting you free?Drop your take in the comments 👇#LoversByShan #HookupCulture #SelfWorthJourney #ModernDating #LoversPodcast #RelationshipTruths #SelfValue #OnlineDating
Casual Sex, But Can We Cuddle After? | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-11 | How is it sexual liberation if you're still accepting crumbs?What if you want casual sex and a little intimacy...like 10 minutes of cuddling after? Is that asking too much?Curious where y’all land on this. Drop your take in the comments ✨#LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #ModernDating #LoversPodcast #Situationships #HookingUp
The Lie Women Are Taught About Sex | Ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-10 | Why were we taught that sex makes him like us more?We were sold the lie that “giving him something” would make him want us more. But here’s the truth: sex might get you more time, but he already picked the shelf. And if it’s not a shelf you want to be on, staying longer isn’t the win you think it is.#LoversByShan #RelationshipTruths #ModernDating ##LoversPodcast #Situationships #HookingUp
Have Mind-Blowing Casual Sex Now AND a Husband Later | Ft. Decisions Decisions Lovers by Shan 2025-07-09 | What is the emotional tax on casual sex? This week’s guests are New York Times bestselling authors Mandii and Weezy, the brilliant, unfiltered voices behind the hit podcast Decisions, Decisions.We talk about what it means to shed the pressure to “find the one” and start prioritizing what actually feels good emotionally, sexually, and spiritually. From sexual freedom to the emotional complexity of casual sex to surviving sexual assault and learning how to feel safe again, this conversation goes deep.It’s raw. It’s personal. And it’s exactly the kind of truth we need more of.Watch the full episode on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts 🎧#LoversByShan #MandiiB #WeezyWTF #SexualLiberation #HookupCulture #datingadvice #LoversPodcast #EmotionalHealing #ModernLove
What’s the Emotional Tax on Casual Sex? ft. @DecisionsPod Lovers by Shan 2025-07-09 | In this episode, Weezy and Mandii B get real about shedding the pressure to “find the one” and embracing what feels good instead of what looks good on paper, how we need to reverse engineer the way we have casual sex, and how to set yourself up for success while dating and having casual sex. WeezyWTF expands on how sexual liberation goes hand in hand with how you approach and manifest casual sex. Mandii B & Binx open up about surviving sexual assault, and how that experience reshaped their relationships with men in their community. Follow Weezy: http://instagram.com/weezywtfFollow Mandii B: http://instagram.com/fullcourtpumpsTour Dates: nhbtour.comGet their book: https://a.co/d/8VY8Tje Follow Binx: http://instagram.com/the_binxFollow Seth aka Hands of Furey: Learn more about him: http://www.handsoffurey.comhttp://instagram.com/handsoffureyJoin the community at: http://loversbyshan.com/communityGet My Weekly Free Newsletter: http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterAdvertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
Anhedonia: How to Reclaim the Joy You Lost | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-08 | When you’re feeling low, it’s tempting to chase the thing that gives you the quickest high. But what if that’s not actually helping?@drjudithjoseph invites us to take a different approach — to explore the areas where joy has gone missing.Start by looking back. Pull out old photos.Notice the moments where you were smiling, lit up, fully alive.What were you doing then?Was it being in nature? Going to the beach? Making art?Joy isn’t always found in what feels easy or familiar.Sometimes, it’s waiting in the places we stopped exploring.#LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #Anhedonia #EmotionalHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #LoversPodcast #ReclaimYourJoy #HealingJourney #InnerChildWork #Joy #HighFunctioningDepression
Loneliness and High-Functioning Depression | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-07 | "Loneliness is the equivalent of smoking a pack and a half of cigarettes a day."Dr. Judith Joseph shares how high-functioning depression can convince us we have to do everything alone. We push people away, take on too much, and forget we’re allowed to receive.We’re not meant to do life solo.We need connection to thrive.Loneliness isn’t strength, it’s survival mode.#LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #Loneliness #HighFunctioningDepression #MentalHealthAwareness #LoversPodcast #EmotionalHealing #Depression #Anhedonia
Anhedonia and Depression: When Joy Disappears | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-07 | You were built for joy. So what happens when it disappears?When your favorite meal doesn’t taste like anything.When intimacy with your partner feels empty.When laughter just doesn’t land the way it used to.That’s called anhedonia — a lack of joy and pleasure, a sense of disconnection from the things that once lit you up.It’s more common than you think, and it has nothing to do with strength or willpower.You’re not broken.Your joy is worth reclaiming 🤍#LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #Anhedonia #HighFunctioningDepression #MentalHealthAwareness #LoversPodcast #EmotionalHealing #ReclaimJoy #depressionawareness #mentalhealthsupport
The Silent Struggle: Men and High-Functioning Depression | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-06 | What does high-functioning depression look like in men?Dr. Judith Joseph explains how many men are raised to suppress their emotions, focus on being the provider, and self-soothe in silence.It can show up as anger. As drinking. As withdrawal.Not because they’re fine — but because they’ve been taught not to feel.#LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #MensMentalHealth #HighFunctioningDepression #DepressionInMen #LoversPodcast #EmotionalSuppression #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaResponse
Postpartum Sadness Is Biological, Not Weakness | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-06 | You’re told to feel joy after giving birth. But what if your body is wired for sadness?Dr. Judith Jospeh breaks down what actually happens in the body postpartum — a steep hormonal drop, shifts in the brain, and a chemical change that can leave you feeling deeply low.You’re not wrong for feeling sad. You’re reacting exactly as your body was built to.#LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #PostpartumDepression #HormonalChanges #MaternalMentalHealth #EmotionalHealing #LoversPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #HighFunctioningDepression #Depression
Joy Isn’t a Luxury, It’s Survival | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-05 | Dr. Judith Joseph believes joy is necessary for survival — not just to thrive, but to make it through.She’s seen it around the world: people living with so little, still finding ways to smile. Kids playing in the street. Elders laughing. Music rising out of hardship.Even in struggle, joy lives.Joy is part of your story, not just your healing.#LoversByShan #DrJudithJoseph #JoyAsResistance #MentalHealthAwareness #HighFunctioningDepression #Depression #EmotionalHealing #LoversPodcast #BlackJoy #YouDeserveJoy
Overworking Can Be a Trauma Response | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-04 | Some people avoid their trauma by shutting down. Others avoid it by staying busy.Dr. Judith Joseph opens up about her own experience with high-functioning depression and how unresolved trauma can hide behind a mask of overworking, hyper-productivity, and taking on too much.From side hustles to fixing everyone else’s problems, it can look like success, but really it’s a way to stay ahead of the pain.#LoversByShan #HighFunctioningDepression #TraumaResponse #DrJudithJoseph #MentalHealth #Depression #EmotionalHealing #LoversPodcast #Overfunctioning
You Don’t Have to Feel Sad to Be Depressed | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-03 | Did you know you don’t have to feel sad to be depressed?That’s what makes depression so sneaky. You might not be crying or hopeless, you might just feel nothing.That numbness? That’s called anhedonia, a loss of pleasure, a quiet flatness where joy used to live. And it’s just as real as any other symptom of depression.We all carry the DNA for joy. If it’s gone, let this be your sign to take that first step towards feeling again 🤍#LoversByShan #Anhedonia #HighFunctioningDepression #DrJudithJoseph #MentalHealthEducation #DepressionAwareness #ReclaimYourJoy #LoversPodcast #EmotionalHealing #Depression #MentalHealth
The Silent Struggle: Anhedonia in High-Functioning Depression | Ft. Dr. Judith Joseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-02 | What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression?Our guest this week is Dr. Judith Jospeh, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate. We dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioning depression.Topics we unpack include:✨ How high-functioning depression operates✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked✨ The 3-part psycho-socio-biological model that explains it✨ How to begin reconnecting with your desire and vitalityThe full episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧#LoversByShan #MentalHealthAwareness #HighFunctioningDepression #Anhedonia #DrJudithJoseph #Depression #EmotionalHealing #ReclaimYourJoy #MentalHealth #LoversPodcast
Too Many of Us Are Living with High Functioning Depression ft. @drjudithjoseph Lovers by Shan 2025-07-02 | What if numbness is the hidden wound of high-functioning depression?In this episode, Shan sits down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist, clinical researcher, and internationally recognized mental health advocate.They dive deep into anhedonia, the loss of pleasure or interest in things that once brought you joy, and how it shows up, especially for those living with high-functioning depression. Dr. Joseph expands on how joy is our birthright and how it connects to our biopsychosocial blueprint.Expect insights on:✨ How high-functioning depression operates✨ Why anhedonia is so often overlooked✨ The three-part psycho-socio-biological model that explains it✨ How to begin reconnecting with your desire and vitality👑 Follow Dr. Judith Joseph on Instagram: http://instagram.com/drjudithjoseph👥 Join the community: http://loversbyshan.com/communitySign up to get a free weekly Love Letter from me http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterAdvertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
A Womans Sexual Desire Deserves Respect, Not Shame | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-30 | “If you have sex with a woman and afterwards you look at her as dirty, the next place you should look is your own hands.”We’ve been taught false narratives that sex makes women dirty and pleasure is shameful.But that story is over. A woman’s desire isn’t something to fear or shame. It’s beautiful and something to be honored.#LoversByShan #WomensPleasure #LoversPodcast #SeemaAnand #SacredFemininity #KamaSutra #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #FemininePower #Sensuality
Jewelry That Transforms Sex Into Sensory Theater | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-29 | “It’s not just saying I want to make love to you. You’re saying I’ve come prepared to make love to you.” - Seema AnandThis is sensory theater. The jewelry becomes part of the performance, a clear signal that pleasure is being approached with intention.Check out the full collection at surmeyi.com/kama#LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #LoversPodcast #KamaJewelry #KamaSutra #FemininePower #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #Sensuality
What the Kama Sutra Says About Cowgirl | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-28 | Cowgirl is what it’s called in the West.But in the Kāma Sutra, the translation is the woman above, and that name tells a different story.It’s not about riding hard or bouncing high.It’s about stillness. Control. Decadence.A throne you take, not a role you play.Because when you’re the woman above,you’re not performing. You’re leading.How would it feel to move like that?#LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #Intimacy #FeminineEnergy #Cowgirl #Surmeyi #LoversPodcast
How Jewelry Can Change the Way You Have Sex | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-27 | 🔥Try these 3 positions with your Five String Necklaces from our Käma line:1. Woman Above - sway side to side so it hits the nips2. Lotus - feel the warmth of the metal between you as you wrap five layers of you around your partner (arms, legs, head)3. Congress of Cow - tell them to put the chain right back if things get wild ☺️Want to see the full Seema x Shan line with Surmeyi? Go to Surmeyi.com/Kama
Making Sex More Pleasurable (Not Exhausting) | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-27 | Ever wanted to be on top but ran out of stamina halfway through?You’re not alone. A woman wrote to @seemaanandstorytelling saying she wanted to make her sex life more exciting, but being on top wears her out from all the bouncing.Porn taught us the wrong moves.And that’s where the waist chain from our @surmeyi Käma collection enters the chat.It helps teach you the right ones, guiding your rhythm so you move with intention, not exhaustion.You know you’ve nailed it when the bells don’t make a sound.It’s about the back and forth. The slight round and round. Intentional. Pleasurable.Explore the Käma Collection now at surmeyi.com/kama#LoversByShan #SeemaAnand #Intimacy #Surmeyi #WomensHealth #FemininePower #EroticWisdom #KamaSutra
What Kāma Really Teaches Us About Pleasure | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-26 | “Women and the earth are interchangeable🌺” — Seema AnandKāma is about honoring joy—especially the kind that lives in your body. Pleasure isn’t something to earn or apologize for. It’s a way of knowing yourself and ethically delighting in the pleasure other’s can provide. From sex to stillness, Kāma says: if it lights you up and hurts no one, let it come.Get Seema and myself’s line with Surmeyi at Surmeyi.com/kama
Desire, Ritual, and the Kama Sutra | Ft. Seema Anand Lovers by Shan 2025-06-25 | What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?This week’s guest is storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert @seemaanandstorytelling, who joins us to explore the rich history of sexual liberation.We unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.The episode is out now on YouTube and wherever you listen 🎧#LoversByShan#KamaSutra #FemininePower #Intimacy #AncestralHealing #EroticWisdom #Sensuality #SeemaAnand
Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. @SeemaAnandStoryTelling Lovers by Shan 2025-06-25 | What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.👑 Follow Seema Anand on http://Instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: http://surmeyi.com/kamaThe waist chain designed for being on topThe anklet designed for when your legs are in the airThe necklace designed for yab yumThe earrings designed for ridingThe choker designed for lotus positionThe spine chain designed for doggystyle 👥 Join the community: http://loversbyshan.com/communityAdvertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
The Fear of Repeating His Father’s Mistakes | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-24 | “What’s there to be afraid of when you’re the villain?”For Duckwrth , the fear is becoming his father — repeating the same pain he witnessed growing up. He sees the resemblance in his face, in his expressions… and he wants to run from it.So when Shan asks, “If you’re so afraid of becoming him… why do you still do it?” He explains what it feels like to disconnect. To move through life like an avatar — but detached, like someone else is in control.Because fear doesn’t always stop the cycle. Sometimes, it feeds it.#LoversByShan #Duckwrth #FatherWounds #GenerationalTrauma #Masculinity #vulnerability #LoversPodcast #ToxicMasculinity
Why He Ghosted You Even When It Felt Real | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-23 | You communicated. You were intentional. You didn’t play games.And he still ghosted you, leaving you wondering what you did wrong.Duckwrth opens up about the fear underneath it all.He shares how love can feel good, even right, but when it finally shows up, it scares him.#LoversByShan #Intimacy #Ghosting #Love #Masculinity #Situationships #Vulnerability #ToxicMasculinity #Duckwrth #LoversPodcast
Sex Was Sport | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-22 | “Sex was sport.”That’s how Duckwrth used to see it. But now? He’s opening up to help start a conversation. Because toxic masculinity has taught men to treat sex like a scoreboard.And unlearning that isn’t easy. But it’s where growth starts.#LoversByShan #Masculinity #ToxicMasculinity #Intimacy #Vulnerability #LoversPodcast
Damn, I’m Tooted and Suddenly Too Exposed | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-22 | Duckwrth says the hetero male experience can be boxed in, and he’s too colorful to fit inside it.For many men, even intimate moments can trigger discomfort.Because being physically vulnerable in front of a woman can feel like giving up power.It’s wild how deep that fear runs.Even when men feel safe, seen, and wanted… vulnerability still feels like a risk. Why is that?#LoversByShan #Duckwrth #Masculinity #Vulnerability #PowerDynamics #LoversPodcast #Intimacy
Is It Real… or Just the Chase? | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-21 | Ever felt someone do everything to win you over… only to vanish right after?Duckwrth opens up about how men can confuse sexual desire with emotional connection.It’s the love bombing. The charm. The attention that feels so real until it isn’t.Because once the goal is met, the energy shifts. The texts slow down. The connection fades.This is where the cycle begins.#LoversByShan #Duckwrth #LoveBombing #Situationships #EmotionalManipulation #Dating
The Whole Fuck Boy Bible | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-21 | We break down the D.E.N.N.I.S theory from It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia — a step-by-step guide on how to manipulate someone emotionally. Sound familiar?D – Demonstrate valueE – Engage physicallyN – Nurture dependenceN – Neglect emotionallyI – Inspire hopeS – Separate entirelyDuckwrth called it “damn near spot on.” Because sometimes, the manipulation is the entire strategy.#LoversByShan #EmotionalManipulation #Situationships #LoveBombing #Dating #LoversPodcast
Men Are Due For an Evolution | Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-19 | Do you agree with Duckwrth?This episode of @loversbyshan “He Was Never Going to Commit” has started some much needed conversations. Checkout the full episode here on YouTube.
Why Do Fuckboys… Fuckboy?| Ft. Duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-18 | This week’s guest is genre-bending artist Duckwrth, who joined us for a raw, revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle.We unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds shape the very patterns he explores in his latest album, All American Fuck Boy.If you’ve ever dated one, been hurt by one, or started questioning your own patterns — this one’s for you.#LoversByShan #EmotionalUnavailability #HealingMasculinity #DatedAFuckboy #FatherWounds #InnerChildHealing #BreakTheCycle #Duckwrth #RelationshipPatterns
He Was Never Going To Commit And Heres Why ft @duckwrth Lovers by Shan 2025-06-18 | Why do fuckboys… fuckboy?In this episode, we dig into the root of it. Just ahead of the release of his new single out now Permanent Vacation, genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation 💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth 👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/communityAdvertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
She Didn’t Want Sex on Her Honeymoon — And She Said It Out Loud | Ft. Tamsen Fadal Lovers by Shan 2025-06-17 | Tamsen Fadal was on her honeymoon when she realized something had shifted. She didn’t want sex. She didn’t know why. She just… didn’t.So she told her husband. Gently, honestly, without a solution. And the conversation they had that day — at the beach, not in the bedroom — changed everything.It created space. For understanding. For curiosity. For patience.It was the start of her reconnecting with her body on entirely new terms.Not with shame — but with self-trust.Not with fear — but with clarity.And not just to be understood by him, but to better understand herself.#LoversByShan #MenopauseAwareness #WomensHealth #Intimacy #LoversPodcast #perimenopause
The Dry Spell That Made Their Sex Life Better Than Ever | Ft. Tamsen Fadal Lovers by Shan 2025-06-17 | Tamsen Fadal didn’t want to be touched. Not kissing. Not penetration. Not anything. Her body had changed — walls were dry, estrogen was low, and sex was painful.But what came out of that dry spell?It brought something entirely different to her relationship. And when sex came back in the picture — it was better than ever.#LoversByShan #TamsenFadal #MenopauseAwareness #WomensHealth #Intimacy #LoversPodcast
How I Finally Found Out I Was in Menopause | Ft. Tamsen Fadal Lovers by Shan 2025-06-16 | Her doctor didn’t call. Didn’t explain. Just left a note in her online patient portal: “Menopause… any questions?” 😳That was the moment everything shifted for Tamsen Fadal. She had been struggling—weight gain, brain fog, not feeling like herself—and had no real answers.That note didn’t offer comfort but it did spark something powerful: the beginning of a journey to better understand her body, her health, and what she truly needed from her care.Because when the people tasked with helping you don’t take you seriously? You’re allowed to walk away. Fire your doctor. You deserve care that listens.#LoversByShan #MenopauseAwareness #PerimenopauseSupport #MidlifeHealth #LoversPodcast
The Love That Felt Right After One That Didn’t | Ft. Tamsen Fadal Lovers by Shan 2025-06-15 | “I asked my dad, ‘Do you think I’m doing the right thing?’”That was Tamsen Fadal's first wedding. With Ira, it was completely different—unexpected, respectful, and fun. The kind of love that sneaks up on you and just feels right.Sometimes it takes the wrong one to teach you what the right one should feel like. 💫#LoversByShan #RelationshipLessons #LoversPodcast #UnexpectedLove #SecondChances
