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It’s so much harder to listen when he’s frustrated at me. When he has feelings i don’t understand. When he wants something different than me. It’s harder to share my own feelings when I’m scared of them. When it feels super vulnerable. When I’m worried my feelings might hurt his feelings.
I learned from Esther Perez that “research tells us we have the capacity to listen for 10 seconds when someone tells us something we don’t agree with. That’s 3 sentences.”
But listening when it’s hard is a skill that can be practiced.
One of my roles as a relationship coach is to slow down conversations. When conversations get tough, when feelings get uncomfortable, it’s VERY tempting to switch to explaining, justifying, or problem-solving. But doing so robs you of the opportunity to listen and be present.
So I’ll make sure you REALLY understand what he said. I’ll help you understand what he did (and just as importantly DIDN’T say). I’ll get you to pay attention to the 84397 assumptions you just made about what he said MEANS or what he THINKS (but didn’t say).
You CAN practice listening for longer. And the longer you’re able to listen, the more present you’re able to be with the tough conversations? The more resilient your relationship.
Want to strengthen and deepen your relationship? Follow along for more!
Making and returning bids — like our silly “touching the wall” bit — is one of the most important things you can do cultivate trust, affection, commitment, and security in your relationship.
Each time, you add a little spark of romance.
Want more tips on how to strengthen your relationship (that are actually fun + sexy to do)? Follow along!
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I share experiences from working with couples in my relationship coaching practice, shedding light on the challenges they've encountered and how to navigate through them. Whether you're the partner craving more connection or feeling uncertain about your desires, I've got practical advice for both of you.
This video is for you if you've ever said or thought:
- "I want sex more often than my partner does"
- "My partner wants to have sex more than I do and I feel bad / weird / anxious / annoyed about it"
- "We aren't having sex like we used to"
- "I thought 'lesbian bed death' didn't happen to gay men?!"
- "All the other gay couples I know are having way more sex than we are" (spoiler alert: they aren't!)
- "Our sex life is great... but I'd still like more or something different"
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In particular, there are TWO different types of check-ins you and your partner should be doing regularly for a healthy relationship.
A weekly "Sync Session" and a monthly "Shift Session" — watch the video for all the deets on what those are, why they're important, and what to talk about.
These two check-ins will help deepen your connection, spice up your sex life, reduce conflict and jealousy, and address common complaints and concerns.
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I appreciate that they combine their understanding of relationship research and trainings PLUS their own personal experiences PLUS the experiences of their clients and community. Their podcast is chock full of relationship wisdom and really interesting interviews.
While the podcast started out focused on polyamory, over the years they’ve broadened their scope to focus on healthy practices for relationships of all types (one of the hosts has been in a monogamous relationship for years now).
That’s the thing: what it takes to have a thriving open or polyamorous relationship is also what it takes to have a thriving monogamous relationships. It’s just that it’s easier for monogamous folks to neglect that work because society is structured around keeping them together.
So, I was stoked when Dedeker, Emily, and Jase (the hosts of Multiamory) sent me an advance copy of their book to read and asked to come on my YouTube channel to talk about it. The book is SO GOOD.
Enjoy!
Buy the Multiamory book on Amazon (amzn.to/486UuCi), Bookshop (bit.ly/41gkk4u)
See what folks are saying about the Multiamory book and find other places to get it at: multiamory.com/book
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In this video we'll cover:
00:00 Introduction
00:15 The relationship argument trap
01:00 Reframing conflict in your relationship
02:05 What happens if you fall into old patterns
03:14 A specific action you can to do to interrupt arguments
3:35 Next steps
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BUT just because you start a sentence with "I feel..." doesn't mean that what you're about to describe is actually a feeling.
If you're saying "I feel LIKE" or "I feel THAT," what follows is almost certainly not a feeling.
It might be...
⛔️ Metaphor ("I feel like I’m going to explode")
⛔️ Observation ("I feel that you were late")
⛔️ Judgement ("I feel like you don’t care about me")
⛔️ Analysis ("I feel you're cheating on me")
Those are useful but not feelings (I'll share more on what to do with metaphors, observations, and judgements in another video)
So if you find yourself saying (or wanting to say) “I feel like…” or “I feel that…”
Keep going!
What’s the feeling underneath that? When you get there, no one can argue with it. Your partner can sit with you in it. It doesn’t have to be justified or denied… it just is.
And then once you know the feeling, you can work on soothing it, decide how to respond to it, and work on cultivating a new feeling.
Can’t quite figure out you're feeling? I made a big ole list of feelings. Sometimes I need to look at the list to help me narrow in on what I'm actually feeling. You can download it for free at briangerald.com/feelings
I’m a sucker for big, romantic gestures. There’s a new gay movie out on Hulu — Fire Island — and like any good rom-com, it ends with an over the top romantic moment!
But big plans don’t just happen in Tv shows and movies. When your relationship hits a bump, whether it’s a big one or a small one, you might be tempted to look for an even bigger solution to the problem.
That makes sense! Your relationship is bigger than whatever challenge you’re facing and so, emotionally, it makes sense to one-up your obstacle.
Watch this video to learn when to go for a big, romantic gesture and what to do in the in between times to build a thriving, stable, and secure gay relationship
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“Commitment” means different things to different people.
Each person will bring their own expectations of what being in a committed relationship involves — even if you agree that you want to monogamous or agree that you want to be open.
I see trouble come along down the road when guys aren’t clear about what they expect.
Clarity 👏 is 👏crucial 👏
The Commitment Clarity Checklist is a way to create more security and connection while opening the door for future possibility in a way that feels safe and committed.
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In this short guided checklist, you’ll learn
🙌 How to get on the same page in how you describe your relationship
🙌 What you both mean by words like “boyfriends,” "partner," “taken,” “committed” or “exclusive” (you'd be surprised how different these can be! and how damaging misunderstandings can be)
🙌 A better way to strengthen your relationship and get on the same page, while leaving room for exploration in the future
🙌 How to align your interests and values so that everyone feels safe and excited in the relationship
🙌 The three lists you and your boyfriend need to make to avoid arguments about commitment or cheating in the future
🙌 Disagreement does not need to be mean the end of a relationship
🙌 A simple, low-pressure way to ask for what you want while also loving and respecting your partner
🙌 The first thing to do if your partner wants an open relationship so that you don’t sacrifice your feelings, values, or needs
This is where every couple should start:
✅ Before opening up or talking about polyamory
✅ If you want to improve your already-open relationship
✅ Or even if you want to stay monogamous
When you and your partner are on the same page, anything is possible.
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What makes for dramatic television doesn't necessarily make for a satisfying relationship. It's important to not confuse the two!
If you want to add some *healthy* excitement back into your relationship, while also increasing your connection and commitment, I got you! Subscribe to this channel for relationship tips and tricks AND/OR schedule a time together with your partner to some quick and easy — but high impact — things you can start doing right away, custom for you: learn.briangerald.com/breakthrough
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I binged every episode in 24 hours while I was sick with COVID. It was the perfect antidote. Heartstopper is the representation of bisexual, transgender, lesbian, gay, and queer stories that would have made a world of a difference for so many gay guys growing up. But… I want to take a closer look at the messages Heartstopper might teach you about gay relationships. If you’re not careful, it might end up sabotaging your own relationship.
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- Lavish gifts
- Trips full of adventure
- Romantic date nights at fancy restaurants
- Passionate sex
- Cuddles by the fire
- Maybe a house full of kids?
What you probably aren't thinking about is spreadsheets, shared calendars, and to do lists. But the truth is, planning together is the sign of a healthy relationship. It's the foundation of a thriving gay relationship.
While planning together as a couple might not be the most exciting part of your relationship, it's what makes all of those exciting things possible! Watch this video to learn about why you need to be planning with your boyfriend and how to get started.
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== HERE'S WHAT WE COVER ==
0:00 What's your ideal relationship?
0:58 Introduction
1:19 Elements of A Thriving Relationship
2:06 How Romance Happens
3:48 Studies on Satisfying Relationships
4:45 Planning Together Is a Sign of a Healthy Relationship
5:01 How to Plan Together in 30 Minutes a Week
6:26 Curiosity Focused Conversations
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That's where personal and relationship goals come in. In this video, I share why it's important to set personal goals as well as goals for your relationship that you decide together with your boyfriend. I also go over how to get started doing both. Having a shared vision for your relationship while being supported in your personal identity is one of the secrets to a successful, thriving, long-term gay relationship.
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=== WHAT WE COVER IN THIS VIDEO ===
00:00 - Intro
00:40 - The Desire for Belonging
01:00 - The 2 Forces in Every Relationship
02:02 - Differentiation (what makes relationships stable AND exciting)
03:13 - Examples of goals
03:35 - Goals as Relationship Scaffolding
04:10 - How to set personal & relationship goals
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But once you find a boyfriend, then what? What’s the next step? How do you make sure that your happily ever after is actually forever? And, heck, happy?
A relationship roadmap can help keep your relationship on track toward a future that is both stable and exciting.
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Yes, relationships take work. But your relationship doesn't have to be hard. And you don't have to figure it out all on your own.
This video will help you identify some myths about relationships, including some relationship research onconflict in relationships and healthy, stable, long-term relationships from The Gottman Institute, and will point you in the direction of improving your own relationship. You're worth it.
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Pick a word of the year instead of setting new years resolutions: youtube.com/watch?v=T7QXpir-lVQ
Why you should set sexual resolutions (and how to do it): youtube.com/watch?v=lcfpENE9YL4
Here are the playlists!
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Is an open relationship right for me? youtube.com/watch?v=Cz0zGGCXO9E&list=PL-t8NaHxTCEL60x6rXaT-tx54_zzDUtTg
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One thing I’ve learned over the years, is that some open relationship rules are better than others. In fact, some open relationship rules can actually make things WORSE. (We definitely don’t want that for you). In this video, we’re going to cover:
+ Why couples set rules for their open relationship
+ Examples of common, but unhelpful, rules to avoid
+ Examples of some “starter” rules you can use as you begin to open your relationship
+ Taking Your Rules To The Next Level: Something to Try Instead of Rules
What rules have you tried in your open relationship? Share in the comments!
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There’s no one right way to be in a relationship — monogamy, open relationship, polyamory, or monogamish — they can all work. The key is to make sure that you consider your options and YOU decide what’s right for you. Not what’s right for your parents or your therapist or even Dan Savage.
What’s the difference between polyamory and an open relationship? This video breaks it down: youtu.be/TF0DIkbdSwc
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Once you make it official with your new boyfriend, you’ll want to make sure that you have — and keep — a healthy relationship. Here’s a video with the 6 signs of a healthy gay relationship: youtube.com/watch?v=-58h9ohN-dA
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How the heck are you doing?
(No seriously, let me know below or drop me a line on IG)
Relationships are SO IMPORTANT and not just romantic ones. Check out this video on queer friendship for a reminder on the beauty that is friendship between LGBTQ people: youtu.be/EH03p5rf0HU
If you have unaffirming friends or family, watch this video for some actions that you can take to make sure you take care of yourself. You're worth it! youtu.be/2DZuUSL_F1Y
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Have you ever experienced compersion? I’d love to hear your happy poly story! Share it in the comments below :)
Compersion can be thought of as the opposite of jealousy but it’s important to remember that it’s not that compersion is “good” and jealousy is “bad.” In fact, I think jealousy can be really useful in your relationship. Watch this to learn about the unexpected benefits of jealousy: youtu.be/dt2lJcAR3pg
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Today, I'm exploring some polyamorous breakup myths and the misconceptions that lie underneath. By the end of this video, you'll understand more about polyamorous relationships.
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Eighteen-year-old Brian had HUTZPAH! Now, nearly half my life later, I think that I could learn something about courage from my younger self. Here's what I think he'd tell me. I know some folks share letters to their younger self or letters to their future self... this is my take: advice FROM my younger self.
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We’re more secure, more confident, and less jealous in open relationships or in polyamorous relationships.
Here's why — and what you can learn from that whether you are in an open relationship or happy to be monogamous
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"My boyfriend asked to be open because he says he really enjoys sex with other guys. The question I always ask is why am I not enough? And he says that’s a selfish way to think. Is it selfish to think that with as much as I do for him, I should be the one he focuses on?"
If you or your boyfriend wants an open relationship, "Why am I not enough?" might be a reaction that you're having. In this video, I offer some ways you can think through that question.
SPOILER ALERT: you matter and you are enough 😘
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What is a relationship coach? Is a relationship coach right for you? And how to find a relationship?
That's what we are going to cover in this video.
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This one relationship communication mistake has led to a communication breakdown more times than I can remember. Sometimes, I need to remember my own gay relationship advice and turn inward.
Realizing that we're not perfect and that we usually have a part to play in relationship conflict is hard but important. What's something about yourself that you've been able to grow in?
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“Feelings are not facts”
and
“Your feelings are valid”
So which one is it?
"My partner doesn't respect my feelings" is a complaint I hear often. So is "I don't know why he's upset, that's not what happened!" In today's video, I breakdown what "feelings are not facts" and "your feelings are valid" really mean. You'll learn some personal development steps you can take to understand yourself better. Understanding your feelings can lead to more healthy communication in relationships. Plus, you'll get some practical relationship tips to help your partner understand you better and to help your partner respect your feelings.
Your feelings — whatever they are! —can be a powerful tool to help you live into your best life.
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Brian G. Murphy is a certified relationship coach who works (mostly) with gay and bisexual guys to build thriving relationships. On this channel, you'll find gay relationship advice for single guys, monogamous couples, guys in open relationships, polyamorous relationships, and more.
We've come a long way since I was sneaking downloads of Queer As Folk late at night on Kazaa. LGBTQ representation is way more common and diverse. Now, you can see lots of different types of gay relationships in TV shows. It's pretty awesome to have so much to choose from!
What are you watching / reading / listening to? I need recommendations!
The story of the hot Australian who I thought was the man of my dreams: youtu.be/KZ-y9VENwZY
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I’ve got A BUNCH of messages from guys asking whether it’s ok to send sexy pics when they’re starting to date someone — Y’ALL ARE THIRSTY!
In this video, we're gonna cover:
- should you sext when starting to date a new guy?
- is it ok to swap sexy pics when trying to build a gay relationship?
- how soon is "too soon" to send nudes?
- gay sexting advice
- how to balance sex and romance in a gay relationship
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Whether you're single, dating, or living with a boyfriend, I've got some ways that you can keep dating during COVID-19.
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What if you have a primary partner and a secondary partner? Multiple primary partners? Or maybe you’re non-hierarchical or solo poly. Maybe you’re not polyamorous at all: you’re just in a gay open relationship and sometimes have some fun on the side?
Some things are true in any open relationship: multiple people are involved.
In this video, I share a few best practices to take care of yourself, your relationship, and everyone involved so that you can have a healthy and successful open relationship;
If this is you, you’ll also find these videos helpful:
+ Open Relationship Rules - bit.ly/2JgEXq8
+ Open Relationship vs Polyamory: What's the Difference? - bit.ly/3dtCoPh
+ 5 Tips for Dating a Guy in an Open Relationship - bit.ly/2UigeYH
+ Should I date a guy in an open relationship? - bit.ly/2QLw4J5
+ Will opening up our relationship ruin it? - bit.ly/3alRQuP
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"Do you have any advice on transitioning time from one partner to another? That's the been the number on thing I've been struggling with as transitions between social situations and new activities require a bit of acclimation. This has been heightened going from one relationship to another when I cohabitate with one partner, my boyfriend lives with his husband, and we both struggle with the transition"
I sure do! Time management is a big part of any open relationship or polyamorous; transition from time spent with one partner to another is def part of that! In this video, I offer 4 tips on how you can manage your open relationship more smoothly.
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I think I’m supposed to say that every relationship is different and I can’t answer that, but I do have an answer. Is an open relationship a good idea? Watch on to find out.
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Queer friendships are vital - youtube.com/watch?v=EH03p5rf0HU
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