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Dont mistake the gunfight for the mountains Order of Man 2023-07-01 | Lt Colonel Brian Slade discusses the importance of maintaining perspective when we are going through hard times. Don't mistake the finite for the infinite. Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man Podcast: youtu.be/bIPA6jv8234
You are not your father...unless you choose to be Order of Man 2023-06-30 | Ryan Michler discusses how men can choose a new path as a father and are not destined to repeat the mistakes of their own fathers. Check out the full discussion on today's Friday Field Notes: youtu.be/g7Gr-FCacXY
4 Strategies To Be a Better Father Order of Man 2023-06-30 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses FOUR strategies to help men become better fathers and shed the baggage handed down by our own fathers. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. Recognize that our dads are not superhuman2. Be realistic about what elements you want to take from your own father 3. Review the work that we are doing4. Think about what your kids needOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
What is your honorable mission? Order of Man 2023-06-29 | Lt Colonel Brian Slade speaks to Ryan about always having an honorable mission that does not "define" you but brings you value, joy, and purpose.Check out the full conversation: youtu.be/bIPA6jv8234
Overcoming the Fear of Failure Order of Man 2023-06-28 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler takes on your questions from the Iron Council and the Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(2:50) Is there a point where you decide that your objective is not working and it should be adjusted or is that an individual decision?(6:20) Can you share your thoughts on building and following through on a first-time Battle Plan?(8:20) Is there a difference between doing the Battle Plan on the app or in the journal vs. just keeping track in a journal?(12:00) Is it best to build your objectives on the previous quarter, or should you bounce around, as long as it moves you toward your vision?(15:00) What does your battle plan look like for Q3?(19:00) How can I incorporate a side hustle into my battle plan, while having a full time career?(21:00) Any advice for a new Iron Council member?(23:00) Can “nutrition” alone be an objective for the condition quadrant?(27:40) How do you reconcile with a fear of failure?(33:20) Do you have any tips on going after multiple goals at once?(37:40) Why is it hard to see your dad, who was once a strong and able-bodied man, deteriorate?(42:00) How is your BJJ journey going now that you are back in Utah?(43:10) How much do you involved your girlfriend in discussing your own goals and plans for the future?Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appFor more information on the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
LT. COLONEL BRIAN SLADE | Triumph Over Trauma Order of Man 2023-06-27 | Every one of us has experienced trauma of some sort in our lives. Some more challenging scenarios than others. But it does no good to compare our own circumstances with others, only what those who seem to be able to manage and work past the difficulties of life can teach us.Combat Rescue Helicopter Pilot, Lt. Colonel Brian Slade joins me on today to talk about strategies he’s learned and developed for overcoming some of the worst scenarios he and others have overcome in their lives. We discuss the concept of “chair flying” as a method for anticipating and preparing for traumatic events, the difference between those who adapt to challenge and those who don’t, why we as men need to wrap our heads around “operating in the ugly,” overcoming festering emotional wounds, and how to triumph over trauma.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* “Just get over it” its not great advice* Stress inoculation and “chair flying”* Gratitude and perspective* Don’t mistake the gunfight (finite) for the mountains (infinite)* Perspective creates your reality * Always have an honorable mission* The only way out is through Read the full articleorderofman.com/briansladeOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
You better get good at something Order of Man 2023-06-26 | If you are adding value, you don't need to talk someone into doing something...they will come to you. Check out the full conversation with Dr. Henry Cloud on the Order of Man Podcast: youtu.be/526Fe1WCplg
Life is a formula Order of Man 2023-06-23 | We tend to overcomplicate life. In general, much of life is predictable. We know what we need to focus on to live a better life. Focus on strengthening these areas...and living a better life is inevitable. Check out Ryan's full discussion on this topic on this week's Friday Field Notes: youtu.be/A20OuKoUmAQ
7 Steps to a Better Life Order of Man 2023-06-23 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses SEVEN areas that, if approached with intentionality and consistency, will drastically improve your life. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. Eat right2. Move your body3. Self reflect (Journaling)4. Connecting with a purpose5. Serve other people6. Be smart with your money7. Find joyJoin the Iron Council:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Were as good as our last interaction Order of Man 2023-06-22 | Dr. Henry Cloud discusses how men should avoid breaking trust in any type of relationship and how we can rebuild trust if it's been broken.Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man Podcast: youtu.be/526Fe1WCplg
Make survival fun, not extreme Order of Man 2023-06-21 | Mike Glover shares his strategy for storing and replenishing food supplies, explaining that keeping things fun and not extreme is the way to stay on top of things and not alienate those around you.Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/qP8vA5sr6S8
Dont Project Expectations on Others Order of Man 2023-06-21 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(11:50) As a father whom has lost 4 children to miscarriage since 2015, is it acceptable to be bothered by people not including me into fathers day thoughts? Or is that just projecting as I can't expect them to remember as my kids are not standing next to me?(26:00) I’m a step dad to a 14-year-old daughter. I’ve been in her life for 8 years, but still haven’t found that connection. What are your thoughts on helping to build that bond?(34:40) What can I do to repair the relationship with my older children?(43:20) How do you balance or navigate being a new business owner and your family?(47:30) How do you navigate being a father that is present in your kids life’s while spending the time necessary to grow a business, volunteer, be there for them men in your battle team, and all the things we need to do to be good men?(57:00) I can’t get the voice of my abusive father out of my head and I’m afraid that I am showing signs of behaving in a similar way toward my own children. What advice would you offer to help me and guys like me in similar circumstances?Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appFor more information on the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
TIM BALLARD | Eradicating Child Sex Trafficking Order of Man 2023-06-20 | Child sex trafficking literally permeates every corner of the globe. It’s despicable, it’s nasty, and it’s a growing trend, even in 2023. Where most men recognize problems in this world, few are willing to put their own careers and lives on the line to create solutions.My guest today is built different. His name is Tim Ballard and he is the founder of Operation Underground Railroad which exists to rescue children from dangerous and despicable sex rings. Today, we talk about what a truly compassionate border policy would look like, the hyper-sexualization of the world and the degeneracy it leads to, how unintended policy incentives often make problems worse, why evil lurks behind the concept of tolerance, and his latest film uncovering the underground child sex trade, Sound of Freedom.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* The U.S. is one of the top consumers of child sexual material * Open borders are contributing to the problem* Its not easy to profile child sexual predators * Pornography is a gateway * Sex work is the antithesis of feminism * When is government intervention appropriate * Media standing in the way of fighting child trafficking* The process of finding traffickers * The Sound of FreedomRead the full articleorderofman.com/timballard2Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Enjoy your kids while you can Order of Man 2023-06-16 | Our kids grow up fast! Be sure to appreciate the time you have with them, because it won't last forever.Check out Ryan's full conversation with Nate Feathers on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/iolDb1INH28
5 Steps to Bring Your Ideas to Life Order of Man 2023-06-16 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler provides a 5-step framework to help you ensure that the way you are thinking and the steps you are taking are going to foster and bolster success in your life, and not hinder it. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. Take inventory of where you are in life2. Foster and empower positive thoughts and eradicate negatives thoughts3. Go where producers are4. Be vigilant of the input going into your mind5. Gratitude and serviceOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Preparing Kids for a Move, Crafting a Compelling Vision, and How to Build a Movement Order of Man 2023-06-14 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(7:05) How do I encourage my son to overcome apprehension about moving to a new town and even embrace the move?(17:30) Can you provide some help with crafting my vision?(32:00) How did you grow the Iron Council from 20 men to 100?(41:00) What advice can you provide on balancing time with my fiancé and child and my own personal growth and fitness after recently having our first child?(45:30) What have you learned from the process of building a home and how can you apply this to your life in the future?(54:50) Any tips on public speaking?(1:06:00) When are you reopening the Iron Council again?
5 Factors That Drive the Trust System Order of Man 2023-06-13 | Trust is something all of us know we need to build in order to have influence with those we love and whom we’re called to lead. But it’s also incredibly difficult to build and even harder to repair once you’ve undermined it. And, unfortunately, as challenging as it is to build, it’s incredibly easy to tear apart never to be seen again.My guest today is Dr. Henry Cloud, author of his latest book, Trust: Knowing When to Give It, When to Withhold It, How to Earn It, and How to Fix It When It Gets Broken. We talk about trust being a learned skill, the process for repairing trust, 5 factors that drive the trust system, trust as a long game vs. a short game, and how trust fuels every single aspect of life.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* The importance of having in-person conversations* Creating a safe environment for those around us* Five steps to building trust* We need to know that people have our back* The way we say things matters* We need to become good at something * Behave your way back into trust* Breaking down trust barriers * Building trust can take longer than we want it to* Life is giving us a 360 review all the time…if we’re listening* Be intentional with the patterns we developRead the full articleorderofman.com/henrycloudOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Create Your Lifes Battle Rhythm Order of Man 2023-06-09 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses why you need to create a battle rhythm in your life and FIVE key strategies to design and implement this Battle Rhythm. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. You have to live YOUR life2. Develop and create systems for everything that you repeatedly do3. Establish and communicate boundaries 4. Have some margin in the middle5. Anticipate changesOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Dealing with Anger, Why We Get Angry, and Not Betraying Yourself Order of Man 2023-06-07 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler takes on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(4:10) How do you control anger before it becomes rage?(15:30) With all that is going on in the world today, why are people not talking about generational riptide?(21:50) How do I deal with my wife after giving birth when she is mad at me for losing weight but isn’t making the best choices around fitness and nutrition for herself?(30:30) Does taking a family vacation stress you out?(33:30) How do you handle people who want to take your place in a leadership position, but they are not as capable as you are?(40:00) What can one do to develop a stronger self-worth and self-esteem?(46:20) How do I help my wife and children through the trauma of being in a major car accident?(51:20) What practical things do you start doing every day to move you closer to the person that you want to be?(55:00) How do you deal with the negative people who constantly tell you that you cant do what you need to do?(58:30) What did you learn from a recent failure?Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appFor more information on the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
MIKE GLOVER | How to Survive Worst-Case Scenarios Order of Man 2023-06-06 | Many of us have been in some horrible circumstances. Between war, rioting, home invasion, active-shooter situations, natural disasters, civil unrest, and more, it’s becoming increasingly common to find ourselves in life and death struggles. We must not be unprepared for when that day arrives.My guest today, Mike Glover, formerly in the Special Forces and CIA contractor, joins me today to talk about ensuring we are prepared should we encounter one of these moments. We discuss his latest book, Prepared, increasing risk tolerance, fortifying your home and equipping your vehicle, the importance of self-discipline, paranoia and the Law of Diminishing Returns, peacocking for safety, policing each other, and surviving worst case scenarios.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* Building a resilient mindset* Using statistical probably to be prepared* Preparedness through exposure* Things will not always go according to plan* How much preparation is too much* Telegraphing your intent through your body language* If you are going to carry a weapon, be trained * Politics affecting the supply chain* With supply chain issues comes a security threatRead the full articleorderofman.com/mikegloverOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
6 Strategies for Garnering Influence With Others Order of Man 2023-06-02 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses the importance of leading by example and provides SIX strategies to help garner influence with others. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. We have to be humble2. Must accept the weight of leadership 3. Evaluate your own performance 4. Leadership requires an “us” mentality 5. Continual improvement6. Effective communication Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Early Days of Sobriety, Building a Community with Dissenting Voices, and Managing Grief Order of Man 2023-05-31 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler takes on your questions from Instagram. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(3:20) When you have a lot on your plate, how do you keep your sanity and your family in tact?(8:20) Will I ever see you again on the mats in Maine?(9:20) Is there a book you would recommend, along with the Bible, to help with your walk as a Christian?(10:25) How is sobriety and how can I support your journey?(13:30) How do you think people build community when people tend to keep opposing views as far away as possible?(19:00) How do you start a t-shirt printing business without using amazon or bulk ordering?(23:40) How are you dealing with losing your marriage at this early stage?(32:50) How do I allow myself grace when trying to start something new?(40:00) Do you ever find it hard to find motivation? Do you ever want to quit doing your podcast?(42:00) How did you get your son into lifting?(46:00) How do you cope with the “I’m to old to start over” thoughts?Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appFor more information on the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Raising Children in the Modern Age Order of Man 2023-05-30 | “I’m babysitting my kids,” is likely something a lot of you fathers have used as an excuse or reason not to do something else. I know I certainly have. But we don’t really babysit, do we. Babysitting our children implies they aren’t our inherent responsibility and that, obviously, is not the case.My guest today, Nate Feathers, makes the case against “babysitting our children,” and, instead, shows fathers a better way to approach the relationship between father and son or daughter. Today, we talk about kids mimicking our behavior, the changes in culture with regards to fatherhood, how to bond effectively with newborns, toddlers, and teens, learning to let go of your children, how to keep the relationship (and sex life) with your wife thriving, and why it’s not accurate to assume that you’re ever “babysitting” your children.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* Fathers can be disciplined AND kind* The biological connection between mothers and children* How fathers can bond with newborn babies* Skin to skin contact with your kids* Women take what we give them and make it better* Enjoying your kids through the years* Most guys should provide less structure, not more* Focus on the moment, with your kids and with your wife * Advice for single fathers Read the full articleorderofman.com/natefeathersOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
How to Focus on What Matters Most Order of Man 2023-05-26 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses how the key to finding joy and happiness is being present in the moment and offers FIVE strategies to put this into action. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Learn to be as efficient and effective as possible in other areas of life* Learn how to set boundaries* Eliminate distractions* Don’t let thoughts bounce around in your head (write it down)* Pruning and weeding our lives Bonus tip: Let go of the hidden agendaOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Small steps, HUGE results Order of Man 2023-05-25 | Greg Scheinman breaks down the limitless potential and opportunity that we have today if we just choose to embrace the journey, making small positive choices each day. The outcome is inevitable if you take the right actions.Check out the full conversations with Greg on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/4ySNs3749o8
Aesthetics are a byproduct of healthy living Order of Man 2023-05-24 | Greg Scheinman discusses how his health and fitness goals have changed over the years and how settling into a routine focused on consistency and longevity can be more sustainable, while still leading to the aesthetic results that many are looking for.Check out the full conversation with Greg on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/4ySNs3749o8
Make Yourself the Project, Not Your Wife Order of Man 2023-05-24 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council and Instagram. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(10:40) How do you get through letting the woman you love and the mother of your children go?(25:15) Would you say God is in favor of divorce? And if not, how did you feel, getting a divorce, knowing that it was going against God’s wishes? (32:10) Is it normal to feel guilty when trying to level up and reach for your dreams?(40:40) how do you help a loved one who feels like they are letting you down, when you feel like they are doing the best they can in the grand scheme of things?(42:20) How do you handle when your beset isn’t good enough?(47:30) How would you deal with an overbearing mother-in-law, particularly regarding the kids?(51:40) How, as a man, do you deal with feeling inadequate?(54:50) How do you get involved with a new community when moving to a new city and you don’t know anyone?(57:00) In what places is stoicism necessary and in what places should men be more open?(1:05:20) How can young sons with weak, tyrant fathers reconcile that relationship?(1:08:10) How can you filter out what we read and watch?Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appFor more information on the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Making the Most of Your Transformative Years Order of Man 2023-05-23 | The mid-life crisis. It’s something we’ve all heard about. Many men have likely experienced it. Typically, the midlife crisis is associated with driving around a sports car from your childhood and trying to land women 10-15 years your younger. But the midlife crisis is a bit more nuanced than that and doesn’t require looking or acting like a d-bag to navigate it. In fact, if handled correctly, men’s middle years can be some of the most powerful and transformative years of his life.Today, I’m joined by Greg Scheinman to talk about how to make that happen. We talk about overcoming trauma and victimization, what he calls “over-indexing” in certain aspects of your life, six “f’s” of life to focus on, the power of purpose, process, and payoff, and how to successfully navigate the midlife crisis.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* Is the word “trauma” overused?* Determine what you need to be doing* The 6 F’s: Family, fitness, finance, food, fashion, fun* Causes of the midlife crisis* What can you do to turn things around?* You have to have an action plan* We need to schedule our fun* Lead your family by example* Defining the line of what is acceptable in society* “Authenticity” is not an excuse to be a jerk* Finding the positive in the midlife “crisis” Read the full articleorderofman.com/gregscheinmanOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
MEN...Were not as good as we think we are Order of Man 2023-05-19 | What we measure improves. If we aren't actively tracking our activities and progress toward our goals, we will not reach them...at least not as quickly as we could if we identified appropriate metrics track throughout the journey.Check out Ryan's full break down of the importance of tracking progress and strategies to implement this is your life: youtu.be/cqVs6Eqz_4c
Why Tracking Activity is a Prerequisite to Success Order of Man 2023-05-19 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses the importance of actually measuring your progress toward goals. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS * Achieving success without using systems and measurement is non-duplicatable * Progress toward some goals is hard to track, but we can still design metrics * Men are delusional: we think we are better and more productive than we are - If we are not tracking, we will continue to delude ourselves Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Everyone needs a side hustle Order of Man 2023-05-18 | Steve Chou discusses the importance of starting a side hustle and offers some ideas for how to get started. Everyone has problems...if you can design a solution to one of your problems, chances are that many others would be interested in that solution. Check out Ryan's full conversation with Steve on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/RSekfHe2HD4
The First Step to Self-Improvement Order of Man 2023-05-18 | We may not know what the end result will be, but rest assured that if you do nothing, you will go backward. David Nurse encourages us to identify our God-given gift and find a way to use that to serve others. He explains that our God-given skill plus "purpose" equals "mission."Check out the full conversation here: youtu.be/Dxe5LR9nPrM
Outsourcing with software and AI Order of Man 2023-05-17 | Steve Chou breaks down his approach to outsourcing in his business, preferring to start with software when possible, and discusses his requirement that he will not outsource a task without first learning to do it himself.Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/RSekfHe2HD4
Hope vs. Despair Order of Man 2023-05-17 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode intro⠀(10:30) Is it important to understand what hope is and where it comes from? What is your source of hope?(18:00) What steps would you take when entering a step-father role for an 8-year-old girl?(26:00) How do you balance being disciplined with your Battle Plan when you are on a trip for the holidays?(33:30) How can we understand the difference between motivation and discipline?(36:40) How do I deal with regrets of lost time? I feel like I have wasted my 20s.(43:20) Is self-respect internal or a learned trait?(51:50) What is your advice for when we need to choose between two difficult decisions in life?(54:20) How can I help my wife when she is feeling disconnected and stressed?(1:01:30) How do I lead up the chain of command when my superior seems clueless and disinterested in what is going on in my area of responsibility?(1:05:00) I feel like I am doing all the right things but my heart is still broken. How do I begin to find joy and happiness?Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appFor more information on the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Integrating Work Life and Home Life Order of Man 2023-05-16 | Running a business and leading a family can be such a challenging aspect of life. Both require so much time and attention and although similar in a lot of ways, the way you lead professionally is not always translatable into leading personally.My guest today is Steve Chou, the author of The Family First Entrepreneur. Today, Steve and I talk about not being a stranger to your kids, practical strategies for avoiding burnout and unnecessary stress, whether you should stay at your current employment or “burn the boats” when starting a side business, and how side-hustles boost confidence! A lot of these things I wish I would have learned a whole lot sooner.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* The line between helping your kids and making them figure things out* Building a business while not sacrificing the relationship with loved ones* Being driven by ego vs being driven by service * Knowing your purpose* Ignorance contributing to Asian hate * Everyone should have a side hustle* Staying focused on one thing at a time* Different approaches to outsourcing * Weighing business opportunities against family time* Getting your kids involved with the business* Opportunities and drawbacks with AIRead the full articleorderofman.com/stevechouOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Find Your Calm Order of Man 2023-05-15 | Dewayne Noel discusses how he identified a lack of peace and calm as a major source of his "unlikeableness" and how he has taken simple steps toward prioritizing calm.Hear more timeless wisdom from Dewayne and check out his full conversation with Ryan Michler here: youtu.be/J8eCfWhDxFg
You Need Courage, Not Confidence Order of Man 2023-05-14 | If you are waiting until you have the confidence to take the first step toward your goals, you will be waiting forever. Instead, find the COURAGE to take the first step, and through that courage you will not only make progress toward your goal, but also find confidence along the way. What are you waiting for? Be courageous!
Let the men do what men do Order of Man 2023-05-12 | Boys need men in their lives to coach them and show them the way of men. While women also have an extremely important role to play, this specific role can only be performed by MEN. Watch the full Friday Field Notes: youtu.be/0LSF3XXdeoE
5 Strategies to Overcome Isolation Order of Man 2023-05-12 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses three factors that contribute to the isolation that many men feel and offers five strategies that will help you overcome this loneliness. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Factors that contribute to isolation as men1. The myth of the “lone wolf”2. The world has become overly feminized3. People believe there is a lack of other high caliber menStrategies to help men overcome loneliness1. Be an initiator 2. Do the right activities3. Always save one spot4. Always be in the networking mindset5. Be hyper consistent Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
We need to understand intention Order of Man 2023-05-11 | Much of the "offense" people take in today's society is a result of interpreting communication through our own lens and ignoring (intentionally or not) important context and the perspective of the one delivering the message. Matthew Vincent explains that recognizing a person's intent is really what we should be focusing on when trying to understand their message.Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/qxOvEDVfZZs
Overcoming the Failures of Our Fathers Order of Man 2023-05-11 | The man you spent most time with during your childhood likely serves as the "blueprint" for manhood in your life. The better you understand the influence and impact that he had on your life the better you can understand where his influence will serve you and where you may need to chart a different course.
How are you using your vice? Order of Man 2023-05-10 | Matthew Vincent discusses the difference between using something to disconnect and using that same thing as a tool to connect. He explains that our intent when undertaking "vice" like activities is important in determining whether that activity serves us or hinders our progress toward goals.Check out the full conversation with Matt on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/qxOvEDVfZZs
Know When Not To Offer Advice Order of Man 2023-05-10 | In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council and Instagram. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. ⠀SHOW HIGHLIGHTS(0:00) Episode kick-off⠀(13:45) How can I encourage my wife to be more intentional and strategic with her actions when dealing with a challenging situation at work?(25:30) Do you have any experience with or have you interviewed anyone regarding mindfulness meditations?(26:50) Are you and Brecken going to continue recording the Man in the Making podcast?(29:50) What do you do when a group outgrows its weakest member?(38:00) If you could pay for three skills, what would they be and why?(49:00) Would you recommend getting married and why?(51:40) How do I deal with emotions or opinions that I cant understand or pinpoint?(1:05:50) How impactful do you feel that therapy has been?
Time to take a break from hustle culture Order of Man 2023-05-09 | Achieving our goals requires hard work, dedication, and commitment. But sometimes progress toward our goals can be well served by setting some time aside to reflect and regroup. Matthew Vincent shares his thoughts around this concept and much more on this weeks episode of the Order of Man podcast. Check out the full conversation here: youtu.be/qxOvEDVfZZs
Youre Not Dead Yet Order of Man 2023-05-09 | All of us have heard from men who wonder if it’s too late to start in life. Many of them believe they may have missed the one shot they had to make something of themselves, or they’ve “wasted” too much of their lives. My guest today, Founder of Not Dead Yet, Matthew Vincent, makes the case that it’s never too late to start as long as there is air in your lungs and blood pumping through your heart.Today, we have an extremely fascinating discussion on so many different topics including several we don’t see eye to eye on. Specifically, we talk about the scarcity vs. abundant mindset, the value of hate and love, the dangers in the “hedonic treadmill,” connecting with others as a powerful motive for overcoming destructive behavior, and the immense liberty found in becoming completely aware of yourself.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:* Hating yourself vs. loving yourself * We don’t pick our starting point* Pleasure vs. fulfillment and the hedonic treadmill* Appreciating the ability to choose our passions* People are the solution and the problem* Shared responsibility in understanding communication * Using and understanding psychedelics * Knowing how to use substances as tools to serve you* Need to program time to relax* Body dysmorphia and transgenderism * We need to be able to question things* We are responsible for what we expose ourselves to* We need to be intentional with how we spend our energyRead the full articleorderofman.com/matthewvincentOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-plann...Join the Iron Council brotherhood:https://orderofman.link/iron-councilSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-m...Connect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
You Have the Right to be Wrong Order of Man 2023-05-08 | We won't always make the right decisions. If we expect others to afford us grace when we make mistakes or make the wrong choice, we must also afford that same grace to others when they screw up. Check out the full conversation with Dewayne Noel on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/J8eCfWhDxFg
Go for the kiss Order of Man 2023-05-05 | David Meessen discusses why more men should "go for the kiss" on the first date and explains how to do it in a respectful, appropriate, and effective way.Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/R1aStL1mPoo
How to Push Past Fear Order of Man 2023-05-05 | In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler discusses why men should be seeking courage rather than confidence and how the pursuit of courage will lead to confidence when going after our goals. Ryan also offers five steps men can implement to become more courageous. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 1. Make a plan2. Make a bigger deal out of things that you should3. Don’t tie your worth to the outcome of your actions 4. Surround yourself with courageous people5. Practice being courageousOrder Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto on Amazon:amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready.https://orderofman.link/battle-readyDownload the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner and maximize your week. https://orderofman.link/12-week-planner-appSupport the Order of Man mission by picking up merchandise:https://orderofman.link/support-the-missionConnect with us on the socials:Instagram https://orderofman.link/instagramFacebook https://orderofman.link/facebook-pageTwitter https://orderofman.link/twitter-ryanJoin the Order of Man Facebook group:https://orderofman.link/facebook-group
Best places to meet women Order of Man 2023-05-04 | David Meessen discusses the best places for guys to meet women and explains different approaches to take in different settings (e.g., shopping mall vs. the gym).Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/R1aStL1mPoo
Shes pretty, I hope I like her Order of Man 2023-05-03 | David Meessen talks to Ryan Michler about how men can greatly increase their odds of finding a quality woman by approaching more women in the first place, thereby building confidence allowing themselves to be more selective.Check out the full conversation on the Order of Man podcast: youtu.be/R1aStL1mPoo
