Uploaded April 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
In this Dear DSO submission, a follower named John reached out to share his story. He was in a long-distance relationship, had clear boundaries about contact with the opposite sex, and discovered that his girlfriend followed and messaged a local pharmacy tech—without telling him. That was enough for John to walk away… but now he’s second-guessing everything.
In this video, I break down the situation, why setting boundaries is crucial, and why some men struggle to enforce them without being consumed by insecurity. I also get into the hard truth: even when you do the right thing, it’s going to hurt.
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In this Dear DSO submission, a follower named John reached out to share his story. He was in a long-distance relationship, had clear boundaries about contact with the opposite sex, and discovered that his girlfriend followed and messaged a local pharmacy tech—without telling him. That was enough for John to walk away… but now he’s second-guessing everything.
In this video, I break down the situation, why setting boundaries is crucial, and why some men struggle to enforce them without being consumed by insecurity. I also get into the hard truth: even when you do the right thing, it’s going to hurt.
🔹 Want to submit your own story for the podcast or YouTube channel? Go to deardso.com
Dad Starting Over is part of the Help For Men network! Learn more at helpformen.com
🌐The HFM Brotherhood (private group for men only): helpformen.com/join
FOLLOW ME ON
💥 Facebook facebook.com/dadstartingover
💥 TikTok: tiktok.com/@dad.starting.over
💥 Instagram: instagram.com/dadstartingover
💥 X: twitter.com/dadstartingover
Our Books:
🌐The Dead Bedroom Fix: deadbedroomfix.com
🌐Divorce Panic: divorcepanic.com
🌐Real Talk: helpformen.com/real-talk
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BetterHelp - Get 10% off your first month! betterhelp.com/helpformen
