Uploaded July 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 day ago
There comes a point in every woman's life where you realize you've been giving away pieces of yourself, your time, your peace, your voice, your energy, and suddenly you're running on fumes. And you know something has to change.
I'm breaking down the real reasons women struggle with boundaries, why you keep shrinking or over-giving even when you don't want to, and the steps you can take today to start reclaiming your power without blowing up your life.
We're getting into the three ways women lose themselves (and how to take it back):
1. Losing Yourself Through Over-Giving — and the One-Breath Boundary that stops it
2. Losing Yourself Through Shrinking — and the 10-Second Courage Rule
3. Losing Yourself Through Silence — and the one script you need: "That doesn't work for me."
Plus practical, nervous-system-friendly tools including the 90-Second No, daily boundaries with yourself, and bilateral stimulation techniques to interrupt spiraling and ground you in the present.
Working on taking yourself back? Day 5 of my free 7-day journal "Unruly & Rising" walks you through this step in detail: shelahmarie.com/unrulyandrising
Want to go deeper? The Healing Eras Audio Course: shelahmarie.com/healingeras
Want more? Get the book Unruly on Amazon: amazon.com/Unruly-Guide-Reclaiming-Your-True-ebook/dp/B0D12ST77G
Come find me:
Instagram: @theshelahmarie
Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unruly-with-shelah-marie/id1771717285
There comes a point in every woman's life where you realize you've been giving away pieces of yourself, your time, your peace, your voice, your energy, and suddenly you're running on fumes. And you know something has to change.
I'm breaking down the real reasons women struggle with boundaries, why you keep shrinking or over-giving even when you don't want to, and the steps you can take today to start reclaiming your power without blowing up your life.
We're getting into the three ways women lose themselves (and how to take it back):
1. Losing Yourself Through Over-Giving — and the One-Breath Boundary that stops it
2. Losing Yourself Through Shrinking — and the 10-Second Courage Rule
3. Losing Yourself Through Silence — and the one script you need: "That doesn't work for me."
Plus practical, nervous-system-friendly tools including the 90-Second No, daily boundaries with yourself, and bilateral stimulation techniques to interrupt spiraling and ground you in the present.
Working on taking yourself back? Day 5 of my free 7-day journal "Unruly & Rising" walks you through this step in detail: shelahmarie.com/unrulyandrising
Want to go deeper? The Healing Eras Audio Course: shelahmarie.com/healingeras
Want more? Get the book Unruly on Amazon: amazon.com/Unruly-Guide-Reclaiming-Your-True-ebook/dp/B0D12ST77G
Come find me:
Instagram: @theshelahmarie
Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unruly-with-shelah-marie/id1771717285
