How Narcissism Works: From Love Bombing to Gaslighting & Flying Monkeys Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2026-09-19 | How Narcissism Works: From Love Bombing to Gaslighting & Flying Monkeys
How can I get comfortable expressing my anger? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2025-01-30 | Ask Kati Anything ep. 253 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions: This week licensed therapist Kati Morton will explain how we can get comfortable expressing our anger, how long is too long to stay with one therapist, and if it’s possible to be too close to our mom growing up. She also explains why looking up our therapist on social media can make us feel bad, and whether or not binge listening to this podcast is good or bad for your mental health. 1. How do I get more comfortable expressing my anger? I have a problem expressing anger. I can feel it but then I don’t know what to do with it. A lot of people have said they find it hard to know what I’m feeling because I can say that I’m angry or pi$$ed off but I don’t look it or sound it. Although I can say I’m angry I can never say it in the moment or to the person I’m angry with. My therapist on the other hand knows instantly. I can tell her I’m doing good and she will give me that therapist look that says “I know you’re lying.” Or I can say I’m angry in a normal tone and she will say something like “I can see you’re angry, shall we talk about it.” At this point I’m sure she uses some sort of witch craft 🤣 (only joking) Anyway, we have talked about how I find it hard to be angry or rather express it ie I don’t raise my voice or get aggressive in any way I just swallow it and take whatever has happened. My therapist asked me to try a role play activity with her which I... 01:102. How long is too long to stay with one therapist? Is it healthy to stay with one for many years? (It’s been close to 6 years) I know at some point things could change as people leave. I’m worried all the time things will change and I’ll feel like I’m in mourning when it ends. 13:383. Is there such a thing as being too attached and close to your mother growing up? Can it cause a child to grow up to be codependent or rather, overly dependent? I find that I always ask for my mom’s opinions and reassurance and approval for everything because she is so intelligent and insightful, so I’ve learnt my whole life to trust her opinions more than my own. I wouldn’t call my mom a helicopter parent in any other way apart from this aspect of being very eager to jump in and provide her opinions and thoughts and insights. I wish I was more independent and had more confidence in myself. What are your thoughts on this and how can I work on this? 16:404. I have found that I occasionally look up my therapist on social media…I am not able to see much, but I am able to see some things because we have some mutual friends. When I see that they’re happy in their marriage, laughing in pictures, or they have friends they’re spending time with, why does that make me so sad? I usually get anxious and want to cry. I don’t have a spouse or a family of my own so I wonder if it’s just that I so badly long for that and fear I’ll never have it…but then I also wonder if it’s just because I wish I could be my therapist’s friend and they liked me outside of session. I know this isn’t ethical so it won’t happen, but I don’t know why just seeing them happy makes me sad. I don’t feel that way when I see other people so happy. Why does it bother me?! And how do I not let it? I often fear that I am “too much” and have a hard time seeing/believing the good about myself. I want to just be happy when I see people so happy. For context, I was emotionally neglected, bullied, and physically & sexually abused. I do have CPTSD, I am obviously in therapy. I fear I’ll never get to a point where someone will want to be in my life. 24:085. I recently found your channel, and I can't stop binge listening to your podcast. Can doing this be an unhealthy coping skill to avoid my own thoughts and feelings? Or do you think this could this be something else? For context, I've been in therapy for 6 months and my diagnosis was recently changed from an adjustment disorder to depression and anxiety.... 31:27#podcast #psychology #katimortonMAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
The impact of a high-needs sibling Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2025-01-23 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton explains why we can have a hard time believing we aren’t a horrible person, the effects of having a sibling with mental health issues, and what it really means to get better. She also explains what it means to have a “nervous breakdown,” and finally how to cope with emotionally immature parents. Ask Kati Anything ep. 252 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I have a really hard time believing I am not a horrible person. My therapist asks me why I can’t accept the good things about myself, but I just can’t. It isn’t that I want to continue to think sh** thoughts about myself, I just can’t break them. How do I do that? I worry I am going to push my therapist away because I can’t seem to break these beliefs about myself. I fear I am wasting her time. For context, I have CPTSD, was emotionally neglected, parentified and have a narcissistic parent…on top of other trauma. Thank you for all you do and for answering our questions! 01:002. Could you talk about the effects on the sibling of someone (both same age) who has struggled with severe self-harm for years and suicide attempts (non-violent and luckily not successful) eg. the trauma and what that could look like for the sibling who witnessed everything, the “mental preparation” for believing that they are going to someday be successful at their suicide attempt, the core beliefs formed from it all, the neglect due to a high needs sibling etc. Any and all thoughts on the effects and anything else you can think of would be so appreciated. Thanks for all you do, Kati!! (COMMENT: as an add on, can it affect the person who is struggling when they know a sibling knows? // As an add-on if this relates…can you talk about how witnessing a sibling being physically abused impacts you? Then in turn how being abused by that sibling impacts you? I was bullied a lot outside of the home (my sibling joined in on that), but they were also physically and verbally abusive within the home. I understand they had a lot of big emotions and I was an easy target, but I still wonder how all of it has impacted how I view myself. // As an add on if it relates: I have been in therapy for years but struggle to talk to my siblings about the abuse from our childhood. Any ideas how to open that conversation?) 07:123. Hi Kati! It is a weird question, but I am not asking for the specifics: When we say it eventually will get better, what is the broad definition of "get better"? The thing is, it is true that it relatively got better, but it is still so hard, and some aspects become harder, I started to feel like I am in a loop where every time I feel like: I am at the end of the rope now, there is more, I am losing my patience and it is terrifying. 19:164. What exactly is a “nervous breakdown”? Is that term outdated? When do I know I’m having one and what should one do? 24:155. Hi Kati, how do you cope with parents who were emotionally immature/neglectful/abusive when you were a child, but treat their grandchildren entirely differently..aka giving them the childhood you did not have? I feel like I was treated as an adult when I was a child, and now a child as an adult. Many thanks. (as an add on, if they are still bad for you but are good for your children, should you still allow them to be in your life(ves)?) 26:53PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)PARTNERSHIPS Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Do therapists lie to their clients? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2025-01-16 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton explains why compassion can sometimes be triggering, how exposure therapy works, and whether or not she has ever lied to a client. Then she talks about internal emotional conflict, the stages of eating disorder recovery, and how we are impacted by our subconscious mind. Ask Kati Anything ep. 251 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Why do I get an anxious adrenaline rush every time someone shows any sort of compassion or pity towards me? Whenever friends or even my therapist shows compassion or empathy or when she says things like “I’m so sorry- that must’ve been so hard”, I feel simultaneously really good and acknowledged and cared for, but also very anxious and uncomfortable. Growing up, I had very caring and emotionally available parents so the anxiety isn’t due to compassion being a foreign concept or something that’s new to me or anything like that. It just makes me feel vulnerable and fragile and like there’s too much attention on me. And it makes me feel small and like a child again. Why does this happen? Also in therapy I often feel younger than I am, why? 00:362. If the point of exposure therapy is to expose oneself to the anxiety inducing situations in order to prove to ourselves that it’s not that bad or as bad as we think, how is that supposed to work if the situation IS as bad or even worse than what we anticipate? Like if someone has social anxiety, and making a phone call or meeting a friend for coffee is super scary because you worry about saying or doing something embarrassing or not having anything to say or your mind going blank etc., what do you do if every time without a fail you somehow do manage to embarrass yourself and have so many awkward silences and not know what to say? And afterwards you spend ages ruminating on how awful and awkward it was and just think.. what’s the point— that exposure got me nowhere. I got nothing out of it except shame and self-blame. What do you do then? 08:233. My question is have you ever lied to a client? Would you ever condone it if you were to lead other clinicians?? When is it hardest for you to be honest with clients? 12:524. I'm curious on how to deal with always feeling emotionally internally conflicted. Sometimes I feel great like nothing is wrong with me and then other times I just want to lay in bed and do nothing because everything feels pointless. What happens when this causes you to not fit certain diagnostic criteria? I often feel like I’m asked questions like “what has your general mood been?” or “do you have negative thoughts about yourself?” I have trouble answering because I feel so confused about the conflicting emotions I have. It’s like sometimes I’m confused by how I could even be having negative feelings/thoughts because of how contrary I feel at other times (but not consistently in any sort of pattern). 16:465. Hi Kati! First, I’d like to thank you for the wonderful and helpful work that you do. It’s all very much appreciated! After 15 very long years, I’ve finally been able to give up my eating disorder. I’m happy to say that I’ve been behavior free for just over a year. However, I still have body image issues and it certainly doesn’t help that I happen to be overweight (I realize weight loss isn’t the answer). I’m 58 years old and can’t seem to stop the anxiety associated with eating, body size and weight. I grew up in a larger body and experienced trauma associated due to that fact. I’d like to be able to say I’m fully recovered in the new year and never again be triggered by photos of myself. What can you suggest that might help me get the rest of the way? 22:106. Hey Kati! I hear a lot about “the subconscious mind,” but more from a spiritual context. Can you talk more about the subconscious mind and how it affects us? 26:32**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Why do I wish people could read my mind? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2025-01-09 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton offers ways to increase our resilience and tolerance to life’s stressors, why it’s important to speak up in therapy, and why we can sometimes wish our therapist could read our mind. She then discusses the reasons we can struggle to talk about our issues in therapy without feeling full of shame about it.Ask Kati Anything ep. 250 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Can you provide any tips or techniques to increase resiliency and tolerance to life's stressors? 00:582. Is getting a therapy appointment about once a month (due to extremely limited availability at college clinics) worth it even if it doesn’t feel like it’s helping? What can you do when your insurance deductible is really high and you’re a college student working multiple jobs just to make rent, food, etc? Especially when parents won’t help pay. I’ve tried medication but nothing feels like it’s working. Hope this gets answered because I feel like there are lots of people in this situation. 06:153. You often say that if something your therapist says or does bothers you or triggers you, you should bring it up and talk about it with your therapist. But I often feel like if I say something to them and they stop doing/saying whatever it is, then I'm not really learning how to deal with similar situations in the real world. Realistically, I can't go around telling the world to not say or act a certain way so I feel reluctant to say anything when it happens in the therapy room. But then I spiral out and get frustrated with myself for even being bothered by something that I clearly understand was not done intentionally. I also don't want to make my therapist feel bad by telling them. I know you'll probably say therapists are trained to deal with these stuff or that if they have their own issues, they need to do their own therapy work, and while that may be true, it doesn't change the fact that I'll feel bad knowing I've 'hurt' them somehow and that there's nothing they can do to take back what they said or did and that telling them would actually make me feel worse and not better, so what's the point? I'm not even sure if this makes sense! Thanks again for all that you do! 10:564. I’m not sure if I’m the only one who does this, but I’ve noticed that in therapy I often expect my therapist to be able to read my mind. But I know this is impossible and unfair to her. For example, I told her the other day that I had written down some thoughts I had after the previous session and I told her I wasn’t sure if I should read them to her or not. Her response was “It’s up to you.” By her saying it was up to me, I know she was just respecting whichever decision I made and she didn’t want to force me to read it if I didn’t want to. But for some reason I just assumed she could read my mind so when she replied in a respectfully neutral way, I felt a bit let down and I thought to myself “okay but do you REALLY want to know my thoughts?” In that moment I really wanted HER to WANT me to read them to her. Like I suppose in a validation type of way I wanted to feel as if she really WANTED to know my thoughts and inner experience.. to feel like she really cares and is invested in me and my experience. Obviously I know it’s unfair to expect her to have read my mind though...I do this quite often. And I end up feeling frustrated and disappointed and let down. Why do I do this? And how can I stop doing this? 24:285. How can I learn to manage the shame I feel talking about my 'issues' in therapy? I have CPTSD and I intellectually know shame is a large part of that, but that doesn't stop me feeling overwhelmed by shame having discussed things with my therapist. I go for days thinking that she must be disgusted by me and cannot possibly want me as a client ... and I feel too ashamed to talk about this shame! Thanks. 31:56**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Can an AI chatbot help me in between therapy appointments? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2025-01-02 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton offers her thoughts on using AI chat agents in between therapy sessions, why trauma can be hard to move past, and what it really means to be willing versus just trying. She also talks about wanting friends while being a socially anxious introvert, and why our therapist telling us she cares about us can be triggering.Ask Kati Anything ep. 249 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Hi Kati. I’m currently seeing a therapist (cognitive behavioral therapy with a focus on trauma). Since the sessions can be emotionally intense, I’ve started to use ChatGPT between appointments to help process my thoughts and manage difficult emotions. I had previously tried journaling, but it felt more like a monologue and wasn’t as helpful. Using ChatGPT, however, has allowed me to engage in a dialogue, which has been more effective in organizing my thoughts and gaining clarity. When I shared this with my therapist, she expressed concern. She mentioned that using AI in this way might be similar to seeking support from another therapist, which could interfere with the therapeutic process. She also cautioned against the risk of isolation. My question for you: From a psychological perspective, what do you think about using AI as a supplemental tool between therapy sessions? Could it hinder the healing process? If so, what alternatives would you recommend to help navigate emotionally challenging periods between sessions? 00:362. I’ve noticed a lot of talk about repressed trauma on the podcast. I, however, remember everything. I’m currently working through some of this with an EMDR therapist. I’m having some difficulty letting go of these incidents, mainly because I feel like this invalidates them. Also, I feel the need to keep them in my back pocket- so to speak- so as to justify my hurt whenever I need to. My question is- what does it look like to work through trauma, while still recognizing that it was awful? As a separate note- why am I having an extreme physical reaction (shaking, almost convulsing) in the midst of EMDR therapy? 04:51 3. What does it really mean to be willing vs just trying? My therapist says I need to stop trying and start being willing, but I don’t understand the difference. In my mind, wanting to get better, going to therapy, and putting in effort is being willing. It sometimes feels like he’s suggesting I’m not trying hard enough, which is frustrating. For context, I have CPTSD from significant childhood emotional neglect and abuse, which has continued into adulthood. Thanksgiving was especially traumatic, and I’m working hard to heal while dealing with ongoing negativity from my family. When I express how their actions have hurt me, I’m dismissed as “too sensitive,” which makes it even harder to validate my own emotions. I hope this makes sense, and I’m sorry if it’s a lot. Thank you so much for your time and the work you do! 10:434. I’m a very socially anxious introvert, which causes me to avoid a lot of social situations and interactions. Sometimes I feel lonely and “friendless” but I am very close to my mom and my sister which feels like enough human connection to me. But is that really enough? I have one or two close friends but I don’t talk to them often but for some reason that doesn’t bother me. I simultaneously feel lonely and like I want friends but I also don’t mind either way and I love being by myself... 16:495. How do I stop being mad at my therapist for telling me she cares about me? Every time she tells me she has been worried or that she cares about me I get this voice in my head screaming at me that it's fake and that this relationship is not a real one. I feel like she says this stuff only because it's appropriate and to make me feel like she cares so that her words have more impact on me. Like she is acting for the purpose of doing her job well even if that means lying. And after therapy sessions I often feel completely alone and lied to because it's her job to make me feel like... 21:50#podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
What is a favorite person (FP) in BPD? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-12-26 | This week licensed therapist, Kati Morton discusses how to know if we are doing therapy “right” and why it can feel so unstructured at times. She then dives into why we can want certain people to worry about us, how isolation can help us and also hurt us, and the effects of having a narcissistic mother and being the eldest daughter. Ask Kati Anything ep. 248 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I just started therapy at my university, but whenever I think about what I discussed with my therapist and replay the whole conversation after each session, I always wonder whether I'm doing it right. It just feels kind of messy and I feel like I'm all over the place when talking to my therapist. I have never experienced therapy before and I don't know what it's like, so I really don't know if it's going the way it's supposed to. It also feels like I'm... 00:382. Why do I want certain people to worry about me? I always have a person, usually it’s only one person at a time, that I get super obsessed with and that I think about 24/7. This is not in a romantic way, it could be but not necessarily. They are all I think about, and I crave their attention a lot, and I also get really jealous when they spend time with other people and I am super sensitive to how they treat me. They can make me feel super happy or really sad. I also want them to worry about me, I think because I ... 08:203. Can you please talk about how traumatized ppl use self isolation as a coping mechanism, but that sometimes becomes a negative cornerstone of their personality making connection harder…. Also could you share some tips as to how traumatized individuals can begin updating that personality trait to become engaged and open to the world. 14:074. My question contains a lot of context so please bear with me and I'm sorry in advance for the essay. I've been struggling A LOT for the past two years with binge eating, anxiety, depression, and dissociation. After a previous attempt to seek therapy, which didn’t go well (because I was 16 and my mom freaked out and was so stigmatized and when I also talked about it to one of my closest friends and my friend suggested that I go to therapy, my mom happened to read at the texts and told me "see, now your friend thinks you're crazy!"), but anyway, I finally took the step to seek therapy as I've turned 18 and started university and I had 2 sessions so far, and it's all started after my prof encouraged me to go down that path and honestly, she is the sweetest person ever and she is the only one that made me feel safe, seen and heard when no one saw me and no one was there for me (no one ever noticed or cared enough to check in, even my friends). I've always been the perfect eldest sister of 5 siblings that’s the peacemaker of the whole family, the therapist, the third parent, never tired, never struggling, always the top student, and is in charge of basically everything (including appointments, vacations, etc.) and is not allowed to speak up for herself or have emotions or even feel tired or sick (no one said that directly but when I did speak up and expressed that I'm really tired, my mom, who I think is a narcissist, lashed out and said "stop trying to seek attention.. you don't even do anything to be tired"), and my father is the kind of person that's very supportive, HOWEVER, he goes along with whatever my mom thinks/feels, it's like she's controlling him too, and he doesn't let anything pass by him without including my mom in the picture too, so that adds another barrier, and btw I still live with my family and I can’t move out because my mom won’t let me (even for university) she says if I move out she and the whole family will move with me and I think it’s either because she doesn’t want to lose me or lose control over me, or maybe some other reason; I’m not sure. Anyways.. because of all of this, I've been having trouble reaching out for help... 19:45**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
How can I get unstuck in life? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-12-19 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about why we can sometimes think we are in love with our therapist, ways we can get unstuck in life, and what to do with our passive suicidal thoughts. She also talks about feeling safe after surviving a trauma, and how to deal with transference and attachment in therapy. Ask Kati Anything ep. 247 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Kati I am in love with my therapist. I know you will probably say that transference is happening but I feel so madly in love with her. Everything about her is perfect and she’s the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen. I feel like no one I’ll meet will ever even come close to how amazing she is and how much I feel for her. How do I stop having romantic feelings for my therapist? She’s also my FP and I idolize her so much and put her on a very high pedestal and I am so sensitive to how she treats me and I would do anything in the world for her. How do I stop having FP’s? And does this only happen in BPD? Thank you. P.S. I am not in therapy anymore, it ended because of the rules of the service. I mentioned to her that I like her so much and that I never want therapy to end and that she’s the best person ever (I didn’t say I am so in love with you because I was too scared she would find me weird or leave me). 00:00:32 2. Could you please talk about how one can get unstuck in life? I feel like I am reliving the same day over and over again, and not growing/evolving anymore. I’m so used to just watching life on the sidelines, like a movie, as opposed to actively participating in it. For reference, I do suffer from depression and I’m on medication for it. Thank you so much for everything that you do! 00:09:283. Hi, could you talk a bit more about passive suicidal thoughts. I almost got run over by a truck when crossing the street (he stopped in time at the end). I basically didn’t care, no shock, nothing. I just thought „ first of all, embarrassing, second of all this death would have been very welcome, sadly he stopped in time“. I went about my day as usual thinking about how chill I reacted not even caring if I would have died or not. I do have a past when it comes to suicidal thoughts and depression. 00:16:064. What does it mean to 'feel safe'? I have CPTSD and am hypervigilant. I get relaxation induced anxiety. I have tried following steps for reducing this but they often ask you to 'visualise somewhere you feel safe' or 'someone you feel safe with'. What does 'feel safe' mean? Is it a feeling in the body, or is it just the absence of overt fear? Or is it just an expression for some concept, like saying something is an 'act of god'? I expect my issue has the same root cause as my inability to feel happy / positive emotions. 00:20:295. What happens if transference and extreme attachment is not worked through in therapy and then therapy ends? This has happened for me and I am so overwhelmed by my emotions 24/7. I know how to work on attachment stuff by myself now from your videos but I just don’t know how to get closure if that makes sense. I miss her so much and it takes everything in me not to text her. Therapy ended a few months ago and I still miss her like crazy and I am so sad about it. Will that ever get better? Also can you feel “worse” in a way if you don’t work through issues (e.g transference) that came up in therapy? 00:24:446. In your opinion is this important to get a proper diagnosis? I was in therapy but I’ve never received a proper diagnosis. In my country only psychiatrists are allowed to diagnose you. I think I have quiet BPD among other mental illnesses and my former therapist told me I have BPD tendencies but she doesn’t think it would be helpful for me to see a psychiatrist to receive a proper diagnosis as it’s a label I’ll be stuck with for life. I am not sure how... 00:32:12#podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Am I avoiding my feelings? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-12-12 | This week we talk about sitting with our feelings and dealing with anxious thoughts, why self-harm is often talked about only in relation to teens, and why we can suddenly have suicidal thoughts. Then we get into whether or not we can do inner child work by ourselves, how to get ourselves to realize things aren’t as bad as they seem, and if therapy can be harmful. Ask Kati Anything ep.246 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I have learned how to feel my feelings and emotions in therapy, and I also realized that before that I used to not allow myself to really feel my feelings. I have bad anxiety and a lot of times my thoughts spiral out of control and then I end up worrying about all kinds of things and feel so much more anxious. I have realized if I don’t give in to all my thoughts, I feel a lot less anxious but is this avoiding feeling my feelings? Shouldn’t I be able to sit with my fears and uncomfortable feelings without pushing them away or avoiding to think about them? 2. Why is self injury usually talked about in relation to teens? I feel like I rarely hear it talked about as a coping mechanism for adults. Is it something that is more concerning if an adult does it? I am 37 years old and I have cptsd, adhd, anxiety and depression and have been in therapy for 5 years. I have been good at refraining from self injury but when things get too overwhelming it still is my first go to thought and unfortunately sometimes the way I cope (for example the outcome of the US election). My therapist is aware but I have a lot of shame because it feels “childish”. What are your thoughts? 3. So a few weeks ago I got this sudden urge to write a goodbye letter. I’ve dealt with suicidal thoughts on and off, but that idea has never really come up until now. Would you know why this suddenly happened? Should I be concerned? What should I do? I haven’t written anything down on paper yet, but a draft is being formulated in my head and the urge is still present. 4. How can I do inner child work by myself (therapy ended) when I dissociate 24/7? I remember you said you can’t process trauma when you are dissociating. When I was in therapy I was also dissociating in basically every session. When I try to do inner child work or journal for example, I sometimes feel it’s not so helpful because I feel so disconnected from it and I am not actually feeling what I am writing. 5. What are effective methods of realizing things aren’t as bad as they seem? I would also like to see a video about lost time that comes with depression and other disorders, and how to deal with and prevent losing so much time. 6. Can therapy be “harmful“? I sometimes feel like therapy makes my thoughts spiral more. I am very self aware and analyze everything about my thoughts and behaviors constantly, and therapy has made this so much worse. I love therapy and learning more about myself and analyzing where everything came from etc. but I also feel like I am very obsessive with it and it occupies my mind 24/7 and as a result I feel worse. I also feel like I consume too much psychological content but I find it so interesting. #podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Why do I feel like I need a diagnosis? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-12-05 | This week we are talking all about getting a diagnosis. Why we might want one, why we might not agree when we finally get one, and my thoughts on self-diagnosis. We will talk about assessments and what it means to get a proper diagnosis. Finally, we will dig into labels as a whole and whether or not they can be stigmatizing.Ask Kati Anything ep. 245 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Why do I feel the need to diagnose myself or “pathologize” myself with a name for a mental illness/disorder? If I discover a diagnosis I could potentially have, I do sooo much research on it (almost to the point of it being obsessive because it’s all I can think about). I really want to have the diagnosis, but why? Why do I have to put a name to it? I feel like I need to be “sick” in order to be seen and for my experience to be valid. My mom (who is a therapist) doesn’t like that I do this because she says labels don’t help me move forward and it becomes my whole identity. And she says that... 00:372. What are the pros and cons of having a label or diagnosis for a mental illness? I know it can be validating but can it ever be detrimental? Like for example, even though I KNOW I struggle with social anxiety, I really want to be professionally diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. To me it feels like a way to prove my suffering to the world but I also am worried that I will... 10:513. I sincerely wanted to know Kati, do labels not cripple people further? Where it almost becomes an excuse for people to act in certain ways with little accountability. So instead it should be more of behavioral patterns we acknowledge with the intent of trying to assist people in a more CBT approach? I hope I’m making sense, thank you!! 18:304. Hi Kati, I've been wondering for a long time how to get diagnoses for a bunch of stuff since my family is quite opposed to the idea of me being autistic, or having ADHD, and other stuff they don't even know about like a dissociative disorder, OCD, and a possible eating disorder. Do I just have to wait until I become an adult if I can't get support in my home? Thanks for the podcast, it's so informative and, in my opinion, enjoyable! 22:285. Hey Kati! Is it possible to be DID/osdd without knowing, even if you don't remember any significant trauma? Thanks! 26:576. Hi Kati, I’m someone who has had undiagnosed ASD until this year. I’m having trouble accepting this new identity. How can people learn to accept this? What do people do with it? 31:17**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com#podcast #psychology #katimorton
Why do I feel so lonely & like I dont matter? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-11-29 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about dealing with loneliness and how to cope with feeling isolated and alone. She also explains the reasons behind us being immature, how to let ourselves be genuinely happy, and how to know whether therapy is working or not.Ask Kati Anything ep.244 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I’m struggling with feeling incredibly lonely and like I don’t matter, even though I logically know there are people who love me. It’s hard to shake the feeling that others might be happier without me around. Most of the time, I’m alone outside of work, and I often see others spending time together, which only deepens that feeling. I try to reach out ahead of time and let friends know I’d love to join if they make plans, but when the time comes, I don’t get invited—and then I find out they still got together without me. This has been a pattern for as long as I can remember, and it’s hard not to believe that it’s because there’s something wrong with me or that I’m unlovable. How can I break out of this rut and start to believe I’m worth connecting with? While I’m safe and won’t act on it, it’s sometimes really hard to keep battling the thoughts of whether I still want to be here. For context, I was significantly bullied as a kid, have CPTSD, am in therapy (both EMDR and talk), and have a history of emotional neglect and abuse from most of my family. Thank you for reading and for any advice you can offer. 00:542. How do I deal with being alone? My boyfriend of 6 years is moving away for a few months for his university placements before I join him later in the year for our permanent move. I’m terrified of being left at home by myself. I know I can talk to him every day but it just won’t feel the same. I’m very affectionate and love physical closeness so being physically distant feels heartbreaking. How can I cope if traveling to see him isn’t an option due to the need to save money for the move in the future? 07:233. My therapist recently told me I was emotionally immature (it's true, but it still hurt to hear it). Even though I have a lot of other issues (I'm a highly sensitive person, I have low self esteem), I want to work on improving myself. Do you have any tips or tools to improve my emotional maturity? Thanks for your amazing podcast, you've had such a positive impact on my life. 13:054. Why won't I allow myself to be genuinely happy? I have been diagnosed with MDD and GAD. I go through depressive episodes that last a few days to about a week and they happen every few months. It used to last much longer and come more frequently but meds, therapy, and PHP have brought it down to where it is now. However when I am not in an episode, I still feel like I am existing and not living - it's like my mind won't let me be happy. It is a point I feel stuck with in therapy. 21:56 5. I have been in therapy for a couple years and I still can’t figure out if it’s working or not. Some of my symptoms have faded, I feel more functional, and my physical symptoms have minimized. However, I feel more suicidal then I ever have, I struggle with self harm, I always feel horrible about myself, and the only thing I look forward to is therapy. It’s like my whole life just relies on therapy and my therapist. Without it (when it gets canceled, or rescheduled) I feel like I’m back at square one... 25:48#podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
What if therapy doesnt help? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-11-21 | This week we discuss not getting better in therapy, when we should give up, and if it’s up to us to know what we want to work on in therapy. We will also talk about depression and how to come to terms with it, and how to know if we are burnt out. Ask Kati Anything ep. 243 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I think I realize why I’m not getting better in therapy. I’ve been going to therapy for almost 10 years on and off. I don’t want to get better. I want someone to save me. Some people may argue that now that you’re an adult you have to save yourself. I’m tired of saving myself. I’ve been saving myself since I was eight years old. I am 29 years old now and struggle with so much self harm including addiction, and disordered eating. I just want someone to scoop me up and save me. How do I stop this mentality? I feel like I’m too old to be doing some of these things to myself. 00:362. My counselor told me ‘I can’t really help you if you don’t bring anything to our sessions’. I have already explained that when I come into a session and she says, ‘what do you want to talk about today?’ It stresses me out and I don’t know what to say, so a couple of weeks ago I wrote a list of stuff that is the biggest issues I have and stuff that I am finding the most difficult to deal with at the moment and I gave it to her and we went through that for a session so she has an idea of the stuff I want to work on but she continues to ask every week ‘what do you want to talk about today?’ 16:233. How to deal with (come to terms with, accept) depression? How do I get over feeling so useless, unable to function as an adult??? 19:324. I’ve been in therapy for 3+ years now and I don’t know it’s getting any better. I’ve been diagnosed with MDD and although functioning, I can’t seem to find joy in my everyday life. I’ve also spoken to my therapist about it and even told her about my want to stop therapy because I feel like I’m wasting her time. My therapist assured me I’m not wasting her time, and also gently persisted about continuing therapy since therapy is the only consistency right now that doesn’t malfunction (note: every other consistent routine doesn’t seem to stick even if I tried). What can I do to get out of the rut? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks for all that you do. 24:125. Hey Kati, could you possibly talk about burnout? What could it look like? Would someone with depression already be more susceptible to burnout? And why might it be so hard to admit it and get help? I think I am either completely burnt out or close to it. I work a lot of overtime and can’t just take a break because I don’t have anyone to cover my position (head/only full time chef and kitchen manager at a residential school) I organize the whole week of meals for out students and to be able to take my “normal” days off, it requires so much extra work. I don’t know how to stand up for myself, how to rest when I do have small bits of time and even on my days off there are usually texts or calls to answer from work. I’m leaving my job in 6 months but that feels like a long time to just try and hang on. Any information, help or advice would be so appreciated. Thank you for everything. 27:376. Why do the Pollyannas keep telling me "it gets better" when it's painfully obvious that it only gets worse? 38:06**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Understanding Child-on-Child Abuse: What’s Normal vs. Harmful? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-11-14 | This week Kati talks about child on child abuse, and if being abused as a child means that we will abuse others. She also explains what trauma processing looks like and whether or not talking out our trauma could itself be traumatizing. Finally, she discusses reparenting and what it can look like, why we want to push our therapist away, and how we can process all we have been through. Ask Kati Anything ep. 242 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Hi Kati, I am wondering if a child who abuses other children will become an adult who abuses children? I ask because my brother (5yrs my senior) molested me from the time I can remember up to about age 5, when his friend took over. He’s since moved far away (we are adults now) but has had access to young children. I worry about the safety of those children. Could he really still be abusing children so many years later? 00:422. Could you talk about bit about child on child sexual abuse? When is it considered normal child exploration and when is it abuse? And is 4 years old too young for it to be considered abuse? When I was about 4 years old, a boy in my class (who used to bully/tease me sometimes) (also 4) “touched me” (I won't go into the details). He somehow convinced me to let him and... 04:093. Can you talk about trauma and processing it? Why do I feel like I have to talk about events in therapy more than once? I already talked about it, why can’t it just be a one and done? I shared it once, isn't that enough? 12:284. I am wondering why after almost a year in therapy and on the cusp of being honest and opening up about my childhood trauma, I am questioning everything my therapist is doing and trying to push her buttons? I seem to want to put conditions on the things I share or do. I don't mean to do this but can't seem to stop. Is this normal or a part of the process? 16:405. I was wondering if you can explain how reparenting is supposed to help? I have done it a few times with my therapist or on my own and it just feels like I’m shoving down my feelings and telling myself it’s ok and I’m safe when it’s like the opposite of what I’m feeling. Although, when others do it it’s helpful. it’s just weird because I’m giving myself something that I should or should have gotten from others? Isn’t the point of community to get feel good messages? Like how can I be my own parent? My parent wasn’t the parent I needed and I can’t fill that void. I don’t think one person or thing fills that void. I think it’s multiple things and relationships. Anyway, I couldn’t be my own parent as a kid, so how can I now be one as an adult? I don’t know if that makes sense. 21:076. How do I emotionally process a lot stuff that happened this year, example doing splits shifts to getting a new job along with family stuff sprinkled in all within a few months and going to a wedding? I’ve felt like I’ve been on auto pilot and not dealt with it. 29:14#podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Can Intrusive Thoughts Show Up in Dreams? Understanding OCD & Shame NEW Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-11-07 | Compulsions, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and OCD. This week licensed therapist Kati Morton will discuss what compulsions really are, whether our intrusive thoughts can pop up in our dreams, what causes us to develop OCD, and how to better manage the physical symptoms of OCD and anxiety. Ask Kati Anything ep. 241 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Is it possible that my self harm and self sabotaging behaviors are compulsions? I usually tell myself I’m not deserving of help or nothing is actually wrong in less I engage in x behavior. So then I engage in the behavior and feel almost like self validated but also I feel too ashamed to talk about it and guilty because if that was my thought then is it even real and can’t I just stop. And then the cycle continues. It’s like I want to stop but I can’t because then I think I’m not worthy of getting help but I can’t even get help because I think I’m making it all up anyway. It doesn’t make any sense but I don’t know why I keep getting stuck in the cycle and I don’t know how to get out. 00:302. Can harm / sexual based ocd intrusive thoughts come up in dreams?? I had a very horrible, sexual based dream and now I’m feeling so much shame. Like what if I like that, what if I’m actually a horrible person. (COMMENT: As an add on. Is the same true for agoraphobia? I dream of getting kidnapped if I go outside or when I am too loud at home alone. However I was also diagnosed with OCD and my compulsions of checking locks is also related to the same fear.) 11:253. I had really bad and obvious OCD when I was younger, I think roughly from the age of 5 years old. I didn’t have any traumatic event happening to me. Why would a child this young develop OCD? 18:194. If you could talk about harm ocd that would be helpful with intrusive thoughts. 25:475. Could you talk a bit about physical anxiety? I struggle with anxiety and I feel it super physical, e.g I am dissociating a lot, heart racing, nausea, and my stomach is upset. I’ve learnt coping skills in therapy how to deal with anxiety but I just feel like the physical part of it is not getting better. I also tried more physical exercises and stuff like that to release the physical energy. I feel physically anxious 24/7 even if there’s no reason to be. I am not taking any medication, I tried it in the past but they made me dissociate so much more. Do you have any advice for me? Thank you so much for your help 30:25**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com#podcast #psychology #katimorton
How to Open Up in Therapy: Finding Courage to Share & Heal NEW Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-10-31 | Ask Kati Anything ep. # | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:#podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Why Do I Feel Disconnected From Reality? | depersonalization, derealization, dissociation & DID Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-10-24 | This week we are talking about depersonalization, derealization, otherwise known as dissociation. We will also discuss DID or dissociative identity disorder, how we can build our sense of self, if we can love therapy too much, and why we can feel awkward after disclosing our self injury. Finally, we will talk about whether or not we can be so damaged that no amount of therapy can help us. Ask Kati Anything ep.239 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Hi Kati, I struggle with persistent depersonalisation and derealisation. I tried a lot of things over the years (therapy, different mindfulness practices, temperature play, full body shakes, yoga, meditation, being aware of my body etc.) and nothing is working. I know it gets worse when I am overwhelmed or tired or hungry, but it’s nearly happening 24/7 even if I am happy and relaxed and on holidays for example. It doesn’t make sense to me. Sometimes it gets really bad, I think when I also start panicking. Then I feel like I can’t see properly and feel so far gone, that it feels super scary. I know dissociation is not scary and it’s my body’s way to protect me, but when it is so severe, it feels absolutely horrible. Do you have any tips for me? It started 3 years ago when I struggled badly with anorexia and my mental health really declined and I was suicidal and felt really helpless and alone. Is it possible to be traumatized from this experience or is it possible that I have developed CPTSD from this and dissociate so severely now? I feel like I am in a constant stress response and I always feel so uneasy. Do you have any advice for me? Thank you so much!! I love your videos!! Thank you for helping us 01:142. I am a survivor of CSA and have CPTSD. I don’t think I have DID however, why do I have different “voices” that come out at different times in ways I cannot control? My friends say I have 2 different “voices” one is higher pitched and small, and the other is deeper and more grown-up. Some things can for sure trigger it like feeling afraid or ashamed but it doesn’t always trigger it. Sometimes I am just that particular voice for that day or hour. It sounds pretty much the same to me and I cannot change it at will. What is this about??? Is this just normal for most people and can I fix it? 17:263. How to build a sense of self when no sense (or only a weak sense) of self has ever existed. In this scenario there is no "rebuilding" of the self, because it never existed as a whole in the past. There's nothing to be rebuilt because it hasn't been built yet. Is there any relevant research that looks at outcomes for individuals who developed a sense of self for the very first time in adulthood, or well into adulthood? I know that a lot of people were traumatized from birth onward in ways that seemingly impaired the brain's ability to form a cohesive sense of self. But I only ever really see advice on rebuilding or rediscovering one's self. A self that existed in the past... 21:574. I love therapy. I know it’s supposed to be difficult and a lot of people are “scared” to work on themselves in therapy but I absolutely love it. My therapist told me I am very analytical and symptom focused, I constantly analyze every small behavior about myself and I can’t seem to stop. I constantly need to make sense of everything. I also love the attention that she gives me and I love that she cares about me. I wish I could see her all day every day. Is it normal to love therapy this much? 25:415. I just recently told a friend about my self-harming and now I feel really awkward. I wanted to know, why do I feel so embarrassed when near this friend now? 30:596. I hope this makes sense to you. It is something I've been wondering about. Is it possible to be so severely damaged by your past that no matter how much therapy you got that you never really heal? Because after all the therapy I got I still have so many trigger points. Is it because I've been traumatized over and over? Is it because of all sorts of abuse over and over? Am I not supposed to get over it by now? 33:30#podcast #psychology #katimorton**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
Beyond Hallucinations: Kody Green Shares Realities of Schizophrenia Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-10-17 | In this insightful interview, licensed therapist Kati Morton sits down with mental health advocate Kody Green (aka @schizophrenichippie) to discuss living with schizophrenia and the importance of breaking the stigma around mental illness. Kody shares his personal journey, from his diagnosis to becoming an influential voice in the mental health community. Together, they dive into the challenges and misconceptions surrounding schizophrenia, offering practical insights and ways to better understand and support those affected by this condition.Whether you're curious about mental health or want to develop more empathy, this conversation will leave you with a deeper understanding of schizophrenia and the power of advocacy.Key topics covered:Kody’s schizophrenia diagnosis and journeyCommon myths and misconceptions about schizophreniaCoping strategies and daily challengesThe role of advocacy in mental healthHow to support someone with schizophreniaWatch now to learn how to foster empathy and understanding for those living with schizophrenia.#Schizophrenia #MentalHealth #KatiMorton #KodyGreen #SchizophreniaAwareness #MentalHealthAdvocacy #BreakingStigma #SchizophrenicStorytimeAsk Kati Anything ep. 238 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTConnect with Kody:TikTok: tiktok.com/@schizophrenichippieInstagram: instagram.com/schizophrenichippieYouTube: youtube.com/@UCZfYNa7ygWpc-1bDw4wy5JA #podcast #psychology #schizophrenia **** Kati's MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL youtube.com/@Katimorton PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
How to Properly Deal with Attachment & Emotion Regulation Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-10-10 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses attachment and how that can show up in therapy, she also digs into emotion regulation and finding healthier ways to do it, and finally she talks about attachment in our romantic relationships and how to better manage it. Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything ep. 237 | Your mental health podcast 1. Hi Kati! I hope you are well, I absolutely love your videos and you are helping me so much. My question is attachment related. I was in therapy for a year and now ended a few months ago and I am really struggling to cope now. I have an anxious attachment style and severe abandonment issues. Since the beginning of therapy I've been super attached to my therapist and feared therapy ending. I told her about everything I was feeling and we worked on therapy ending quite a lot, but we didn't really do any attachment work. We worked more on accepting it I guess, she is a CBT therapist and told me transference and stuff is not really a CBT thing. I feel like I am completely obsessed with her, I think about her 24/7, I google her obsessively and look at her friends instagram... 01:382. Hey Kati, could you talk about emotional regulation please? I have been talking to a friend about self and co-regulation. Could you possibly explain a bit about how they relate to each other and how to learn how to self regulate? I think it is coming from an anxious attachment style for me and I’m really struggling to self regulate but it’s so difficult to reach out. It’s something I am coming to realize I struggle with and I feel like it will strain my relationship with my best friend because she is dealing with me a lot at the moment. She is amazing and is so understanding but I don’t want to put this on her. We have already talked a bit about it. 14:423. I second the idea of emotional regulation. I never learned that skill. All I learned from observation was to not show anyone how I feel. That’s problematic for those of us on the spectrum. I just realized I’ve had meltdowns in the past. I thought that’s what “crying” or “being mad” was. So I want to process and regulate better going forward. 21:074. Hi Kati!! Could you talk about why self harm helps relieve our intense emotions in the moment of self harming? Could you also talk about why someone touching where we self harm can be so triggering? My friend grabbed my wrist the other day and I freaked out. 24:485. Hi Kati! Whenever I can‘t see my partner for longer periods of time (due to travel for work or holidays), I miss him but simultaneously get a strong urge to pick a fight and break up. I really spiral, feel worthless and unloved and am disgusted with myself. Similarly, as soon as my therapist is away on holiday and I wish I had a session, I freak out and want to quit therapy for good. This seems to be a weird pattern throughout my relationships I can‘t quite get a handle on. Where can this come from and how do I address it? I really struggle to not impulsively act on my feelings. In case that’s important: I have ADHD and suffer from CPTSD due to emotional and physical abuse during childhood. Thanks for everything you do! 28:176. Hi. I recently broke up with my long term partner. It was very hard but not dramatic, I just fell out of love, but it triggered many feelings of fear about aging and loneliness. I feel sometimes like I'm a bad person that is not deserving of love and I feel guilt about the breakup. My ex is a good person and there was no cheating or fights. We were in a 4 year long distance relationship after 2 years of a normal one and when we got back together I just didn't feel the same. 35:41#podcast #therapist #katimortonMAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
The Truth About Your Fear of Change Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-10-03 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about change and why it can be so difficult. She digs into ways we can stop judging ourselves for overeating, how to put ourselves out there and start living, and ways we can start to feel ready for something. She also explains how to balance prioritizing ourselves without feeling selfish, and what behavioral activation really is and why it’s the best way to combat our depression. Questions for Ask Kati Anything ep. 236 | Your mental health podcast1. Why do I hate change so much? Change tends to worsen my depression and stress longer than anyone else seems to be affected by it at all. Is that just a personality characteristic, or is it possible that there is a reason? 02:072. Hi Kati, how can I stop judging myself for “overreacting” and having trauma responses to things that aren’t “big T”traumas? Other people reasonably might not have a trauma response to those same situations, so that makes me feel like I’m weak and overreacting because it shouldn’t be a big deal. I realize the judgment isn’t helping me, but I don’t know how to stop. It’s keeping me from sharing about those things with my therapist because I’m ashamed and judging myself. What should I do? 14:49 3. I’m often told that I don’t have a life. How do I put myself out there and start living? 24:074. Hey Kati, can you please talk about "how to get/feel ready" for something? I read that feeling not ready or simply not being able to do things can be connected to not wanting to feel ready or change. The thing is, I know that I want to have a romantic relationship, but still feel not ready. What can I do here? Thanks for your positive impact that you make 32:325. Hi Kati, I have been told multiple times by my therapist that I’m allowed to prioritize myself and stop trying to appease everyone else in my life. However, every time I try my inner voice tells me I’m being selfish and egotistical and shames me for thinking like this. How can I challenge these thoughts and show them they’re wrong? 37:026. Hey Kati! Can you talk about behavioral activation? The idea behind behavioral activation is that by deliberately practicing certain behaviors, you can “activate” a positive emotional state. 40:40**** MAIN YOUTUBE CHANNEL @Katimorton #podcast #psychology #katimortonPUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY Join my channel & access more perks:youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/joinONLINE THERAPYWhile I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month)SOCIALX twitter.com/KatiMortonTikTok tiktok.com/@katimortonInstagram instagram.com/katimortonPatreon katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonFacebook facebook.com/katimorton1Pinterest pinterest.com/katimorton1PARTNERSHIPSLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
How do I know whats really me versus whats my mental illness? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2024-09-26 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about distinguishing between our core personality and trauma response, how to figure out what our identity is without our mental illness, and dealing with SA online. She then explains how we can know if we are being lazy, how to ask questions in therapy, and if there are any reasons a therapist would lie to a patient. Ask Kati Anything, your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT ep. 235Audience questions:1. How do you help clients distinguish between behaviors or reactions that are a direct result of their trauma versus those that are part of their core personality? 01:392. What do you tell clients who have been depressed/anxious for so long that they don't really have an identity that excludes their illness? If your illness is part of who you are, how do you grow away from it? Edit for clarification: I'm specifically referring to childhood mental illness that lasts into adulthood 17:183. Hi Kati, I hope you are well, I'm feeling really confused,scared and Frankly just sh!t. I've started college this year and we have just had an online safety class as an introduction. This led to me having a panic attack and with pressure from my tutor continuing to ask what's wrong I ended up telling her something now I wish I hadn't. For context earlier this year just before leaving high school I started chatting to a boy online (stupid I know.) I was under the impression that he was just 2 years older than me... 22:524. How to know when you're lazy . After therapy, depression might be gone but one is used to doing nothing and getting back on track. 27:485. Why am I worried about asking questions in therapy? I have an incredible relationship with my long term therapist, but I cannot bring myself to ask questions. It's not just about her, but about what she thinks about why I do things, her thoughts on my current diagnosis, her advice on what to do etc. I don't have this issue with any other relationship. I suspect I am worried about rejection or maybe her answer not being what I want to hear. I have BPD, OCD, ED and CPTSD - all of which are very well managed and I am high functioning again. 29:486. Could you explain if there are any reasons a therapist would lie to a client? Are there any situations that would be acceptable/unacceptable? I recently found out that mine has and its shattered my trust on an emotional level but on a logical level I can understand why they may have lied (would like to think they had my best interest at the forefront and not intentionally want to upset me) - for context we planned a break from therapy for a period of time and the lie meant we ended earlier than expected, very abruptly when I was going through THE worst few months of my life. I now feel so let down and unsupported, and find myself questioning other things. I would love to know your thoughts! 34:16#podcast #therapist #katimorton #healthy #therapy #therapyMemberships youtube.com/@Katimorton/membershipMy Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist, please visit betterhelp.com/katiPatreonAre you interested in supporting the creation of mental health videos? If so, please visit: katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonAffiliates (commissions earned help us create new episodes)Amazon amazon.com/shop/katimortonPartnershipsLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.comPlease Read If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.
Does my therapist know Im lying? | ep.179 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-08-31 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton addresses whether or not our therapist knows when we lie. She also explained why they may call you out on it, and why being honest is important but difficult. She then talks about why therapists are taught to watch body language and notice what their patients do in session or when stressed out. Kati then explores the difference between a body memory and actual physical pain. She also talks about the difference between shock and dissociation and whether or not they can occur at the same time. This and so much more in this week’s episode!Ask Kati Anything ep.179 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Do therapists know when their clients are lying, or trying to avoid certain topics? If so, what do you do as a therapist? 2. From your perspective as a therapist, how important is it or, or how much do you pay attention to your clients’ body language during session? I tend to get very anxious and unconsciously begin to fidget or...3. How do I know if a certain pain is "just" pain or if it is a body memory? What exactly is a body memory when you don't remember anything else and don't have other memories that could explain where it is from? 4. Have you ever had a client who was deaf?!? If they needed an interpreter would the interpreter sign a confidentiality agreement not to disclose any information?!? Have you ever treated someone who was deaf? 5. How does menopause affect your mental health and do you have any tips for how to best deal with all of the changes, physically and emotionally. 6. I am a 54 year old woman diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and ADD. I just recently dislocated my finger, and my question is what is the difference between shock and dissociation? Can you be in shock and dissociate at the same time?7. Years ago my dad got a new girlfriend after he got separated from my mum. I didn’t have any problem with her other than I didn’t like the fact that she was not my mum. I thought she was actually really nice, but after they got another daughter she started complaining when I...8. Why do I find it so hard to apologize? For example, when my husband points out a wrong behavior of mine, even if I know he is right, I counter accuse him of something or I get to thinking of everything he has done in the past that hurted me...TIMESTAMPS from @Lemonady :)Q1 - 0:25Q2 - 16:20Q3 - 33:00Q4 - 50:30Q5 - 55:34Q6 - 1:03:37Q7 - 1:09:33Q8 - 1:14:03#podcast #psychology #katimortonNew Membership Levels Have Opened Up! youtube.com/@Katimorton/membership*** InkWell Club ***• Journal prompts are posted twice a week (Tues & Fri) in the members only community tab.*** Psyched Up 30 ***• Journal prompts are posted twice a week (Tues & Fri) in the members only community tab.• Access to all 30 Minute Live stream Q&As! (at least 2 per month)*** Psyched Up 60 ***• Journal prompts are posted twice a week (Tues & Fri) in the members only community tab.• Access to all 30 Minute Live stream Q&As! (at least 2 per month) • Access to all 60 Minute Live stream Q&As! (at least 2 per month)*** NEW MERCH DESIGNS ***I love these new designs :) Which is your fav? spreadshop-admin.spreadshirt.com/katimortonDon't Drain Me!Use It Or Lose It!Overthinking It!----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------My Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Online TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonAre you interested in supporting the creation of mental health videos? If so, please visit: katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonAffiliates - consider shopping with affiliate links - Commissions earned help us create new episodes.Instacart: instacart.oloiyb.net/y2j2GBAmazon: amazon.com/shop/katimortonPodcastsOpinions That Don't Matter! & Ask Kati Anything!video: youtube.com/c/OpinionsThatDontMatterPartnershipsLinnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.comPlease Read If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.
Can you be DEPRESSED and NOT REALIZE IT? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-08-24 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton explains what body memories are, if pain can be related to trauma, and what the difference is between a flashback and an intrusive thought. She also explains why we may need to stay on medication for a long period of time, and why we may not notice when we are depressed. She also talks about what we can do if we are struggling to stay present in therapy and talk about the hard stuff, and what we can do to heal from codependency. This and so much more in this week’s episode. Ask Kati Anything ep. 178 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. How do I know if a certain pain is related to trauma? Could pain be a body memory? What exactly is a body memory and can it also exist when you don't have other memories? I am also wondering about the difference between a flashback and an intrusive thought 0:172. I've heard people say that someone can be unhappy or depressed without realizing it and I've seen it happen. I was wondering if that could happen in the reverse? 6:203. In one of your videos you mentioned that medication should not be needed forever. How do I know it’s time for me to get off my meds? 13:534. I’m currently in therapy to process trauma with my ex. My ex was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive, the latter of which has been even more difficult to grapple with due to my faith and perspective on sex... 19:055. I wondered what your thoughts were on gut feelings about people? I usually get a gut feeling about someone pretty much instantly on meeting them whether they are inherently “good or bad” 28:196. How do you heal from codependency? 33:227. I recently started seeing a therapist and I'm starting to develop a crush on him. Is this normal? Should I say something about it? 38:518. Hi kati, I was just wondering if it's possible to have ptsd from a home invasion/ break in? I talk with my therapist about this but she never says you can have ptsd from it, but when I told her that anytime I hear things that sound like they did that morning it freaks me out and makes me feel like it’s happening again she tells me I’m having a flashback. 47:57Timestamps provided by @Lemonady Thank you! :)#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
When I talk about my trauma I feel like Im lying! ep.177 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-08-17 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses the many reasons we can feel like we are lying when disclosing past trauma in therapy. She explains why our trauma memories aren’t always there or easy to recall, and the reasons we invalidate, and minimize our experiences. She then digs into how to move past being abandoned by your therapist, as well as how to know when you should stop therapy. Kati then talks about what we should focus on first when starting therapy with a limited number of sessions. This and so much more in this week’s episode. Ask Kati Anything ep. 177 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Why do I feel like I’m lying when thinking about opening up about past trauma? I really want to open up to my therapist about a past memory of me being SA’d by my brother but the problem is I didn’t have that memory until I was SA’d again some years later by someone else...2. I've been with my therapist for over 2 yrs and despite her being very consistent, reliable and reassuring, I can't move past the feeling that some day she's going to say she's not going to see me anymore. It's not so much a fear of her leaving me but...3. If you have a limited number of sessions available to you, how can you decide what issues take priority? My university only offers 6 free sessions to students and I don't have the money to pay for therapy, but I have a lot to work on...4. Can you talk about how to know when to stop therapy? It's been about a year and a half and each week it is always very helpful. I started during a very low, hard, isolated season but am now in a healthier environment now with more...5. Is healing from SA the same process no matter when it happened (childhood vs adulthood) ? This happened to me as an adult from my partner and I have recurrent nightmares and flashbacks and a lot of shame. I see a lot of information about healing from childhood...6. Is it possible that all of my struggles and diagnosed conditions, OCD, ADHD and Autism, are in fact just behaviors caused by childhood trauma?... 7. How do you deal with not being open up due to having trust issues? I have been seeing my therapist for a while now and still haven't woken up. She suggested seeing a new therapist, but I had a therapist before her and it was the same...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
How do you handle parents with mental illness? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-08-10 | This week Kati dives deep into how to come to terms with not having any memory of a childhood trauma. She explains why this can happen, and what we can do to heal anyways. She also offers some ideas on how to deal with a parent who has a mental illness, what to do if we can’t actually talk in therapy, and how to stop thinking we are a burden to those around us. She then talks about the stigma associated with mental illness and sexual kinks as well as how to stop feeling like we are behind in life because of our illnesses. This and so much more in this week’s episode! Ask Kati Anything ep. 176 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. How do I come to terms with never actually knowing if I was sexually abused? I seem to have all the signs (extremely scared of sex, body memories, don’t like being touched, hypervigilance, etc) but I have no solid memory of an actual incident. 2. How do you handle parents with mental illness? I struggle a lot with my mom being so emotional and irrational. Her mood swings like a rollercoaster and it is really uncomfortable being around her. She has so many bpd traits although being undiagnosed. 39:373. I am 16. Is it bad that in therapy, I can't talk about anything? I have to write it down and hand it to him? Also my mom wants to talk to me about things but I can't because she shares it with my dad... 45:204. I know suicide is never the answer, but what if I genuinely am a burden and would be doing everyone a favor? 49:135. How would someone best deal with mental health problems brought on from kink shaming / fetish stigma? Shaming or ridiculing someone for their kinks is unfortunately common and socially accepted, but there's no information on how it can negatively affect someone's mental health, and if so how someone would deal with this. 56:076. How do I cope with the feeling of falling behind others because of my illnesses? Trauma, Ptsd and physical pain illnesses have been taken so much from me, especially... 1:06:157. I was just curious about how your role as a therapist relates to your family. Does your husband or do other family members ever say or do things that are red flags to you as a therapist? 1:13:10Timestamps created by: MrEpsilonZero#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
What If IM TERRIFIED of GETTING BETTER? ep.175 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-08-03 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about the reasons we can be scared to get better, and why having our mental illness be part of our identity is detrimental to our recovery. She also addresses the reasons we should change therapists, how termination should be handled, and what to do if therapy is making us worse. Kati then digs into how to stop comparing ourselves to others, why it’s okay to be behind other people in life, and when she would suggest a higher level of care. Ask Kati Anything ep.175 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:Q1 0:38 I’m terrified of getting better. I’m suffering from gad, social anxiety, depression and self harm. I think the reason I’m afraid of healing is related to why I’m hurting myself...Q2 15:53 I recently terminated with my therapist after two years. I felt that I wasn't making any progress towards my goals and when I asked for feedback (which she has never offered), she responded, "I can't work harder than you are." Q3 30:58 I feel incredibly lonely and behind in life. Every birthday and new year reminds me of that. I struggle so much with birthdays due to having struggled with my mental health for so long...Q4 37:50 How do I get myself to actually try coping mechanisms? I have a list but because they don't always help or I have this magical idea that they will make everything better...Q5 41:26 My question is about when you as a therapist would suggest a higher level of care for a patient with an eating disorder, specifically over exercise as a form of compensatory behavior.Q6 57:55 I have a question about emdr. I'm finally starting in august (yay!) but I'm so scared of actually, really facing my trauma head on in therapy. I don't even know how I will tell/write my therapist...Q7 1:11:03 What if I don’t see a reason to stop self harm this time? Context: I began SH when I was 8. It wasn’t my “go to” coping skill....Q8 1:15:49 Why in therapy do you not want a religious counselor? Have you been harmed by church people or is it a personal decision? I recently went through some personal church trauma...Timestamps provided by @natalieedelstein THANKS NATALIE!#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why am I so afraid of abandonment? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-07-27 | This week Kati discusses attachment to our therapist. Why it can happen, what triggers the attachment and what we can do to better handle it. She also talks about suicidal ideation, and why it can sometimes be done to get more attention. Then Kati explains what the ethical implications are when we find out our therapist is seeing our significant other, and what visualizations can mean for our trauma response. This and so much more in this week’s episode! Xoxo Join Kati in her powerful new LIVE Online Workshop on ATTACHMENT - JULY 21st & 28th katimorton.com/the-shop Can't make it to the LIVE event? Simply pre-order the recorded version at katimorton.com/the-shop Ask Kati Anything ep. 174 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I've been in therapy for the last 3 years and I've made some small improvements in myself but there's something I still struggle with and I'm a bit confused. I'm super attached to my therapist, with a big fear of abandonment... 0:372. I have a question about suicidal ideation. Recently I've been having thoughts that I want to attempt suicide, even though I don't want to actually succeed. I don't understand these thoughts because... 18:363. Hi Kati, my therapist is mint. I’ve been seeing her for two years but I’ve recently found out that the girl I’m dating also sees her for weekly sessions! 31:274. A few weeks ago in an AKA episode, you said “our brain doesn’t know the difference between us visualizing it and it really happening” when talking about ways to combat stage fright. I may be taking this out of context but I have a lot of repressed memories... 33:575. I struggle with dissociation (specifically chronic derealisation) and I’m not sure my therapist knows what this is. When I told her about it she just became obsessed with ‘parts work’ but I don’t have DID, I just feel really spacey. 45:046. In an old episode and there was a question which mentioned “acting out” a body memory or flashback. The actual question was about something else but I’ve had a similar experience... 54:237. I am currently in therapy and my therapist whenever I bring something difficult up asks me what it makes me feel and my emotions linked to it and I just don’t know, it’s like I go numb... 57:198. Can a person have a very low self-esteem and at the same time look down on other people and criticize them? 1:01:289. Why might I be having the urge to cut, even though I hate my scars and don't know that deep down I don't want to do it anymore? 1:03:55Timestamps created by: @natalieedelstein #podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
HOW ARE ADHD & DEPRESSION CONNECTED? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-07-20 | FULL PODCAST EPISODE IS HERE: youtu.be/gsqeECwD-90Ask Kati Anything ep. 173 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT #podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why is it so hard for me to do things? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-07-20 | ****Join Kati in her powerful new LIVE Online Workshop on ATTACHMENT - JULY 21st & 28th katimorton.com/the-shop Can't make it to the LIVE event? Pre-order your recorded version here tinyurl.com/4zrwtfydThis week licensed therapist Kati Morton dives into the reasons it could be hard for us to do the things that are really important to us, and why starting new things can be so difficult. She also dives into why having so much insight into the “whys” behind our behavior can help therapy move along more quickly, but doesn’t mean that we are necessarily doing better. She then walks us through how we can choose what we should work on first in therapy, and how to overcome our emetophobia. She also explains what a disorganized attachment is and the various causes, why we can feel like there’s always a wall between us and those we love, and so much more! Audience questions:Ask Kati Anything ep. 173 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. It is so hard for me to do the things that are really important to me. I have ADHD and anxiety, and I get so much anxiety even if I... 0:552. A lot of the time, during sessions with my therapist, I will say things like: "I'm restricting my eating. I know it's because I want to feel like I have control over 14:243. How do I choose the most important/ urgent issue to work on in therapy? Whenever I start going through one issue with my therapist I start to think about all the others and that maybe we should be working on something else. That's often... 27:204. I have crippling emetophobia (fear of vomit) and it is literally ruining my life, help. I suffer from anxiety, depression, and PTSD from abuse, but I also have this crippling fear which is so damn embarrassing... 37:055. Could you talk a bit more about disorganized attachment? Does it always root from abuse and fear of your caregiver? 45:536. I’ve been feeling like there is a wall between me and others for my whole life, like I am a ghost and nobody can hear me or speak to me and now when I am a teenager, I feel this more than ever... 51:477. Do you think clients have a responsibility when it comes to flashbacks? My last therapist told me that I needed to practice self control and use grounding techniques in session. If I had a flashback in session she would end the session when I came back and cancel the next session so... 55:308. Do you have some tips for when you're overwhelmed, and it feels like using coping skills are making things worse? I had some very busy weeks, and I need some rest. But my body and mind are still in 'action!'-mode. 'Just doing nothing' is so hard... 1:03:48Timestamps provided by @Lemonandy :) #katimorton #podcast #therapistJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.
Why Do I Constantly Feel Ashamed of Myself? | AKA 172 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-07-13 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about shame, and how to pull ourselves out of the spiral. She addressed how it can present itself in our anxious thoughts, PTSD symptoms, and also in our depression. She offers insights into ways we can receive therapy if we are battling financial insecurity, and how to do the basic things when we are deep in a depressive episode. She also talks about negative self-talk and why people think it can be motivating, as well as why we have to heal ourselves but also need other people to support us. This and so much more in this week’s episode! Join Kati in her powerful new LIVE Online Workshop on ATTACHMENT - JULY 21st & 28th katimorton.com/the-shop (pre-order your recorded version if you will be unavailable to attend LIVE)Ask Kati Anything ep 172 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT1. Why do I constantly feel ashamed of myself or my actions? 1:142. How does one persist in therapy if they are battling financial insecurity and sometimes poverty? 15:413. It is often advised that we should fulfill our own needs, so our happiness doesn't depend on other people. But why do we live in a society, among 8 billion people, if we can do everything for ourselves? 23:424. I was wondering if you could talk about doing the basic stuff when you are in a depressed period… Honestly, it feels like I have been in a constant depressed state for the last 3 and a half years. It embarrasses me so much that I really struggle to shower, do my laundry, brush my teeth and wash my dishes. People don’t know that I... 34:355. I’ve watched for 9 years! but never asked a question before 😇😂 thank you for all that you do! Especially as a MH professional that is open and honest about her own struggles (gives us in the next gen hope that we too can work in the field irrespective of past problems)... 41:236. I know that I have negative self-talk but I feel like it motivates me so I am afraid to be nice to myself. I fear that if I stop then I will get nothing accomplished. I feel like my negative self-talk motivates me to be better and try harder. I am afraid if I try to stop or even use bridge statements... 45:287. How do you overcome a fear of physical intimacy? I spent all my life single as I was working hard to get out of challenges life was throwing at me. I finally finished graduate school and got a job, and then found someone. Every time he... 55:438. How can I get my husband to stop talking negatively about my family? It is hard because I get offended sometimes by the stuff he says, even though most of it is true. It just bothers me. He doesn't really like my parents or my siblings. I know they've all made some strange decisions and have personality quirks that are hard to deal with. I agree with him on a lot of his criticisms, but... 1:06:40#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
What causes people to pick at their skin? ep.171 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-07-06 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about the reasons we can pick at our skin, bite our nails, and pull on our hair. She also explains why this can all be driven by OCD or other anxiety disorders. Next, she explains why we push ourselves to remember all of the details surrounding a trauma, and also why some of us don’t want to remember any of it. She also dives into grief, how heavy it can be, and why it can sometimes be traumatizing. Kati also discusses the reasons we may struggle to say what we need to in therapy, and how to have boundaries between our work and home life. This and so much more in this week’s episode!Join Kati in her powerful new LIVE Online Workshop on ATTACHMENT - JULY 21st & 28th katimorton.com/the-shop (pre-order your recorded version if you will be unavailable to attend LIVE)Ask Kati Anything ep.171 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. What causes people to pick their lips, bite their nails or scratch at their skin? Not only when they are triggered, but at random moments when they’re safe and there’s nothing wrong? I’ve struggled with picking my lips... 0:322. Thank you so much for your channel, and specifically, for this podcast. Why do I feel the need to remember what happened to me, meaning the specific, during my child sexual abuse... 15:063. I’m wondering if you could talk about how to process grief? I’m in therapy since 2 years and I was already working on my cptsd with my therapist but this year I’ve been grieving... 31:364. How can I learn to separate my work from the rest of my life? I am a pediatric oncology nurse. I care about my patients and their families so so much. I find it really challenging to disconnect when... 43:455. Sometimes when I’m in therapy I have things I want to tell my therapist but I don’t always know how to start the conversation. I worry it’ll be strange or out of context... 52:156. I struggle with an extreme lack of motivation to do anything that’s not required of me. I have a challenging job that I can do well, but I spend evenings and weekends zoned out in bed, mindlessly scrolling social media or YouTube... 55:377. I'm about a year away from graduating as a LMHC and your channel and podcast have taught me a lot. I am diagnosed with GAD and depression and go through episodes of self-harm... 59:548. How do you know if you want to be a therapist? Like how do you figure out if you would be a good one, if it’s the right career for you, or if it’s just something you have an interest in but maybe shouldn’t pursue? 1:06:22Special shoutout to CandyTwiggyTwist for the Timestamps :)#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
How Does Talk Therapy Work? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-30 | From Ask Kati Anything ep.167 youtu.be/XzF52UA8C30 Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why Cant I Identify My Emotions? | ep.170 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-29 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses the pluses and minuses of doing intense research about therapy and the process. She also talks about suicide risk and what is considered low, medium, and high risk. She digs into what constitutes eating disorder behavior and her thoughts on using cannabis before therapy. This and so much more in this week’s episode! ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP - We will be exploring the way attachment to our primary caregivers affected us and how it may still be impacting us today.DETAILS:I will be hosting a LIVE workshop on July 21st & July 28th (session 2). Can't make the LIVE Workshop? we are offering a recorded version as well.Got to katimorton.com/the-shop to choose the right one for you. If you attend the LIVE workshop, you will have access to the recorded version once it is ready. Ask Kati Anything ep. 170 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Is it normal for clients to do a lot (and I mean A LOT) of research about therapy? Like the modalities, assessment process, what specifically therapists are trained on etc. I feel like by looking into every single detail I can think of, I know all the therapist's “secrets” and... 1:002. Would you be considered low, medium or high risk if you have thoughts, plans and means, but no intent? Or if you had plans and means but no thought or intent? 12:043. I struggle with SA in the past from an older sibling when I was 5. I’ve struggled with it my whole life and I tried to go to therapy in high school because I developed anxiety and depression, but I stopped going because I wasn’t ready to deal with it. I am 24... 21:534. I’m a full time college student getting my BA in Psychology, married, and living my life the best as I can. I’m diagnosed with CPTSD and generalized anxiety disorder. I am California Sober. I don’t drink or do drugs and my caffeine intake is very low but I do partake in cannabis daily... 36:005. I have ASD and depression. I struggle a lot with identifying my own emotions. Nevertheless, I know that there are some very intense and painful emotions buried... 40:076. What are the consequences of growing up in an unsafe environment with a narcissistic parent? Is it ever possible to heal completely or will those wounds stay forever even after therapy? 52:297. I have a past of sexual trauma/assault that I had repressed since it happened and have started working through it for the first time in therapy this year. I know that my response to that experience was freezing/fawning and I completely dissociated from... 1:05:008. I don't know what to call it, maybe transference?? Here is what is happening. I worry about you when a regular video, AKA or OTDM is late or there is not one that week. I worry that something is wrong or you are hurt. When you do the raw videos I worry that you are going to say... 1:12:599. How do you know if parental divorce has caused any trauma in someone? 1:19:20#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
REALLY UNDERSTAND the FAWN RESPONSE Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-28 | From Ask Kati Anything ep. #169 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTWatch the FULL EPISODE here: youtube.com/watch?v=o-FYZ9y2nYk #podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
What Can Cause DISSOCIATION? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-27 | This clip is from ep. 165 of Kati's podcast - Ask Kati Anything "What Can Cause DISSOCIATION?" FULL EPISODE: youtu.be/dc5NmcKaWGUDepersonalization/derealization disorder involves a persistent or recurring feeling of being detached from one's body or mental processes, like an outside observer of one's life (depersonalization), and/or a feeling of being detached from one's surroundings (derealization).DISSOCIATION PLAYLIST youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqy8NqveX22SsMKlW5601YvQ#derealization #DPDR #DepersonalizationJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
NO JUDGEMENT... Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-27 | From Ask Kati Anything ep. #169 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTWatch the FULL EPISODE here: youtube.com/watch?v=o-FYZ9y2nYk #podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
GET RID OF THE STRESS RESPONSE Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-26 | From Ask Kati Anything ep. #169 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTWatch the FULL EPISODE here: youtube.com/watch?v=o-FYZ9y2nYk #podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why do I freeze when making decisions? | ep.169 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-22 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about the freeze state when making decisions. She explains why this can happen and what we can do to move through it. She also discusses PTSD and why we have the urge to minimize it or even struggle to call what happened trauma. She then digs into when it’s time to end therapy and the red flags we should look out for. She also talks about our fear of doing something wrong and its link to trauma and hypervigilance. Kati explains why we can feel the pull towards relationships with people we know are unavailable or unable to give us what you know you deserve. This and so much more in this week’s episode!Ask Kati Anything ep.169 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Could you give some strategies for when you go into the freeze state when you have to make decisions? I do this often and sometimes the decisions are simple... 00:312. I was recently diagnosed with PTSD. I can't shake the feeling that the abuse I have experienced isn't bad enough to cause PTSD, that I'm weak for reacting this way. It’s hard for me to even call it abuse... 14:183. How do you know it’s time to end therapy? I’ve been working with my therapist for a few years now but it feels kinda stagnant at the moment. Is this a sign I need to find a new therapist, end therapy completely or talk with them about... 28:234. Can being afraid of doing something wrong be related to trauma? I am so afraid - especially in relationships that mean a lot to me - to do something wrong. And there is a big fear in me of being... 39:525. Growing up, it was really hard to talk to my mom about my feelings. She was always stressed and worried about a lot of things. She was also very overprotective. Now I’m 31, and 2 years ago my mom retired, so... 50:526. Are there specific ways touch should be approached in therapy? For example someone asked a question about touch in social situations a few weeks ago and you suggested it could be practiced in therapy. But... 1:01:257. How might you explain the pull towards relationships with people you know are unavailable or unable to give you what you know you deserve? I have a past of sexual trauma/assault that I know is related, but as I’ve continued to work through this... 1:04:288. how might you explain the pull towards relationships with people you know are unavailable or unable to give you what you know you deserve? I have a past of... 1:07:45#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
What Is DISSOCIATION? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-19 | This clip is from ep. 165 of Kati's podcast - Ask Kati Anything "What is DISSOCIATION?" FULL EPISODE: youtu.be/dc5NmcKaWGUDepersonalization/derealization disorder involves a persistent or recurring feeling of being detached from one's body or mental processes, like an outside observer of one's life (depersonalization), and/or a feeling of being detached from one's surroundings (derealization).DISSOCIATION PLAYLIST youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqy8NqveX22SsMKlW5601YvQ#derealization #DPDR #DepersonalizationJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why am I so angry with myself? | ep.168 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-15 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton explains why we can strive for attachment with a figure in our life that we thought was kind and good to us. She also talks about the reason we can have an aversion for people who are the same gender as our abuser. She then discusses why we can be so angry with ourselves, yet forgive people for doing worse things. Kati then talks about stage fright and how to deal with it as well as the differences between being lazy, depressed, and burned out. This and so much more in this week’s episode.I'm hosting a LIVE Healthy Attachment Workshop in July - Find out more details here: katimorton.com/attachment Tickets will sell out. Reserve your spot today!Ask Kati Anything ep. 168 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I tend to attach to women teachers, psychologists, doctors (my aunts as well), etc. it always happens when there is even the slightest sign of care or interest in me. It has been happening since I can remember and I don’t understand why. I have both parents and even though...2. Can you give any advice about being angry at oneself? Lately, I feel angry because, during the past few years, I pressed me too much and neglected my needs. Now I feel that I have wasted too much time and this makes me aggressive towards my...3. Any tips to help musicians who suffer from stage fright? 4. I hope you’re well! (I asked that question before, but it didn’t get answered so I thought I would just ask it again.) I watched your video "Am I Lazy, Depressed, or Burnt Out?". I know that I’ve always been a lazy person (at least as long as I remember), but I think I’m probably also depressed...5. At age 14 I found proana sites online and that triggered me to start restricting, as I hated my body then. Over the past 11 years I have gone through phases of restricting, followed by phases of normal eating...6. Can overeating come from missing life? So that you try to fill a void with food... but actually it is a void of immaterial things you are craving for? Such as healthiness, friendships, lightheartedness, happiness, time, hope,... 7. My sister emotionally abused me and when this came up in therapy with my new therapist she wants me to understand why my sister did it. This feels very invalidating and I feel like my new therapist isn't allowing me to feel my anger towards my sister...8. Can somatic experiencing work for someone with dissociation? My therapist wants to try somatic therapy and I was/am open to it but I have doubts about knowing how my body feels. I mean, half the time, I can barely feel my body!#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
How many issues do I need to GO INTO THERAPY? Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-09 | From Ask Kati Anything ep. #167 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTHow many issues do I need to GO INTO THERAPY?#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why Do I Feel So Empty Inside? ep.167 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-08 | This week Licensed Therapist, Kati Morton, LMFT explains why depression can cause us to feel empty inside, and like we are a burden to everyone around us. She also digs into why COCSA can feel so complicated to process because they were kids too, and it can feel wrong to blame them for the abuse. Kati then explains a therapist's perspective around bridging up new information in each therapy session and feeling like we are just doing it for attention. She also discusses a professional crying in session and that our reaction to it is the most important piece of information. This and so much more this week!! All that and much more in this week’s episode of Ask Kati Anything! Join Kati in her powerful new LIVE Online Workshop on ATTACHMENT - JULY 21st & 28th katimorton.com/the-shop (pre-order your recorded version if you will be unavailable to attend LIVE)Ask Kati Anything ep. 167 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I've experienced emotional neglect and physical abuse from my parents and family members. I struggle with depression and anxiety right now. Even when I feel quite alright I feel emptiness inside...2. I was sexually abused by my brother who is 5 years older than me from ages 5-9. I originally went to therapy in an attempt to heal from this trauma but I've pretty much just avoided the subject entirely and focused on...3. What do you, as a therapist, think if a patient is bringing up completely new information? As a patient/client, I feel very uncomfortable after a therapy session in which I said (again!) new things...4. My question is about providers crying in session. I was having a bit of a crisis last week, and while explaining the situation & my feelings about it to my dietitian, she started crying. At first, I was so surprised by it that I thought she was...5. You have talked about how important boundaries are in therapy especially with clients with BPD. Does this mean that your boundaries shift when it comes to clients with BPD? Also, you have mentioned that when a client asks for a hug...6. Can you tell more about journaling? How do you use it? How do you recommend your clients to use it? It's helpful to me a lot when I feel anxious, getting rid of all thoughts helps. But when it comes to processing different thoughts, beliefs or feelings I feel like I intellectualize...7. As a child I was totally spoiled and my parents didn't seem to trust in my capabilities to cope with age-appropriate things on my own, due to me having been born way too early. I was emotionally nurtured, maybe even too much...8. Recently I've been hearing a lot about AI, Chat gpt and all that. I'm curious to hear your take on this subject. Personally I do use chat GPT sometimes, but I don't see it as a therapist or a replacement for one. To me it's more like a journal that talks back...#podcast #psychology #katimortonPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why Does My Mind Go Blank In Therapy? AKA 166 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-06-01 | This week Licensed Therapist, Kati Morton, LMFT explains why we can forget everything the second we step into our therapy sessions, and what could help us remember what we wanted to say. She also discusses real ways to combat those suicidal thoughts and why depression and suicidality are not always related. Next, Kati talks about the ways we can work to repair our relationships that could have been damaged due to our mental illness, and why a suicide attempt can be a traumatic experience. She also talks about flashbacks and how they can be felt in the body, flashes of memory that we see, smell, or even taste, and we can even have emotional flashbacks. This and so much more this week!! All that and much more in this week’s episode of Ask Kati Anything! Ask Kati Anything ep.166 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Why is it that my mind goes blank during therapy sessions? Before and after I have a lot of thoughts wandering through my mind, but once I’m in therapy they are all gone...2. I don’t see the point of living. I really don’t understand why people want to live and especially why people bring kids into this awful world. I don’t see the point of living and I’ve felt this way since I was a teenager...3. I struggle a lot with guilt and shame due to what I put my family through due to my mental illness. (ie the worry the had, the suicide attempts etc.) I feel like a horrible person due to...4. My question is about flashbacks. I really didn’t want to write this but I feel a bit stuck. I think I’ve been having flashbacks but I’m too scared to tell my therapist. It feels sooo dramatic...5. How do you get out of dissociation, when it is always there? Hey Kati and happy Thursday. I have derealization and depersonalization since 2018 and it NEVER goes away.6. How can I love and respect my body? I was physically punished as a child, and sexually abused by my husband. I can't find the connection to my body...7. My daughter (9) struggles with emotion regulation. She fidgets a lot when she's angry, nervous or anxious. She's super sensitive e.g. to certain smells and clothing...8. I have a question regarding childhood sexual abuse. I am in the process of trying to tell my counselor the details of what happened but for some reason I feel like I'm not telling the truth...9. I’ve been in therapy for a few months now for an eating disorder, focusing specifically on my compulsive exercise. I know that exposure therapy is the only way to get used to the feeling of not exercising...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
What Can Cause DISSOCIATION? | AKA ep.165 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-05-25 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks us through the various causes of dissociation, and child on child sexual abuse. She also explains what natural curiosity is versus something caused by abuse. Next, Kati discusses why we can struggle to see how bad our depression or anxiety has gotten, and why that can impede us getting the help we need. She also offers ways to heal when our “safe person” turns out to be hurtful, and how we can combat our urge to focus on the negative things going on in our world. This and so much more in this week’s episode! Ask Kati Anything ep. 165 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAUDIENCE QUESTIONS1. I have a question about dissociation. Does it have to be caused by trauma or are there other things that can cause dissociation?2. This is something I have never spoken about as I'm so embarrassed. When I was a child (6-8ish), my male friend and I (same age and both consensual, I'm female) would try to have "sex" at sleepovers. It also continued with another female friend. If anyone else said this I'd be very curious about sexual abuse, however that didn't happen to me....3. I've been in this weird headspace lately where I'm really confused and frustrated about how I actually feel. My therapist recently suggested I try medication for my depression and anxiety since things haven't really been improving but...4. How do you cope with finding out that your “safe people” growing up weren’t so safe after all? I experienced a little bit of abuse as a kid (sexual, physical, and emotional). Possibly as a result, I...5. I try putting this into the right words. This world is a shit show. Most people are selfish, manipulative, mean...I think you get the picture. Most of the time it's really hard living in this world. I often feel like...6. Can you talk about internal family systems and how all the parts, exiles and other things work? I’m in trauma therapy and have CPTSD, EMDR & IFS has been so helpful but...7. I wonder what type of questions I’m allowed to ask my therapist? She’s very professional and sometimes when I ask her if she’s...8. How can I best work with my therapist to reduce the extreme amount of rejection I feel at the end of each session? I think it started off as separation anxiety, but it has developed into a feeling of severe...9. I was wondering, have you ever had a client lie to you & how did you deal with it? I have noticed myself lying to my therapist often and I want to stop. Any tips on how to do that thanks for all that you do.tce.researchinpractice.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/children_and_young_people_with_harmful_sexual_behaviours_research_review_2014.pdfDISSOCIATION PLAYLIST youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_loxoCVsWqy8NqveX22SsMKlW5601YvQ#podcast #dissociation #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Why does Self-Harm calm me down? - AKA 164 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-05-18 | In this episode, Kati explains why self harming can actually make us feel better and she even dives into the reasons we can keep coming back to it. She also talks about anxiety and if it will ever go away or if it’s something we have to live with for the rest of our lives. She then discusses physical touch and why some of us might be uncomfortable with it, and she offers ways to overcome it and how to talk with those we love about it. She also gets into some of the ramifications of childhood sexual abuse and neglect, and how we can work through that as well. This and so much more in this week’s episode!Ask Kati Anything ep. 164 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAUDIENCE QUESTIONS1. Can you explain why self harm, in my case cutting, results in me feeling really calm (I suffer with depression and anxiety), and even thinking about doing it calms me down...2. Will my anxiety ever really go away? I have learned to push through so much of my anxiety using different coping skills I learned in therapy. But...3. After years of neglect as a kid, I've never learned about physical touch. I don't remember being hugged and such. So now, what seems intuitive for most people feels so confusing...4. I’m wondering how I can honor and validate my boyfriend's feelings even when they trigger me. I grew up in an emotionally neglectful/abusive environment where I...5. In one of your episodes you talked about some of your colleagues being judgmental about how you paced yourself getting your credit hours in school and wondering why...6. Hi Kati. I have asked this question so many times. I really want your advice. I have had anorexia since I was 13, I'm now 40. I have a 7 year old daughter. I never want to have her go through this too and I want to know how I should talk to her about this because, even though she hasn't asked yet, she has seen some ED behaviors before from me and...7. Is it normal for a child (pre-pubescent) to masturbate while thinking about being punished, or is this related to sexual trauma? I have a history of verbal and emotional abuse and neglect, but...8. How can you tell if your mum was and still is emotionally neglectful and or abusive? I have watched your videos about childhood emotional neglect extensively...smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/theres-scientific-reason-why-self-harm-makes-some-people-feel-better-180953062 Here are some resources that can help:The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255The Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386The Jed Foundation: jedfoundation.orgThe American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: afsp.orgIf you are in immediate danger, please call 911#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
HELP! My Emotions Are So Overwhelming... ep.163 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-05-11 | Ask Kati Anything ep.163 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTThis week we're discussing emotion regulation, feeling anxious and depressed at the same time, and why that can be so uncomfortable and dangerous! Kati also explains why we can feel angry at our abusers, but struggle with this anger because they were abused themselves. Next, we discuss attachment to our therapists and why we can miss them after our sessions have ended. We also talk about trauma, nightmares, and how to heal.Audience questions:1. My question is about emotion regulation…I think. I have learned to tolerate and move through fairly bad anxiety, and I’m getting better at noticing and stopping depression spirals too, but I still have a big problem: sometimes the depression and anxiety mash together and create this whirlwind of grief, sadness, fear and shame, and I feel like I’m literally exploding inside...2. I have a history of childhood trauma, and at the moment I feel really torn between feeling angry towards my parents and feeling like I have no right to be angry with them because I am aware that they didn't intentionally hurt me. But...3. Would it be normal or acceptable to ask my therapist if I can just check in with her every now and then (like maybe every 3 months or so)? Do people do that? I don't have a big need to...4. My question is also regarding how trauma, in particular childhood trauma, manifests in our bodies. I have a condition called interstitial cystitis/painful bladder syndrome and pelvic floor disorder. After years and years and thousands of dollars seeking medical attention...5. I want to know why it is so difficult to ask for help? I am so overwhelmed with things to do but won't ask for help. How do I get the courage to ask for...6. I’m wondering what to do about my intense fear of failure and the need to be perfect. For context, I have a lot of trauma and was emotionally abused/neglected in childhood. Because of this, I have an anxious attachment, OCD, and I spent some time in a mental hospital when I was in college. I also have a history of disordered eating, self harm, generalized anxiety, and ADHD. I am now 23, and...7. Was just wondering - how to cope with CPTSD nightmares? I've been having them every single night, seeing my triggers everywhere in the dreams and being confronted with my abusers face to face. It's an awful experience...8. I have a question about trauma and disgust and I am really scared that I might be the only one feeling like that. I recently talked to my best friend about feeling turned on by movie scenes, etc. and I told her that for me that belly tingling...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonJoin our livestreams and online community! katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Is TRAUMA HEALING Possible Without Talking About THE SPECIFICS? | AKA ep.162 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-05-04 | Ask Kati Anything ep. 162 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTThis week Kati talks about trauma healing, if we can do it without talking through the specifics, and how to untangle our identity from what happened to us. She also discusses attachment in therapy, with our abusers, and its connection to OCD. She explains why we may not have memories of traumatic times, and why we might not be able to recognize ourselves in photos. She also talks about medical trauma, revisiting the places where trauma took place, and whether or not a narcissistic parent can get better as they get older. This and so much more in this trauma episode! Audience questions:1. When it comes to trauma therapy, do you actually have to talk about the specific event(s) to be successful with it? Or can you still heal from trauma by working on...2. I get super easily attached to people and the attachments can be all consuming. I want to find a therapist (not specifically to talk about that but I’m sure it’ll come up) and I’m not sure what...3. Hi Kati, I'm 25 and I have a chronic illness which is life limiting. In the past year it has become very serious and about 5 months ago, during a long stay in hospital, my doctors told my family and me that we should prepare for the worst.4. I was wondering where an attachment to a therapist might come from even if I grew up with parents who met my needs? I am almost obsessed with the idea of my therapist, she is someone I...5. My question has to do with still processing and dealing with trauma you sustained as a child. I grew up with an alcoholic father who eventually passed away due to his addiction to alcohol. But even now, I...6. I recognize myself when I look at my childhood photos, but still, I don't feel any emotional connection or remember the situation when the photo was taken or the person who took it. Why is that? And how can I help myself remember my childhood?7. Is there any benefit to revisiting places where you experienced trauma? I'm going to start processing past trauma with my therapist soon, but I don't have a lot of clear memories from that time in my life...8. Can a narcissistic parent, who has no desire to improve themselves, tone down their narcissistic tendencies simply due to old age?9. How long does it take for a person to work through trauma? As soon as I started discussing this with my therapist, my sleep and physical health has gone for a toss. My stress levels have...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Am I allowed to record my therapy sessions? Is That A Good Idea?| AKA ep. 161 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-04-27 | Ask Kati Anything ep. 161 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTThis week Kati talks about recording therapy sessions and if that’s a good idea or even allowed. She also explains why we would be looking for a deeper meaning when our therapist tells us things, and what connection that can have to our attachment style. She also discusses the effects of growing up with an addict in our home, and why being around verbal abuse can be traumatic. This and much more in this week’s episode! Audience questions:1. What are your thoughts on voice recording therapy sessions? I have the past 3 sessions and my therapist doesn’t know. I tend to listen to them multiple times a week and I don’t know why. I also found my therapist on social media and like learning more about her...2. I tend to ruminate on what my therapist says following our sessions. While doing so I’ll try to look for deeper meaning because I have a hard time taking...3. I’ve started to be able to open up a bit more in therapy and talk about more difficult things. I don’t want to accept it but I know part of it was sexual abuse...4. My question is about what affects growing up with parents who argued and did verbal abuse to each other has on a child who had to watch it and live with it? My dad was verbally abusive to my mom and he was...5. I am 30 years old and still carry my teddy with me everywhere I go. I have an intense fear that if I leave him home alone, my house might burn down, or I will for some reason not be able to...6. I have a question regarding addictions and addictive behaviors. I have noticed that I have a problem with addictions and addictive behaviors. However, the problem I have is that I...7. How do you know how you feel for real? I constantly doubt my feelings, and I find it so hard to trust that my feelings are not made-up (particularly sad feelings; I never really doubt happy feelings). There are times that I... 8. I am curious if people could be traumatized by movies? I was really scared once when I watched a movie when I was 13 or 14 and that wasn’t even a scary movie. However, I started to have those imaginations that if I open a door I’ll see a corpse...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Whats the difference between numbing out and dissociation? ep.160 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-04-20 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton dives into the differences between numbing out and dissociation, and why one can lead to the other sometimes. She also explains why we can get caught up in a cycle of not reaching out because we don’t want to be too much, and then not being able to get help when we are struggling. She also talks about why we can feel like we don’t belong anywhere, and why we can use humor to deal with tough situations. She really challenges us to look into our old familial patterns this week, and see where these sabotaging behaviors are coming from. This and much more in this week’s episode! Ask Kati Anything ep. 160 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. I would love to hear your opinions on the difference between numbing out and dissociation. I have been talking a lot with my therapist about not wanting to be present in my body, but struggling to determine when I am numbing out (phone, sleeping) or truly dissociated...2. Hope you’re okay. How do you get out of the cycle of not reaching out for help because you think it’ll be too much for people and not feeling safe reaching out? I find myself picking and choosing the exact thing to say rather than letting it...3. I feel like I don't belong anywhere (family, work/ uni, my flat…). I feel quite lost and lonely and I'm wondering: What can I do to feel a sense of belonging in this world? I’m autistic and have depression, anxiety as well as anorexia...4. Do you see any issues with using humor to talk about certain things with your therapist? In general I usually try to make people laugh almost as a self defense mechanism and find it sometimes helps when introducing a topic or situation...5. I was wondering whether it’s better to distract from something like a flashback or panic attack or just let it play out? I sometimes feel the build up to something...6. My husband and I are both in therapy and seeing different therapists at the same practice. We are both dealing with the same marital issue in our individual therapy sessions. My therapist offered to talk to my husband's therapist...7. How do you know if you're even doing therapy right? I’ve been in therapy for 9 months and took a couple months break. She knows I was sexually abused and that I used self harm to deal with it. But I don’t know if I’m sharing what I need...8. Is NPD like a spectrum? I watched your video about 8 signs of narcissistic mom and recognised mostly my father. Not all of these fit with him...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Emotional Neglect, Better Parenting, Working on Trauma and more... ep.159 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-04-13 | This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about emotional neglect during our teen years, what it means to have a healthy emotional relationship, and what we can do to be better parents. She also discusses whether or not we can date while still working on our trauma, and why sex can be such a hangup for those of us with abuse in our past. She explains dissociation, DID, and whether or not we can dissociate throughout our entire childhood. This and so much more in this week’s episode! xoxAsk Kati Anything ep.159 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Can you talk about emotional neglect during the teenage years? This is a time when teens and parents are often at odds and don't necessarily...2. When is the right time to enter the dating game as opposed to waiting to heal your childhood trauma? It seems to be a popular advice not to date until you healed - to some extent - your trauma and are ready to...3. So this question is very embarrassing for me. I'm recently divorced and I know sex was a main contributor. I like the idea of sex but the physical act of it makes me cringe and become very uncomfortable. After a long stretch of absolutely no sexual desire...4. I'm currently working on childhood trauma with my therapist and he's letting me kind of "take the lead" (so I decide the tempo) but I'm just so unsure if what I'm doing is...5. Last week my therapist said that I have reached a plateau in therapy and that I need to look for another therapist to help me because she has done all that she...6. Could I have dissociated most of my childhood but still remember some details? I have got childhood trauma and have struggled most of my life now with it. I'm 16. For context, I had a psychology assignment where I had to create a timeline of my childhood and...7. I was watching my favorite show "Station 19" and I realized that I relate so much with one of the characters: Maya. Maya is someone who has a lot of childhood trauma and the only outlet she knows is...8. How do you deal with the loss of therapy because you made a horribly wrong decision so the fault is on you? I just got kicked out of an inpatient program because they think I tried to kms. They were wrong and some of them believed me, so I am allowed to come back in...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Shame , Embarrassment, Dissociation, Trauma & Procrastination - AKA 158 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-04-06 | Ask Kati Anything ep. 158 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTIn this episode Kati talks about shame, embarrassment and why those feelings can come up when we try to express ourselves. She also digs into dissociation, what it can feel like, look like, and ways that you can be brought back. She talks about procrastination and its link to trauma, how we can better open up and trust our therapists, and how to get over our fear of not being believed. She also discusses medical trauma, why hospitalizations can be traumatizing, and how to date when you have a mental illness. This and so much more in this week’s episode! Audience questions:1. Would you be able to talk about the feelings of shame and embarrassment that come with talking about how I feel? For about 3 years, I've been struggling with eating disorder behaviors and what might be depression. I'm constantly thinking about food, my body, comparing myself to others, feeling lonely but isolating myself. I find...2. I'm wondering how dissociation can present itself visually. When I start to become distressed with trauma memories I recently have begun to 'zone out'. I can still technically hear, see and understand where I am, but it's like I can't connect to anything in the room or to any emotions or memories...3. Can procrastination be related to trauma? I find myself procrastinating a lot, especially when it comes to things that are important for me personally and actually mean a lot to me. It seems as if I am sabotaging myself. Can my ptsd be the root for my procrastination or...4. How do I open up to my therapist and show emotion? To give a little context, I have been seeing my therapist for two months and she's amazing, she validates my feelings and makes me feel seen. I just can't seem let her in and myself be completely transparent with her, I don't tell her the complete truth or answer her questions with complete honesty...5. Do you have any advice on how to deal with the fear of not being believed in therapy? I‘m scared to talk about my past/ symptoms etc. because I fear they‘ll think I‘m just making stuff up for attention or making a big deal out of nothing. I have had negative experiences such as being accused of making up my symptoms...6. I have a question about trauma from psychiatric hospitalizations. when I was 13, I struggled with suicidal thoughts/attempts, self injury, disordered eating, etc. I (unwillingly) went in and out of multiple mental hospitals for months, then went away to a residential treatment center for 3 months. I don’t have super clear memories of this time, but...7. I'm 37 and due to my CPTSD, ED and OCD I've never been in a relationship. I know you can't tell me if I'll ever have one but maybe you can tell me how to approach this topic when I'm on a date. The last times I went out on a date the guys asked about my last relationship, my job etc. I was...8. Can you talk about the occurrence of symptoms generally found in OCD versus in other anxiety disorders?9. I am wondering if you can talk about CPTSD. Trauma is often discussed in the context of childhood trauma. Can you get CPTSD from multiple different types of trauma but not really stemming from childhood?#podcast #therapist #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
Childhood trauma, dissociation and coping skills | AKA 157 Ask Kati Anything Podcast 2023-03-30 | Licensed therapist Kati Morton discusses childhood trauma, dissociation, and why that can be a helpful coping skill growing up. She also explains the difference between feeling nothing versus having a sense of emptiness. She dives into why those of us with a history of trauma can get overwhelmed more easily than others, and how to push through that weirdness of inner child work. She also gives her thoughts on intermittent fasting, and how we can instill self confidence in teens. This and so much more in this week’s episode of Ask Kati Anything ep. 157 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFTAudience questions:1. Due to childhood trauma I've known I dissociated from my problems. What I don't know is, apparently, when I'm triggered. For example with this podcast on occasion a tough topic will come up and...2. I always hear people talk about the symptoms of depression. And one of them that they always talk about is a feeling of emptiness. What I'm wondering is feeling nothing is the same as feeling empty?3. Is it common for those of us who experienced trauma to get overwhelmed easily? Why does it happen and how can we deal with it? 4. I'm just wondering how you push through the weirdness, uncomfortableness, and vulnerability of doing inner child work. My therapist has asked me to close my eyes to picture myself at...5. What is the best way to instill self confidence in tweens so they don’t feel like they have to measure up to what they see on social media and are able to be confident...6. I'm a manager at my job and one of my employees is dealing with newly worsening panic attacks. She's on medication that doesn't really...7. I have B.E.D, Diabetes and I live in a bigger body. The meds I'm on cause weight loss and a feeling of not being hungry. My endocrinologist told me that if I'm not hungry, not to eat or intermittent fasting...8. What are 'affirmations', in the context of therapy? I keep coming across this word and it seems like just saying things to yourself in the mirror? Or is there more to it?#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself youtube.com/katimorton/join Kati's Books (in stores now)Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? http://bit.ly/2s0mULy Amazon Suggestionsamazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy. My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreonBusiness Contact Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room
