Uploaded April 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
I sit down with Dr. Kelly to unpack what really happens when we get triggered and why it feels so hard to stay in control. We dive into how our nervous system hijacks us, how past experiences shape our reactions, and why awareness alone isn’t enough to change behavior. I also explore what it actually means to “keep your heart open” in conflict and how to take ownership without taking blame. This conversation is a practical look at how to respond instead of react, especially in relationships that matter most.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 What Is A Trigger
03:15 The Three Step Trigger Cycle
06:20 Why You Get Hijacked
11:50 Regulating The Nervous System
18:15 Fight Flight And Control Modes
27:30 Control And Letting Go
36:20 What Keeping Your Heart Open Means
43:30 Sensing Conflict Before It Happens
54:20 Taking Ownership In Conflict
01:04:00 What To Do During Conflict
📘 RESOURCES:
How To Quit Porn guide - training.mantalks.com/Quit
My book, Men's Work: mantalks.com/mens-work-book
Online men’s group, The Alliance: mantalks.com/alliance
🔗 CONNECT WITH ME
Follow the journey on Instagram: instagram.com/mantalks
Visit the website for more resources and tools: mantalks.com
Join the newsletter: training.mantalks.com/newsletter-signup
⚡️ WHO IS CONNOR BEATON & MANTALKS?
Welcome to the ManTalks YouTube channel. I’m Connor Beaton, and my mission is to help men break through the barriers holding them back.
Whether it’s in your relationships, your career, or your mental health, this channel is dedicated to giving you the tools, conversations, and insights you need to step into the man you’re meant to be.
Here, you’ll find real, unfiltered discussions on relationships, masculinity, purpose, and self-mastery. Subscribe, tune in, and start living a life with more depth, purpose, and power.
I sit down with Dr. Kelly to unpack what really happens when we get triggered and why it feels so hard to stay in control. We dive into how our nervous system hijacks us, how past experiences shape our reactions, and why awareness alone isn’t enough to change behavior. I also explore what it actually means to “keep your heart open” in conflict and how to take ownership without taking blame. This conversation is a practical look at how to respond instead of react, especially in relationships that matter most.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 What Is A Trigger
03:15 The Three Step Trigger Cycle
06:20 Why You Get Hijacked
11:50 Regulating The Nervous System
18:15 Fight Flight And Control Modes
27:30 Control And Letting Go
36:20 What Keeping Your Heart Open Means
43:30 Sensing Conflict Before It Happens
54:20 Taking Ownership In Conflict
01:04:00 What To Do During Conflict
📘 RESOURCES:
How To Quit Porn guide - training.mantalks.com/Quit
My book, Men's Work: mantalks.com/mens-work-book
Online men’s group, The Alliance: mantalks.com/alliance
🔗 CONNECT WITH ME
Follow the journey on Instagram: instagram.com/mantalks
Visit the website for more resources and tools: mantalks.com
Join the newsletter: training.mantalks.com/newsletter-signup
⚡️ WHO IS CONNOR BEATON & MANTALKS?
Welcome to the ManTalks YouTube channel. I’m Connor Beaton, and my mission is to help men break through the barriers holding them back.
Whether it’s in your relationships, your career, or your mental health, this channel is dedicated to giving you the tools, conversations, and insights you need to step into the man you’re meant to be.
Here, you’ll find real, unfiltered discussions on relationships, masculinity, purpose, and self-mastery. Subscribe, tune in, and start living a life with more depth, purpose, and power.
